caught gf flirting

[heye]

Dear Brudders and Sista,

i have gone tru 3mths of hell and i am still pondering whether i shld continue my relationship.

I have caught her nt once but 4 times flirtin and dancing wif strangers wen i am nt by her side, ie , she will juz goin missin and it makes me wonder wat will happen if she goes clubin wif her frends.

Recently she got more overboard i found out she have patron giggolo disco.
She neglected me for the the companion of her frends and worst still those arsehole.

Nw she is jobless and back to my side but i wanna knw for a gal point of view is tis normal , does most youngster behave luk wat my gf is doin.

I luk to knw why would she rather put out relationship at stake even knwing she will be caught by me .

Nw she has grown smarter, i cant trace any sms , fotos and wen i am ard she will nt log on fb or msn .

Do you tink i am over reacting or shld i juz learn to let go

:(
A lost soul

[i1papaya]

Bro,

If you dun mind to wear "Green Hat" in the future then you go ahead.:eek::D

[Cheeky GUI]

bro, your 3 months is nothing... i suffered the exact same fate as you for 1 year and now i have had enough and is letting go.

i also caught her going to those gigolo discos... told me she is very stress with work and need to de-stress.... and her cheebye friends also damn 1 kind.... fucking bitches....time after time she promised me she wont go and time after time she lied to me.

told me she idolized a singer there and only treat him as an idol but i caught the piece of shit sending her home... lied to me she will break all contacts with him but time and again i caught her chatting with him over the phone, and even went out together with him. lied to me she is working but actually is her off day and went out with him.

she still loves me, and she told me she will never be together with him cos of his job where he will always be surrounded by girls.

im not that bad a catch also... tall, not bad looking and rich. it's her loss if u do the maths... so after 1 year, i'd had enough and told her to get the fuck out of my life for good... she's very pretty, but divorced with 1 kid, 27 years old but still fucking immature and naive... let her go do what she wants to do... 1 day she will regret and come begging me to forgive and accept her which i will never do.

[heye]

bro ,

same sentiment , i caught her twice too taking moblie phone from singer and 1 time frm a stranger. sometimes easlier sae than done. haiz , i feel luk dyin , i gave her so much i been spending luk 10k plus on her for our past 6 mths hopin to salvage the relationship.

All craps and bullshit.
We no longer make love and she dun luk to kiss me anymore nor if i kiss her.

I am juz a tool to her i tink.
i knw eventually i will be kick away by her

[axeman24]

Do you tink i am over reacting or shld i juz learn to let go

:(
A lost soul

留着双手在,哪怕没奶及.Its either you let go or you will kena play by her. Its your choice. It may be painful initially but after you get over it. You will be very thankful that you have let go when you look back.

[muskscent]

well, bro my sympathies,seems like she hurts u alot. my advice just as d oda bros said is kick her out before she kicks u out! easier said than done but d earlier u do it d faster u get ur life back together. cheers!

[freefuck]

Flirting can also happen to u, maybe future.
It become a nor in this sociaty. Bro, let her go if u start to suspect her.

[Cheeky GUI]

i know it's very hard to let go... but if u dont u will suffer like me... we broke up after chinese new year this year, and from then till now i'd been suffering like hell... everyday emo... cant sleep, cant eat... now im getting better cos i told her i had enough and wont contact her anymore... then from her msn and facebook message can tell she a bit emo over it... and thats what i want... her to regret doing all these for a lifetime of happiness with me...

like u i also did a lot to salvage the r/s... put in more effort, did lots of sweet things for her, buy branded stuffs for her... but no use... girls they cant see the bigger picture... they just want a moment of fun, and never think of the future...

thats why i am also fucking dulan with the cheebye zheng hu for letting these hang flowers joints to open 1 after another...

1st its the thai discos for guys.. then those gigolos clubs... now i heard even have taiwan, korea, thai boys working in these gigolo joints... chao cheebye...

[thirsty]

get out of the r/s b4 roots grown too deep.
the deeper it is, the more hurt is present

[Cheeky GUI]

留着双手在,哪怕没奶及.Its either you let go or you will kena play by her. Its your choice. It may be painful initially but after you get over it. You will be very thankful that you have let go when you look back.

bro, i love your chinese quotes... made my day...

