what if u caught your wife

[bonkers69]

we have seen lots of thread like relation with colleague's wife , neighbour's wife , good friend's wife ,etc .
What if u caught your wife having affair . How you gonna handle ?

I caught my wife and she admitted . She still deny no sex between them but is no longer imporant as it will end up on bed sooner or later.

I beat her up the moment she admitted , ending up warded to TTSH.
what should i do now?? i' confuse as i love my kids and i don't want them to leave without parents apart!

Now to the guy part.....knn !!! dun know whether you will be reading this thread or not . He admitted to me on the phone and i'm yet to meet u with him next few days.

How you gonna handle him ? beat him up ? seek compensate ? He will responsible for everything . That for sure as i know her wife number ? office nmber ? He has good carrer which i don't think he wants me to make trouble at his office.
I will not beat him up to punish him unless i cut off his little bro......cb!! exterer pain will recover after some time.

so bros here , how to handle this guy if you are in my position. I know lots bros here screw up ppl's wife but too bad , he was caught !......you can fuck anyone's wife but don't get caught.

[lacoruna69]

Can someone please call the Police..........and IMH also.

[Bigone65]

In your case, there is pretty nothing much you can do except seek for compensation. You can also bring it to his family's attention but as for their reaction, well it will depend on how close are their ties. Beating him up is definately not a solution as this can put you in a very disadvantage position. Dun let your heart rule your brain. Think it over very carefully before you act. Just my 2 cts.

[ahben]

Firstly now u have beaten up your wife and ended up in TTSH, do you think you want to beat the man up to be stacked with another police charged? Before you beat the man up, please re-consider for your children, things could be turned around.

imo I think just go and tell his wife about it.

[benben888]

Agreed with bro Bigone65, but as a guy or as a husband it really hurt very much as such thing have happened. I will definately wack up that guy if met him in person even though I know I should not be doing it. My advise is to bring a friend along who is calm and able to control such situation if really happen. Please take care.

[newbadass]

No more violence, please. Beating up your wife was already a bad move and reflects badly on you. Of course, this is no excuse for a wife to cheat.

You can fuck up his career and reputation, that's worse than beating him up. You beat him up, he gets public sympathy. A punch in the face is reasonable, but please don't injure him seriously.

[MikeInTheHole]

Lets' be reasonable. You cannot control your wife, why beat up the opposite party. After all, the wife is yours. You did not fark and satisfy her on bed as well as her emotion, and you wanna blame the opposite party. Come, come. . . if you did your husband duties well, your wife will not resort to seek others attention. Look what happened, you even beat up your wife so badly that she is awarded in Hospital. Guess, you don't deserve to be married. What you need is to set her free and be single again. Being a husband is a responable duty for life.:)

[cunt_eater]

Lets' be reasonable. You cannot control your wife, why beat up the opposite party. After all, the wife is yours. You did not fark and satisfy her on bed as well as her emotion, and you wanna blame the opposite party. Come, come. . . if you did your husband duties well, your wife will not resort to seek others attention. Look what happened, you even beat up your wife so badly that she is awarded in Hospital. Guess, you don't deserve to be married. What you need is to set her free and be single again. Being a husband is a responable duty for life.:)

Doesn't mean can control the wife things will not happen. Communication or understanding of each other is also important issues here. Sometimes it take 2 hands to clap and both parties need to really sit down and trash out the whole thing as this involve the kids as well. Go meet up the guy and see what he have to say but need to control your yourself.

[john99]

Better to use tr brains than yr brawn. For the guy just make sure his career is over in Singapore. Calmly let his bosses and HIS wife know this guy cannot be trusted with any female.

As for yr wife, you hold an ace over her; make sure the children are taken care off. You can then think of an exit plan.

[scoobyhoo]

if your wife's heart is no more with you, just leave her. do get yourself out of this, and do not hurt yourself again and again. there're many nice ladies, your wife is not the only one. you have your life, your career/job, and you must go on.

[maxsee]

Dun understand why u would beat up ur wife just becoz she sleep with someone else.....wtf....u are no diff than a beast urself...ur wife is not ur property....if she choose to leave u or commit adultery...so be it...take it like a man and move on with ur life...no need to resort to violence....wtf.....u should be locked up!!!

[pokeman71]

Old people say, cut ppl hair will also kanna cut by other.

Think problem usually lie with the man. The man seduction to a lonely wife because the man got no more feeling for his wife.

Chain reaction.

Important, if your wife still got feel for you and kids, than close one eye. Make sure no more next time loh. Also you got a reason to fuck around next time loh.

Bro, remember one thing, if you with violence, you end up in jail and they end up in bed ok.

[tanmikel]

[QUOTE=bonkers69;2940990]
Now to the guy part.....knn !!! dun know whether you will be reading this thread or not . He admitted to me on the phone and i'm yet to meet u with him next few days.

How you gonna handle him ? beat him up ? seek compensate ? He will responsible for everything . That for sure as i know her wife number ? office nmber ? He has good carrer which i don't think he wants me to make trouble at his office.
I will not beat him up to punish him unless i cut off his little bro......cb!! exterer pain will recover after some time.
[QUOTE]

meet him , get an MP3 player that can record and put it in your pocket , record his admission , after that the world is yours to decide and play with . no need for physical violence , you can have revenge in other ways . with the recording , make him pay $$ . after collecting his money , show his wife and family the recording and destroy his life , just like he did to you .

[BANANASKIN]

BROZ, I think u better dun waste ur time go meet tat bugger lah.
Wat is done is alreadi done. The fact is ur wife had alreadi make u a green hat.
In marriage, the first thing is about trust. WILL U TRUST UR WIFE AGAIN?
Ur wife is the honey, those men outside is the bees.
Of course ur wife should be one controlling herself. CAUSE there r countless bees outside.
SO my advice to u is, THINK over ur marriage.
U may beat her once, the next time u may also kill her.
Good luck.

[Frankiestine]

Bro sorry to hear about that but never raise hand against wife becos end of the day you still end up loser which ever way whether you want to carry on or divorce....once she make report it goes against you...if she cuckold you then drag her name thru mud..

For the guy, I say no need to get mad just get even...he nearly destroyed your life and marriage...now you get even and screw him back by destroying his marriage and career...squeal on him to his wife and make a scene at his office..

[mit1686]

Bro ts,i can empathy with ur dilemma....Sometime when we think too much for the children, we might not make the right choice so i think the question right now is Are u still love ur wife and willing to give her another chance?

[bangbangben]

Bonker69,

Many way to look at the situation that you are currently facing.
If you gonna look at things fairly as thou you are sitting on the fence then ask youself if you've fucked around before? If you did, don't you think you also deserved to be lying at TTSH as well? The main reason for a woman to have an affair is mainly due to insufficient attention, be it sexual, communication or just acknowledgement of her duties. It might be her fault that she went astray, but could you have been the reason for that?

Now we take it that you have been the most ideal husband on earth and you have never screwed or flirt with another woman after marriage. Do you think that giving a good wacking to the other party is worth it?

Two path if I were you thou.
1) Pure bastard and revengeful type. If you no longer want your wife, fuck care your family and kids just because of your wife fucking around. Then go ahead and exploit the guy, make things ugly at his work place. Not doing it violently, but seek his company email domain and spam all the company's employee with mail that he broken up your family and left your childrens stranded. He slept with your wife and blah blah blah. Drop leaflets into his neighbours letter box as well. Make him look ugly!
Tell his wife about it and stay close contact with her. Till his office event cools down, u step in and sleep with his wife instead. (I doubt he loves his wife as he is sleeping with yours) Make sure he finds out that you are sleeping with his wife, leave your underwear under his pillow! When he confronts you, tell the same story and shit he told you before when you meet up with him.
If you are certain that you did nothing wrong as a husband, go seek a lawyer and sue both for adultery. Seek compensation and child care aid.
End.

2) Swallow your pride situation. I hope your kids and family does not know about it thou. You could talk to your wife first and understand the cause and reason for this. If it is a pure moment of lust, I believe it might be forgiven. Since your priority is your family and saving the marriage. If she no longer loves you and decided to part. Then either you let it go gracefully or resort to part 1. I think the talk to your wife is more important than to the guy. The guy is just a distraction at this moment.

I know at this moment of your life is going thru rough waters, just make sure you don't make the wrong move. If you wanna wack the bastard, don't do it yourself. Make sure you don't threaten him as he might sue you back instead, Since you mention he has a good career which I think he might be rich and powerful.
It would be good for you to meet the guy and get it clean thou but remember to keep your cool. Don't even let your opponent get the pitiful vote! My PM is wide open shall you need help.
Cheers

[edisonsg]

It is real life stories such as yours, discourage singapore men from marrying.Violence, adultery, money, housing issues.. etc will never make a family work.Statistics of divorces are up 70% high in sg.There are many cases where children are affected.Some couple choose to separate or wait till the children grows up then divorce or even don't give a damn.You play yours ,I play mine.Perpaps, the wrong mistake will be marrying in the 1st place.

As whether you want to punch that person, makes no difference to your 'face problem'.After pucnching you will still remember the issue.Bet he don't dare to sue you also.

I have many enemies, but punching them dirties my hands.

[_AXL_]

I beat her up the moment she admitted , ending up warded to TTSH.

aiyoh!!! u have made a big, big mistake!!! but did yr wife report to the police??? anyway, doesnt matter liao, cos with the medical report, she can report anytime when she feels like it.

from yr words, it appears that this happened very recently. now, the question is simply "whether u still want to save the marriage?" regardless what yr reasonings may be now, they r all just thoughts of anger. so, u have to first sit down, calm yourself and think what u want. then sit down (again calmly) and have a talk with yr wife to find out what she wants. only then do u decide what u want to do.

IMHO, no point talking to the guy now or ever. see him will only add fire and whatever crap reasons he may give, they r all still crap. but of course, as a guy, he must take responsibility for what he has done. I find that,

1. the guy's wife/gf/bf/gay partner should know about it.
2. hell, while u r at it, his family should know about it as well, not to mention his boss, colleagues, his company's major business partners. nothing wrong with that what...
3. maybe even his children's school teachers and parents also have the right to know.
4. maybe even samsters should know.:p

but whatever u do, dont beat up that guy!!!if u really have to, u must also use the loopholes in the law to do so!!!;) but the hard facts r that,

a. u have beaten yr wife up, she could have u up and u could go to jail for that.
b. if u go through a divorce, u would lose yr children, most of yr assets and might even end up having to pay more alimony than required. yes, u would probably end up feeding the adulterous couple. sucks, right???:mad:

i know how u feel cos i have been through that a couple of years back, except that i havent married the girl. fortunately, i knew the guy and didnt even want to talk to him, even when his company ordered him to come apologise to me. i made him lose his job, lose his reputation and discreetly informed some of my banking kakis to start recovery procedures on his credit cards. the last i heard, his wife, who knew he had an affair with my ex-gf, bailed him out of bankruptcy by going to her family to borrow money. classic!!! he will never be able to stand up to his wife or her family and feel like a man, ever again.:D

take care, ya? dont be rash and think everything through now before u do anything. if u need, u can pm me but just dont mind me for being kaypoh. cheers.

[Fowler09]

my heart goes out to u bro Ts.to those ppl tat say its becos Ts didnt satisfy his wife, well wats the situation n hw gd the relationship between them we dont know. somtimes its the husband problem.maybe husband sex drive nt as high as wife. o wife go out n fool ard.the vice versa is very true when u c samsters finding fuck buddy or prostitu when can satisfy the needs. another reason is the thrill of eating out. the fear of getting caught. well there r acuatully lots of reasons. like u guys have read benxmada's thread about tat bastard IVS. i can only say to bro Ts things will nev be the same agian sad to say. bt do nt let off ur frustration on ur kids. they r innocent. tiem will heal everyting maybe.

[mvkhem]

HA.... remember what goes around comes around.. you may be fucking some ones wife sister and mother also... How do u think he feels about it... welll taste yur own medicine....too bad...

[infinitiumus]

To be very clear. There is nothing much you can do with that man. I bet it is time for self-reflection. don't blame other people first. Ask yourself what have you done? Did you also fuck around?

You cannot ask for compensation unless he himself volunteer to pay you. You can't sue him. In SG it is not an offence to screw someone's wife. Yes, you can go to his office and mess up.. but at the end of the day it reflects badly on you. How is that going to affect him is hard to say.

Or you can tell his wife and try to destroy his family but how does that make you happy?

As for your wife - yes, she was wrong but you shouldn't have touch her. You know she can report police and have a PPO against you?

All I can say is to calm down. Reflect on what you have done. Don't be too fast to blame other people. Look at yourself first.

[HayHot]

Heard of the phase "What's good for the goose is good for the gander."

It's just karma, what's goes ard, comes ard.

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/health-centre-ktv-lounge-tangos/85565-happy-de-spa-balestier.html#post2785549

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/welcome-fl-dome-free-stds-included/77534-new-milf-60-2-2-a-8.html#post2588131

Appearently you f**k ard, so why get so agitated when your wife follow what you do ??

