sex addiction tip

[glfingers]

Hi all,

some of you may recall my blog of attempts to cure my sex addiction. At first through dieting, medication than meditation. Then have it all failed!

That's why I'm very excited to share my latest breakthrough. It's been three and a half month since I shell out to buy sex. This method is truly amazing that even as my motor-neural programmed habits forces me to drive my car into the lorongs after work, I can still resist to approach the mei meis for sex.

Here's my new insight. Remember to meditate on it in your free moments. Keep these three words in your head as you observe life:

"IT WILL PASS"

Let me explain. No phenomenon, organism, object, thought or feeling last forever. IT WILL PASS.

When you have the sexual urge to visit a prostitute, don't try to suppress the thought. It won't work for long. Instead analyse it. Recognise that the urge will pass, often quicker than you think.

When you know that the urge will pass, it doesn't do much good to satisfy it. Let it pass, and save yourself the guilt, expense, and health risk.

Try it. If it works, share you experience here.

[lovithairless]

:) Keep it up bro. Will try to see if it works. Cheers.

[brucelee]

bro i've read yr thread at sex addicts.... you stopped posting there a year ago. tot u given up. good to hear you've found a way. How did you find it?
I'm happy for u. :) KEEP IT UP!

[glfingers]

I found it here:
http://buddhism.about.com/library/blbudcourses.htm
Interesting stuff that really works.

[leeky123]

I found it here:
http://buddhism.about.com/library/blbudcourses.htm
Interesting stuff that really works.


Bro glfingers,

thanks . i truely agree with u.

i am now fighting the evil inside me. i wont succumb to it anymore!

[lesnar]

Got one Bro once taught me. Place $50 on your head and PCC... Well, never really tried it. But just PCC.....kekeke...

[glfingers]

Good to know there are fellow sufferers who are making an effort to quit.
I think it is counter-productive to talk about "evilness" and fighting "evil" in sex addiction. Whatever the cause, sex addiction doesn't feel good. If you don't feel right at the back of your head after a sex romp, maybe your on your way to addiction. Again, there are different severities to addiction and when you truly suffer, it could be very difficult to cure it.
Recognising that the addiction is a form suffering is the first step. The suffering is caused by dellusion: a desire to fuck somebody you don't love.
It's like buying something you don't need. Keeping junk you don't even like anymore. In sex addiction, sex is the junk that we collect.

Throw away old junk in your cupbaord. You will find that you won't miss it. Wait for the desire to fuck to pass, you will find that you don't need junk sex either.

Sex addiction has everything to do with attachment; not so much evil spirits, personal tragedies etc. Be not attached to junk. Stop collecting junk experiences. When you recognise junk , there's little allure in jerking off, porn or prostitutes.

[glfingers]

To bro leeky,

I totally empathise with you as I come from a similar background. When I got my first paycheck in the army, I felt a sense of entitlement. I've had so little and I've worked so hard. I DESERVE SOME PUSSY!

That got me hooked on sex for the past 12 years. Why? There's too much "I" in our thinking. It's very difficult to explain, but actually "I" don't even exists. Everytime you change your attitude, gain new knowledge, change preferences, "I" changes. "I" is not constant. Don't believe? Look at your childhood photo. How can that be "I"?

If "I" dies every few minutes or days, what's the point of gratifying "I". "I" will die many times before "I" is buried.

Bottom line is you've already made do with so little all your life. You've even been happy. In fact, you're more easily satisfied with less than most people.

Look at what you have, you have everything. Look what you don't have and you have nothing.



On a more practical note, if "I" is still too greedy for sex. Start a safe-as-you -earn POSB account and bleed yourself dry every month. No money, no HC.

