Depressed
 

This is not a story.. just a brief history of why I'm depressed. I'm sure this kinda shit has happened to most bros but I just wanted to vent :(

There is this girl who I had a sexual relationship with for a few months this year. We were not actually a real couple but we had feelings for each other and called each other dear etc. She wanted me to be her bf but the circumstances then would not allow us to. So we would meet up at hotel81 from time to time to bonk and spend the night in each other's arms. We probably had 10-15 bonking sessions overall and those were sweet, passionate love-making sessions, not those anyhow fuck kind. That relationship ended in late September for some reason and since then she has moved on.

We became just normal friends till now and call it fate or whatever you want, the thing which prevented us from being a couple is now gone. My feelings for her has not diminished whatsoever and now I want her to be my girlfriend, BUT as you probably guessed, her feelings for me have gone :( Just like that. I wanted her to be my gf but she told me that once she stops liking someone, it's hard for her to have feelings for that person again. She then said she wants to stay single for a while and asked me to not put in much effort in her and to just stay as friends.

How can this be??? I don't understand how a girl can be so fickle minded. One moment she's willing to give up everything for you to be with you, and the next she's moved on forever. What about the times we spent together making love, then holding each other in our arms and cuddling and talking about everything under the sun till we fall asleep? Did that not mean anything to her at all?

I've even tried finding FLs during the months we aren't together but they don't seem to help much. I go drinking but all they do is make me think of her and make me even more depressed.

All i can do now is to stay sincere, show her that I really care. Maybe eventually she'll be moved and appreciate the things i do for her? But thinking with my brain, i don't really expect much...

I don't really expect anyone to reply or tell me what to do or whatnot... i'm just feeling so sian that i felt like posting here. haiz...

Re: Depressed
 

In the first place....why you cannot "accept" her? Choosy? Play the waiting game?

:rolleyes:

Re: Depressed
 

Move on Life Mate... Life goes on... I've managed to move on after breaking up with my fling although we were very loving making out with each other. Its hard to accept, but that's reality, dun go drinking alone... meet other pple.
Cheers

Re: Depressed
 

Girls are like that. Move on the greener pastures and stop wasting your time dwelling on the past.

Re: Depressed
 

bro.. sounds like another school holiday problem...

However, if i am wrong then, pardon me. Threadstarter, if she don't like u anymore, then move on.. induldge in other activities (sexual and non-sexual).. afterall, she is not the only person deserving of your affectioon.

my girl cousin when broke up with her bf got so distraught and ran after the car which was driven by his new gf... she chased, fell, then decided to lie in the middle of the road, thinking the car will stop and he will get out.. guess what.. he did not. Its been 3 months and now, they DID NOT get back together.. after about of suicidal thoughts, she finally woke up and is happily going out with friends.. trust me.. relationships come and go, and while we will always have that one special person in our heart, it is always too premature to say that "this" is the one.....

Re: Depressed
 

threadstarter, your so called this gal is what race? and did you paid her everytime you bonk her?

Re: Depressed
 

dun know wor....ppl post...i nothing to do...so i reply lor :D

Re: Depressed
 

WOW painz!!! :eek:

Re: Depressed
 

hey bro.. don't be sad.. u still have to move on.. don't worry as Chinese got one idioms say "久的不出，新的不来"... as there are lot of girls and some more pretty SYT around... you will just get over it... so 加油!!!!

Re: Depressed
 

hey bro, don;t be too sad....i believe time can heal your sadness....

IF THERE IS A WILL, THERE IS A WAY!!!

CHeeRS

Re: Depressed
 

Very very true indeed, but I think u mean "旧的不出，新的不来" :D

Anyway, time will heal everything, bro gary4024 :rolleyes:

Re: Depressed
 

Most likely a PRC lah...the way the threadstarter wrote it, shld be paid sex.

At the end of the day, a good svc FL will always made her customer felt that they are not having commercial-sex but casual one, just like bf-gf. Thats their job, isnt it? And I bet most of her customers felt the same way too :o

Morale of a story : Want a relationship, dun look for WLs or FLs. Want to have a good time with WLs or FLs, then bonk, pay and go. Simple as that.

Although there are some relationship who works out but I think its like one in a million :cool:

Re: Depressed
 

bro.. don think its a prc.. sounds like a regular SG or Mysia girl..

Re: Depressed
 

Oh...maybe hor. Guess my minds fill with too many PRCs :D

Re: Depressed
 

Bro rodeo, ur very sharp siah! In this 21st century where got circumstance dun allow him to be her BF? Btw think that PRC gal must have gotten herself a sugar daddy liao that's why her heart changes so fast :D