[BigGuy]

Guys, we live in different time. Gals used to tolerate our makan outside n now they too can. Juz we can't accept.

It happened to me with the few gf I had. But no lost. At the end of the day, Let us admit it's the pride that's being hurt.

Move on......live another screw another day.

[simple2kee]

i feel luk dyin , i gave her so much i been spending luk 10k plus on her for our past 6 mths hopin to salvage the relationship.

I am juz a tool to her i tink.
i knw eventually i will be kick away by her

bro, definitely u hv a "tool" what. my advice is give her up & move on.

[Haste]

Agree with what most, if not all bros said : Let her go.

No matter what she promises and even should she keep her word, you will still be suspicious and that will just compromise the relationship. No point living with that type of shadowy doubt in your mind.

[axeman24]

bro, i love your chinese quotes... made my day...

:) You are welcome we are here to share thoughts and quotes as well :)

[nickahben]

Dear Brudders and Sista,

i have gone tru 3mths of hell and i am still pondering whether i shld continue my relationship.

I have caught her nt once but 4 times flirtin and dancing wif strangers wen i am nt by her side, ie , she will juz goin missin and it makes me wonder wat will happen if she goes clubin wif her frends.

Recently she got more overboard i found out she have patron giggolo disco.
She neglected me for the the companion of her frends and worst still those arsehole.

Nw she is jobless and back to my side but i wanna knw for a gal point of view is tis normal , does most youngster behave luk wat my gf is doin.

I luk to knw why would she rather put out relationship at stake even knwing she will be caught by me .

Nw she has grown smarter, i cant trace any sms , fotos and wen i am ard she will nt log on fb or msn .

Do you tink i am over reacting or shld i juz learn to let go

:(
A lost soul

u should let it go.. but quietly in your heart.. find a replacement.. if can't replacement den die die also must give up.. if in future u still suffer 1 de.. u wan to be with someone tat make u stress and unhappy everytime???.. if like tat might as well be alone and fuck chicken every week..the slut not worth ur love la..believe me i when thur it too.. tis kind of girl i hav many ar...let them f around la.. dun take it too hard.. only treasure those that r worth..

[bigass]

if yr face are not those ran over kind, or just an average joe i don't think u shld waste yr youth and time over such bitch.

my gf always tell me: there is always someone for someone in this world. so dun give up the forest.

[nickahben]

i know it's very hard to let go... but if u dont u will suffer like me... we broke up after chinese new year this year, and from then till now i'd been suffering like hell... everyday emo... cant sleep, cant eat... now im getting better cos i told her i had enough and wont contact her anymore... then from her msn and facebook message can tell she a bit emo over it... and thats what i want... her to regret doing all these for a lifetime of happiness with me...

like u i also did a lot to salvage the r/s... put in more effort, did lots of sweet things for her, buy branded stuffs for her... but no use... girls they cant see the bigger picture... they just want a moment of fun, and never think of the future...

thats why i am also fucking dulan with the cheebye zheng hu for letting these hang flowers joints to open 1 after another...

1st its the thai discos for guys.. then those gigolos clubs... now i heard even have taiwan, korea, thai boys working in these gigolo joints... chao cheebye...

sg birth rate already so low still allow all tis... wat cock they doin... should ban 1 dun ban.. den those should not ban 1 they ban....zzzz

[Agent69]

bro, like wat bro i1papaya said, if u prepared to wear the green hat then carry on staying but if not, then give her one good last f@*k like wat a ragdoll bitch deserved then move on bro....keep ur choice open.

[Blakkie]

my condolences bro. i think once the mistrust is there, it's difficult to go away. better to let go and find someone better...

[Cheeky GUI]

sg birth rate already so low still allow all tis... wat cock they doin... should ban 1 dun ban.. den those should not ban 1 they ban....zzzz

exactly bro... allow all these stupid joints to open, i believe divorce rates will go up, birth rate go further down... lots of social issues... and we are not even talking about the casinos yet..

really stupid zheng hu.