[MistressVamp]

how about a change of topic? "what if your wife caught u? "

this round u only got a bit luckier dat is u catching ur wife n not kena caught by her.
u can do all kinda dirty things to revenge but beating ppl, regardless ur wife , kid or stranger, is already wrong, not to mention kena warded!!

let hope ur wife still love u and wont report u to police!

[The Big Gee]

no matter what... beating up ur wife is WRONG !

[Vectra]

To the bro who posted this. Have a friend in your situation a year or two ago. He seeked the lawyer for advise. In the end after that, the lawyer said what you cannot really do "anything". "Anything" mean against the law.

Like one samster said, spam his company email or house letterbox, he can sue you. What my friend did was to gather evidence from PI, use the evidence to fight for no maintence.:cool:

Just a thought, marriage these days is not like the olden days where till death do we parted.:rolleyes:

[Optimus_Prime]

I beat her up the moment she admitted , ending up warded to TTSH.
what should i do now?? i' confuse as i love my kids and i don't want them to leave without parents apart!

What you should do is stay the hell away from your wife and your kids. Violence never solves anything. :mad:

[Prince7]

my heart goes out to u bro Ts.to those ppl tat say its becos Ts didnt satisfy his wife, well wats the situation n hw gd the relationship between them we dont know. somtimes its the husband problem.maybe husband sex drive nt as high as wife. o wife go out n fool ard.the vice versa is very true when u c samsters finding fuck buddy or prostitu when can satisfy the needs. another reason is the thrill of eating out. the fear of getting caught. well there r acuatully lots of reasons. like u guys have read benxmada's thread about tat bastard IVS. i can only say to bro Ts things will nev be the same agian sad to say. bt do nt let off ur frustration on ur kids. they r innocent. tiem will heal everyting maybe.

well said bro :D

[infinitiumus]

Like one samster said, spam his company email or house letterbox, he can sue you. What my friend did was to gather evidence from PI, use the evidence to fight for no maintence.:cool:

:

Perhaps you don't understand SG divorce law. Adultery has no bearing on the alimony.

[ee_jack]

I dont approve on laying hands on ladies. Although what she did was not right, but that does not mean you have the right to hit her.

What you are facing is the same what I experienced before. My wife had an affair, not once but thrice. Worst of all that her first affair is a friend of mine. When I found out about her whole affairs, I was really burning up. I stopped flinging around after our marriage. She always talked about how bad it is to be unfaithful to the spouse but she was doing the opposite.

After she admitted to her affairs, we nearly divorced. But I never laid any hands on her. Yes, I really shouted at her but I also know that I still love her. She apologised and I forgave her.

Forgive her mistakes, if you can. Although you cant forget, keep forgiving. Definitely she will turn better.....

[Vectra]

Perhaps you don't understand SG divorce law. Adultery has no bearing on the alimony.


The fact is that you have to prove with real evidence aka making out which is hard to get. My friend did bring the case to court but that guy and his ex-wife also get lawyers to prove no adultery.

[mini_morris]

Very sorry to heat abt that bro ,
thing already happen for what you did to her, you may lost the marry and your kits.
The only thing you can do now, just get a lawer and his the want can help you.
just my 0.02

[infinitiumus]

The fact is that you have to prove with real evidence aka making out which is hard to get. My friend did bring the case to court but that guy and his ex-wife also get lawyers to prove no adultery.

Bring out evidence of adultery will ONLY speed up divorce process - don't have to wait 3 years. But it does not mean that with adultery (say wife has adultery) guy don't have to pay maintenance.. maintenance is dependent on income and life-style and has nothing to do who was wrong in the marriage (who committed adultery)

[Vectra]

Bring out evidence of adultery will ONLY speed up divorce process - don't have to wait 3 years. But it does not mean that with adultery (say wife has adultery) guy don't have to pay maintenance.. maintenance is dependent on income and life-style and has nothing to do who was wrong in the marriage (who committed adultery)

Dun even need evidence if both agree to. The lawyer send his wife and that guy a letter for divorce with terms spelled out. It was on adultery(though not enough evidence, let te judge decide), or agree to my friend term on no maintenance.

That "guy" managed to brainwash friend's ex-wifey to go for no maintenance. he paid the PI fee incurred by my friend. Fyi, this guy is working in a GLC property company.

[Vectra]

I dont approve on laying hands on ladies. Although what she did was not right, but that does not mean you have the right to hit her.

Forgive her mistakes, if you can. Although you cant forget, keep forgiving. Definitely she will turn better.....

It's right not to lay violence hands as it will complicated matters. The other party might twisted the fact that you are violent and suspicious in nature. So make you disadvantage.

[infinitiumus]

Dun even need evidence if both agree to. The lawyer send his wife and that guy a letter for divorce with terms spelled out. It was on adultery(though not enough evidence, let te judge decide), or agree to my friend term on no maintenance.

That "guy" managed to brainwash friend's ex-wifey to go for no maintenance. he paid the PI fee incurred by my friend. Fyi, this guy is working in a GLC property company.

Just that the wife is stupid or rich (she no need maintenance) or her lawyer damn lousy. I guess they also want the divorce to speed up that is why agree to it.

[Vectra]

maintenance is dependent on income and life-style and has nothing to do who was wrong in the marriage (who committed adultery)

You are right on this as divorce is a complicated matters. For my friend, he did considered the fact that his wife has some medical background and also that "guy" had other flings outside, he decided to forego the marriage and try to fight for his terms(no maintenance).

[Fowler09]

Heard of the phase "What's good for the goose is good for the gander."

It's just karma, what's goes ard, comes ard.

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/health-centre-ktv-lounge-tangos/85565-happy-de-spa-balestier.html#post2785549

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/welcome-fl-dome-free-stds-included/77534-new-milf-60-2-2-a-8.html#post2588131

Appearently you f**k ard, so why get so agitated when your wife follow what you do ??

hy bro somtimes things nv happen to u u will nt feel the impact
nt ta i tink Ts is rite bt yes he do fuck ard bt he didnt boke anyones marriage
bt rite wat his wife has put the marriage and the kids at stake
i guess if it would hav happen to u u wont be saying the way u would hav said
I guess the Ts ic confused therefore he has posted a thread hope to get advice from all samster.
man n women can nv be equal
tis world will nv be fair.
If there is rich ppl ard, there must be poor ppl ard too
tats jus the way it is even if u feel fuck if u belong to the latter group
when the husband fuck around, he fucks n forget(in this case prostitute)
but in this case the TS's wife say she is having an affair n yet didnt have sex.wouldnt tat be ridiculous
u admit to having an affair bt din nt hav sex so wat do u expect tis relationship to lead to.
well tats jus my opinion

[JGoo]

Lets' be reasonable. You cannot control your wife, why beat up the opposite party. After all, the wife is yours. You did not fark and satisfy her on bed as well as her emotion, and you wanna blame the opposite party. Come, come. . . if you did your husband duties well, your wife will not resort to seek others attention. Look what happened, you even beat up your wife so badly that she is awarded in Hospital. Guess, you don't deserve to be married. What you need is to set her free and be single again. Being a husband is a responable duty for life.:)

Well said...
Husbands fuck around outside, wives have to close thsir eyes, swallow and treat it as nothing happened.
As for wives who fuck around outside, husbands cannot forget..

A woman came out from a man's rib, not from his feet to be walk upon. Not from his head to be superior over. But from his side to be equal. under his arm to be protected and next to his heart to be loved.

Guys here always say their partners can fulfill them, so let other girls do the job. So if you can't fulfill your duties, let others do it;)

[JGoo]

Lets' be reasonable. You cannot control your wife, why beat up the opposite party. After all, the wife is yours. You did not fark and satisfy her on bed as well as her emotion, and you wanna blame the opposite party. Come, come. . . if you did your husband duties well, your wife will not resort to seek others attention. Look what happened, you even beat up your wife so badly that she is awarded in Hospital. Guess, you don't deserve to be married. What you need is to set her free and be single again. Being a husband is a responable duty for life.:)

Well said...

Husbands fuck around outside, wives have to close their eyes, swallow, treat it as nothing happened and accept the truth. Or get a few good girlfriends and bashed up the mistress. LOLz

For wives who fuck around outside, husbands tittled them as sluts, betrayers, bitches.. and cannot be forgiven..

what happens your ways happened the others way...

A woman came out from a man's rib. Not the feet to be walk upon. Not the head to be superior over. But, from his side to be equal. Under his arm to be protected. Next to his heart to be loved.

The way to stop wives from having an affairs is 'hey guys, stop fucking coleague's wife, neighbour's wife, friend's wife....:D

[HayHot]

hy bro somtimes things nv happen to u u will nt feel the impact
nt ta i tink Ts is rite bt yes he do fuck ard bt he didnt boke anyones marriage
bt rite wat his wife has put the marriage and the kids at stake

Correct me if i am wrong.what did the wife that he didn't do that put the mariage and kids at stake ??? His wife didn't ask for divorce right ? He found out abt it and confronted her, same as what she would had done if she found out and confronted him.. Or maybe, she DID found out, instead of confronting him, she confided in that guy, that's why.

Anyway, violence never solve any prob, so he shouldn't, on any accord, struck his wife.

[carol888]

Life is short and kids are more impt,suggest you forgive ur wife and give a chance to redeem herself

[infinitiumus]

the worst punishment is to wound her at her most weakest point...the children.
Take away the children by law by order or by any means...dun ever let her see them again. This is the most cruel punishment to a mother but also the most cruel punishment for your kids...but in time i believe the kids will understand TS.
.

Firstly, under the law you can't simply take away the children. Mostly, even if the wife committed adultery, there is a very good chance that she will win the custody battle in a divorce, especially if the children are young. Courts will not take into account infidelity when awarding custody.

Secondly, even if TS wins the custody battle he also CANNOT prevent wife from seeing the children unless the wife abuse the kids or hurt the kids.

thirdly, depriving the children of their mother is cruel to the children. Yes, they may understand the reason when they are bigger but they will lose the love of a mother forever - something you cannot replace.

By all means divorce if TS so desire but the children are innocent and they will still need father and mother (although divorced)

[Cobra-King]

Firstly, under the law you can't simply take away the children. Mostly, even if the wife committed adultery, there is a very good chance that she will win the custody battle in a divorce, especially if the children are young. Courts will not take into account infidelity when awarding custody.

Secondly, even if TS wins the custody battle he also CANNOT prevent wife from seeing the children unless the wife abuse the kids or hurt the kids.

thirdly, depriving the children of their mother is cruel to the children. Yes, they may understand the reason when they are bigger but they will lose the love of a mother forever - something you cannot replace.

By all means divorce if TS so desire but the children are innocent and they will still need father and mother (although divorced)


What if the wife do not work, does she have the right to the custody of the kids? The husband still have to pay maintenance to the wife and the kids after divorce?

[infinitiumus]

What if the wife do not work, does she have the right to the custody of the kids? The husband still have to pay maintenance to the wife and the kids after divorce?

Mother always have a right to the custody unless she:

a) on drugs
b) irresponsible
c) abuse the kids

If she is not working, then HB may have to pay both wife & child maintenance. Of course most woman when in divorce situation will try to be self-sufficient and be independent in improve their chance of custody (just in case)

Nowadays, court will mostly award joint custody with care and control under one parent unless there are exceptional circumstances.

[JGoo]

testing....i am trying to post reply but i dun see my post...

[HumpBackOak]

we have seen lots of thread like relation with colleague's wife , neighbour's wife , good friend's wife ,etc .
What if u caught your wife having affair . How you gonna handle ?

I caught my wife and she admitted . She still deny no sex between them but is no longer imporant as it will end up on bed sooner or later.

I beat her up the moment she admitted , ending up warded to TTSH.
what should i do now?? i' confuse as i love my kids and i don't want them to leave without parents apart!

Now to the guy part.....knn !!! dun know whether you will be reading this thread or not . He admitted to me on the phone and i'm yet to meet u with him next few days.

How you gonna handle him ? beat him up ? seek compensate ? He will responsible for everything . That for sure as i know her wife number ? office nmber ? He has good carrer which i don't think he wants me to make trouble at his office.
I will not beat him up to punish him unless i cut off his little bro......cb!! exterer pain will recover after some time.

so bros here , how to handle this guy if you are in my position. I know lots bros here screw up ppl's wife but too bad , he was caught !......you can fuck anyone's wife but don't get caught.

I'm sorry to hear about this.

About getting violent with your wife, what happened has happened.
I hope you do not get into legal problems because of this.

Beating up the other guy will not solve anything. Check out the other guy, find out his background.

Make life for him as much of a hell as it has become for you when you realized your wife has betrayed you.

We all know violence doesnt solve anything, though it sure as hell makes you feel better.
But I don't want you to get arrested for assault or in the heat of your anger do something you regret.

As some of the brothers suggested, find out if the guy has a family. Go to his work place and kick up a fuss. Make him regret ever fooling around with another man's wife.

Don't get mad, get even.

[Fowler09]

Correct me if i am wrong.what did the wife that he didn't do that put the mariage and kids at stake ??? His wife didn't ask for divorce right ? He found out abt it and confronted her, same as what she would had done if she found out and confronted him.. Or maybe, she DID found out, instead of confronting him, she confided in that guy, that's why.

