Double WHAMMY I got 2 GFs Pregnant - Page 7

maxrex · #91 24-09-2008, 02:24 PM

It is not worth at all to tell more lies to either of girls. Telling 1 lie will lead to more lies, complications, headaches in future. I suggest that you register marriage with your rich girlfriend in China as she is from well-to-do family and register marriage with your poor girlfriend in Singapore.

But make sure that you do it first in China because the Chinese authorities may want to check with Singapore government if your Singapore status is single or married. As for Singapore side, it is relatively easy to register marriage as Singapore officials are not likely to check about your oversea status.

Of course, you should hold 2 wedding ceremonies with both girlfriends as soon as possible. Don't delay further, otherwise they will get bigger. You must be fortunate to have 2 women by your side in years to come. Good luck to you!

DO_YOU_BJ · #92 24-09-2008, 02:42 PM

逃避就是后悔的开始
Your life in in your own hands.
How you want to conclude it, happens now.
So you choose!

Xgenre · #93 24-09-2008, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by maxrex

I suggest that you register marriage with your rich girlfriend in China as she is from well-to-do family and register marriage with your poor girlfriend in Singapore.

But make sure that you do it first in China because the Chinese authorities may want to check with Singapore government if your Singapore status is single or married. As for Singapore side, it is relatively easy to register marriage as Singapore officials are not likely to check about your oversea status.

Of course, you should hold 2 wedding ceremonies with both girlfriends as soon as possible. Don't delay further, otherwise they will get bigger. You must be fortunate to have 2 women by your side in years to come. Good luck to you!

Your suggestion will put him in jail.

Having a customary or official wedding in China plus an official wedding in Singapore makes him guilty of Bigamy. He will go to jail, especially when either of his 'wives' report him in a fit of anger. Please check Singapore's laws. Plus Singapore has the Women's Charter, which China doesn't have. Singapore men are the sure losers in marriage.

As for fortunate, I think after so many pages of replies, not many people envy him. In fact, there are more people scolding him, if anything.

crazysexycool · #94 25-09-2008, 08:43 AM

good luck to TS ... u will need it ... it aint gonna be easy ... even if marry both or not ... legally or illegally (refer to bro post on top on bigamy)

Or wad some people do is not marry .. like those in certain countries ... just take them under your roof ... my 2 cents ... but not asian style.

porscheclub · #95 25-09-2008, 06:30 PM

Dear TS, not to be cruel, but I actually think the best scenario is when both gals abort & dump you. You'll be lonely for a while to reflect but you can start clean. Looks like it's taken a little step now.

I think your "poorer" girl is the sensible one here though I won't blame the other for kicking up a big fuss.

Please don't hurt the poor one anymore, her life's screwed by you for having a child @ such young age. Well, in fact both. Just that the other's better off financially.

Now that your 1st half issue is settled, quickly go assure her family & her of your commitment. Then the 2nd but the truth, I have a feeling you're trying to be greedy here & have the best of both worlds but think of the consequences.

Once done, you'll have to decide who you want to make official.

I would suppose you're old enough to handle this issue yourself irregardless of your family's opinions.

Again. Please consider your decisions carefully, this is a lifetime commitment. Your future, career, happiness etc. remember what the Dr said earlier but yours a little short changed.

From what I gathered, the PRC youth is not bothered about contraception & ill informed about VDs, abortion is not an issue with them (the few that I know). Many of my gal's college friends happily co-habit and change partners. IMHO, the modern age Chinese is far more "advanced" than ours. Most are single child & parents would give/do whatever they can to provide the best for them.

wodemama · #96 25-09-2008, 06:37 PM

You got many answer here, so i wish you good luck. Don't look at things on the surface.

Cheers

Moredhel · #97 25-09-2008, 07:47 PM

After reading through the thread, I must say that you're one greedy but responsible(somewhat) bastard. Your thinking is rather off-topic though(worrying about things like social stigma and reunion dinners). I'm sure most of the bros here agree with me.

Assuming you're willing and going to take full responsibility as a man of course.
And assuming that both babies are actually yours.

Well, my first though is that you shouldn't give in to the temper throwing rich gf. Secondly is that marriage laws in Singapore are exceedingly strict and unfairly biased(I don't wanna go there) towards the fairer sex, my advice is that if you're gonna get married with your wife knowing you have another wife, keep it in PRC(if you can get away with bigamy, it's gotta be there).

You'll probably gonna have to end up protecting the poorer one but don't jump into any hard and fast decisions .

My 2 Sillypore cents.

JediSkull · #98 26-09-2008, 04:55 AM

talked to my parents about a gf getting pregnant...... (didn't say two coz I think they would want me to abort both)

mother's ok with it but father is skeptical and wants a DNA test once baby is born. he wants me to register in china and report to singapore embassy. then baby born n tested mine then arrange for both mother n child to come be sg PR........... the tricky part now is I think I will be forced to choose only one gf..........