[glfingers]

Had a relapse few weeks after receiving SMS from OKT. Went for a quickie with an Ang Moh because the hotel was very near my lunch place. Just want brothers to know about choosing the right battlefield. The battle with addiction is lost when you decide to succumb. The place where you decide to give in to your urge can be in your car, near hotels, in the lorongs, in front of your computer screen etc. Try not to fight too near the scene of the crime. Fighting your urge near a hotel is tougher than fighting your urge at home. Try to decide on your course of action where your willpower is not tested too strongly. For example, don't think about going sight-seeing at Geylang and try to fight the urge there. Fight the urge before deciding to go to Geylang. Once you are in Geylang, it's a lot tougher to think straight.
Be mindful always about temptation.

[Just_Rock]

Hi all,
"IT WILL PASS"
Try it. If it works, share you experience here.

Thks bro for the tips, will tryit out :)

[hot_dick]

Had a relapse few weeks after receiving SMS from OKT. Went for a quickie with an Ang Moh...
hi bro glfingers..

how r u handling your sex desires now.. ? i just found this thread and will try out yr phrase IT WILL PASS.. i have been trying to bring my spending in GL under control for more than 10 years but the longest period i have kept away was 3 weeks..

pls let us know if u hv new methods.. thanks..

[t123]

Its been 2 months since I ever went GL and recently only one encounter with a nymp. I tried to test water on myself but I wlak to and fro from Lor 18 to Lor 6 and back, saw all the FLs and WLs, no feeling leh. Even one PRC approached me at Darlene, I told her I just finished one session which in fact I didn't. Guess this has got to do with the boycott I got from one of the WH at Lor 18. Anyway, its good for my health and wallet.

[akaza24]

Its been 2 months since I ever went GL and recently only one encounter with a nymp. I tried to test water on myself but I wlak to and fro from Lor 18 to Lor 6 and back, saw all the FLs and WLs, no feeling leh. Even one PRC approached me at Darlene, I told her I just finished one session which in fact I didn't. Guess this has got to do with the boycott I got from one of the WH at Lor 18. Anyway, its good for my health and wallet.

Some ppl told me its best to avoid these "tempting" places if u really trying to minimise ur addiction. Gd work brot123 tat u personally put urself to the test and still able to resist it. Cheers!


*****I Am Retiring Soon*****

[morrissey1209]

I am fighting sex addiction as well and have found that there is no surefire way of fighting it...if bros have diffciulty overcoming it,one good way may be is to reduce gradually rather than immediately cut off...of which when you relapse,there will be a terrible feeling of guilt.I bonk twice a week but is right now trying to restrain myself...last bonk was on National Day itself...not that long ago...but these things take time...and I deal with each moment of urge as it comes...nearly relapse today...went to GL...but heng ah...not a lot of FLs around...altho there were some pretty ones and I was very tempted...but decided to hail a ca quickly and get away...

What I try to do now is remind myself that "This type of life is over for me" and I should not turn back...whenever I'm tempted to...I will tell myself I have just been beaten.I was beaten this evening but somehow,someone up there must like me enough to pull me back from the brink...

And yes,I agree...the best method to fight temptation is NOT to go GL...and if u succumb to the temptation...b4 u manage to actually do anything,get awa y from there ASAP...dont have the mentality that "hey,since I am here,might as well look around..."because we rarely just look around and do nothing...so even if it wastes money to quickly hail a cab to go home...do it.There is long-term good in this.The correct thing is never the easiest thing to do.

[bongster]

You can try this method, PCC everyday 2-3 times and shoot out till you are BONE DRY... Trust mi everytime u feel horny just PCC... at the end of the day u will not be so addicted anymore.

[Hasa Sas]

Whatever the cause, sex addiction doesn't feel good. If you don't feel right at the back of your head after a sex romp, maybe your on your way to addiction. Again, there are different severities to addiction and when you truly suffer, it could be very difficult to cure it.


Good statement

Lust and cravings lead to sex addiction

It is a huge obstacles to overcome

Not even a holy monk :o

" Liu Gen Qing Jing "

[whitegals]

It makes me wonder why one would wanna try to suppress his urge to have sex.....

I'm currently living with a really fit gal, she's a physical training instructor with loads of stamina and her body just oozes sex, she's got a passing similar look to Jessica Biel. Our daily routine is wake up, fuck, eat, fuck, go to work, come back, fuck, shower (if together, then fuck) go to bed, fuck, wake up....