Anyway, violence never solve any prob, so he shouldn't, on any accord, struck his wife.

Hehe bro hw did u noe r u tat guy? haha just kidding
anyway i believe when such tings happen both patyies r definetly at fault
it just depend which party commited a bigger fault.
in tis case
ya therotically TS is wrong by fucking prostitues which i believe more than 80% of samsters do(proven by the most no of thread at the Fl dome) well tis is my assumption haha prove tat i am wrong
bt why did he do it. is it out of thrill or wife didnt give him enought. well we dun no
so if his wife found out about it, instead of choosing to confront the husband why did he do such things behind her, she choose to tell another friend which is a male. well... in this case it is her fault for nt trying to stop wat TS is doing. she did nt try to savalged the situation. so she commited a bigger fault in this case.
N then she start to hav affair with another male friend.well, it is her fault
when TS found out about it she beat his wife up , so that is 100% his fault.


At the end of the day, it take 2 hands to clap. wat i mean here is not both TS's wife n the male willingly hav an affair bt it takes the hand of TS and his wife tat cause the marriage to break down.so both r defintelty at fault for the various things they hav done

i noe everyone in tis forum is entitled to hav their sayn on tis issue. bt on my pt of view wat has happen have already happen. so i hope ppl will offer kind words and advice to TS and nt take a dig at him. well as bro HayHot mentioned, wat goes round come ard. if we take a dig at him for wat have happen, maybe someday it will happen to us too. well of cos we dont wished for tat kind of karma to happen to us.

well he may be the bastard and the wife was rite. bt really hope tat the kids r nt hurt becos of the incident

sorry for being so lo soh:D

[yllauxes]

Bro TS, after this thing had happen, 1st thing is u need to ask yr heart, wat do u really want out of yr relationship with yr wife.. As for the guy, again ask yrself wat u wanna do about it. Via legal means, or illegal. Or u can also be a bast**d, ask him for compensation, get the money for yr kids, then made this affair known to his office and wife via third party means... An eye for an eye.. Every bro here can advise u, but most impt is, u the one who makes the decision..

[BANANASKIN]

u all very funny lei. Die die must eye for a eye meh?
haha.
Sound kind of shallow.
First thing in mind SHOULD be ur wife.
Those married women players usualli will tell u all kinds of crap, say they dun love their husband anymore...etc
In fact, they lead u on too.
If ur wife realli love u, will she go fool ard? Will she go spread her legs to others?
U go shame ppl, wat's the end result? PPl knoe u r the green hat fellow...
Its like pouring more oil to the fire.
Always rem, there r tons of bees outside. U can kill 1, u can't kill all.
Go seriousli think again. U should reconsider this marriage.

:cool:

[WhenSPH]

Think about it this way, it is always hard infidelity. If you don't mind losing face, you could engage a lawyer and sue your wife and that man for adultery. This way, your kids custody are >60% going to be yours, as for beating the guy up and all that, your lawyer should be able to handle that portion for you. Remember, lawyers are good at words. And if you do move on from this phase, your focus should be on your kids. Let that woman go from your life.

[yang punk]

TS goes around fucking prostitutes and write frs on them...what makes that a lesser evil? Should he also expects his wife to go around to pay guys to fuck her? Would he accept that as fair play?

TS can sow wild oats and neglect his wife but can't accept his wife seeking solace for her lover (at least there are feeling involved)...beats her up and then come here to kowpeh kowbu expecting sympathy from people here.

He is just an ah beng loser and cry baby...my advice...learn your lesson and move on!

[HumpBackOak]

TS goes around fucking prostitutes and write frs on them...what makes that a lesser evil? Should he also expects his wife to go around to pay guys to fuck her? Would he accept that as fair play?

TS can sow wild oats and neglect his wife but can't accept his wife seeking solace for her lover (at least there are feeling involved)...beats her up and then come here to kowpeh kowbu expecting sympathy from people here.

He is just an ah beng loser and cry baby...my advice...learn your lesson and move on!

i did a search and you're right.

i guess it's the typical guy thing, he can fuck around outside but his wife cant do the same thing.

[dann0620]

TS before what you do, think of the little one they suffer the most. Many of us can understand/feel/knoe your pain and hurts, y because I believe many of us got that shits before and I one of them. For now, stay cool as u can and avoid violent by all mean. Touch your heart and ask urself, can you forgive? be it for her mistake or for the sake of the child, is not easy but then you still need to ask yourself.

[SirBoinkalot]

first of all it dun see anything wrong with fucking prostitutes come on guys we pay for sex and not fuck around with other female counterpart and for ts wife my heart really go out to u . as a wife i think it is so wrong to engaged in a affair with another man and betray the marriage vow to love one and only and when we guys pay for sex WE DUN PUT IN LOVE to it, it is just exchange of monetary gains to services.

[SirBoinkalot]

but bro ts u should not laid your hand on a woman no matter wat situation it is . is just show how right she was going for an affair.

[Yellow Dragon]

I hate to say it but what goes around comes around. But betrayal by one's spouse is not easy to accept. No one's perfect.

[bonkers69]

Thanks for all the reply from bros.

Yes , i regretted to my action by hitting . This was the frst time i beat a woman. After doing that i felt more painful to see her in this stage. How would a man doing this...i'm just out of control.

If i have not hit her than i would feel better now . I feel the pain and i knew i still love and also our family. She didn't make any report as i believed she love the family too.
Agreed with some bros , wife having affair partly not all their fault . Husband lack of love as time past in marriage and many other reason causes this to happen. That is why i'm willng to salvage our marriage but an up hill task where trust will no longer be there.
Yes , true enough. Man flirt around , why not accept it if happen to wife. As some bro mention....Saying that is easy , when it happen on you. Is a total diff experience.....We can't stop flirting...but never flirt someone's wife.It gets involve more parties..especially their family.
If paid for bonk , still not bad.....at least man answer for everything.
Anyway will see how it goes...many thanks bro.

ok. now to the guy part.
There's no free meal after all. He got to responsibe for it. Regardless what reason behind.
her wife already knew about it as i called her.....so will be same stage as me now....except that he fuck my wife but i didn't fuck his....knn!!
I'm yet to meet him.......so see how it goes for further compensate.
Overall just too bad , he was caught....so bros out there...touch wood hor:D

Many many thanks bros.....contin fucking around but not someone's wife....:)

[Fowler09]

well bro tot she told u they did nt hav sex

[Torres_Mok]

I beat her up the moment she admitted , ending up warded to TTSH.
what should i do now?? i' confuse as i love my kids and i don't want them to leave without parents apart!

.

In my opinion u should not hv whack ur wife first, u should look for the guy, and break his limbs, but don't kill him becos u will be hanged!!! :cool:

[yang punk]

Many many thanks bros.....contin fucking around but not someone's wife....:)

You still don't get it .. do you (same goes for the rest who think fucking pros is no big deal...they are NOT being unfaithful just releasing stress?)

You guys are still living in the dark ages! In today's world women have equal rights whether you like it or not...society and the courts have given it to them.

Would you feel better if your wife is so inadequate (in your language...can't make it) that she have to pay a guy to fuck her? Wouldn't that make you a greater loser? Think about it

If sex to you...ie you putting your dick into another's women's cunt, is no big deal... just a physical sensation like being massaged by a woman...then likewise...just take your wife having sex with another man as the same thing. Like she going to a male hairdresser to have her hair done (she also feels good after that right?).

If you as well as other men can't accept that (that wives can fuck other men) then make sure you give them enough sex to keep them satisfied so that they have NO reasons to fuck outside! Otherwise YOUR wives are fair game to all the hunters (read milf fuckers out there)! :D

[fenwick]

In my opinion u should not hv whack ur wife first, u should look for the guy, and break his limbs, but don't kill him becos u will be hanged!!! :cool:

We can't blame the guy also la cos it takes 2 hands clap . I broke off with my ex a few years back because of the same thing also. :mad: at 1st i was thinking of whacking that guy but lucky i talk to a close fren of mine , and he tell me let go of it. Even if she comes back to you the trust is not there also right !! I suggest TS to think seriously , does he still loves his wife now or he just want to keep her to himself ?:(

[nedy77]

Lets' be reasonable. You cannot control your wife, why beat up the opposite party. After all, the wife is yours. You did not fark and satisfy her on bed as well as her emotion, and you wanna blame the opposite party. Come, come. . . if you did your husband duties well, your wife will not resort to seek others attention. Look what happened, you even beat up your wife so badly that she is awarded in Hospital. Guess, you don't deserve to be married. What you need is to set her free and be single again. Being a husband is a responable duty for life.:)

I agree......

in an adultry case, the other guy is not responsible to you( unless he is in anyway related to you) . The wife is the one that let the guy down, not the other guy. Even if it was the other guy that seduced her, she was still the one that betrayed the husband, not the other guy.

in such situtaions, we human beings tend to blame the 3rd party, when in fact it's the adulter that should be blamed first, followed by the 1st party. Not the 3rd party.

[tanmikel]

I didn't exactly fark the boss... but the chairman's wife and got offered job as gm in one of his companies. Does that count? :D

wow , you even upped a chairman's wife and got offered a job :D

[Yellow Dragon]

Thanks for all the reply from bros.

.....so will be same stage as me now....except that he fuck my wife but i didn't fuck his....knn!!
I'm yet to meet him.......so see how it goes for further compensate.

You want to fuck his wife as compensation?!? But seriously bro what you want from him? Important thing is why your wife did it. Takes 2 to clap. Better resolve it with your wife. Take care.

[bonkers69]

well bro tot she told u they did nt hav sex
That's wat she claimed. To me is sooner or later...

[luv1299]

We bros here can only give you the advices and suggestions, in the end you will still need to do what is to be done. Just act wisely and don't land yourself further into trouble.

[toffee01]

My situation is almost like yours as my wife cheated on me once. She went M'sia with a married guy and spent the night in a hotel with him. I had sleepless nights wondering what i should do.

Next day when she returned, she confessed after i pressed for her honesty. I was prepared for this upsetting news but i wasnt prepared to leave the marriage despite being childless.

We are still together 1.5yrs on, not really happy but also not arguing. Till today, we are wondering why we are together, because we are too used to each other? Of coz, her cheated experience will always be at the back of my mind becoz i know she can "fall" for similar temptation. So at this pt, I may consider divorcing by year end to let her be "single" again.

For your case, violence will never solve the problem but be a man and make firm decisions. You will find happiness elsewhere, for sure!

[benxmanda]

To me very simple,

You have TWO choices and only ONE question to ask, the rest you can forget.

TWO choices:

1. Get a divorce

2. Forget and forgive (Forgiveness is the best/biggest gift you give to someone)

ONE question

1. Do you still love your wife and your kids?

If the answer is YES, I mean a REAL BIG YES, then choose 2.

You already know the consequences if you choose 1 because you are not small kid, for us to tell you is like dumping salt into sea.

Meeting the guy and tell that guy’s wife about the affair is a stupid thing to do.

Asking for compensation or you want some forms of revenge is another stupid thing to do.

You beat your wife up is another stupid thing to do and this is the worst.

You have done so many stupid things. Now, I hope you can do the right thing.

Ask yourself that question again, if you really love your wife and your kids, the obvious choice is 2.

I may not feel the pain but I guess I know how you feel now.

You have put your wife into a very difficult position but letting others know about it, you could have settle this just between you and your wife so it’s easy for your wife to come back to you.

The most important thing is whether your wife regretted the affair and would never do such thing to hurt you again, give her a chance to prove that to you, but you also make sure if she can really do what she have promised you.

If you also one of us that fuck outside even though we pay for it, the more reason you should forgive your wife.

Talk to her with an open heart, ask her if she still loves you and the family, whether she regretted the whole thing, and ask yourself if you really treasure her and the family.

There is nothing complicated, just ask the ONE question and you choose either one of the TWO choices.

You say you love someone, if you really love that someone, wouldn’t you want to give the best/biggest gift to that someone you really love?

I also got a problem, have you read my thread “Home Wrecker”? Think I need to handle the whole thing carefully.

[newbadass]

TS goes around fucking prostitutes and write frs on them...what makes that a lesser evil? Should he also expects his wife to go around to pay guys to fuck her? Would he accept that as fair play?


Sorry can't really agree with that.

I guess the difference is that men only give sperm and not heart.
But women usually give both. To them, it's interlinked. Men can have meaningless sex, but not women.

If my girlfriend had a one-night stand, told me honestly and explained it's just a one-time thing, I can close one eye, forgive and forget. Difficult la, of course... but still can. She tell me got kum cheng with that guy liao... bo pian liao, I will not fight for her. She's already betrayed me in every way possible.

From my point of view, in this society, wearing green hat is not the man lau kwee. It's the woman.

[newbadass]

in such situtaions, we human beings tend to blame the 3rd party, when in fact it's the adulter that should be blamed first, followed by the 1st party. Not the 3rd party.

That man got no standard. People's wife or girlfriend also want to play. If don't blame him blame who? Blame his parents for not teaching him the right values?

Let us imagine one situation. Let's say you let your wife fuck with this guy, but impose a few conditions.

