How to avoid being "friends" with the girl u r interested in?
 

Hi everyone,

I got to know a girl when I attended a conference about 2 months ago. Went out with her once then I wasn't so interested already but a week later she text me, perhaps she thougth I have lost interest or something. From then on, I thougth I would ask her out again and see how things go.

We went out a few times to movies and drinks, kinda like a casual date....hmm..dont even know if it's considered a date cos I just ask her out casually. Most of the time she will not turn me down if i ask her out. If she is not available, she would offer me an alternative date when she is free.

On our last date, i found out her actual age (actually I roughly know how old she is already) and was quite shock to know that I am so much older than her (about 14years, she is in her early 20s). I am not sure if she knows how old I am. Wonder how she will react if she knows I am so much older. :eek:

Anyway, she is quite a mature girl and that's why I dont feel like I am going out with a young girl. it seems that she always have something to talk about which makes the dates quite enjoyable.

After a few dates, I have become more and more interested in her. However, she never give me any clear signals or tried to flirt with me like my other girlfirends who always made the first move.

If I dont do something, i am afraid that we will become friends permanently and it will be very hard to reverse that.

So on our recent date, before going to the movie, we had a drink in a bar. Bring her there so she would have some alcoholic drink to shed her inhibition...and mine...hehe....She had a cocktail and her face was kind of red from the alcohol. But still, she seem quite sober. I guess I was quite sober too and didnt try to make any move. we can't get too drunk as well since we have a movie to catch.

Since she is not giving me any signals I am not really sure she is interested . But since she is going out with me, I can only assume that she may be somehow interested.

What should I do to let her know that I am interested in her (other than telling her verbally)? :confused:

Re: How to avoid being "friends" with the girl u r interested in?
 

Telling is the best way............

Raping her is the worst way..........

Re: How to avoid being "friends" with the girl u r interested in?
 

Buy her stockings and a digital camera.

Wear a smirk across your face when giving her the gift.

Better still, wear a home-made SBF T-shirt with the words, "I'm Pete the Fish".

Keep giggling.

Just joking lah.

Aiyah...you 35+, she 20+, and you still don't dare to biao bai to a girl meh?
Seriously, get her a present lor. A nice mug that says "Been Missing You" or something...since you don't dare to verbally say out.

And you can still stuff the stockings inside that mug.

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huh??? any bros master of telepathy or thought transfer from mind to mind can help out :D

no offence bro but if u want an FB, here may be a good place for bros to help

but if you want to know how to initiate a GF relationship, flowerpod may be the place :)

Re: How to avoid being "friends" with the girl u r interested in?
 

Ya, Flowerpod lovvvvves this type of question. The bitches there sure would love to help you.

Otherwise, try the Indian fortune teller on the street, those with the 2 cutie birds in a cage trained to pick cards.

Re: How to avoid being "friends" with the girl u r interested in?
 

from time to time...text her saying u miss her or something lar...if u dun dare to tell her in person.

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look dude half the battle is already won, if she don't like you i don't think she would even think about going out with you...the other half is to actually find out exactly how deep that feeling she has for you and the only way to find out is for you to express yourselves first..

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Is she the PRC babe that you had mentioned? :D

On another hand, she could just be like you. Waiting for the other party to make the first move. In the end, the r/s may just cold out if nobody dares to make the first move.

Anyway, now what age liao??? No need to be shy lah. Life is so short. Go do something daring, else you will look back in regret when old.

Sometimes, dun have to be verbal. Just show her some actions which is quite obvious can liao. If things dun work out, at least prep a good joke b4 hand and both can laugh at it, though I hope u dun have to use it.

Who knows, you may kena something that you never expect.. :D

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Bro pete,

to avoid being friends with that girl, you have to stop being her friend. rethroical?

have to start expressing you interest in her. please dont go throw a bomb at her by saying you love her and you can live without her, itdoesnt work that way.

start off with body language, you said you guys drink together, maybe after the drinks, while leaving the pub, places your hands oher shoulders or better yet, her waist. her reaction should give you a good idea on your chances.

women love to do stupid and crazy things. if they come up with a crazy idea, do it. once me and my date sneaked into my old secondary school in the middleof the night. the whole climbing over the fence, sneaking pass the guard room got her adrendalin (cant spell it) going and endophins generate attraction, thus 1 + 1 = 2 and the school got sticky.

and lastly, i always strongly advise agiasnt the whole confesson thing. it's a chinese culture (or japanese) to confess to a girl and have her reciprocate, dont do it, it dumb and human beings were programmed o avoid conflict when confused, thus half the time you will get rejected even though you actually might have a chance.

my susgestion is go for the direct approach, a kiss. get in the mood (drinks, talking, sad romantic movie where half the cas dies, whatever floats her boat)
then look for a chance to be more intimate with her. dont ask me when is the correct timing, god gave you a brain, use it.

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TS pardon me, for your age and gf experience, the way you write sound you are new in handling this.. :confused:

Maybe this is your first serious encounter. At this age, go straight to the point. BGR...so be it, casual friend... also can. No misunderstanding and you still can go out together.

Any problem?? No problem... :p

Still hesitating.. Just ask yourself those question and you have your own answer. :D

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Send her 1 doz roses once a day for 5 days with a card that says : From your secret admirer

On the 6th day, arrange a date, wear a t-shirt that says "I am your Secret Admirer

IF you want a FB, you can do the same thing, just change the card to say "from your wannabe FB."

Actually, just be direct, take the initiative. Be firm but not aggressive. As Flavoured mentioned. Do something crazy or the spur of the moment. the adreanalin and excitment would help to wear down her inhibitions.

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While having a drink, try asking her ever have boyfriend and there you goes.
Hinting her whether she is ready to have one and blar blar blar.
You should have your answer then.

Else you might ask whether she mind your age to be a close friend.
Or what is her impression of you and there you could go on to ask.

Hope that help.

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do u hv a boyish face? ... if u dun hv, den she shld noe ...

dun b surprised dat sum women look 4 older men ...


bring her wok past hotel81 ... look in2 ze hotel as u wok past ze main entrance n let her c u looking inside ... dis may arouse her curiosity n she wil oso look inside ... den, whisper in her ear ...

wah! ... weather veli ze hot 2day ... r u feeling hot 2? ...

as she mulls over ur words ... tel her ... u r perspiring, u nid a gd shower ...




wel ... if she no more sms u after dat ... tel urself, it's ok ... @ least, u hv achieved ur objective as stated in ur title: 'How to avoid being "friends" with the girl u r interested in?' ... she no more fren u liao ...

:D

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Monster Bro.. True but not totally true... FYI, nowadays gals are not what they are like donkey years ago.. They can go out with you for movies, drinks and dinners but it doesn't means that they would want to be hitched with you...More or less they would like to "shop" around for a good catch...:(

Its cruel but its true..


To TS...

Just "wack" that burger la... Tell her you got feel and ask how about her feeling towards you??

If she gives you a half plus 6 answer.. You better be on your heels... Cos there's always a catch behind..

If she say.. yes.. "I got feeling also.." Mai TU liao!!! Go to th nearest 7/11.. grab a pack of Featherlite and check into any budget hotel for "downpayment"...(Just kidding):D

Ask her if its ok that u 2 guys can proceed further.. If she say "sorry" or "not now" etc etc.. Move on liao...

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Wah.., compare my case to yours, i think you are still not bad. My target gal? I am the only one to always intiate a sms, phone call.
I have moved on since....

good luck on your pursue:)