DO_YOU_BJ · #99 26-09-2008, 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by JediSkull

talked to my parents about a gf getting pregnant...... (didn't say two coz I think they would want me to abort both)

mother's ok with it but father is skeptical and wants a DNA test once baby is born. he wants me to register in china and report to singapore embassy. then baby born n tested mine then arrange for both mother n child to come be sg PR........... the tricky part now is I think I will be forced to choose only one gf..........

My friend, remember what i told you about 逃避?
Seriously, if you really sit down and think about it, you are getting yourself into more probs for wanting to use lie after lie to cover things when you originally started off wif only 1 prob.
Sigh, i just cannot understand why people are like that.
Just get it over once and for all, but u keep running around in circles wif everyone and end up no where but with more than wat you bargained for.
Ask yourself, is it worth it?

EtherC · #**100** 26-09-2008, 12:51 PM

Apparently Singaporeans are so badly spoon fed that they don't even know how to utilise information which is already put in front of their faces. I mentioned prenatal paternity tests did I not? A prenatal paternity test is a conclusive way to determine if a man is the father of an unborn child. It is an option for those who do not wish to wait until the baby is born to determine paternity.

_AXL_ · #**101** 26-09-2008, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by JediSkull

talked to my parents about a gf getting pregnant...... (didn't say two coz I think they would want me to abort both)

mother's ok with it but father is skeptical and wants a DNA test once baby is born. he wants me to register in china and report to singapore embassy. then baby born n tested mine then arrange for both mother n child to come be sg PR........... the tricky part now is I think I will be forced to choose only one gf..........

TS, i dont envy u or yr sticky situation now...

but there is something i dont understand... why the fuck r u still lying to yr family now???!!! no time liao, out with the truth!!! if yr family cannot help u, nobody can!!! if u cant trust yr family, then i dont know who u can trust liao!!! the govt???

and refer to bro EtherC's post i have quoted below in case u didnt see it. prenatal tests sometimes have the effect of scaring away the pretenders before the tests are even administered...

and whatever u do, dont lie and procrastinate already. yr family deserves to know the whole truth before they can advise u properly.

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Originally Posted by EtherC

Apparently Singaporeans are so badly spoon fed that they don't even know how to utilise information which is already put in front of their faces. I mentioned prenatal paternity tests did I not? A prenatal paternity test is a conclusive way to determine if a man is the father of an unborn child. It is an option for those who do not wish to wait until the baby is born to determine paternity.

porscheclub · #**102** 26-09-2008, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by EtherC

Apparently Singaporeans are so badly spoon fed that they don't even know how to utilise information which is already put in front of their faces. I mentioned prenatal paternity tests did I not? A prenatal paternity test is a conclusive way to determine if a man is the father of an unborn child. It is an option for those who do not wish to wait until the baby is born to determine paternity.

Interesting. Paternity Answers: Prenatal Paternity Tests - Non Invasive Prenatal DNA Testing

But the lady has to be willing to go to a hospital first & not kick up a big fuss about doing this test.

Wonder if the hospitals in China has such services?

EtherC · #**103** 26-09-2008, 04:51 PM

TS can just say that its a check for genetic diseases because he has hereditary diabetes or thalassemia. And besides paternity testing he really can order tests for genetic diseases as well.

Cervast · #**104** 28-09-2008, 11:00 AM

okay, first of all don say me heartless.
Both of them, do u really love them and want to take care of them till the very end?
If u don't, u got an answer which one u love and which one u choose.
Abortion is bad though but having a baby don't actually mean good if u not going to responsible but please do give explanation to her and ask for forgiven for your act. Definitely if money help pay her at least u r not throwing her to die.
If u loved them both, there are two ways. One is host two weddings, and don't ever get caught in the end. But i believe paper can;t wrap fire.
The better way is be frank to both parties and see what the reaction.
And hope they both forgive u and if they really love u till they don't mind.
U are really lucky.
Or else the last alternative idea is, u tell the poor village girl that u are actually married. U are sorry, but hope she forgive u and hope she don't mind even u have a wife. Then since she know u have a wife, u can try to maintain both relationship.
As u say, both are your babies. Money issue i can only say the rich pay for u. But what u earn pay for the poor.
In the end, still up to u to decide.

Cervast · #**105** 28-09-2008, 11:10 AM

If the rich say she will come with the baby to ask for justice, u should tell your family anyway. U can't change the fact. But one thing u can do is u can tell the rich girl that u are not heartless. If u want me to leave the poor girl. Then what kind of man am i, then should i leave both of u since i am heartless.
Then say u r really sorry and hope she understand that it not possible to leave anyone of u. And u really love the both of u. Try to control them and not to let them control. Cause seriously u can walk away from both of them and say i don love u at all. Sorry. Bye.