1) She must report when she did it and give you an FR.
2) He must ask permission from you.

So she can still get her needs satisfied and will not be doing it behind your back. But will the other guy go for it? HELL NO. Confirm feel uncomfortable one. Because stealing it feels more shiok than having it given to you. And also, he knows it's wrong, so he prefers to do it behind other's back rather than go through the reporting process. When somebody is fucking someone else's wife or girlfriend, he should still share part of the blame. Unless he's paying your wife la... then in this case she's just a whore, not his problem.

[Torres_Mok]

We can't blame the guy also la cos it takes 2 hands clap . I broke off with my ex a few years back because of the same thing also. at 1st i was thinking of whacking that guy but lucky i talk to a close fren of mine , and he tell me let go of it. Even if she comes back to you the trust is not there also right !!

Bro I agree with u that it takes 2 hands to clap. So just whack the guy first then follow by the gf.

To me "dogs' Couple" cannot be spare, juz like how the great 'Wu Song' whack the 'Simon King'. :D

[chrysler]

Hilarious. Friend, you bloody cannot make it so she screw around. So sad. You know there's easier ways to get back at a woman then beating her up... Dumbass.

Somemore want to go to her boyfriend and ask for compensation machiam like pimp like that... :)

oh god. The actions of the plebians are delicious. I really hope this is a true post.

~Chrysler

[ronaldlimwt]

Sorry to hear of the incidence.

You should reflect on your self first and also see whether you can or worth salvaging your marriage. You must communicate with your wife and understand everything before you meet up with the man.

You will then approach the man and ask him for the proposal in settling the case. Do not compromise straight away instead go home and think through before you settle the situation. Remember you are on the winning side, you have the ace card so play in rightly but do not use your hands as you will land yourself with the Law (either a jail or fine) and also will weaken your bargaining power.

You must decide whether you want to keep the marriage bearing in mind that your wife has done it once there may be more to come. Children you love, it is better for you to gain the custody, educate them. Though divorce is a painstaking decision.

Lastly, you also have to consider and look after your backside as your wife will also get PI to track you and divorce you.

If i have anything that is offensive, please excuse me.

[bonkers69]

You still don't get it .. do you (same goes for the rest who think fucking pros is no big deal...they are NOT being unfaithful just releasing stress?)

You guys are still living in the dark ages! In today's world women have equal rights whether you like it or not...society and the courts have given it to them.

Would you feel better if your wife is so inadequate (in your language...can't make it) that she have to pay a guy to fuck her? Wouldn't that make you a greater loser? Think about it

If sex to you...ie you putting your dick into another's women's cunt, is no big deal... just a physical sensation like being massaged by a woman...then likewise...just take your wife having sex with another man as the same thing. Like she going to a male hairdresser to have her hair done (she also feels good after that right?).

If you as well as other men can't accept that (that wives can fuck other men) then make sure you give them enough sex to keep them satisfied so that they have NO reasons to fuck outside! Otherwise YOUR wives are fair game to all the hunters (read milf fuckers out there)! :D


well if one day it happen to you...hope you handle it as what u mention .
I do think like you before but is easy to say than actual thing to be happen.
Anyway thanks for reply and advices for we guys here.

[bonkers69]

To me very simple,


You say you love someone, if you really love that someone, wouldn’t you want to give the best/biggest gift to that someone you really love?

I also got a problem, have you read my thread “Home Wrecker”? Think I need to handle the whole thing carefully.

Thanks bro benxmanda,
I will bear in mind this statement.

[Bangster]

Thanks bro benxmanda,
I will bear in mind this statement.

That post by Bro Benxmanda, is the only worthwhiled post to pay attention to, imho. No intention to hurt or provoke anybody here ok?

At this point of time, I believe that TS should not be dwelling on how much compensation to seek, or how many people should know about what the 3rd party did.

It's about moving on right now. How to do that? Read Bro Benxmanda's post. Straight to the point.

My hats off to you, Bro Benxmanda.

TS, you have my support. I believe you still love your wife and family deep deep inside your heart.

Save your marriage. It's within your powers. Never mind what happened, you cannot turn back the clock. You can only improve on the times ahead, for yourself, your wife and most importantly your kids.

They do not deserve to go through a young life, where they see their daddy not living together with or talking to their mommy anymore. And they do not deserve to go to school having their classmates ask why their parents are not together anymore. They would have a lot of questions they won't dare to ask, and they will blame themselves for your split with your wife. This type of experience is very traumatic for kids. They last for life.

Please please please please make the right decision. You can save this marriage.

[The Big Gee]

The fact is He has not fucked your wife.

And with your mind all out to get compensation with him, you are missing on the most important part, that is your FAMILY.

Now is the time to concentrate on ur family and how to move on instead of filling your mind and heart with thoughts of revenge (isn't that the type of compensation you want ?)

[_AXL_]

You still don't get it .. do you (same goes for the rest who think fucking pros is no big deal...they are NOT being unfaithful just releasing stress?)

do u?

if u get caught by yr wife, yr pants down with a prostitute, it constitutes adultery as well. but why can we live with ourselves??? cos no feelings involved.

You guys are still living in the dark ages! In today's world women have equal rights whether you like it or not...society and the courts have given it to them.

no, women have more rights, not equal.

Would you feel better if your wife is so inadequate (in your language...can't make it) that she have to pay a guy to fuck her? Wouldn't that make you a greater loser? Think about it

it appears that u do not understand the meaning of mindless sex and an affair. sex is sex, and affairs might not contain sex, it is much more.

If you as well as other men can't accept that (that wives can fuck other men) then make sure you give them enough sex to keep them satisfied so that they have NO reasons to fuck outside! Otherwise YOUR wives are fair game to all the hunters (read milf fuckers out there)!

well, if i didnt know any better, sounds like justification for scums who specialises in going after other people's wives.

sorry i m blunt, but meant no offence.

I guess the difference is that men only give sperm and not heart.
But women usually give both. To them, it's interlinked. Men can have meaningless sex, but not women.

first time agreeing with u... :D

That man got no standard. People's wife or girlfriend also want to play. If don't blame him blame who? Blame his parents for not teaching him the right values?

damn, u've got the nail on the head!!! might as well go after the devil since it was the devil who made that man go fuck around with other people's wives.:rolleyes:

well if one day it happen to you...hope you handle it as what u mention.

well said!!!

[eu6en3]

Dear Bros out there!

This issue just happen to me last Wed. I've caught my wife send kinky panky msg to her colleague. Same as Bro TS, they have denied on sex but admitted to me on going out and holding hands.

Same as you Bro, I love my family and so i decided to forgive my wife and EVEN that F**Ker! Of cos, you will came across the feeling i have. When you hold your wife's hand, you will think of that man (you have to over come this, i'm still trying). When you kiss her, you will think of that man again and if you ever do have sex again, YOU will THINK of that F**ker again!!!

But all this, you will have to overcome if you really love your wife deeply. I know is hard to forget but you have too if you do still love her. I know i did and also for the kids..

All this burn down too how much do you really love her. And how do we see this issue. Maybe bcos we are MAN, so our ego is at state. But think back, why can womans forgive us if we have affairs outside? And honestly, how many guys in here doesn't play or have affairs outside? Let's be fair!!

[yinyang]

no, women have more rights, not equal.
Men's charter? But then, who says world is fair?

Fancy chancing on you here:p

[_AXL_]

Men's charter? But then, who says world is fair?

either in the system or be above the system. not happy then move to a fair country that recognises pre-nups.;)

Fancy chancing on you here

me kaypoh mah... and sympathised with bro bonkers due to experience with ex-gf.:p

[blur boy]

Read this topic with many interests because it shows many sides of a guy..

I have no right to judge the thread-starter but IMHO, anger and jealousy will prevail when the news breaks out as the first initial though is "IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN TO ME"..NO GUYS, in fact no one including gals, will be able to handle this calmly when the admission by the guilty party is announced.

I disagree with the threadstarter way of violence as violence never solves anything but it fuels more problems...eg, if in a case of divorce, you will lose the rights to your kids even though she is in the wrong by having an affair... becos in the eyes of the judge, you are a hooligan using violence as a means of settlement...

All these "rush" actions will be back to haunt you....

Meeting the guy will be a bad mistake because,

1) it will fuel your temper if you see that the guy is a FAT, and balding guy becos you will not understand why she choses him over you... or

2) he is a handsome lad with more monies than you, how will you feel??? WORST!!!!

I would suggest that you talk to your wife first to better understand the situation when you are more calm...

1) what is the relations between her and that guy?
2) When and how it started?
3) and ask her WHY??

but you must be ready to accept criticism from her becos you are no angel and you make mistakes...and maybe these are the mistakes which are the ones triggering her to go to him... it takes 2 hands to clap....

you might "think" u hv done your best in a family but there are times the "things" which you have done is deem unneccessary becos it is not needed by the wifey side...

In a relationship, we need to have an understanding with each other, some say trust.... but lets be honest, do you really think our wives are so stupid to believe everything u say when u are back late...they rather keep quiet and close half their eyes and move on...in order not to spoil the momentum of the family....

I am no angel as i am a regular in SBF and i have my fair share of experiences on this nature of problems which i have learn overtime...

Finally, all the best.....

[Regular1000]

Dear TS,

You are a Gambler, a Womanizer and practice Family Violence! one who could whack a weak, (almost) defenseless woman to TTSH! (we are not talking of slap or body pushing or wrestling. Your punches and kicks actually ends her in hospital, your whacks must be unthinkable:mad:)

Congratulations, I guess you must be an overnight hero amongst men that raises hands on women! :confused:

Pardon me if I am mean, but for guy like you, isn’t it better if you had quietly find a way to solve the problem yourself?

You bring your problem to SBF (a sex forum) and start a thread seeking for advice??? What help do u want… sympathy, moral support?

You did not tell 90% of the story leading to your wife’s betrayal of you and you expect suggestions to get even with this single painful experience you had from your wife? Could your wife have already endured 100 more painful experience from you prior this fiasco? Mind you, the guy that you ‘lose’ out to is a married man… if your wife can choose man of such status to confide with… she is certainly not going after young, strong COCKS; doesn’t it cast more doubt on you!?

And you got the cheek to write out all kind of intentions and seek plot on the subject…and start pointing only finger at him? even getting compensation, money??! Gosh, you are gross!

I really have nothing better to tell you as a fella samster, mind you WE all have our own set of problems, one way or another.

Having said that, in the spirit of SBF I have helped the thread identified Bro BangBangben and Bro Infinitiumus as the Best reference for you, and I trust they are matured individual. That’s all I am willing to do for you, bro. No offence.

I hope everything would eventually turn out fine for you. My heart goes to the kids! :(

Just my 2.5 cents

[Clit_LickeR]

Thou its easier said than done..
most prob i would Divorce.. and 'Reinstate' my bachelor-hood.. :D
and i'll take my kid/s along too. :)
Or i might cling on to our marriage, and if next time she caught me 'straying' i will have a damm good excuse... :p

Just my 2 cents..

[eu6en3]

[QUOTE=Regular1000;2946368]Dear TS,

You did not tell 90% of the story leading to your wife’s betrayal of you and you expect suggestions to get even with this single painful experience you had from your wife?

Bro.. I totally agreed with you!!! My wife told me her side of story and i'm to blame also.. When we were still Bf & GF. she got all the special treatment, from sending flower to waiting her for hours to make up. Sending lovely or mushy msg to her. Kissing her to sleep, sending good night msg.

BUT soon after married, everything changes. NO more darling or dearest princess. Things get worst when she give birth to my baby girl. i though that all her focus have devert to the baby (NO!). Tat's bcos she feels tat i didn;t care much about her so she rather focus on our Baby!

I have to take up the responsibillty also.. SO No violent PLS!! Think first before you ACT!

[hiad64]

Now u caught your wife straying... then what about you going for sex outside??

If you are the one being caught by your wife, what will she do to you??

If you feel betrayed, u hv betrayed her also.

To me, try to forgive and forget. tat is if u both still love each other. Sometimes after such event the relationship gets better coz both will realise what they did wrong in the marriage tat cause the betrayal. So counselling may be a better way to settle this issue first. If really cannot solve, divorce is the last option.

[Frankiestine]

i think we should not be judgmental of TS based on one act and make our own assumptions from here...we are only speculating on the "what we think"...sorry but this is a fact, we humans are hypocrites...we cheong we say it is ok our wife cheong we say it is not...let face it, how many of us can really say it is ok too and the truth is at that moment you won't know how you will handle the situation....even for a woman when she first finds out the truth, I believe she will give you a hard smack across...well that what happened with my first oc when she found out I had another woman outside..so likewise for us guys, some of us may just react that way too even though wisdom says otherwise....

so rather then condemn his actions or speculating on the "why I think it happened", shouldn't we be trying to ease his burden by offering some solutions or at least words of encouragement.....

[geckoSG]

Well, TS, hope u learn to control your temper... Striking your wife til she is
admitted to hospital is definately not what you should have done.

Looking at your posts, you have also betrayed her by eating outside lor. It
makes no differences whether paid or not paid. You have betrayed her too.

