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Originally Posted by kitsura
Marriage is so complicated no wonder failure rate more than 50%! Having one person shoulder all the responsibility is impossible! It is like running a one man company and having the CEO, CFO, CIO, etc all be one person. I doubt it is physically possible.
After going thru a failed relationship my current stand is very simple. I will outsource everything wherever possible. I don't need my partner to cook, clean, take care of finances, be my friend, therapist, etc. The only thing not possible to outsource for various logistical reasons is sex. If my partner doesn't want to have sex with me she is no better than a roommate and then it is pointless keeping her around.
In return I don't expect my partner to foist the same responsibilities on me since it is not fair. I won't be her porter, friend, handyman, tech support, therapist, chauffeur, etc. I can do all those things just that I refuse to be the only person she relies on for any of those tasks!
The most successful and highly communicative relationship I have witnessed so far is between 2 male homosexuals. There is no drama and 100% communication to resolve issues before it blows up. But most women communicate in different ways and I would hazard to say that most women even crave drama! If everything is going fine in a relationship they start shit for no reason once they get bored!
So for me I have yet to be able to find a female partner who has similar values and can meet my very simple requirement!
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wow! love this explanation.
its true. i agree with the outsourcing part!
have a crazy cheongster friend.
literally living the life of a single father but still married( on paper) and living together with his crazy wife due to the kid school etc.
they are in midst of separation, he said he is working on a plan. Right now he is juggling being a father, being a son to his older parents and handling house hold chores. He pays his maid well to handle all the house hold stuff, he is self employed and said he cut back on work so as to be around his kid more.
wife is literally just a symbolic mother figure at home cos after work, she comes home late and only spends like 20m with the kid daily. doesnt do anything else. even he handles the school PTMs and all.
when he needs pussy, he goes to FLs before noon, shiokness of being your own boss.
spoke to him during a recent ktv session, he said he was wondering wtf was he doing wrong his whole life cos it seemed everything he did was wrong. it was only until he took the wife out of the equation that he realised it was the wife's issue.
so he designed his whole life to exclude the wife, did a trial test to see if anything would crumble and fail . his business is in process management and he said he designed a work flow for his home. he said, the funny thing was, after removing his wife from his daily life, his health improved (he had more time to exercise), his dick got harder ( he suffered ED for some time and was ashamed of it). his kid started doing better at school, his relationship with his parents improved.
his earnings did drop ( about 20%) over 2 years as he could not cheong all out to take on more demanding clients, but he said he was happier. He does say he misses emotional closeness with a lady and all, but he said, if that comes with even the slightest risk of drama, he rather just pay for sex and go to sleep after that.
Learnt quite a bit from him.