This is simply heaven.... why would anyone wanna suppress the urge man? :confused:

[Vincent]

It makes me wonder why one would wanna try to suppress his urge to have sex.....

I'm currently living with a really fit gal, :confused:

We are talking about commercial sex, ie. having sex wif different partners, not home cooked food lah... everyday take Coka cola, also sianz, sometimes need to take 7up. 7up also got Cherry flavour, rite?

How to enjoy if u are living with and relying on just 1 gal? For me, it will come to point I will get spurned, it is a matter of sooner or later...

Thats why so many cheongsters sharing KT here in SB.

[hot_dick]

I am fighting sex addiction as well and have found that there is no surefire way of fighting it...if bros have diffciulty overcoming it,one good way may be is to reduce gradually rather than immediately cut off...of which when you relapse...
I have tried to cut gradually from 6 a week to 2 or 3 a week but the main reason is i don't earn as much as I did before...

Whenever I was very motivated and able to cut off completely for a few weeks... the relapse effect was worst... I couldn't control myself n had consecutive sessions in consecutive days.. Basically what I saved in the past weeks.. I shot in 3 days..

Nowadays.. I try to get by reading sex stories on this forum and pcc... and then go GL once a week...

Still looking for a cure...

Sianzzz ???

[hot_dick]

Good statement
Lust and cravings lead to sex addiction
It is a huge obstacles to overcome
Not even a holy monk :o
" Liu Gen Qing Jing "

I think those bros who have low or normal sex drive are really blessed... Just 1 fuck and they are happy for the whole week..

Some bros say when they are tired.. or stressed.. or pressured from work.. they don't feel like having sex.. or they can't perform well... But for me it is the opposite... those are the feelings that drive my sex performance.

When I sad, I need sex to destress..
When I happy, I need sex to celebrate..
When I tired, I need sex to rejuvenate..
When I bored, I need sex to find meaning to my existence..
How to win with such a sex wretched life.. ? :o

Sianz....

[Eastpipper]

It makes me wonder why one would wanna try to suppress his urge to have sex.....

I'm currently living with a really fit gal, she's a physical training instructor with loads of stamina and her body just oozes sex, she's got a passing similar look to Jessica Biel. Our daily routine is wake up, fuck, eat, fuck, go to work, come back, fuck, shower (if together, then fuck) go to bed, fuck, wake up....

This is simply heaven.... why would anyone wanna suppress the urge man? :confused:

I think its bcos not everyone is as lucky as u to have such a sex partner!!

[glfingers]

>>It makes me wonder why one would wanna try to suppress his urge to have sex.....

I'm currently living with a really fit gal, she's a physical training instructor with loads of stamina and her body just oozes sex, she's got a passing similar look to Jessica Biel. Our daily routine is wake up, fuck, eat, fuck, go to work, come back, fuck, shower (if together, then fuck) go to bed, fuck, wake up....

This is simply heaven.... why would anyone wanna suppress the urge man? <<

I'm very happy for you. Monogamy is healthy and good for the soul. Commercial sex addiction strips you off your humanity. I'm talking about sex with strangers.

Alcoholics don't drink because they are thirsty. In this case, you drink water, I drink industrial alcohol.

A good gauge of whether the sex is healthy or not is the disclosure factor. Would you tell a person whose oppinion you value about it? You will, I won't.

You are an athlete, I'm an addict.

[glfingers]

I would like to share some thoughts about sex addiction. Commercial sex is PLEASURABLE so it is addictive. BUT it does not bring HAPPINESS.
In life, we seek happiness. When Happiness is shattered, we realise it very quickly. Sex addiction makes one UNHAPPY even as it gives us temporary PLEASURE. Hence, we must differentiate carefully between PLEASURE & HAPPINESS.

HAPPINESS is the destination we want to head home to. PLEASURE is the distractions on our way home to happiness. If we keep stopping to indulge in PLEASURE, we will never get home.