Now, forget about revenge or watsoever, think about how to get your family
relationship back. Why blame another man when you cannot offer the
attention that your spouse wanted?

I'm not a saint, but think rationally. If want to come out and play, be
prepared the same from your spouse. Welcome to 21st Century. Both men
and women have equal rights to play.

From now on, pay more attention to your wife and children when you have
time. ;)

[IDOL]

Whatever it is, if TS really still love the wife. I think the best is try to talk it out and see what went wrong in the relationship .... steal eat should be avoided for the time being ...

[hyde09]

To TS,
take ur time to make ur choice..
look ahead while u make tat choice
my 2 cents :o

[yang punk]

well, if i didnt know any better, sounds like justification for scums who specialises in going after other people's wives.

sorry i m blunt, but meant no offence.

me kaypoh mah... and sympathised with bro bonkers due to experience with ex-gf.

If one day you screw a milf remember the name calling!

You have worn a green hat before so can't blame you for not facing the reality of this world.

On such issues the debate can continue till the cows come home and still there will not be one right answer. So I can only advise those who felt they have been wrong by their partners...take a few steps back and reflect. If you can find peace with yourself then move on. There will always be another woman out there who will love you for what you are provided you are also true to her.

Peace!

[Torres_Mok]

There will always be another woman out there who will love you for what you are provided you are also true to her.

Peace!

Well said bro, :)

[Centaurs]

What goes around comes around ... kettle calling pot black ... anyway, such things do happen, when in the midst of it, we tend to be bias and not objective

[Wedge]

Whatever it is, if TS really still love the wife. I think the best is try to talk it out and see what went wrong in the relationship .... steal eat should be avoided for the time being ...

if he really loves his wife, he would not beat her. :( Somemore till she lands in the hospital.

makes u wonder if he has lay a finger on her prior to this.

[_AXL_]

If one day you screw a milf remember the name calling!

i dont... no matter how much i like that woman. when i hooked up with my wife initially, i made sure she was totally unattached. well, guess it is just me, cos i believe in karma. a guy has put me thru such pain, i do not wish it on others.

You have worn a green hat before so can't blame you for not facing the reality of this world.

yes, the reality that what i m doing (by not being a bastard to get involved with married women) is not going to change the world cos there is just too much scum around. damn, really no money to call chicken meh???

On such issues the debate can continue till the cows come home and still there will not be one right answer. So I can only advise those who felt they have been wrong by their partners...take a few steps back and reflect.

reflection should be done, yes. those people who get involved with married men and women should also reflect about karma, about the possibility of their children getting together and commiting incest unknowingly. well, not my idea but just read a joke recently about it.

There will always be another woman out there who will love you for what you are provided you are also true to her.

Peace!

agreed. thanks for keeping cool when i was so confrontational. just pissed with those hypocrites that come in to screw TS and act honourable when they r one of those 3rd party pricks.:mad: i guess it takes one who has worn the green hat before will only understand how another feels.

peace, out.

[newbadass]

yes, the reality that what i m doing (by not being a bastard to get involved with married women) is not going to change the world cos there is just too much scum around. damn, really no money to call chicken meh???.

It's not about money la.

Why people shoplift, and steal cheapo stuff? No money to buy meh? It's because they feel the thrill. They know it's wrong, and there will be consequences if they are caught.

People steal wives/gfs because it makes them feel very clever/charming/aye sai to be able to come between a woman and her husband/bf and get free fuck. They're doing it to feed their ego. Like I said, if the husband know liao and give them permission, you think the guy will still want to do it?

Brudder... you cannot solve anything... but you are already doing your part by not contributing to the problem. :)

[_AXL_]

It's not about money la.

bro NBA, thanks for enlightening...

i was about to ask why they dont go shoplift instead, then i realised that stealing wives/gfs r the only thing they wont have to go to jail if they r caught...:rolleyes:

Brudder... you cannot solve anything... but you are already doing your part by not contributing to the problem.

thanks, we all try our best...;)

ps. i like yr signature, very u. :p

[Book-keeper]

1) Pure bastard and revengeful type. If you no longer want your wife, fuck care your family and kids just because of your wife fucking around. Then go ahead and exploit the guy, make things ugly at his work place. Not doing it violently, but seek his company email domain and spam all the company's employee with mail that he broken up your family and left your childrens stranded. He slept with your wife and blah blah blah. Drop leaflets into his neighbours letter box as well. Make him look ugly!
Tell his wife about it and stay close contact with her. Till his office event cools down, u step in and sleep with his wife instead. (I doubt he loves his wife as he is sleeping with yours) Make sure he finds out that you are sleeping with his wife, leave your underwear under his pillow! When he confronts you, tell the same story and shit he told you before when you meet up with him.
If you are certain that you did nothing wrong as a husband, go seek a lawyer and sue both for adultery. Seek compensation and child care aid.
End.


I like the part on sleeping with his wife and make sure he found out about it... :D

[bonkers69]

i must admit that i'm in a wrong for beating her regardless a slap or punch. She was warded to hospital for check up and discharge on the same day. I have learnt my lesson for not keeping cool on handling such issue during the moment of madness and a painful lesson as well.

I have not right to seek advice for bros here as i just want to listen how you guys handle if happen to you.

I have no intention do any extortion of money from him as well. I just want him to reponsible for what he committed . i met up with him this morning . Knowing that he's someone i met before. He apologised to me and willing to do anything to compensate me for causing all these . He told me that he has marriage problem as well & that's one of the reason causes this (do u believe ?)and even offer money to me .

I told him damaged already done on both side . I have reject any form compensate from him nor he needs to responsible for me. He should responsible for his family instead. A full stop between us.

I love my family . so i decide to salvage our marriage . both of us looking forward to meet our counsellor soon.

I will end my reply here.

I sincerely thanks all bros reply . It really helps me to cool things down and reflect my action.

[jit singapore 1]

I love my family . so i decide to salvage our marriage . both of us looking forward to meet our counsellor soon.

I will end my reply here.

I sincerely thanks all bros reply . It really helps me to cool things down and reflect my action.[/QUOTE]

Well done brother......as a husband and wife we must always forgave and forgive. Hope both of you can "破镜重圆" "和好如初” “幸福美满”。Must try your very best OK! Is not easy I know, but must try for your kids, for your love wife and family.......

[btitts]

i think things will never be the same again. Even if the man can forgive the wife, and the wife turns over a new leaf, this matter will always be in the guy's mind even after many years.

In future the guy will have suspicious thoughts of the wife when she goes out alone. or when they have a fight, the guy will tend to bring up the past.

it's the end of a nornal relationship.

Which normal man can accept his wife sleeping with another man??

[Frankiestine]

He told me that he has marriage problem as well & that's one of the reason causes this (do u believe ?)and even offer money to me .

really? marriage problems? who haven't got one? so must hook up with married woman? what a load of crap!!!:mad:

[deptrai4u]

I love my family . so i decide to salvage our marriage . both of us looking forward to meet our counsellor soon.

I will end my reply here.

I sincerely thanks all bros reply . It really helps me to cool things down and reflect my action.

if you can salvage the marriage and not let the past come back and haunt you, then my hats off to you. The possibility of this is way way less than 0.1%. I tell you why.... it will take you to align all the stars in a straight line for a duration of a year or more.. starting immediately from NOW. If one of the stars get mis-aligned, game over!

Star #1 : You must have a very very big heart.. you need so much inner peace and courage.. way way above that of a normal man.. to forgive and "forget". Basically you can FORGET about the "forget" unless u are retarded or something... so its really just forgive. And you need to manage the "forget" part with all your mental and spiritual strength that a normal man usually cannot do.

Star #2: Your wife must now swim upstream.. work very very hard.. to regain your trust.. to make you feel secure.. to remove even the slightest of doubt from your mind. She will have to really be the woman described in Chapter 31 or the Proverbs in the Bible (go read it if you have not) and yet everyday at 3 hours interval tell you that she loves you and only you.

Star #3: The other guy must totally disappear from both your life.. if he is a colleague of your wife, then wife to change job.. if he is son of the grocery shop downstairs, then you need to move house.. its really not about the same thing happening again but really about how meeting him will aggravate your recovery process.

So now let me tell u why you will fail... (its not my intention to ensure that you fail, just my assessment of the situation):

Reason #1 : You flew into rage at the very instant... of course you already knew something was not so right for sometime and finally you found out and yet with all the early warnings, you still flew into rage... you inner strength is only NORMAL.. not sufficient to carry you thru this things that you hope to do.

Reason #2 : Singapore ladies are not exactly the most submissive (rather...not at all...) or demure type... she thinks women=men same same rights all the time... so you can forget about Star #2

Reason #3 : For sure you have met that guy before.. she must have even introduce him as a friend and she will have even spoke to you about him probably a couple of times. So he is a friend of a group of friends of hers.. so how big really is Singapore!?? Is she willing to give up that bunch of friends and start from zero with you!???

I am not encouraging you to be a MCP here or teach you to be demanding and behave like a bastard... but all I am saying here is .. GET REAL!

If you screw it up and let the devil gets the better of you.. then u are just human.

I am looking forward to see continuation of this thread from the thread-starter, as I believe now its only the beginning of the end.

As the plots thickens and the saga continues . . . . . . in The Lan Chiao Strikes Back and Return Of The CheeBye...


PS: the final thought I am leaving with you at this stage is this... if you feel that in this life you are going to have just 1 wife and you deserve nothing better than the current one.. then by all means proceed with your noble plan.

If you know damn well that one day when lying in your death bed with 2 hours left before you hand in your NRIC and you think to yourself that why the fuck did you go thru all these!!! why not look for alternatives and get someone better that you deserve.. then think hard at your options again.

Really no point fighting a war without first calculating the odds.

By the way, I am NOT advocating Divorce... i feel tat it is the most stupid thing to do.. in a Divorce.. women wins and men just fucked themselves up!

[Regular1000]

Dear TS,

You are a Gambler, a Womanizer and practice Family Violence! one who could whack a weak, (almost) defenseless woman to TTSH! (we are not talking of slap or body pushing or wrestling. Your punches and kicks actually ends her in hospital, your whacks must be unthinkable)

Congratulations, I guess you must be an overnight hero amongst men that raises hands on women!

Pardon me if I am mean, but for guy like you, isn’t it better if you had quietly find a way to solve the problem yourself?

You bring your problem to SBF (a sex forum) and start a thread seeking for advice??? What help do u want… sympathy, moral support?

You did not tell 90% of the story leading to your wife’s betrayal of you and you expect suggestions to get even with this single painful experience you had from your wife? Could your wife have already endured 100 more painful experience from you prior this fiasco? Mind you, the guy that you ‘lose’ out to is a married man… if your wife can choose man of such status to confide with… she is certainly not going after young, strong COCKS; doesn’t it cast more doubt on you!?

And you got the cheek to write out all kind of intentions and seek plot on the subject…and start pointing only finger at him? even getting compensation, money??! Gosh, you are gross!

I really have nothing better to tell you as a fella samster, mind you WE all have our own set of problems, one way or another.

Having said that, in the spirit of SBF I have helped the thread identified Bro BangBangben and Bro Infinitiumus as the Best reference for you, and I trust they are matured individual. That’s all I am willing to do for you, bro. No offence.

I hope everything would eventually turn out fine for you. My heart goes to the kids!
Just my 2.5 cents

i must admit that i'm in a wrong for beating her regardless a slap or punch. She was warded to hospital for check up and discharge on the same day. I have learnt my lesson for not keeping cool on handling such issue during the moment of madness and a painful lesson as well.

I have not right to seek advice for bros here as i just want to listen how you guys handle if happen to you.

I have no intention do any extortion of money from him as well. I just want him to reponsible for what he committed . i met up with him this morning . Knowing that he's someone i met before. He apologised to me and willing to do anything to compensate me for causing all these . He told me that he has marriage problem as well & that's one of the reason causes this (do u believe ?)and even offer money to me .

I told him damaged already done on both side . I have reject any form compensate from him nor he needs to responsible for me. He should responsible for his family instead. A full stop between us.

I love my family . so i decide to salvage our marriage . both of us looking forward to meet our counsellor soon.

I will end my reply here.

I sincerely thanks all bros reply . It really helps me to cool things down and reflect my action.

Dear TS,

I am truly delighted that things are turning out constructively for you to move on. Please accept my Salute to you for factoring yourself into the fiasco and for handling it in a rationale manner! Salute! (also on behalf of your kid lah!) ;) .

Some bros here has mentioned, it’s the start of a painful and testing times in your marriage life which I believed is undeniable.

I would like to share with you my thoughts to express my support since you choose to maintain this marriage. Just for your consideration;

Since the scandal is not by you, the onus and guilt is more with them and I trust it is always better when righteousness is standing by you, don’t you feel so now? :rolleyes:

As you have mentioned that the guy is having problem with his wife, I would like to caution you that it could mean lingering distraction to your wife. I believe there is a good chance between your wife and him, they are not purely into sexual lusts alone and perhaps even have developed some feelings for each other. And if his marriage breaks (if your story is true, likely his marriage will fail soon), it could mean the guy might be ‘available’ again.

