sex addiction tip

[glfingers]

Hi all,

some of you may recall my blog of attempts to cure my sex addiction. At first through dieting, medication than meditation. Then have it all failed!

That's why I'm very excited to share my latest breakthrough. It's been three and a half month since I shell out to buy sex. This method is truly amazing that even as my motor-neural programmed habits forces me to drive my car into the lorongs after work, I can still resist to approach the mei meis for sex.

Here's my new insight. Remember to meditate on it in your free moments. Keep these three words in your head as you observe life:

"IT WILL PASS"

Let me explain. No phenomenon, organism, object, thought or feeling last forever. IT WILL PASS.

When you have the sexual urge to visit a prostitute, don't try to suppress the thought. It won't work for long. Instead analyse it. Recognise that the urge will pass, often quicker than you think.

When you know that the urge will pass, it doesn't do much good to satisfy it. Let it pass, and save yourself the guilt, expense, and health risk.

Try it. If it works, share you experience here.

[lovithairless]

Keep it up bro. Will try to see if it works. Cheers.

[brucelee]

bro i've read yr thread at sex addicts.... you stopped posting there a year ago. tot u given up. good to hear you've found a way. How did you find it?
I'm happy for u. KEEP IT UP!

[glfingers]

I found it here:
http://buddhism.about.com/library/blbudcourses.htm
Interesting stuff that really works.

[leeky123]

Originally Posted by glfingers

I found it here:
http://buddhism.about.com/library/blbudcourses.htm
Interesting stuff that really works.

Bro glfingers,

thanks . i truely agree with u.

i am now fighting the evil inside me. i wont succumb to it anymore!

[lesnar]

Got one Bro once taught me. Place $50 on your head and PCC... Well, never really tried it. But just PCC.....kekeke...

[glfingers]

Good to know there are fellow sufferers who are making an effort to quit.
I think it is counter-productive to talk about "evilness" and fighting "evil" in sex addiction. Whatever the cause, sex addiction doesn't feel good. If you don't feel right at the back of your head after a sex romp, maybe your on your way to addiction. Again, there are different severities to addiction and when you truly suffer, it could be very difficult to cure it.
Recognising that the addiction is a form suffering is the first step. The suffering is caused by dellusion: a desire to fuck somebody you don't love.
It's like buying something you don't need. Keeping junk you don't even like anymore. In sex addiction, sex is the junk that we collect.

Throw away old junk in your cupbaord. You will find that you won't miss it. Wait for the desire to fuck to pass, you will find that you don't need junk sex either.

Sex addiction has everything to do with attachment; not so much evil spirits, personal tragedies etc. Be not attached to junk. Stop collecting junk experiences. When you recognise junk , there's little allure in jerking off, porn or prostitutes.

[glfingers]

To bro leeky,

I totally empathise with you as I come from a similar background. When I got my first paycheck in the army, I felt a sense of entitlement. I've had so little and I've worked so hard. I DESERVE SOME PUSSY!

That got me hooked on sex for the past 12 years. Why? There's too much "I" in our thinking. It's very difficult to explain, but actually "I" don't even exists. Everytime you change your attitude, gain new knowledge, change preferences, "I" changes. "I" is not constant. Don't believe? Look at your childhood photo. How can that be "I"?

If "I" dies every few minutes or days, what's the point of gratifying "I". "I" will die many times before "I" is buried.

Bottom line is you've already made do with so little all your life. You've even been happy. In fact, you're more easily satisfied with less than most people.

Look at what you have, you have everything. Look what you don't have and you have nothing.



On a more practical note, if "I" is still too greedy for sex. Start a safe-as-you -earn POSB account and bleed yourself dry every month. No money, no HC.

[glfingers]

Had a relapse few weeks after receiving SMS from OKT. Went for a quickie with an Ang Moh because the hotel was very near my lunch place. Just want brothers to know about choosing the right battlefield. The battle with addiction is lost when you decide to succumb. The place where you decide to give in to your urge can be in your car, near hotels, in the lorongs, in front of your computer screen etc. Try not to fight too near the scene of the crime. Fighting your urge near a hotel is tougher than fighting your urge at home. Try to decide on your course of action where your willpower is not tested too strongly. For example, don't think about going sight-seeing at Geylang and try to fight the urge there. Fight the urge before deciding to go to Geylang. Once you are in Geylang, it's a lot tougher to think straight.
Be mindful always about temptation.

Originally Posted by glfingers

Hi all,
"IT WILL PASS"
Try it. If it works, share you experience here.

Thks bro for the tips, will tryit out

[hot_dick]

Originally Posted by glfingers

Had a relapse few weeks after receiving SMS from OKT. Went for a quickie with an Ang Moh...

hi bro glfingers..

how r u handling your sex desires now.. ? i just found this thread and will try out yr phrase IT WILL PASS.. i have been trying to bring my spending in GL under control for more than 10 years but the longest period i have kept away was 3 weeks..

pls let us know if u hv new methods.. thanks..

[t123]

Its been 2 months since I ever went GL and recently only one encounter with a nymp. I tried to test water on myself but I wlak to and fro from Lor 18 to Lor 6 and back, saw all the FLs and WLs, no feeling leh. Even one PRC approached me at Darlene, I told her I just finished one session which in fact I didn't. Guess this has got to do with the boycott I got from one of the WH at Lor 18. Anyway, its good for my health and wallet.

[akaza24]

Originally Posted by t123

Its been 2 months since I ever went GL and recently only one encounter with a nymp. I tried to test water on myself but I wlak to and fro from Lor 18 to Lor 6 and back, saw all the FLs and WLs, no feeling leh. Even one PRC approached me at Darlene, I told her I just finished one session which in fact I didn't. Guess this has got to do with the boycott I got from one of the WH at Lor 18. Anyway, its good for my health and wallet.

Some ppl told me its best to avoid these "tempting" places if u really trying to minimise ur addiction. Gd work brot123 tat u personally put urself to the test and still able to resist it. Cheers!


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[morrissey1209]

I am fighting sex addiction as well and have found that there is no surefire way of fighting it...if bros have diffciulty overcoming it,one good way may be is to reduce gradually rather than immediately cut off...of which when you relapse,there will be a terrible feeling of guilt.I bonk twice a week but is right now trying to restrain myself...last bonk was on National Day itself...not that long ago...but these things take time...and I deal with each moment of urge as it comes...nearly relapse today...went to GL...but heng ah...not a lot of FLs around...altho there were some pretty ones and I was very tempted...but decided to hail a ca quickly and get away...

What I try to do now is remind myself that "This type of life is over for me" and I should not turn back...whenever I'm tempted to...I will tell myself I have just been beaten.I was beaten this evening but somehow,someone up there must like me enough to pull me back from the brink...

And yes,I agree...the best method to fight temptation is NOT to go GL...and if u succumb to the temptation...b4 u manage to actually do anything,get awa y from there ASAP...dont have the mentality that "hey,since I am here,might as well look around..."because we rarely just look around and do nothing...so even if it wastes money to quickly hail a cab to go home...do it.There is long-term good in this.The correct thing is never the easiest thing to do.

[bongster]

You can try this method, PCC everyday 2-3 times and shoot out till you are BONE DRY... Trust mi everytime u feel horny just PCC... at the end of the day u will not be so addicted anymore.