[mike1304k]

The title of this topic is to show you that we can. But before this, lets set the mood for it by me telling you a bit about myself. Average Joe, average pay, average looks, below average height and a bit plump. But physical and monetary things aside, I still played like hell during the 90's and early 2000's. I was in Aus in the early 90, so ONS, binge drinking and hedonistic activities were a norm. Waking up in the mid morning with some girl in my bed was not surprising. However, in the end, I would say that I walked away from it promising that I would not play so hard in future.

Then I went to Japan to work and there started another life. Japanese hostesses. This was because we entertained our clients at these joints, where the most beautiful ladies who were all model calibre would sit with you and chat with you. No sex no hanky panky. However, these girls would "fall" for some clients and would spend time with them. Nearly made me a bankrupt the first time round. Gave one of the girls a motor bike costing USD30k, paid for her to sit with me at least 3 times a week for 3 months. Each time was at least 4k USD. (Just sitting hor) and in the end, was faced with so many debts and banks about to start proceedings, I said that I better stop.

Cleaned out my act and came back to Sg. I started to work in BKK for another 1 and a half years. Again got caught in the KTV, WL, FL trap. Since it was so much cheaper than Japan, did not realize how far in I was until one day, I woke up and asked myself what the hell I was doing. I had fallen for one WL after another with the last being a mother of a 5year old boy and I was willing to take care of the both of them. However, when she turned me down, I was devastated and heartbroken. A kindly friend asked me what the hell I was doing? And I had no answer. He did not say anything bad about WL or FL, but he said, love and relationships are things that cannot be forced. But if we use our brains and keep our ego's in control, we can see through things easily. And I thought about it for a long time. Why did I want the last Thai to love me? Was it true love or was it because she gave me the GFE feeling that I wanted? Guess what, it was my ego and emotions at work. When she needed money, she would KC me by asking me for permission to sell off the gold or the handphone I gave her. So I would give her cash. Why? Because I was afraid that she would suffer. But why was I afraid? Because I liked her, but to be truthful, I did not really love her. I just wanted the feeling of GFE to continue.

So it sort of started me thinking about things and from the next few times I went to BKK, I started to be careful and to think a bit more. Girls came and went. I noticed that even if you do not approach a WL, some will try to be especially nice to you and to "love" you. There was one who worked in a massage parlour, came to my hotel every night and did not ask for money. In the end of my trip, she gave me a present and said she loved me.... (awwww how touching)(but she only know me for a few days and we had sex since then, how can she say she love me?) So of course I said I loved her and I would look for her again and I purposely did not. After 3 months, I was behind the massage parlour and she walked past me without even noticing who I was... I thought she loved me??? So as you can see, our emotions can be manipulated and if we allow this to happen, we can become prime targets for KC.

Ever since then, I have become much more wary about WL, FL and other such ladies. Even normal ladies I am also careful. The saying is true mah, nothing is for free and if it looks too good to be true, there is usually something to be wary off. After all, if we allow ourselves to become victims, we have no one to blame other than ourselves. No one put a gun to our heads and ask us to give our time and our money. So if we lose either or, we cannot cry that we were cheated. We gave willingly at that time mah.

Sorry for the really long post, but the moral of the story is that although we are human beings and so are WL and FL, we always have to use our brains. It is difficult. I have been bitten so many times and expect myself to be bitten again. But at least I am now careful and also think before I act and therefore am protecting myself better. And you can do the same too. So like the title says "Yes we can!!" But please hor, I am not advocating to you that you should go out and exploit WL and FL hor. That is another issue altogether hor. We can avoid being KC'd emotionally or financially. Not we can take revenge on them hor.

Peace!