To cut it short, if I am in your position, I would actually approach the matter soon when it cools down and offer my wife a chance to leave me and be with the guy. If she choose to, I would ask her to tell me what is easiest and best for her to move forward. I would tell her I will try complying and fulfilling them but remind her that her request must always have the kid at heart.

If she consider staying on the marriage, ask her if its possible for both of you to forgive each other and totally wipe the untidy past once and for all… including forgetting this guy and uprooting the connection… not even friend!

It should turn out ok for you in either outcome.

Cheers bro but cant use my usual ‘happy bonking!’ to you for now. Take care ya! :p

Dun need to response to me… just my 2.5 cents. Good luck and my best regards!

[john99]

[Really no point fighting a war without first calculating the odds.

By the way, I am NOT advocating Divorce... i feel tat it is the most stupid thing to do.. in a Divorce.. women wins and men just fucked themselves up![/QUOTE]

I dun agree with what say. Not every male is an alpha male going all out to kill the other guy. Threadstarter had already decide to give his marriage one more chance and let us not be spoilers as we are not in his shoes.

Every male who is married or attached here would appreciate the anger and sense of betrayal of his wife and the male perpetrator. There are many ways to deal with this ie from total destruction of 2 marriages, dysfunctional kids and possibly careers or salvaging the 2 marraiges.

As Threadstarter had chosen his destiny , let us encourage him in the right direction. Not every troubled marriage in Singapore have to end in divorce...

[Frankiestine]

some one once told me, a mirror once it is broken piece back also no use because still will have cracks lines...so for TS if you can overlooked the cracks then you got a lot of work ahead of you...

[_AXL_]

i must admit that i'm in a wrong for beating her regardless a slap or punch. She was warded to hospital for check up and discharge on the same day. I have learnt my lesson for not keeping cool on handling such issue during the moment of madness and a painful lesson as well.

pls, pls never do it again.

He told me that he has marriage problem as well & that's one of the reason causes this (do u believe ?)and even offer money to me .

what a load of bullshit!!! but what can u expect from scum?

I love my family . so i decide to salvage our marriage . both of us looking forward to meet our counsellor soon.

bravo!!! it takes much more courage to try and salvage the marriage rather than to conveniently end it. the hard road is ahead.

good luck and all the best to u.

[deptrai4u]

[Really no point fighting a war without first calculating the odds.

By the way, I am NOT advocating Divorce... i feel tat it is the most stupid thing to do.. in a Divorce.. women wins and men just fucked themselves up!]

I dun agree with what say. Not every male is an alpha male going all out to kill the other guy. Threadstarter had already decide to give his marriage one more chance and let us not be spoilers as we are not in his shoes.

Every male who is married or attached here would appreciate the anger and sense of betrayal of his wife and the male perpetrator. There are many ways to deal with this ie from total destruction of 2 marriages, dysfunctional kids and possibly careers or salvaging the 2 marraiges.

As Threadstarter had chosen his destiny , let us encourage him in the right direction. Not every troubled marriage in Singapore have to end in divorce...

Sorry but I do not understand you message. In my message, when I say I am NOT advocating Divorce, it means also that I am not ENCOURAGING divorce which is exactly the same message that you are saying... ie to encourage the bro not to consider divorce but stick to the marriage. I also in no way mention anything about alpha male to go all out to kill the other guy.

All that I am saying is that the orginal plan of our dear bro has little chance to work, which was:
1. wife say her peace
2. Husband say his peace
3. both say sorry
4. life goes on the way it was and forget and forgive the past...

... based on information provided by himself so far. All i wanted to do was to provide my analysis of his situation and his psyche against the predictable journey that he plans to take on the route to recovery, and to draw a conclusion that his chance of survival is extremely slim under the current situation.

But by saying that, I also emphasis that Divorce is not an option to be considered at this moment.

My concern for our dear bro here is that if he plans to take the course that he is currently planning to take base on the obvious and positive encouragement of many well-meaning bros in this thread, he may by peeing against the wind and getting himself into a long drawn loosing battle prolonging his pain and suffering and finally succumbing to a horrible defeat.. ie he defeated himself.

The general direction I am Encouraging our dear bro here is to stay married and NOT to divorce, but however the Expectation of recovery and magical benefits of "forgive and forget" and "riding towards the sunset and living happily every after" should be reconsidered seriously at this stage, otherwise it becomes a goal without any means (and very very slim chance) to fulfill, bringing more pain and sufferings to both parties.

In a nutshell, I am saying.. stop kidding urself with various fair-tales make believes and look at the situation realistically. Set reasonable goals at this stage and to make a plan that can be achieved. The following algorithm could be used as a guideline:
1. Set a reasonable goal and if you think you like the outcome and you are sure you have the strength to go thru that, then put plan into action.
2. Set a reasonable goal and if you think you DO NOT LIKE the outcome, then dun even try to execute the plan. Its time to approach this problem from a totally different perspective, and again I am saying Divorce is NOT an option to be considered yet.
3. Set a reasoable goal and if you think you like the outcome but you are sure you do not have the strength to go thru it, then... Its time to approach this problem from a totally different perspective, and again I am saying Divorce is NOT an option to be considered yet.

I hope our dear bro have the time to:
1. take a close look at my 2 postings so far in this thread
2. ask himself very frankly is he has the strength to go thru the orginal plan
3. listen to his inner voice.. and to search for another perspective of approaching this situation at hand

That is as much I would like to say at this present moment.

[deptrai4u]

[Really no point fighting a war without first calculating the odds.

By the way, I am NOT advocating Divorce... i feel tat it is the most stupid thing to do.. in a Divorce.. women wins and men just fucked themselves up!]

I dun agree with what say. Not every male is an alpha male going all out to kill the other guy. Threadstarter had already decide to give his marriage one more chance and let us not be spoilers as we are not in his shoes.

Every male who is married or attached here would appreciate the anger and sense of betrayal of his wife and the male perpetrator. There are many ways to deal with this ie from total destruction of 2 marriages, dysfunctional kids and possibly careers or salvaging the 2 marraiges.

As Threadstarter had chosen his destiny , let us encourage him in the right direction. Not every troubled marriage in Singapore have to end in divorce...

Sorry but I do not understand you message. In my message, when I say I am NOT advocating Divorce, it means also that I am not ENCOURAGING divorce which is exactly the same message that you are saying... ie to encourage the bro not to consider divorce but stick to the marriage. I also in no way mention anything about alpha male to go all out to kill the other guy.

All that I am saying is that the orginal plan of our dear bro has little chance to work, which was:
1. wife say her peace
2. Husband say his peace
3. both say sorry
4. life goes on the way it was and forget and forgive the past...

... based on information provided by himself so far. All i wanted to do was to provide my analysis of his situation and his psyche against the predictable journey that he plans to take on the route to recovery, and to draw a conclusion that his chance of survival is extremely slim under the current situation.

But by saying that, I also emphasis that Divorce is not an option to be considered at this moment.

My concern for our dear bro here is that if he plans to take the course that he is currently planning to take base on the obvious and positive encouragement of many well-meaning bros in this thread, he may by peeing against the wind and getting himself into a long drawn loosing battle prolonging his pain and suffering and finally succumbing to a horrible defeat.. ie he defeated himself.

The general direction I am Encouraging our dear bro here is to stay married and NOT to divorce, but however the Expectation of recovery and magical benefits of "forgive and forget" and "riding towards the sunset and living happily every after" should be reconsidered seriously at this stage, otherwise it becomes a goal without any means (and very very slim chance) to fulfill, bringing more pain and sufferings to both parties.

In a nutshell, I am saying.. stop kidding urself with various fair-tales make believes and look at the situation realistically. Set reasonable goals at this stage and to make a plan that can be achieved. The following algorithm could be used as a guideline:
1. Set a reasonable goal and if you think you like the outcome and you are sure you have the strength to go thru that, then put plan into action.
2. Set a reasonable goal and if you think you DO NOT LIKE the outcome, then dun even try to execute the plan. Its time to approach this problem from a totally different perspective, and again I am saying Divorce is NOT an option to be considered yet.
3. Set a reasoable goal and if you think you like the outcome but you are sure you do not have the strength to go thru it, then... Its time to approach this problem from a totally different perspective, and again I am saying Divorce is NOT an option to be considered yet.

I hope our dear bro have the time to:
1. take a close look at my 2 postings so far in this thread
2. ask himself very frankly is he has the strength to go thru the orginal plan
3. listen to his inner voice.. and to search for another perspective of approaching this situation at hand

That is as much I would like to say at this present moment.

[you n me]

some one once told me, a mirror once it is broken piece back also no use because still will have cracks lines...so for TS if you can overlooked the cracks then you got a lot of work ahead of you...

Bro the quote absolutely make sense ... :D

[Luke Cage]

ask himself very frankly is he has the strength to go thru the orginal plan
3. listen to his inner voice.. and to search for another perspective of approaching this situation at hand

That is as much I would like to say at this present moment.
Brother, what you say makes sense too but it is a logical analysis but when you got married, all logic flies out the window. Things never go according to script.

So now just wish bro bonk best of luck and whatever will be will be. :D

[Torres_Mok]

some one once told me, a mirror once it is broken piece back also no use because still will have cracks lines...so for TS if you can overlooked the cracks then you got a lot of work ahead of you...

Totally agree with u. The cracks of the patched-back mirror is just like cracks in the hearts which in my opinion can never be heal completely. :cool:

[thesaint9753]

aiyoyo, bro bonker69, last time always talk talk to
you about balestier and hear hear some time you
need to go vietnam, then suddenly lost, now see
see you get into family problem, aiyoyo, so sad to
hear, maybe you are always away and not attentive
to her lah.

You no gentleman like old uncle lah, gentleman
use mouth and not fist, if old uncle in your situation,
old uncle no beat her, old uncle bite her (use mouth
what, not wrong right ?), of course first take off
the denture first mah...

sad to hear about your problem, hope you can
gather yourself and find a solution to it lah ....

wish you good luck ....

[Real07]

Hi Bro Bonker, me just a new bird here and I hope u can continous ur marriage road. :)

But as what Bro Regular1000 had said ur wife may have a real feeling for that scum even they do not have s.ex, I am not sure whether ur wife was conned by that man or her feeling toward him is real...

After this incident she might wan to save her marriage and choose to stay with u but her feeling is still with that scum. So tell her nicely that u will give her time to consider ur marriage and let her decided herself.

I knw ur nitemare had just began and is not easy to move on, so just be strong and really FORGIVE and FORGET if ur wifey finally choose u in the end.:)

TRUST must be rebuild otherwise no point continous this marriage. Just my 1.5cents

[Chiam_Daniel]

There's only one way! Divorce.

Life is short. How many years do you have before you reach 60? 10? 15? 20?

So dump the old lady and go find someone else.

Remember, people change. No point clutching onto straws. Don't do it for the children.

Get out there and party!

[bonkers69]

aiyoyo, bro bonker69, last time always talk talk to
you about balestier and hear hear some time you
need to go vietnam, then suddenly lost, now see
see you get into family problem, aiyoyo, so sad to
hear, maybe you are always away and not attentive
to her lah.

You no gentleman like old uncle lah, gentleman
use mouth and not fist, if old uncle in your situation,
old uncle no beat her, old uncle bite her (use mouth
what, not wrong right ?), of course first take off
the denture first mah...

sad to hear about your problem, hope you can
gather yourself and find a solution to it lah ....

wish you good luck ....

wow...old man long time no see you too.
ya lor...always go balestier , forgot to pai sin loh....:p

anyway...thank man!

[genecola]

LOL....seeing the agitated response of this thread starter. it gives even more satisfaction to fuck other people wife.

[dann0620]

There's only one way! Divorce.

Life is short. How many years do you have before you reach 60? 10? 15? 20?

So dump the old lady and go find someone else.

Remember, people change. No point clutching onto straws. Don't do it for the children.

Get out there and party!

It is better to shut ur mouth then to say such thing. I guessed you are a young chap......that explain why you never understand this issue.

[dann0620]

LOL....seeing the agitated response of this thread starter. it gives even more satisfaction to fuck other people wife.

All i can say is that wait for your turn to come. You will never understand their pain if the knife is not stabbed on you.

[Gixer]

I beat her up the moment she admitted , ending up warded to TTSH.
what should i do now?? i' confuse as i love my kids and i don't want them to leave without parents apart!

Now to the guy part.....knn !!! dun know whether you will be reading this thread or not . He admitted to me on the phone and i'm yet to meet u with him next few days.

How you gonna handle him ? beat him up ? seek compensate ? He will responsible for everything . That for sure as i know her wife number ? office nmber ? He has good carrer which i don't think he wants me to make trouble at his office.
I will not beat him up to punish him unless i cut off his little bro......cb!! exterer pain will recover after some time.

Oooohhhh, you're a real big man in beating up your wife. Now you want to beat up the other guy? What if he whips your ass? Ever thought of that? You come to a sex forum, means you are no angel either.

Bottom line, you did not take care of your wife, some other guy took care of her. Its all going to go downhill from here. You whacked her, she make police report, you whack him, he make report, even divorce, lawyer will twist and turn that you were abusive, she gets money, he can sue you for assault. You then have no wife, no family, no money and a police record. Who wins?

