Lover or Fuck buddy

[In luv w Lust]

Wondering about Lover and Fuck buddy ...
Need a man;) view

[zidanetan]

For Lover, it should be long lasting relationship

For F**k, i think it would temporary needed oni. but don content of mean happiness.

[gilagila100]

Wondering about Lover and Fuck buddy ...
Need a man;) view

Assuming that you are a female sbf member here ...

Anyway, in my vocab, there are distinct differences between gf, lover and fb ...

GF: The person that I am dating and hope to be my lover. Most of the time, there's no sex involved, yet ... :p

Lover: The person that I am dating and emotionally involved with. Very big possibility to make to the next stage which is marriage or at least a long-term relationship ...

Fuck buddy: For purely sexual reasons. For some reasons on either side, it could be either one of us is attached, or due to some personality issues that makes it difficult to be GF or Lover, we would have to stay on as fuck buddies. Basically, enjoys sex with each other with no other strings attached.

For most guys, I think it is easier to differentiate between sex and love. For women, I haven't really know any that managed to do that yet.

Most of the fb stories or experience I read in sbf involves older women. I guess older women are more matured and comfortable with their current lifestyles therefore they are no longer looking for a long-term relationship but maybe need a few good sex sessions every now and then to fulfill their desires.

Just my two cents ...

[soccersaint]

Assuming that you are a female sbf member here ...

Anyway, in my vocab, there are distinct differences between gf, lover and fb ...

GF: The person that I am dating and hope to be my lover. Most of the time, there's no sex involved, yet ... :p

Lover: The person that I am dating and emotionally involved with. Very big possibility to make to the next stage which is marriage or at least a long-term relationship ...

Fuck buddy: For purely sexual reasons. For some reasons on either side, it could be either one of us is attached, or due to some personality issues that makes it difficult to be GF or Lover, we would have to stay on as fuck buddies. Basically, enjoys sex with each other with no other strings attached.

For most guys, I think it is easier to differentiate between sex and love. For women, I haven't really know any that managed to do that yet.

Most of the fb stories or experience I read in sbf involves older women. I guess older women are more matured and comfortable with their current lifestyles therefore they are no longer looking for a long-term relationship but maybe need a few good sex sessions every now and then to fulfill their desires.

Just my two cents ...

Great minds think alike bro:D

[lao_teeko]

most men can detatch sex with feelings...we dont need to have any feelings for the person we have sex with..

most females cannot....they must have feelings for the guy before they are willing to have sex..prostitutes and WLs not included..

men will usually only have 1 lover/gf..high cost to upkeep..

but men will wish for more fuck buddies..the more the merrier!

[fenwick]

most men can detatch sex with feelings...we dont need to have any feelings for the person we have sex with..

most females cannot....they must have feelings for the guy before they are willing to have sex..prostitutes and WLs not included..

men will usually only have 1 lover/gf..high cost to upkeep..

but men will wish for more fuck buddies..the more the merrier!

Totally agree with you bro !!!:p

[$|im]

who cares its lover or FB??:confused:

Important thing we get to enjoy at the end of the day!:D

[Bangster]

InLuvWLust,

you want a man view ah?

Come come, come my house I let you view gao gao. Anywhere, any part.

:D:D

Aiyah you want to know the difference between a lover and a fuck buddy is it?

Ok lah, I tell you, from a man's point of view -

When a man shafts his cock into a woman's pussy, and tell her "I love you", she is the LOVER of that man.

When a man shafts his cock into a woman's pussy, give her that "Haha! I'm gonna have all the fun in this world tonight!!" look, she is the Fuck Buddy.

Either way, it hard to tell unless the man gets to shaft his cock inside. Arrrh, then it'll be alot easier.
;)

[Criminalz]

I dunno...
cant tell the difference too...

but cant be bother.

[humpcheepang]

Wondering about Lover and Fuck buddy ...
Need a man;) view

???

I f88k my FB, and I f88k my lover too! What is the difference? :rolleyes:

[In luv w Lust]

ok...thk u for all reply...basically i understand all...but the most pratical is bangster one..coz most pratical..can immediately relate..though sound quite rude intitally...

ok some background...had someone ...involve emotionally n physically..
cnt be tog due to both have partners.. n even w/o commiments knoe we will not last... will nvr leave partners ..but care abt each other alot..
so was confused

[eastofsg]

hmm.....