[Blue_Blue]

I also tio such experience b4.

Handphone got password one lo...

she was having a fling who has a more promising future. I tot to myself, after all the TLC and things i have done for her with no expectation, yet I was treated like that. I was very sad and I don't deserve such treatment at all. It could have been better if she had told me straight that she has no feelings for me.

After thinking for 3 days without sleep, I concluded enough is enough, I deserves better. I took myself out of the equation and told that's the end. I suffered for 2 weeks, but i recovered very well.

Its more carefree to remain single and you don't have think or worry for her well-being. I have always been faithful in relationships. Right now I am enjoying my life with some occasional flings. I got no guilt flirting and bioing girls now.

If you have loved and cared for her very much b4, she will regret one day and turn back to you.
Well I rejected her, because such girls are BIMBO :cool: and I dislike bimbos.

Be prepared if you accept her back, some girls' have mind which occasionally goes with the wind.

[toyotavios]

Most girl are realistics and fuck up. They want guy to give in and will always ask instead of give in. What they will do is counting what we did wrong but not what we do good to them. They like to compare their girlfriend's boyboy well doing to ours. To bro out there, don't spoil market by giving them 100%... haha

[Cheeky GUI]

Most girl are realistics and fuck up. They want guy to give in and will always ask instead of give in. What they will do is counting what we did wrong but not what we do good to them. They like to compare their girlfriend's boyboy well doing to ours. To bro out there, don't spoil market by giving them 100%... haha

exactly man... everytime quarrel they will bring up all the things which u did or shouldnt have done, but never once will they mention the thousands of good u did for them.

[BANANASKIN]

I seriously think u guys should wake up ur own stupid ideas instead.
We guys should always be in control! We should not cry like a baby.
If ur girl is doing something wrong to u, the first thing is call her to fuck off ur life.
Dun be like a stupid carrot let them chop. U should be in control!
Girls r funny creatures. 男人不坏,女人不爱...

[Tanuki]

bro bananaskin, cannot be so harsh on your words lah, you'll sink TS into further emo-ness leh... but it's true lah, like one tight slap across the face, they always do those things to us and reality is a bitch too...

the end result is still how one handle it loh, if she die die want to gamble your relationship, let her lah, leave her be.. bro, to tell you the truth, from your story, can tell she's just hanging to you like a parasite, got advantage, stay and suck up all your money, sianz liao, zhao and go find some other fresh blood.. typical lah...

let her go, not worth your time K?

[heye]

Bro how can i reciporate , i do nt knw hw to up u guys ,
tks all for ur time.

I tink i juz nd some time to find courage.

I agree tat the stupid government is arsehole too.
Wth is all tis giggolo club doin in singapore.
Always all tis expat earning away our citizen hard earn money

[<山雞>]

Love yourself more than you love her la bro,from what you say,i can tell that she don't treasure this rls @ at all lo.One is yours will nv go away.旁观者清,i think all bros say are right.Let her go..

[limrayson]

thats why FTs like SG guys so much , so emotional , so gullible(say tell wife/fg only scared until urine come out) and unwilling to let go . on the flip side , guys that are heartless attract so many pretty girls ... sigh , this just goes to show that being heartless is better :D for a fact , many guys here will take me one on one and beat me up without batting an eyelid but dare not say no to wife of GF .

[limrayson]

Bro how can i reciporate , i do nt knw hw to up u guys ,
tks all for ur time.

I tink i juz nd some time to find courage.

I agree tat the stupid government is arsehole too.
Wth is all tis giggolo club doin in singapore.
Always all tis expat earning away our citizen hard earn money

don't blame the floor when you cannot stand properly !! drop her like a hot potatoe :D spend your time and money on someone who reciprocrates . remember not all girls are like that

[hotdeal4u]

Now males and females play opposite roles..... Like what some say, they ban this and ban that. Raid this and raid that. In the end, no more entertainments for guys but lots of entertainment for the ladies. So guys stay home while the ladies come out frequent such joints.