My suggestion. Stay married, let your wife know you are fucking around and don't be discreet about it. Rub it in her face. Thats about all you can do, short of fucking that other guys wife, daughter, sister and maybe even mother.

Stay cool.

[skirtchaser639]

my sympathy to TS for the unfortunate event

likewise, i used to be a one woman only man, delicate my life to work and to support my family
trying to bring as much comfort as i can to the family
prior to my cheong, i was very loyal and my world revolve only around my OC
not sure if it is fortunate or unfortunate for me, i not only once found out about flirting sms/msn messages between my OC and other guys (yes, guys as in different guy)
worst..knn..one of the guy actually came to our house before and she actually intro him to me as friend
in earlier days of my career, i work irregular hours, meaning i can be out whole night and only come home in the morning
so many thing can possibly happen
many times i confronted her, same denial from her that it is just harmless fling, nothing physical ever happen
i choose to believe for sometime, until i realize i am lying to myself

at least TS better off, your OC actually admit that she has a affair, mine is outright denial
i am lesser a man than TS, no balls to even confront the guy(s)
come to think of it, all the messages got deleted liao and now i got no hard evidence against anyone
no only i no balls, but also stupid

however, i can never forget the scene where she give birth to my child in the labor ward
today, i still trust her enough to be my OC as she is willing to go through the labor pain for my offspring sake (2nd child coming up)
she is definitely not hanging on to me becos i am rich, she can earn more than me
so i guess i am those 小男人, who lets the OC 骑在头上

sorry bro TS that is sounds like i am hijacking the thread
bottom line is i still love her, so i choose to shut off some side of me
flip side of it is my outbreak of this cheonging, got addicted and no turning back
so we are more or less on even ground in some sense
thus you have to decide if you still want to salvage the relationship

anyway, it has been weeks since your unfortunate event happen, hope you are coping well and have your own resolve.

[old_yet_horny]

my sympathy to TS for the unfortunate event.........anyway, it has been weeks since your unfortunate event happen, hope you are coping well and have your own resolve.

U have my sympathy....but read the following...

...long time ago, I was having beer with a groupof kakis and one of them brough along another old chap.. he related his story to us after a few drinks andvery much similar to yours...except that he fathered 2 kids form his ex wife which is not his...

Can you imagine what he is going through and how much sacrifice he made??

All of us though he was crazy but he is such a normal guy... work and drink beer like any guys.. save money to bring up the kid whose biological father is somebody else..

Now maybe his ex wife is happily F@%king some guy in dun know which country...

If we think that we're in a shitty situation, there bounds to be somebody who is more "Terok" than us... so just try not to take things too hard at some times...:)

[strip-poker]

Bro,
A man doesn't beat a woman. Two wrongs doesn't make a right.

If you still love her you should:
1) Apologise for beating her and seek her forgiveness.
2) Let her know you still love her and is willing to forgive her if she is willing to repent.
3) See if she still love you and will stay with the family

If she loves you and wants to continue being your wife:
a) The main thing is you must really forget about his incident and move on. b) NEVER EVER BRING IT UP AGAIN EVEN IN ANY QUARRELS.
c) Alot of times, marriage fails is because people cannot forgive and forget. Never make that mistake.

If she doesn't have any feelings for you and wants to leave:
a) Try to talk to her and get her family to talk to her.
b) If final decision is to leave, be gracious and let her leave.
b) At least you will leave a good impression for both your wife and kids. It will show the magnitude of your graciousness for which i am sure your kids will be proud.

[meowy_ger]

Dun understand why u would beat up ur wife just becoz she sleep with someone else.....wtf....u are no diff than a beast urself...ur wife is not ur property....if she choose to leave u or commit adultery...so be it...take it like a man and move on with ur life...no need to resort to violence....wtf.....u should be locked up!!!

i dunno why but i just agree with u....
I cannot accept a man to beat up a woman....
Horrible.... :mad:

[skirtchaser639]

U have my sympathy....so just try not to take things too hard at some times...:)

agree, there are more unfortunate bros out there
i am not trying to steal TS thread or sympathy here, just sharing to support TS in terms of emotion :)

understand TS rage when he laid his hand on his OC, i almost did that as well
thankfully, my logical brain more dominant, manage to restrain myself
i do not support violence as well, especially towards woman

woman is meant to be loved and bonk, have to treat them with gentleness
part of me already admit that i am not caring enough (or too caring) in certain area that my OC have to resort seeking them from other man

as for me, i now have my share of bonking other women (although this is not a very good method to resolve marriage issue), i find that we are even
so no spying from me anymore

[Frankiestine]

however, i can never forget the scene where she give birth to my child in the labor ward
today, i still trust her enough to be my OC as she is willing to go through the labor pain for my offspring sake (2nd child coming up)


Bro dun mean to make fun but since you ever suspect your oc fooling round your back, have you ever tested the kids DNA?

[skirtchaser639]

Bro dun mean to make fun but since you ever suspect your oc fooling round your back, have you ever tested the kids DNA?

no worries, that did came across my mind some point in time.
although i did not test dna, now as the kid grown, the child resemble more and more like me and many face features are of the trademarks of my family
also, the blood type same (i know blood type doesn't really confirm that i am the bio father)
so i do not want to probe further as i still love her and i am willing to forgive her
(to some extend, else i will not be bonking other woman)

sometimes its good to not know certain things
at least, even if i am not the bio-father, i trust that with my love raising the kids, they will reciprocate the love and trust

[Big Sexy]

i am not going to pretend to be saint and say u shouldnt have lay your hands on your wife. bla bla.... but if you are going to hit your wife .. surely you have the guts to kill the guy..

if you want my opinion... i say kill that guy, divorce your wife and fled to thailand....there is no turning back..:D

your conclusion statement says alot about you.... fuck anyone's wife but don't get caught??????? :confused:


I beat her up the moment she admitted , ending up warded to TTSH.
what should i do now?? I will not beat him up to punish him unless i cut off his little bro......cb!!

so bros here , how to handle this guy if you are in my position. I know lots bros here screw up ppl's wife but too bad , he was caught !......you can fuck anyone's wife but don't get caught.

[busido69]

Never Ever Use Violence In Front Of Another Woman

that's plain stupidity. you have just show yrself to be a lesser men than the rest she might have talked to.
but if you have done so go to a psychologist straight away and do anger management therapy. I strongly reccomend this for you. and tell your wife you are doing it. not really to please her but for self improvement. and show her you are a better man because you want to change

[goofybaby69]

Dear TS,

Sorry to hear this. May I offer my view.

You need to understand the following before you decide on your next course of actions.

1. Sleeping with someone else wife or having an affair is not a crime according to SG law even if you have evidences.
2. The advantages of having evidences is that it will enable you to file for a divorce and have custody of the kids on the ground tt ur wife had an affair and is not fit to be the mother of your children. In addition to that, you are not require to give her any financial support or split up your assets.
3. Catching the guy having an affair with ur wife does not give you the right to physically wack him. It could land you in jail.
4. The fact the you had hit your wife and she was hospitalised have put u at a disadvantage. She could use that as a ground to file for divorce and seek custody of ur kid and a split of ur assets.

If I am in your shoes, I will have to ask myself the following questions.

1. Have I cheated on my wife by sleeping with someone else wife, FL or WL before?
If the answer is yes then I think it's unfair to expect otherwise from my wife. That would made me a hypocrite.

2. Do I still love my wife even thought I am angry with what happened?
If the answer is yes then I would have a serious talk to find out and to understand why she had an affair? By undertstanding the root cause, will I then be able to forgive my wife and work on saving our marriage.

If the answer is no, I don't love my wife anymore or she doesn't loves me anymore then I'll file for a divorce and fight for custody of the children.


As for how to deal with the other guy.

1. Remember do not commit any violence or lay a hand on him ( it will not be easy to control but you need to, else u'll regret later at the court hearing).

2. Ask to meet him and his wife and tell his wife what happen in front of him and let his wife beats the hell out of him instead.
3. If he doesn't want to meet you together with his wife then you call his wife and tell her instead and show her all the evidences. Then next day, go to his office and demand to see him and give him a warning that if u ever catch him doing that again, u gonna cut his balls off.

I think this serve as a reminder to all the bro here not to fool around with other men's wives. Do not lay a hand on other's wives if you don't like them to lay their hands on ur wife. I guess it's only fair.

[lao_teeko]

kudos to the TS for attempting to salvage his marriage...

anyone havent made a mistake in their life before? i guess not..

to err is human...to forgive divine.

i wish the TS all the best..no one said its easy..but no one say it cant be done too...

all the best bro!

[ch18]

Just find a way to fxxk that guy's wife.............

[Regular1000]

Just find a way to fxxk that guy's wife.............

Can we start with yours first?? .... :mad:

[unicorn]

Brother TS,

Well, I may have contribute some insights on another spectrum to this kind of folly, and would like to share my point of view with your goodself.

Let's see, I would presume that you're a man in your late 30s / early 40s with kids still in their 10s. Therefore, my suggestion to you ....a good soul...guess all men are alike, no matter what...this form of encounter in any given man's marriage will be of extreme pain and heart felt betrayal...you're normal....Now what is your utmost objective ? If you are to bring up your kids good and proper, you should divert your energy to attend to your kids, which has a 'run-away' mother, which I guess is alittle hard for them to comprehen with the commotion at home...


If you could not swallow the pride of your wife having an affair outside, couple with an unsalvageable marriage...let go...and move on...there are more trees in the forest : )


If the marriage is salvageable...would you be able to let bygones be for the sake of your kids ?

Everyone of us does encounter dilemma in the course of our lives....therefore you're not unlucky...its just life has a stroke for different folks...be even minded...life will takes its course when both your heads (heehee) are straight ...

In the end $$ speaks ....earn more and that will be her retribution when you start having them in abunden : )

Cheers Bro..

UniQ

[Megatronzombie]

From experience, I know for sure that when a girl says she never get fcuked by someone whom she let into her own house is for sure lying through her freaking teeth. My wife lied to me before and only when the whole thing calmed down for a year did she finally admitted she fcuked with the guy. By then I dont know whether to feel idiotic or angry or ust plain stupid for actually believing her a year ago when she pleaded on her knees crying and promising me that she never fcuked with the guy in the room zzz... thats women mentality for you.

[pipi486]

ask for $$, take the $$ and find a new life

[thaizombie]

sorri to hear that bro, one of my bro also catch his wife . my bro ask PI to follow her, take photos and recordings also.The PI tape her going into that guy house for 30mins..When results shown to my bro, he v hot , same like u.. Confront his wife and beat her up.She ask for lawyers protections. pay the $1 one.finally they divorced leaving two kids but each got 1.My bro have been supporting the kids for abt 4years coz he knws that if follow her no future, so he cant bear it and so he take up the responsiblities.Still the gal can cum up visits the kids anytime when she wants to.A advice lor, violence doesnt solve anytin but more troubles, if tis happen to me i sure act like u. but if u got a gd frd u can trust, juz tell him mayb violence will be avoided with a 3 rd party around..Remember when problems come . seek some1 u can trust , then confront to the gal with a 3rd party around.whatever happens the 3rd party will try his best to stop u if u turn violence..Gals always got he benefits at law, ask so many lawyers liao , she cant shoot u go jail anytime wif the medicial report..so lan lan, sell the flat and divide half to her.Anyway ur must cherish your life more, loves your kids more, do more role than a dad to them. when they grown up thy will realised it, trust me.Good luck bro and hope the dim of light from god will lead you to happiness for you and your family..take care..

[wodemama]

As a man, you should not beat a woman at all. The poor woman is defenceless against a man considering the vast difference in physical strength alone.

Although u were really angry which is expected but you should have tried to resist hitting her,after all shes someone u once loved. How can you bear to lay ur hands on her?

[JJ1314]

so TS, how is the situation now? if everything fine?
if u can accept ur wife having sex with other men, live with it.
if u cannot, just file a divorce.
i know it hurts but u don't have much of a choice.
violence dont resolves hurt, it magnifies it.

[ryaw]

All of u muz understand tat when TS finds out the truth he sure damn hot wan leh,so he sure whack the wife wan lah.But my advice to TS is the fact tat u whack yr wife shows tat u dun seem to be one who will dote on yr wife so if u r yr wife will u wan to be wif a wife beater? So i suggest to u tat if yr wife wan to reconcile,then u can consider but if she wan to leave u...then dun need to tok much! she dun leave wif this guy oso will leave wif some other guy some day.Dun waste time meeting tat guy lah,u cannot salvage anything wan lah,u will only let tat guy insult u more only.So dun be ''gong kia''

[ch18]

Cut off that guy's dick and ask your wife to eat it...........Still not happy then go fxxk that guy's wife...........

[pippo]

hey guys a slightly lighter issue here, lately on Facebook I came across this dude's account. He who used to date my gf before me. My gf complained he was abit too touchy and flirtatious, so that is why my gf stopped seeing him and met me later on.