Money can buy either HAPPINESS or PLEASURE. Spending on a loved one brings one happiness. Spending on a hooker brings us only very short-lived pleasure. Use the HAPPINESS VS PLEASURE test in all your daily purchases for truly good investments.

[akaza24]

I have tried to cut gradually from 6 a week to 2 or 3 a week but the main reason is i don't earn as much as I did before...

Whenever I was very motivated and able to cut off completely for a few weeks... the relapse effect was worst... I couldn't control myself n had consecutive sessions in consecutive days.. Basically what I saved in the past weeks.. I shot in 3 days..

Nowadays.. I try to get by reading sex stories on this forum and pcc... and then go GL once a week...

Still looking for a cure...

Sianzzz ???

Sometimes when u earn more, u tend to indulge in more activities. So basically is all up to self-control I should say. Some ppl tried and successful overcome but some failed. I used to have similar cases as u before, control for a few times but in the end also LL cheong until quite max too coz the addiction is too great. HC, TNs, FL, GLs, ktvs, every week at least go for one sia. Also, cheong kakis also play a part too. So try to find out the reasons what make u go back to cheong again n try to tackle it, at least now u r cutting down ur activities and that shows a good sign too.

*****I Am Retiring Soon*****

[andy25]

Hi, try this..

Method 1: go internet search for corpse photo, print out and keep in yr wallet.

When u have the urge to pcc or go gl, take out the pic. You will not feel so ON and small head will subside quickly!

Method 2: to tell yrself sex with WL is just a feeling. After u shoot yr cum, what's left? U still crave for sex with different strangers!


The root of suffering and sexual addiction is craving. Even when we look at porn, we sometimes scan for the picture that best turns u on, so we can surf the net for a few hrs trying to get the photo of the gal which really deserves our shooting of cum!! but the next day, the picture we pcc last night may not satisfy us as much as before(due to diminishing marginal utility). Hence we may have to repeat the entire process of finding new porn pics to pcc to)

when u analyze the situation, u realize WL fucking and sex is a feeling. And they cost u $$.

Method 3: If u really cannot tahan, either find yrself a sexual partner without paying, or PCC everyday.

If not keep your money with yr wife or parents, then u dun have $ to go pay WL, or keep yr computer in the living room where u cant access to porn websites! :D

[jon2000sg]

I think those bros who have low or normal sex drive are really blessed... Just 1 fuck and they are happy for the whole week..

Some bros say when they are tired.. or stressed.. or pressured from work.. they don't feel like having sex.. or they can't perform well... But for me it is the opposite... those are the feelings that drive my sex performance.

When I sad, I need sex to destress..
When I happy, I need sex to celebrate..
When I tired, I need sex to rejuvenate..
When I bored, I need sex to find meaning to my existence..
How to win with such a sex wretched life.. ? :o

Sianz....

such good quotes from bro HotDick,
I think we are all born to FUCK :D
FUCKing can help us change our situation and mood,
that's why GL is a goldmine.
all come here to FUCK FUCK FUCK !!!

wat else to do your dick STAND UP ?!
find a hole to shoot or PCC ...

[jon2000sg]

I would like to share some thoughts about sex addiction. Commercial sex is PLEASURABLE so it is addictive. BUT it does not bring HAPPINESS.
In life, we seek happiness. When Happiness is shattered, we realise it very quickly. Sex addiction makes one UNHAPPY even as it gives us temporary PLEASURE. Hence, we must differentiate carefully between PLEASURE & HAPPINESS.

HAPPINESS is the destination we want to head home to. PLEASURE is the distractions on our way home to happiness. If we keep stopping to indulge in PLEASURE, we will never get home.

