Can a high sex drive guy be faithful?

[peachbloom]

I want to hear from guys the possibility of a very high sex drive guy having the self control to withstand all commercial sex, flings etc and be a one women man? Anybody able to do that or just plain impossible?

[Hyper99]

I think you might be interested in this:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect

And I'd say it affects all men. The difference lies in the extent of it. And that's why we see the phenomenal global rise of internet porn since high speed broadband became available which spills over to commercial sex and flings. Multiple video windows (or streets) full of highly attractive ladies from all over the world with enhanced bodies all crying for sex - Who could resist?

It is an unfortunate legacy of human males' evolution. Having a high sex drive would logically exacerbate the problem.

But this is from a purely physiological view. Humans are able to over-ride their basic instincts and suppress them based on their value system, beliefs and even fear.

But of course, it is not perfect, that's why crisis happens.

I take it that the highly sexed guy masturbates regularly and views porn? (almost all guys do, except those in the fringes of the bell curve)

Not sure if porn use would, could or should be recommended as a relatively harmless substitute for high sex drive. I can't answer that unfortunately.

Assuming they do, and into it in a big way, even the most sexually driven guy, exposed to excessive stimulus, such as masturbating X times a day, (hopefully, and not screwing different ladies X times a day - he will have to be really, really rich), will eventually reach a point where they are so de-sensitized that it affects their performance and encounters orgasm difficulty and/or erectile dysfunction. They just can't get it up with normal ladies anymore because their expectations became so unreal. (No clues as to when it may happen, could range in years)

The only solution then would be total abstinence, no stimulation of any kind, be it porn or masturbation or orgasm (P.M.O) until their minds are re-sensitized and they get their sex drive back with normal ladies. This period is usually real living hell for all guys, and could range from a week to months.

And hopefully, he will come to his senses, understand the limitations of his sex drive in order to manage it properly, stick to and offer sexual fulfilment to a single normal lady.

Not a comprehensive answer, but just from a purely physiological point of view.

Lastly, if all these are too academic and you wish to demand a single sentence answer, I'd just say

Drum the FEAR of STDs and threaten to reduce him into state of abject poverty via alimony and expenses would do the trick as well.

[pendragon_sg]

i am one and have not been able to stop dipping my dicks in different cunts since the day i got married many many years ago.



I want to hear from guys the possibility of a very high sex drive guy having the self control to withstand all commercial sex, flings etc and be a one women man? Anybody able to do that or just plain impossible?

[Lawlessness]

I can do with my wife of two years everyday. We have one kid but I just can't get enough of her. I'm in my late 20s. Hihi!

[n30n]

i am one and have not been able to stop dipping my dicks in different cunts since the day i got married many many years ago.

How many you have? :confused:

[SharkAttack]

have you ever ask what other female do to make Him attracted to them?

Or read blogs on how female reduce their lovers to mere puppies and donate all their salary to Her?

Read up more on such extremes n perhaps you'll pick up some tips on improving on your own sex life?

Worrying doesn't solve anything.

[LunarLover]

I think its a two way thing. If a gal knows her man is hyper sextive & keeps his sexual appetite well fed, i don't see him having any need to release elsewhere. But if she doesn't, then this is bound to happen

[CrazyOldMan]

I want to hear from guys the possibility of a very high sex drive guy having the self control to withstand all commercial sex, flings etc and be a one women man? Anybody able to do that or just plain impossible?

I'm one high sex drive guy who never go for any cunt after going steady with my gf. Up to u to believe. Up to now we r having very gd sex life together

[Chanelfingers]

I believe can... When he meet his match

[asdfghjkl]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect

very good hypothesis.. i would write a paper on this topic if i have the time.. :o

[peachbloom]

have you ever ask what other female do to make Him attracted to them?

Or read blogs on how female reduce their lovers to mere puppies and donate all their salary to Her?

Read up more on such extremes n perhaps you'll pick up some tips on improving on your own sex life?

Worrying doesn't solve anything.
Oh, can you share the good blogs to learn :)

he is possessive and gets jealous easily. Yet he tell me he will not mind me having sex with other guys if I want it. hmm, I begin to wonder is this a trap so that he can fulfill his needs for variety if we go swing. Like contradict leh..

[BabyLyn]

Well sister, my ex use to have high sex drive... When we were together, sex is a must everytime we meet (we meet about 4-5 times a week). If you can match up to his sex drive (or if he can match up to yours if you have an even higher sex drive), I don't see which he need to seek release elsewhere... Cheers!

[Incongnito]

End of the day it's not about high sex drive. It's more on loyalty & faithfulness. Big head must always control the small head...

[Sirrus]

there is a difference between 花心 and 好色

[Blackpanther]

if he is bestowed with the strength of a thousand man, it takes an extraordinary woman to subdue him.

[Shadow_warrior]

I want to hear from guys the possibility of a very high sex drive guy having the self control to withstand all commercial sex, flings etc and be a one women man? Anybody able to do that or just plain impossible?

why not?

just control it with healthy activities, using your hand DIY(a man has 2, no excuse), lots of sex toys out there like fleshlight

to release the urge. And he also has you....

swinging needs both sides to agree to it

if he wants to see you have sex with other men, see if its to give him a free pass to other women

[evilair]

I believe that the level of sex drive has no correlation with someone being faithful or not.

A low sex drive person can be unfaithful even though he/she dun need sex that often. A high sex drive person can be faithful even though the spouse is not able to fulfill the sexual needs.