FD, someone u fuck around with without any emotional attachment...
u fuck or let your fb fuck you with pure physical lust

Lover, someone u make out with sharing sense of emotional attachment...
u make love or your lover made love to you with passion and desire

Ideally, to have the best of both worlds, fuck like a lover and make out like a fb.

[In luv w Lust]

ok more..things was lusty in the beginning... then he pull back bcoz he do not want to continue..as this is wrong... but struggle with his emotions as see me cannot tahan ...heee...i was also struggling ...but i knoe i want him n in fact the more he resist the more i "like" him...after a year.. he give in to his emotions and we are tog... the thing is i was wondering whether it is possible to have each other as confidant...even try to help each other marriage by giving our views as opp sex n let each other understand our partners more..
both of us knoe FOR SURE we will not leave our commitments..n we are not really right for each other in terms of character..but despite that we still care for each other ...
ok...lets talk abt sex... sex is not even fanatastic ...but i think to him it is.. hahah... maybe bcoz i was too nervous..time n place is wrong..
wanted to leave him actually.. but cnt bear to...

[geckoSG]

Well, TS. I've been there and now out of my 3rd FLING (with EMOTION).
Trust me, dun go deep into anything EMOTIONAL, its very hurting for both
parties and may turn sour, not even friendship after that.

My suggestion is, remain as FRIEND. But those type that you feel comfy
to be with, happy to be with emotionally. No expectation, no demands.
If comfy on sex, just do it without regrets. I'm sure you will be able to last
long with such agreement on both parties.

I'm having that sort of Relationship now with my Fourth Fling, its better this
way. We meet, be comfy together, no expectation, no demands. SEX is great
for both of us. :D

[hippolover]

If you cant define the roles from an emotional friend to a fuck buddy...best is to distance yourself from him.

Fuck buddy should have feelings...but once that feeling goes beyond just wanting him physically, then its time to stop.

[~|@|~]

keep things simple:

Lover = Love

Fuck Buddy = Lust

can? ;)

[skirtchaser639]

hmm...my 5 cents comment (crudely)

Lover
Find a place together to shaft or be shaft, after all the fluid release, still want to stay together in that place forever.

Fuck Buddy
Find a hotel together to poke or be poke, after playing with the sticky juice, just want to leave until next meeting.

TS, if you do not want to hurt or get hurt, try to be less emotional attach when you fuck.
(if you are a bro, should be quite easy, if you are a sis, try to think of sex only)
Normal for human to care for friend, not wise to get emotion involvement with others if you still love your current partner.
Learn from RSAF high tech missile, fire and forget. :D

[oopsla121]

I have a fb for 4 years she & i also married, for me she is a friend & fb but for her i don't know.

[poorman4sex]

wanted to leave him actually.. but cnt bear to...

dump him and PM me:D

[MorningKisses]

Hi In Luv w Lust,

I'd been in a similar situation as you before and I would think it is better to stay away.

I think girls are mostly at a disadvantage for this because as you pour your emotions into this relationship, the guys are just riping the girlfriend feeling/sexual benefits out of it.

I know you can't bear to but you gotta try as it will only get emotionally straining.

Just my 2 cents worth of advice and I apologize in advance if my words have caused displeasure among some guys/girls. :)

[WolfWoof]

i have a similar case too recently just ended..

both of us are attached with our own commitments..
we meet up often and more often den not.. end up having sex everywhere cept in the house :p

but things came to a halt when she sorta got emo attached too much..
i kinda decided to stop it before things worsen up and i think she also realised how deep she was in so she was quite agreeable.. though till now.. i think i broke her heart.. :(

[BigBoy2]

Hi,

Just my 2 cents worth........
I had Fxxk buddies before, and from what I had discovered, after some times, one tends to put feelings into this sort of relationship.

Therefore, my advise is to move on to another one and drop the current one, especially you discover that you starts to have feelings for him.

Till date, I am into my 12th FB for the past 10 years. There are lots of guys out there whom I think can satisfy your needs.