Bugger joined her in salsa last time in order to get to know her. Then recently this dude put their pic when they were in a salsa pose as one of his personal profile pics. That rest of the set consists of his pics with his ex gf, another gal. I find this pic misleading as many people me and my gf know will view this pic.

So guys, should i complain to my gf about this, so that she can tell him off, or warn him myself or straighten with my gf if they really were together at all. Or am I just too free and bothered about small stuffs. :rolleyes:

[David_Villa]

IMHO never used force on lady, if want to vent ur anger go and look for the guy and teach a lesson. :cool:

[WolfieY2k]

I dont approve on laying hands on ladies. Although what she did was not right, but that does not mean you have the right to hit her.



agree... when my girl cheated on me with my homie... i nv even felt angry at her... i just hated him, and blame myself... and of cos get ppl beat him up lar! but will never lay hand on women.... i value women too much....

if u want hurt him... get other ppl to do it, and also to just under the point of causing grevious hurt... so spf dun charge u, but that guy can lauch a civil suit if he want... as the saying goes, dont dirty own hand, and dont get caught!

[WolfieY2k]

Guy gets cuckold = ego gets hurt. Taking out on girl only make u look worst imo.. Teach the bugger a lesson to gain back your cred man! You know... in middle east... they stone adulterers to death XD !

So... if u want to throw stones! remember hide your hands!

p.s. dun bed the guy's wife/gf imo.. she must be fugly that he went to look for other fish...

[TheGreatOne]

[QUOTE=WolfieY2k;3150210]agree... when my girl cheated on me with my homie... i nv even felt angry at her... i just hated him, and blame myself... and of cos get ppl beat him up lar! but will never lay hand on women.... i value women too much....

if u want hurt him... get other ppl to do it

Whose girl was that? Yours or your friends'? Your girl kena snatched you get other people to stand up for your ego ar?? Some big ego you have there.

Lost own thing, get them back by your own mean! Whining to friends to get them take back for you? That's the way you handle things eh?

Did you call out your friends' name one by one when you having good time with her? Really screwed up mentality...

[strikeking73]

Beating him dun stop him from seeing ur wife again. U end up in jail later and he become the winner. Find someone from oversea to kill or beat him seriously. Watch a movie with friends in cinerma, to prove nothing to do with you at that time and u got friends as a supporter. Malaysia and thailand got this service. Or forget it cos it doesnt worth it for a woman to ruin ur happiness. A man has do alot of thing to do and there are more pretty, sexy and young ger in this world for us to woo.

[mseveninch]

Yes, I agree that - no matter what had happen - once never raise hand on a women. The hurt is very......................painfull and may end up in Special VIP Resort for a long holiday.

My opinion in getting back to the man - bring him up to high rise building to talk over pain compensation to end the story. If he can't pay for damage done - well on the spot - he jump off ( suicide ) for fucking other people's wife.

These way - he wrap it up upon on himself. You hurt no body and no evident that point at you for along holiday at Changi ( Ensure no 3rd party during the compensation confrontation ). Than who care? As saying goes - Eat Salt Must Able To Withstand Dirst.:rolleyes:

[cheongsterjon]

What is the point in killing or maiming the guy who upped your gf or wifey when often it is your girl who went to seduce the other party(as a matter or fact). The fact that they have consensual sex means that your girl also agreed to it, ain't it? Be a man, take things in your stride, there are so many beautiful and sexy women out there for us, make your girl regret in leaving you. Whatever, I will never accept back a girl who has cuckholded me. I don't mind FL and WL having been upped by other men but for your own girl to be bonked by someone else, it's too dirty already.

[K.N.N]

i think the way jus like you in the past.
but when things actually happened on you.
its a different story.

[SammyHulk]

Mother always have a right to the custody unless she:

a) on drugs
b) irresponsible
c) abuse the kids

If she is not working, then HB may have to pay both wife & child maintenance. Of course most woman when in divorce situation will try to be self-sufficient and be independent in improve their chance of custody (just in case)

Nowadays, court will mostly award joint custody with care and control under one parent unless there are exceptional circumstances.

Hmmmm.... I've got a question, if the ex-wifey ask for a token of $1 maintenance, is it gonna be ez for her to rise the maintenance fee in future, working vs outta job? If she opt for no maintenance fee, tat mean she oledi forfeit her right to ask for it in future?

[myst]

Don't even give that dollar if she is self sufficient. That dollar will enable her to up the maintenance when her environment changes.

Yes, by not asking, she forfeits. That is why most lawyer will advise their women clients to take $1 even if they do not need it.

Hmmmm.... I've got a question, if the ex-wifey ask for a token of $1 maintenance, is it gonna be ez for her to rise the maintenance fee in future, working vs outta job? If she opt for no maintenance fee, tat mean she oledi forfeit her right to ask for it in future?

[David_Villa]

[QUOTE=WolfieY2k;3150210]

Lost own thing, get them back by your own mean!

well said bro. :)

[Frankiestine]

Hmmmm.... I've got a question, if the ex-wifey ask for a token of $1 maintenance, is it gonna be ez for her to rise the maintenance fee in future, working vs outta job? If she opt for no maintenance fee, tat mean she oledi forfeit her right to ask for it in future?

yes but smart lawyers will tell the ex to at least leave it down to $1 even if the woman does not want a single cents...this is to leave room for her for future claims to increase if any change in circumstances...so the best if she say she don't want a single cents faster get her to put it down on writing..got a friend who very lucky as they have no children, both wants a 100% clean break so ex opt not to ask for a single cents...

[Poison999]

Lets' be reasonable. You cannot control your wife, why beat up the opposite party. After all, the wife is yours. You did not fark and satisfy her on bed as well as her emotion, and you wanna blame the opposite party. Come, come. . . if you did your husband duties well, your wife will not resort to seek others attention. Look what happened, you even beat up your wife so badly that she is awarded in Hospital. Guess, you don't deserve to be married. What you need is to set her free and be single again. Being a husband is a responable duty for life.:)

Totally agreed!!!!!!!! :)

[Moredhel]

That's why I always advise my friends, if you are not married, don't ever get married. At least not in Singapore, or you are sure you have found the right one. If you get married here, basically I see it as you're pretty fucked. No offence meant to married bros here.

I follow the Buddhist teachings to have as little as or no attachments, House, Car, GF, Wife, Kids, are huge investments which both the Nation and the attachment will penalize you for, most of the time for life. And even if you decide to give up any of them, the penalty is comparable to cancelling your HP line, just a 1000 times worse. :mad:

Right now I'm staying single, or attached on my terms when opportunity presents itself, earn more money and cultivate more friends. Planning to use whatever I save to see the world instead of being cooped up in deary old SIngapore where most of the females think that they are goddesses or that they(as individuals), think that they are god's gift to men. :rolleyes:

Just my 2 cents.

No offence intended to any individual, institution or gender.
That's just the way it is in Sillypore.

[ChinaFriends67]

something interesting here that I would like to share with Bro's here for reading pleasure. Somehow I found this article from AsiaOne ( Husband pleads for unfaithful wife to return (http://www.asiaone.com/Just%2BWoman/News/Women%2BIn%2BThe%2BNews/Story/A1Story20081022-95555.html) )

Husband pleads for unfaithful wife to return

Mr Tan thought he had a happy and loving marriage. That was, until his wife suddenly left him and their two children last Wednesday.

The 49-year-old delivery-man recounted how he met his wife in August 1997 and got married after a 3-month whirlwind courtship. Their 11-year union produced two children, a boy and a girl. While he continued to work, his wife stayed at home to take care of the family..

But their marriage began to unravel in March last year, when she started work as a helper at a dessert stall.

In September 2007, he noticed that his wife began to return home later than usual. He told Shin Min Daily: "She started coming home late, sometimes even as late as midnight or 2am."

He also said that when he questioned her, she would either give the excuse that she took the wrong bus, or that she lost her way. Still, he chose to trust her and "continued to care for her".

Things took a turn for the worse one month ago, when his wife's moods became very sour.

She accused Mr Tan of being violent towards her and the children, and they eventually went for marriage counselling sessions to resolve the issue. But the situation did not improve and her behaviour became more erratic.

By then, Mr Tan's suspicions were aroused and he hired a private detective to monitor his wife's activities. The investigations revealed that his wife was having an affair. Mr Tan found out that his wife had frequent trysts in hotels with a man. After emerging from the hotel, the man would then send his wife home.

Mr Tan recognised the man as a noodle hawker who works in the same food centre as his wife. He believes their affair started after they got to know each other at the food centre.

"I don't blame her"

Mr Tan did not ask his wife for a divorce after discovering her affair. In an effort to save their marriage, he allowed his wife to remain with the family, even going to the extent of doubling her allowance from $500 to $1000 a month. But his efforts were futile.

On October 15, his wife packed her bags and left the house without a word. She has not returned since.

Despite her affair and abandonment, Mr Tan still hopes for a reconciliation. He told ShinMin Daily: "I do not blame her. I just hope that she will still remain as my wife."

Cheers,
:eek::eek::eek:

[Moredhel]

something interesting here that I would like to share with Bro's here for reading pleasure. Somehow I found this article from AsiaOne ( Husband pleads for unfaithful wife to return (http://www.asiaone.com/Just%2BWoman/News/Women%2BIn%2BThe%2BNews/Story/A1Story20081022-95555.html) )

Husband pleads for unfaithful wife to return

not blame her. I just hope that she will still remain as my wife."

Cheers,
:eek::eek::eek:

I really respect him. His yi luan ji shi tactic damn power. But then if he's the whiny type who really wants his wife back, then really jialat. Have some pride, for heaven's sake.

[ChinaFriends67]

I really respect him. His yi luan ji shi tactic damn power. But then if he's the whiny type who really wants his wife back, then really jialat. Have some pride, for heaven's sake.

Actually to look at things happening around us (eg. War, Politian fighting to gain power, Financial crisis, Environment crisis), what belongs to us now might not belong to us tomorrow. People losing their lives & money everyday, it’s really a very sad sight and also a very cruel world that we’re all living in.

Like Buddhist teachings, when we come into this world, we’re all empty handed. Even if we have a million dollars or so, but when the moment we leave, we leave with an empty handed hands.

However, I really appreciate his guts of courage for making it public that he still wants his wife back despite of what she had done to both him and their family. I’m sure not many guys like myself might be able to accept the true facts. However, he could let down his own ego & pride for the sick to re-united his family just for their children. He is really a good man that we should learn from.

Just my 2-cents worth of opinion!!!:D;):D

[Frankiestine]

However, I really appreciate his guts of courage for making it public that he still wants his wife back despite of what she had done to both him and their family.

actually his action is a double edge sword, on one hand he wants to show he is a magnanimous man and on the other hand he is telling the world this woman is a slut.

[DieCorkStand]

That's why I always advise my friends, if you are not married, don't ever get married. At least not in Singapore, or you are sure you have found the right one. If you get married here, basically I see it as you're pretty fucked. No offence meant to married bros here.

I follow the Buddhist teachings to have as little as or no attachments, House, Car, GF, Wife, Kids, are huge investments which both the Nation and the attachment will penalize you for, most of the time for life. And even if you decide to give up any of them, the penalty is comparable to cancelling your HP line, just a 1000 times worse. :mad:

Right now I'm staying single, or attached on my terms when opportunity presents itself, earn more money and cultivate more friends. Planning to use whatever I save to see the world instead of being cooped up in deary old SIngapore where most of the females think that they are goddesses or that they(as individuals), think that they are god's gift to men. :rolleyes:

Just my 2 cents.

No offence intended to any individual, institution or gender.
That's just the way it is in Sillypore.


Hi bro, most of the time it takes 2 hands to clap. You just mention your side of story. There are many happy families here in Singapore. You are loser doesn't mean everyone will be.

First you choose your wife, and now you think that you have make a wrong choice, that only can mean your ability to choose is in doubt.

In general, most people do not see their own fault, or even they know they may at fault too but choose to ignore and push the blame to others.

You are a very negative man. I advise all Bros if you come to know of friends with such attitude, pls leave them alone. As they only brings negative tots, not constructive, blame everyone inthe world except themselves.

;)

[Max77]

First,the ability to understand why it happen (not wad u think why it happen).There's always a reason for everything.When u don't get it,anger and frustration is often resulted.Seek for the answer to ur anger and frustration and u'll understand.After tat,choose the path u'll wanna walk towards to carry on.(From my own experience)

I hoped there's a happy ending...it's such an old thread maybe TS given up on this thread?any feedback?

[Dahu]

Keeping your marriage is like making sure that your gas tank is full. So pay attention to warning signs. Further in marriage both parties must be good forgiver.

[K.N.N]

buying petrol to pour at the guy & light his cock on fire.
make sure he can't use it in future.

*did the PAP guy up the old man's wife??

[Bangster]

Try not to emulate scenes from gangster movies.

Gets you nowhere but Changi Resort.

Anyways, this thread should be closed liao.

Please kindly refrain from restarting an unhappy thread.

[K.N.N]

maybe you can share a thing or 2 on how to react?
send the guy who fuck your wife some chocolate with roses?

Please kindly refrain from restarting an unhappy thread. *agreed

zapping is the only solution in this forum.
try not to think too much about points.