How do people move on from break-ups?

[jt17574]

I don't know if this is the right place to post this. My relationship of 3 years+ ended earlier this year. I know the duration isnt very long but I really thought she was the one and will be spending my life with her. I thought we were doing well until one fine day she gave me a call, told me that she lost feeling for me and just ended the relationship.

It has been months since but I can't seem to move on. Since the break-up, I started going to MLs/FLs to distract myself but every single time I just felt more empty, yet I can't seem to break free from this cycle. I still keep photos and messages of my ex even though I look at them less frequently now. I cant bare to delete them.

I thought I was doing better but recently passed by a place where both of us used to frequent. Memories flooded and the feelings started coming back again. How can i ever let go? Any experienced bros/sis can help me out?

[oxeso]

时间不会让我不痛，它只会让我习惯了痛。

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[chubbybastard]

Originally Posted by jt17574

I don't know if this is the right place to post this. My relationship of 3 years+ ended earlier this year. I know the duration isnt very long but I really thought she was the one and will be spending my life with her. I thought we were doing well until one fine day she gave me a call, told me that she lost feeling for me and just ended the relationship.

It has been months since but I can't seem to move on. Since the break-up, I started going to MLs/FLs to distract myself but every single time I just felt more empty, yet I can't seem to break free from this cycle. I still keep photos and messages of my ex even though I look at them less frequently now. I cant bare to delete them.

I thought I was doing better but recently passed by a place where both of us used to frequent. Memories flooded and the feelings started coming back again. How can i ever let go? Any experienced bros/sis can help me out?

Why didn't you take her off the market (i.e. marrying her) when you had the chance to do so? 3 years is a long time and the fact that you didn't want to commit to her shows you have doubts about the relationship anyway. So just move on. Tell yourself you were unsure about her anyways hence the 3 years of waiting and go date other gurls. She probably didn't want to wait for you or felt you took her for granted as well.

[munching]

Originally Posted by jt17574

I don't know if this is the right place to post this. My relationship of 3 years+ ended earlier this year. I know the duration isnt very long but I really thought she was the one and will be spending my life with her. I thought we were doing well until one fine day she gave me a call, told me that she lost feeling for me and just ended the relationship.

It has been months since but I can't seem to move on. Since the break-up, I started going to MLs/FLs to distract myself but every single time I just felt more empty, yet I can't seem to break free from this cycle. I still keep photos and messages of my ex even though I look at them less frequently now. I cant bare to delete them.

I thought I was doing better but recently passed by a place where both of us used to frequent. Memories flooded and the feelings started coming back again. How can i ever let go? Any experienced bros/sis can help me out?

MLs/FLs won't help la. this one is emotional pain not physical one. go find a rebound. always the one got dumped get hurt. so key point here is don't get dumped. find a rebound, have your time and after u healed enough, dump her. for sure you will move on liao. then the cycle of heart pain will be passed on to your rebound. such is life cannot run way from.

[gerber88]

Personally,

Fls did help, spending on them was cheaper than spending on the ex, plus less headache.

jsut make sure dont kenna gong tao ( then different story)

once your balls is empty ( all the time), you can reflect on the situation and think clearly.

[kikurai]

When you realized people come and go , you won't cling onto people so much.

After a while, you don't miss her, you just miss the experience or sweet memories. Go out and meet more girls lor. Date here and there, be open minded, who knows maybe you may find another one.

[puffyboy]

Give it time bro and work on yourself first. Go to the gym, start reading books, learn a new instrument or language, etc.

Find an outlet or hobby that you enjoy, can relieve stress and keep your mind occupied. Time will heal, jiayou!

[limwc]

Focus on yourself go to gym, pick up new hobbies, catch up with bros, travel a bit

One day you will look back and realize you’re okay. Heartbreak is part of growing

[nosleepbkk861]

From me it was very easy, you become a wild animal, go tap everything you wanna do and just let it all go. Somethings are just meant to be, you just have to go and release the tension inside, accumulated from years of pain and sorrow stuffed up inside, once you get that out of your system, then we can sit down and talk about how to move on.

[Dundee2]

Find activities to keep yourself occupied, pick up a new exercise routine e.g. start swimming regularly, going to workout classes. Shit happens a fact that has to accepted, the feelings will fade away slowly but surely.

[Pokkatea]

i also hard to move on from my korean gf even though i am married know her from club in sg and got together for 1 year n half just broke up in april this year everywhere i go had memories with her, even in my own car which we had car sex inside haha

[finalrebel]

you don move on. you only learn how to live with it and trying to hope it gets less painful each day . clinging on the hope one day you will forget her and find someone who give u the same feels

[Xotix]

Originally Posted by gerber88

Personally,

Fls did help, spending on them was cheaper than spending on the ex, plus less headache.

jsut make sure dont kenna gong tao ( then different story)

once your balls is empty ( all the time), you can reflect on the situation and think clearly.

Only 2 options after booking FL.. Post nut clarity will tell him if he has moved on or he need her back.

[jt17574]

Thanks all for your replies. I really appreciate it. I'm still stuck between wanting to wait for her and moving on although i know this relationship is already over long ago. Somehow feels like i'm trying to do both at the same time haha.. I have also stopped visiting MLs/FLs for quite sometime, not easy to break free even though i had kind of a love-hate relationship with this vice of mine. Figured its not healthy for me in the long term..

Since then, have been putting the money to better use by spending it on my close friends, families and of course myself. Still taking small steps each day towards moving on. I guess some of you said it right, its probably something i have to live with for the rest of my life.

[Ilovejesus]

Originally Posted by jt17574

Thanks all for your replies. I really appreciate it. I'm still stuck between wanting to wait for her and moving on although i know this relationship is already over long ago. Somehow feels like i'm trying to do both at the same time haha.. I have also stopped visiting MLs/FLs for quite sometime, not easy to break free even though i had kind of a love-hate relationship with this vice of mine. Figured its not healthy for me in the long term..

Since then, have been putting the money to better use by spending it on my close friends, families and of course myself. Still taking small steps each day towards moving on. I guess some of you said it right, its probably something i have to live with for the rest of my life.

Sorry for your loss, it must be hard to be going through what you are at this moment. It also shows that you are a guy who really loves and treasure his woman, sentimental and thoughtful.

I have been through similar situations several times, finding FLs is for physical needs, so I dated them instead as my gf for the emotional fun and to fill the void. But the true cure is finding another love to focus on, until then you will just be thinking of your ex. Focus on getting rich as well, you will have many pussies.

Based on your sharing, seems to me she may have found another cock to put in her mouth and pussy, and also probably her arse as well. My point is, focus on the fact that she is no longer your bitch and as u wallow in self-pity and sweet lingering memories at every passing place you stumble upon, wake up to the musky reality that ur ex is probably smelling another guy's underwear and have cum all over her face and living as though u are just a passing cloud.

My point is don't be a pussy, your ex will not feel the same. Don't waste your energy on pussies that don't appreciate u. You were dumped like a soiled diaper, so get out of this shitty hole and be a man again by bailing out of these thoughts.

You will do better, meet better pussies, and you will be a better man.

All the best