BB2

[Frankiestine]

Till date, I am into my 12th FB for the past 10 years. There are lots of guys out there whom I think can satisfy your needs.
BB2
:eek: how you managed to find them...limpeh find so hard also cannot find one...:(

[geckoSG]

In your case, TS, do consider to move on if u can't handle the emotional part.

Can PM me if u wanna talk about it in details. ;)

[Frankiestine]

TS can contact me too, I will more then pleased to show her the difference between a FB and lover...:p:p:D:D

[blackwhack]

ok more..things was lusty in the beginning... then he pull back bcoz he do not want to continue..as this is wrong... but struggle with his emotions as see me cannot tahan ...heee...i was also struggling ...but i knoe i want him n in fact the more he resist the more i "like" him...after a year.. he give in to his emotions and we are tog... the thing is i was wondering whether it is possible to have each other as confidant...even try to help each other marriage by giving our views as opp sex n let each other understand our partners more..
both of us knoe FOR SURE we will not leave our commitments..n we are not really right for each other in terms of character..but despite that we still care for each other ...
ok...lets talk abt sex... sex is not even fanatastic ...but i think to him it is.. hahah... maybe bcoz i was too nervous..time n place is wrong..
wanted to leave him actually.. but cnt bear to...

what your guy went through sounds like what i went through also. the feelings of guilt ate into me and i stopped seeing her for a while. but the pull was so strong that i came back. we did think about being buddies...not fb. but i think its very hard to with the emotional baggage. i guess we can be considered lovers.

if you can convince yourself to leave him you should since such relationship may not be forever. its damn difficult to leave i know. go for a less complicated package if you can.

after saying all this i suddenly had this funny thought that you might be her :o

[Starlite]

Wondering about Lover and Fuck buddy ...
Need a man;) view

My view is that as Fuck Buddy, is like a playmate, need to put off fire call for help, and there comes the FB.

As Lover, it is an intimate relationship that may or maynot lead to sex, but the possibility of further progress to marriage, because the relationship is there to keep passion going.

[BigBoy2]

:eek: how you managed to find them...limpeh find so hard also cannot find one...:(

Simple, keep your circle of friends big big, once in a while drop into the chatline (chances are very slim, only got 1 which lasted 3 months), look for mature group hang out place age group between 38 ~ 40s, etc. You will soon see. Most of all till date I am still single, so plenty of time ( I am into my 40s soon).

BB2

[unicorn]

ok more..things was lusty in the beginning... then he pull back bcoz he do not want to continue..as this is wrong... but struggle with his emotions as see me cannot tahan ...heee...i was also struggling ...but i knoe i want him n in fact the more he resist the more i "like" him...after a year.. he give in to his emotions and we are tog... the thing is i was wondering whether it is possible to have each other as confidant...even try to help each other marriage by giving our views as opp sex n let each other understand our partners more..
both of us knoe FOR SURE we will not leave our commitments..n we are not really right for each other in terms of character..but despite that we still care for each other ...
ok...lets talk abt sex... sex is not even fanatastic ...but i think to him it is.. hahah... maybe bcoz i was too nervous..time n place is wrong..
wanted to leave him actually.. but cnt bear to...

TS,

Sincerely, I have been experiencing this similar scenerio on the opposite side of the spectrum. With your information portrayed, I'll give you a good chance that your relationship with him will last for quite some time, till the either spouse starts to suspect the anomalies...largely based on the respect and distance both are able keep for the others family.


Guess, what has occured to you are not strange as Many of us in SBF including me, have been managing these relationship/s for sometime...mind you hor .... only 1 at a time...not juggling....

Conscience and emotional needs are always in contraction...therefore, pick the route which would normalises your kind soul's back to a human / wife / mother / etc....Conscience is only a bunch of moral craps of some prude's invention which will turn any being into a monster (wife battering/wreaked families / broken relationships / child abuse / etc)...look others chooses you too, therefore, its not a 'I want it, and you'll have it kind of situation !!'...Have fun....but do not...I mean DO NOT Indulge !!


The worst will be the one I encounter which threatens to end my family relations....totally unable to comprehend her motives, as she is extremely protective of her family too ??? Well guess this what I call playing with fire...bottomline...jettison her lor...