[future_80]

I tink no use need so many opinions when TS you yourself can't let go...I experience worst...nearly married to someone who dun love me...only out to cheat my feeling....despite everyone telling me to dump her, i still trust her...but eventually i also come to my mind and decide to bring it to an end and not to contact her anymore....nw i live alot better....u ownself go think ba....i dun think u need anymore advise and u know wat to do yourself...gd luck

[swell]

Let it go. Many years ago I was involved with a model and I went through the same thing as you. After 3 months I let her go and I am so happy with what I did. Believe me, it not worth holding on to gals like that.

[DexDJ]

TS, I'm really sorry to hear of your predicament. To me, I think you'd have 2 options available to you.

1) Continue with the r/s AND suffering or
2) Quit this r/s once and for all

Either way, it's gonna hurt but do what you think is good and right FOR YOU. Option 1, not so painful but it's gonna be a long one. Option 2, almost immediate gut-wrenching pain but short term (subjective to every individual). To me, a r/s is a 2-way street with open communications and no secrets. Once the trust is broken, it is almost always very difficult to get it back 'cause there will always be a lingering suspicion somewhere somehow.

With all due respect, all the brothers here can and will give you their best advice but ultimately, it is you who'd have to make the final decision and live with it.

So you'd have to decide what is good and right for you bro.. good luck and all the best!

My 2cents

Dex

[luvpaper]

same here bro. Now it seems that it is best to steer clear from girls that are too fun loving if u dun wan to be stressed out. This girl i with her for around 6 mth nia. Even before tgt already not comfortable liao but last mth when i ran through her sms and she tio bao toh by a friend found a lot of stuff. (dumb girl let me know so many of her friends. I realise guy friend seldom betray guys thou the keyword is still seldom coz i seen 2 cases be4 :D but girls are more likely to betray their friend. From what i learnt u just need to show them u r a nice guy n somehow or another either they want to help u or like u they will just betray their friend).

Flirting with stranger, gigglo pub, sleeping with client to get sale (she is in insurance) and several other stuff. Unless u r like some of the bro here dun mind sharing and find it a kick i do think it is best to end it.

For my case i just decided that it is not worth my time. But i dint end it. Just that not committed to the r/s also liao. Now meet friend i wont bring her along. People ask just say break liao. But if she ask me out or i feel bored will ask her out will just hang out like a couple.

Just became a r/s of making use of each other. But to do so u must make sure ur heart strong enough so that you would not become jealous. The moment u start to become jealous jialat liao means sleepless night. I think this is a key point to note. If u cant do this must break off clean and totally.

1 way to counter this is everytime u see her face just tell urself in ur mind "slut". Just take it as a free bonk but nvr raw....too dangerous liao.

I rmb once at carpark my car condom run out nvr top up die die also dun wan to do. Kind of drunk so when she ask me i just told her straight of that she her mei mei too dangerous too much ppl use liao. After that bo hui me for 3 day nia and she text me ask me go clubbing liaos and yes this time i made sure i got replanish stock.

Till the right girl comes along whom i can settle down with just thought it would do me good to make use of her too.

Selfish? Yes. But so what she doesnt deserve my respect.

O yar i realize by doing so somehow such girls are dam dunno what to say. She will somehow start to treat u better. Probably coz u r hurting her ego thus she will start to want you back. Treat them nice they will take it for granted.

and bros out there dun bother to pm me for her contact. Share to much increase my risk nia lol but i am not surprise if she is one of the fb of a bro here.

[sgbogyman]

Sad to heard your situation.

If you think you can let her go, dont look back. Take up a new hobby or some thing to keep you occupied. Time should heal the wound but scar will bound to stay. Take it as a lesson learnt, that the part and parcel of life I guess.

ps: where are all these gigolo pub? never noticed.

[Iveagh]

You caught her at quite some stuff. Do you think you caught everything ?

Move on Buddy, there are others out there.

[boon huat]

bro ,

same sentiment , i caught her twice too taking moblie phone from singer and 1 time frm a stranger. sometimes easlier sae than done. haiz , i feel luk dyin , i gave her so much i been spending luk 10k plus on her for our past 6 mths hopin to salvage the relationship.

