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30+ Lady, divorced with 2 young kids..
Looks average, not rich.

Will any single young eligible man woo such a lady?
I meant, single man can chose any lady to try woo, why pick a divorced with 2 kids?
There are so much "baggages "
He need pacify her kids, maybe her ex too, her ex will still be part of their life coz of the Kids,
He may not have his own kids since they " got " already..

What is logic?
Anyone , can enlighten me ?

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Men would want to have his on flesh and blood someday. A divorced woman without kids might not be an issue for some guys, but with a baggage will be a different stories.
Not many men will spend his efforts n money to raise someone else children.

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Not pretty then must be rich, not rich then must be super nice.

This is the reality of the society.

The only similarity between us is the durian love.

Why are you even here to seek advice? Most of the guys will prey on you when you are in the most vulnerable state.

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I have seen 2 cases like this. The woman has the baggage.
Nice guy. If sincere, why not ?
If married guy, then out to makan.
Of course unmarried can also makan but less so..

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For most cases like yrself, you can try look around or join dating site looking for men in their late 50s to 60s which are divorced with no kids and do not mind the other party that has, the chances of finding a committed relationship is higher (it is still pretty slim).

Now u might already be thinking i am only 30+ why i wanna look for someone about twice my age, this of course would answer yr own question of why someone young (30s to 40s) want to be involve with someone that has 2 kids.

Lastly u can hope that true love strikes u again maybe try contacting guys that had express interest in you before u settle down.

Hope u get where i am coming from and good luck.

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Remain single is better why wanna go find headache.

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Very difficult to find a man that will accept a divorced woman with 2 young kids, let alone you mentioned she is not pretty (Not sure if you are referring to yourself in this scenario?). Though looks is not the critical point, it doesn't help the 'situation' at all, maybe even detrimental to it.

Man who will accept a woman you described only got 2 kinds:

1) dumb and stupid, probably a bigger baggage himself to the woman

2) wants to take advantage of the woman in her vulnerable state. Be prepared for verbal and physical abuse.

My advice: stay as single mom and raise the 2 kids

I know it will be a huge struggle but then again, there is not much choice.

Besides, whether like it or not, divorced person will be judged (maybe not openly). Means he/she got problem with character or ethics etc.

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If u are finding someone to rely on, to give u security as well as security & a home for your kids, then u are off the tangent looking for love. It will not end well.

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I am a hopeless romantic, so my answer is quite different from the rest.

There is no logic to falling in love, so don't look for logic where none exists. If you are the woman in question, stop beating yourself up, thank your lucky stars and treasure him the way you've never treasured your (ex-)husband. You have a long and hard road in front of you, but you should be grateful for the fact that you are given this second shot at love , no matter how slim the chances may be.

If you are just some kaypoh thinking how such a woman can be with a nice eligible guy, please spend your energies somewhere else. Be aware that in real life, lightning can strike twice (or even more) at one place.

Cheers

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My apologies.
I am a guy I am just statng example from my real life..

I have seen 2 cases..
Case number one..
The guy has just gotten married and quickly divorce to marry this woman..
This woman got 2 kids and one of them has special need .
I can never understand what he was thinking..
Of course I wasn't in a position to ask him if he is happy now.

Case number 2 is still in progress
Which is the example I quoted in my first post

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that is life and some impossible thing does happen.

Real example... Princes Charles !!:):)

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White knight trying to rescue damsel in distress. It will never end well.

Men love emotionally, woman love logically. As long as you have resources to provide to a woman, she will be with u for as long as the resources are there, or until another person with greater resources comes along.

Tell your friend to be smart. Why date a woman with 2 fucking children when there are so many single woman out there?

Worse still, if get married and divorce later, you will be paying alimony to 2 children not fathered by you. Can't think of anything less BETA than that.

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with 1 kid, i think is still some manageable baggage but with 2 then really is tough luck on her case.
best suggestion is for her to stay single like what maia lee is doing, imagine she got 3 kids with 3 different fathers.

Want to rescue a damsel in distress? All you may get after that is a distress damsel. What for..

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I wonder how to know if the guy is real or just preying?
Maybe preying thinking she is vulnerable..