At the end of the day, what matters is whether the spouse is worth fighting the temptation. I can tell you that if a man dun get enough love from his gf/wife, he will become unfaithful even though he has low sex drive.

[asdfghjkl]

many understanding members here.. glad to stand shoulder to shoulder.. ;)

[daring70]

suggest take a practical approach to this, even guys with not-so-high sex drive makan outside, for guys, a lot of times, it's physical rather than emotional. as long as family is still his first priority, he's still faithful in my books

[Window7]

suggest take a practical approach to this, even guys with not-so-high sex drive makan outside, for guys, a lot of times, it's physical rather than emotional. as long as family is still his first priority, he's still faithful in my books

I use to eat out. Already stop all.

I high sex drive. Wifey low sex drive, so most of time if I want just pcc.
Don't think so much.

[SharkAttack]

hint: read blogs on female dominion kind and find a rich guys who likes it. =p plus doesnt mind doing what u ask them to do.

Well thats an achievement and one exetreme of the sexual spectrum.

Other exetreme of course is the male dom. =p

[maxman]

I think you might be interested in this:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect

And I'd say it affects all men. The difference lies in the extent of it. And that's why we see the phenomenal global rise of internet porn since high speed broadband became available which spills over to commercial sex and flings. Multiple video windows (or streets) full of highly attractive ladies from all over the world with enhanced bodies all crying for sex - Who could resist?

It is an unfortunate legacy of human males' evolution. Having a high sex drive would logically exacerbate the problem.

But this is from a purely physiological view. Humans are able to over-ride their basic instincts and suppress them based on their value system, beliefs and even fear.

But of course, it is not perfect, that's why crisis happens.

I take it that the highly sexed guy masturbates regularly and views porn? (almost all guys do, except those in the fringes of the bell curve)

Not sure if porn use would, could or should be recommended as a relatively harmless substitute for high sex drive. I can't answer that unfortunately.

Assuming they do, and into it in a big way, even the most sexually driven guy, exposed to excessive stimulus, such as masturbating X times a day, (hopefully, and not screwing different ladies X times a day - he will have to be really, really rich), will eventually reach a point where they are so de-sensitized that it affects their performance and encounters orgasm difficulty and/or erectile dysfunction. They just can't get it up with normal ladies anymore because their expectations became so unreal. (No clues as to when it may happen, could range in years)

The only solution then would be total abstinence, no stimulation of any kind, be it porn or masturbation or orgasm (P.M.O) until their minds are re-sensitized and they get their sex drive back with normal ladies. This period is usually real living hell for all guys, and could range from a week to months.

And hopefully, he will come to his senses, understand the limitations of his sex drive in order to manage it properly, stick to and offer sexual fulfilment to a single normal lady.

Not a comprehensive answer, but just from a purely physiological point of view.

Lastly, if all these are too academic and you wish to demand a single sentence answer, I'd just say

Drum the FEAR of STDs and threaten to reduce him into state of abject poverty via alimony and expenses would do the trick as well.

Bloody good academic psychological explanation. Thumbs up!

May I also add that sex is 1 of the top, if not the top, emotional needs of most men. Search the meaning of "emotional need" to better understand the term. It is clear to see how much men must have a release for their sexual urge whether through sex or masturbation.

[Abbreviation]

A guy who only has one gf. Love her alot. Love no other girls.

But due to some reason, he will go off track once in a while. Be it pure ONS or FL. No strings attached.

How 'good/faithful' is this guy consider?

[ah rat]

I use to eat out. Already stop all.

I high sex drive. Wifey low sex drive, so most of time if I want just pcc.
Don't think so much.

Good to hear that :D

[kukugun]

If both partners have the same drive chances r less but the problem is not easy to find

[BiRd13]

Don't really doubt so... Especially if the guy have extremely high sex drive like me...

Currently I do make love with my wife almost every night (at least 3-4 times per night)... But still when go for massage with special, will still go for it... Maybe not sex, but handjob or blowjob or others...

I don't go for FL though, hence don't really have sex with other girl, except my wife, and 2 FB...

[melomelody]

no, his eyes will wonder. and he will strike if he has the chance

[31yovirgin]

A guy who only has one gf. Love her alot. Love no other girls.

But due to some reason, he will go off track once in a while. Be it pure ONS or FL. No strings attached.

How 'good/faithful' is this guy consider?

In china, he will be considered good as gold. China is a crazy place. Like what an Angmoh said "when I first came to china, I found it easier to order a hooker than a bowl of noodles"

I only start having sex 4 months ago. Quite sure I have high sex drive as I had 4 girls on the day I lost my V. Since then till now, had 50+. Did not have more due to $$$ concerns.........

Maybe I started on the wrong track, realized that after the initial attraction of seeing a pretty girl, it feels similar the moment you poke her. Now I feel that other than poking, feelings are important to enjoy sex even more. Feelings allow for better foreplay, frenching, and of course raw. My aim is to get a girlfriend I like and then save money by not playing anymore.

Actually, a girl can find out if boyfriend is unfaithful....very easy, if he is asking for sex less than 3 times a week, confirm need to investigate further. If have sex 3 times or more per week, still does not mean he is completely honest, just higher chance he is honest. When a guy decline sex by saying he is tired, the actual meaning is "see your face already feel tired so don't want to bonk you. Saving my sperm for others".

[owl888]

Then u have to learn to b more skilful in sex to keep his heart with u :D

[sin_2007]

I use to eat out. Already stop all.

I high sex drive. Wifey low sex drive, so most of time if I want just pcc.
Don't think so much.

Yo, same same here.