All craps and bullshit.
We no longer make love and she dun luk to kiss me anymore nor if i kiss her.

I am juz a tool to her i tink.
i knw eventually i will be kick away by her

cut short the pain and move ahead, you will find someone better who will cherish you wholeheartedly.

[greywolfzone]

bro,

if your bubby come to you with this situation wat will u advise him??

i think probably should just let her go cos i dun think she is happy just with you and if you dont mind her then is fine, since you are already so affected by dancing with stranger ... better let go before you find out something else.

it is very tiring to have this type of relationship and you are not and will not be happy also..

there is a forest out there ..... so you should make a decision ..

[jwang15]

Well , why u choose to be with a gal who loves to flirt outside ?? Might as well u get a new gf who cherish u. Let her go is a wise choice.

[heye]

bro luvpaper ,

i realli salute you man , how u manage to do so.
i tink me too shld try to handle my relationship luk u.

:)

[lameshit89]

let go, you would live happier.

[testosterone]

this may be out of topic of conversation, but what in a world is a gigolo disco? and where is it?

[jana]

Bro you really need to let go man, think about those times when you were single and going out with different girls all the time. All the brudders here will assure you that been in such a relationship is suffering, you would rather you never had loved.

Dun let such things kill off your passion for loving rendering you incapable of loving next time that will be sad.

LET IT GO and i assure you that you will find betters things out there, if you are choosing a long term relationship remember that they do not have to be super chio but they have to be super devoted to you. If you just want to have a good time, then go work on your career earn a lot of money and pay and "whack" which ever pretty girl you like and then get it over and done with lor.

LET IT GO LET IT GO

[luvpaper]

bro luvpaper ,

i realli salute you man , how u manage to do so.
i tink me too shld try to handle my relationship luk u.

:)

ehh not easy at the start like i said must keep reminding urself that she is not worth it aka slut. than also must find other girls fast. I am lucky coz my look not too bad so can usually pick up girls from clubs. the day i decided to do so i managed to pick up another girl liaos so u know divert ur attention.

Main point is to feel no more jealousy or else u die.

As for gigglo club sg have a few la just do your own research. want to work there sibo lol :D

[Cheeky GUI]

ehh not easy at the start like i said must keep reminding urself that she is not worth it aka slut. than also must find other girls fast. I am lucky coz my look not too bad so can usually pick up girls from clubs. the day i decided to do so i managed to pick up another girl liaos so u know divert ur attention.

Main point is to feel no more jealousy or else u die.

As for gigglo club sg have a few la just do your own research. want to work there sibo lol :D

i used to want to do like what u did... just treat the gf as a sex toy, using her for sex only, but being together for 2.5 years, everytime meet her really a lot of feelings, jealousy, wanting to check her things, etc... cant do it man... rather let go once and for all...

but til now 2 and 1/2 months since broke up, still cant 100% let go... especially when she said she still loves me...

[heye]

hi brudders ,

the 1 my gf went was call versace club.
those gals call it host club .
heres their forum for your perusal.
better take care of ur love 1 too

All Host Bars in Singapore (http://ladybarbar.com/forums/all-host-bars-singapore/)

[Cheeky GUI]

next time find gf better find one that dun chiong and dun drink...

[heye]

bro luvpaper/cheeky gui/nick ahben and all,

i oso nt bad lookin but then dun hav the ability to articulate haiz sianz.

Nw i try to let go , went for FL cork oso cannt fully stand feel so guilty dunno why.

End up pay up and left.

i use to tink i wont be control by women too but end up i am juz human after all wif flesh and blood.

[Cheeky GUI]

bro luvpaper/cheeky gui/nick ahben and all,

i oso nt bad lookin but then dun hav the ability to articulate haiz sianz.

Nw i try to let go , went for FL cork oso cannt fully stand feel so guilty dunno why.

