wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

letz say u love her, she love u, she is normal sg gal. mths or yrs both build up
the relationship, so both of u deicided to get marry. wedding gown chosen, wedding dinner venue chosen, relatives, friends are informed.

one day, u have overheard ur frenz talking abt her, you heard tat she once played drugs wif guys n kana 'bai' before, do all dirty shit wif the guys, also been to abortion b4 more den once. you nvr heard frm her at all. i noe nobody is perfect, we guys also go cheong too.

now, wat is ur reaction? wat will you do?
pretend nothing happen?
confront her?
cancel the marriage?
or any other comments?

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

Wah, this is like "ren jian bei ju" - tragedy. What to do, if love the woman have to accept her whether she hides or not. If there's no law, will go castrate, then kill all who bai her loti. Like that will feel much much better.

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

if u loved her enough to be able to tolerate her past,y not?anyway who doesn't have a past.however if u can't live with that fact,then too bad have to call if off.just my 2 cents.

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

The past is in the past, live for the future...
It is not easy to find someone u love.....
Forgive and forget.

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

ask her for the truth.. :o

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bro, yesterday i happen to see indecent proposal with my wife. though not same senario but dun do things that u regret later cos u gotta live with it. But u love her enuf, strong enuf to forgive n forget, all the more u shud go ahead with the wedding since so advance stage of preparation. all the best ya.

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i complete with u totally.true love dont come by easier nowadays if u feel it's true.never live in the past as it's over and look forward to the future which is what really matters.

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

you and me not a saint who dun makes mistake even saint makes mistakes love him or her of what it is now:)

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

Bro No Faith, pls have some faith with your wife to be. You know you love each other strongly and trust her that she can be made into a good wife and a mother to be ya.......all the best.

HAVE FAITH......

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

ur signature is interesting bro,very funny.:)

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What's past is past

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You have to really ask yourself if you can live with the truth. This has to be thought long and hard and if you feel you are able to handle it, then make sure you never bring this matter up in times of difficulty in future. Dragging out past matters is a rather low blow and very ungracious.

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

The way you write this thread already shows your mindset. If you didn't mind at all, then would you be interested to start this thread?

I think you are unsure whether you can accept her past or whether she might one day do it without your knowledge. If that's the case, then I think you should forget about marrying her.

If you insist on marrying her when you are unsure that you can 100% accept what she had done, then you should be prepared for an unhappy marriage. Unhappy marriages normally end with the guy at the losing end.

Of course you can choose to marry her. But it will only be wise if you can accept what she did. I think you should have a talk with her. See how she react before you decide.

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

The way you write this thread already shows your mindset. If you didn't mind at all, then would you be interested to start this thread?

I think you are unsure whether you can accept her past or whether she might one day do it without your knowledge. If that's the case, then I think you should forget about marrying her.

If you insist on marrying her when you are unsure that you can 100% accept what she had done, then you should be prepared for an unhappy marriage. Unhappy marriages normally end with the guy at the losing end.

Of course you can choose to marry her. But it will only be wise if you can accept what she did. I think you should have a talk with her. See how she reacts before you decide.

Sorry for double posting.

Re: wat happens if u noe ur wife to be......
 

Marriage should be a life-long commitment built on love and trust. If it is shadowed even before it begins by lack of trust, why risk the pain of a separation, for both parties sometime down the road? By then it may be complicated further if there are kiddies involved as well.

It is easy to say forgive and forget but not that easy to do.......

Yes, arrangements are all in hand and it will not be easy to call off. Nevertheless, the short-term pain is nothing compared to the long term agony of living hell........

In the final analysis, it is obviously up to the individuals involved. Decide and live with the decision! Good luck