Anyone else feels lonely
 

Not sure if any bros out there feel similar but after starting a family, a lot has changed at home. Wife completely focused on the child, no affection towards me, and just always expecting me to do everything and expect nothing in return.

To the world, we look happy. but I feel alone and even after going for counselling, it hasn't improved. Not sure if any of u are in a similar situation

Re: Anyone else feels lonely
 

Did you go for couple counselling or just went on your own?

If couple counselling, your counsellor should have ask both of you to express what you feel. Maybe your wife's view is completely opposite from yours.

Get a helper if financially you guys can help out with the chores.

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Can relate with you on this case. But let's think it differently, your wife also might be drained for taking care of the child. Have you tried have some time without your kid being there?

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Don't cheong unless you have talk it out first with wife.

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definitely happens to others as well. i think need to improve communication with the spouse.

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yes, thats why go GL and the various domes. kukuchiao lonely and need to find warm cave :D

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Your case not unique, alot of husbands feel this way. Not alone but lonely. This is the married life for a man.

Maybe you warm up to your child might be a good way to starve off the loneliness. Or hang out with your male friends for similar hobbies etc.

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humans havent evolved to read minds. State your displeasures and problems upfront. Problem with alot of singaporean husband is they henpecked and just keep focusing on issues rather than solutions.

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Agreed. Like 99% are henpecked. I see already also eye sore. A lot are in these forums too, called their wives CO. What a way to live.

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This advise is making sense. This is the regular life of married men.

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chilling with fellow husbands helps:rolleyes:

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Many bros are in similar situations.
Since u have a child, you need to think higher than what u just feel.
Marriage and family is more than just "feeling good" but more of being resilient to carry out your duties as a father.

Do your best to work on making things better with your wife. IF that doesnt work, find ways to keep yourself company without destroying the family. There are many options out there.

We men always have an advantage to get "company" in any way, shape or form. But please do not destroy your family, just to get that lil fun. Not stopping you from doing it, but do it safely.

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Find more husband with similar situation like you, form a group and similar hobbies. Us birds need to stay together :cool:

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Your advise is on point.