End up pay up and left.

i use to tink i wont be control by women too but end up i am juz human after all wif flesh and blood.

haha bro u are not alone... i not ugly too, but when it comes to girl, i can be quite fussy also, then i also a bit shy, cant articulate well when go dating with them...

i also used to think i wont let girl manipulate me... that i can take it in my stride... but looks like the saying is right, every dog has its day... can only learn and move on... but i will seek my revenge... cos i did told her before, u can tell me anything, as long as u are honest, just dont lie to me, and if u lie to me, and let me find out, i swear i sure will make u pay...

i will seek my revenge... im a vengenceful person...

[hornie]

next time find gf better find one that dun chiong and dun drink...

Exactly.

But you know, it really depends on what you are looking for in a girlfriend.

If you are young, wild, like to chiong, then naturally a wild girlfriend would be nice. Of course hot pretty wild girls like to party a lot and should you be surprised if they are "easy" with other men as well? Probably not. But if you can tame her, then you are in for a treat right? I have dated these kinda girls before, but i never attach myself emotionally to them. 3 months then I will break, and move on.

Of course if you get a less wild girlfriend, stay home type, likelyhood that they will cheat is automatically much lesser. But you need to ask if that is the kind of girl you like. They are stable but less fun. Much better for long term relationships.

[DegenerationX]

Exactly.

But you know, it really depends on what you are looking for in a girlfriend.

If you are young, wild, like to chiong, then naturally a wild girlfriend would be nice. Of course hot pretty wild girls like to party a lot and should you be surprised if they are "easy" with other men as well? Probably not. But if you can tame her, then you are in for a treat right? I have dated these kinda girls before, but i never attach myself emotionally to them. 3 months then I will break, and move on.

Of course if you get a less wild girlfriend, stay home type, likelyhood that they will cheat is automatically much lesser. But you need to ask if that is the kind of girl you like. They are stable but less fun. Much better for long term relationships.

exactly. so hot pretty wild gals = short term r/s and less wild gals = long term r/s.

salute u for able to get hot wild gals cos i cant. me just average looking, no dancing hormones in me. :( the only time i can impress a gal is through singing.:p tats y i go pubs rather than clubs.

[slyer]

I used to be in similar situation as TS and in the end i decided to give up that relationship. initially the emotions are really :( but after some time I realise its better to give up a relationship whom I dun have faith or trust in. Its really tormenting to keep thinkin whether gf got steal eat outside or flirt with any guys outside.

i still rmb many times my that ex gf will suddenly mia. No matter how i sms or call her she remains uncontactable for some time. I sometimes wonder if she is with any other guy during that time. Before we get into relationship I knew she had flings with guys before so its inevitable to be suspicious of her. I guess this type of girl focus more on fun rather than a steady relationship so i choose to give up and seek for a better girl

[pantylover1982]

I understand yr feelings bro but u must let it go before u get hurt deeper.

Now i think at least 90% of sg gals are very realistic and fuck up and its really not worth being together with them unless u can find the rare gd ones...they will not tok true love with u they only love u for yr financial and looks and will leave u when they found some1 richer or more yandao than u so wats the point?I notice nowadays guys r being too soft with gals tat makes them take control which i really cannot stand it...come on we r guys how can we behave like a pussy!!!

In the olden days man earn money to support family and women looks after the family(take care of kids,cook,house chores etc)相夫教子、now still man take the main responsibility to support the family but we still have to take care of the family also wtf...most of the sg bitches cannot cook cannot do housechores evrything also we must do.... when u say them they will reply"now is a modern world,why gals must do all tis not fair,men and women r equal"but on the other hand they always say we r guy mah so we have to earn more money must hav 5cs,guys shld be more gentleman la shld pay for most expenses when going out la bla bla bla.. always we must do this do tat and they no need de then they call this equalilty..we even have to tolerate them fooling ard outside now?no chance at all we guys shld all wake up!

Many ppl always tot we sg ppl lead a very gd life but its only the appearance... i think many sg guys r actually very pathetic as we hav a "very gd" government and we cannot even find a decent gf/wife from our own country..we r even worse than ah tiongs in fact..more n more ppl will stay single or look for foreign wife in future tats for sure....MORE GOOD YEARS AHEAD:o