Money can buy either HAPPINESS or PLEASURE. Spending on a loved one brings one happiness. Spending on a hooker brings us only very short-lived pleasure. Use the HAPPINESS VS PLEASURE test in all your daily purchases for truly good investments.
hi BRO,

thank you for sharing your thoughts,
at one time of my life, I always wanted women
but can't get any, so indulge in comm. sex.

after these few years of comm. sex,
I realised more or less I had it all.
D-cup BIG breast, slender hour-glass figure,
pretty sharp looks, super sucking blow-job,
romance with WL, love-hate relationship
I HAD IT ALL !!! :cool:

and it's time to look for companionship than fucking.

sex gives pleasure and joy to a long term relationship or companionship.
it's a part of life and it's not everything.

we still need to make a living and have a life!

[jon2000sg]

I think those bros who have low or normal sex drive are really blessed... Just 1 fuck and they are happy for the whole week..

Some bros say when they are tired.. or stressed.. or pressured from work.. they don't feel like having sex.. or they can't perform well... But for me it is the opposite... those are the feelings that drive my sex performance.

When I sad, I need sex to destress..
When I happy, I need sex to celebrate..
When I tired, I need sex to rejuvenate..
When I bored, I need sex to find meaning to my existence..
How to win with such a sex wretched life.. ? :o

Sianz....

hi Bro hot DICK,

if wat you mention is true,
i suggest you PCC and indulge in some other activites.
the best is of course some energy consuming sports.

talk to people, have a normal social activities.
I think lots of us cheongsters are loners and sometimes
not appreciated within our social circle or work life,
so end up we seek pleasure of joy in GL.

having comm. sex sure dry your wallet,
I can go w/o sex but ultimately PCC to release the urge.

think abt ur plans in life, all these WLs are here to earn our $$$,
if there's extra cash, go for it. if not, save up for any emergency.

sex if not all in life, I've done it and been thru it.
move on and carry on with your life.

good luck, bro!

[hot_dick]

sex if not all in life, I've done it and been thru it.
move on and carry on with your life.
Hi bro jon2000sg

Thanks for your advice.. It’s great u r able to control the desire..

It's hard to carry on with my life on other more important matters when my groin feels bloated, throbs, itch throughout the day.. when I reach home to bathe.. my underwear is sticky of pre-cum. It’s the same when I wake up in the morning..

It is also quite hard to understand that desire for sex is just a craving in our mind when I can physically feel my groin is seeking release.. just like i need to pee or shit.. and after doing so.. I feel good.. Anyway I shit 2 or 3 times a day.. which is about every 6 or 9 hours throughout the day... Is this excessive compared to other people ?

I think some bros like me are facing a biological issue than a psychological one..

Anyway I’m not young... nearing 50 in a few yrs...

I hope if there are some bros who understand biology or sexology from the professional view can enlighten us on this issue?

Thanks..

[hot_dick]

So try to find out the reasons what make u go back to cheong again n try to tackle it, at least now u r cutting down ur activities and that shows a good sign too.
hi bro akaza24

I'll try to think on the reasons..

Thanks for the tip..

[hot_dick]

Method 3: If u really cannot tahan, either find yrself a sexual partner without paying, or PCC everyday.
Hi andy 25

Thanks for your advice.. I'm working on finding a partner now.. I'll keep bros posted when I obtained a solution on this..

PCC now everyday..

[jon2000sg]

Hi bro jon2000sg

Thanks for your advice.. It’s great u r able to control the desire..

It's hard to carry on with my life on other more important matters when my groin feels bloated, throbs, itch throughout the day.. when I reach home to bathe.. my underwear is sticky of pre-cum. It’s the same when I wake up in the morning..

It is also quite hard to understand that desire for sex is just a craving in our mind when I can physically feel my groin is seeking release.. just like i need to pee or shit.. and after doing so.. I feel good.. Anyway I shit 2 or 3 times a day.. which is about every 6 or 9 hours throughout the day... Is this excessive compared to other people ?

I think some bros like me are facing a biological issue than a psychological one..

Anyway I’m not young... nearing 50 in a few yrs...

I hope if there are some bros who understand biology or sexology from the professional view can enlighten us on this issue?

Thanks..

hi HOTDICK,

better see a doctor if you need to shit 2 - 3 times a day.

i wish you best!