But then there are better relationships which was fantastic F/B : ) basically funs, sextistfactions to reveal our inner needs and safe (the trust that we will not comprehend the other soul's life and future) ... which one will never experience from a street walker or spouse.....as professionals, its easier for us to understand one another limits and what we seek are pure sexual tension relief over our straineous life...but go home in an even mode to be our good husband and wife after...

Hope to share what I have experienced in my individual point of view to relief your kind soul from confusion : )

Finally, I bidding you a good sexual life with many happy orgasms and climaxes :)


Cheers
UniQ

[Red-Card]

:eek: how you managed to find them...limpeh find so hard also cannot find one...:(

Just got one, a long lost ex-classmate.

[ch18]

Doesn't matter cos in the end, you will 'up' them be it Lover or Fuck buddies.......

[Frankiestine]

Just got one, a long lost ex-classmate.

hmmm...better start digging my past year books and look for contacts....:D:D:D

[water_boi]

I got to meet a stewardess at a pub not long ago, she actually invited me to send her back.
While back at her place, 1 thing lead to another and ended she my "buddy".. :p:p
But i did make myself very clear to her I am married and she accepted it.
So to all the bro looking for fun outside, jus make yourself very clear to the targets, I am sure they are more than willing to be your lover or buudy if you are honest enough..
Hope i not off topic, jus sharing...

[In luv w Lust]

hi all whom had reply... some updates... its over..bcoz i end it , on impluse, coz i cant take it.. im always there when he needs me..but he is not with me when i need him..i been on the waiting mode for 80% of the time...its sad to be with him...but it is even sadder to be w/o him.. i do not know how to move on .........

at times i feel "im Free without you" u dont deserve me...
who says i will be sadder with you..

at times no rational-ling works..i just feel plain sad...

he is like a part of my life..he can never ever replace my hubby whom is the love of my life..but he is the like of my life...
its funni how i can separate both of them so well...now it just feels like a part of me dies...

worst part is i see him regularly...n it sucks...
he do not want to get back tog..i tried..
he want to be my soulmates..but i think he is humouring me..
bcoz i ask for a patch up...no replies for 2 -3 days until i ask him for a talk..then he suggests this...my pride n six sense turn him down flat..

i hate him..hate him for bring so insincere thru out...so cruel to me...
bt still i cant forget him..even though i knoe i come n struggle a long way..to reach this pt..i do not want to get back..coz i will waste all my efforts...but i still miss him..

[dgsk]

I am so sorry for your pain. But I think it is clear that you are not made for fb relationships. You were more into a Lover thing and with it the emotional attachments. He is obviously not wanting an emotional relationship, but needed the occasional release.
As most bros here have already said, they look upon the girl as FB but they don't know what the other party thinks. It says it all right there.
Cool off is easy to say but it is exactly that which you have to do now. Be aloof and distant with him, just like you would any other male colleague. Let time do the rest.
Good Luck.

[Thom07]

Time to move on... ;)

[Blue_gal]

To me :

Lover - involve "LOVE". A person whom you can share your life and your LOVE...if you are lucky enough, the lover can latter be a partner then it will be a happy ending..(the person whom you will end up marry to..)

Fuck Buddy - involve "FUCK". A person whom you can ONLY share your "LUST" & "FANTASY"..no other connection...believe me it very CLEAR stated FB = "FUCK" n "BYE" meaning sooner or later..

Now if you have choose to keep this marriage, try your best to improve the r/s wif hubby --> turn the hubby into a lover....else marriage will END Sooner or later ...

If you are not ready for the "GAME" dun play ....--> golden line for you...in the FB's world there is not so called "ever lasting.." cheer!

Just the 1 cent of my sharing..

Good luck!
Bitch Blue Anutie :)

[infinitiumus]

hi all whom had reply... some updates... its over..bcoz i end it , on impluse, coz i cant take it.. im always there when he needs me..but he is not with me when i need him..i been on the waiting mode for 80% of the time...its sad to be with him...but it is even sadder to be w/o him.. i do not know how to move on .........



It is always difficult to draw a line between lover or fuck buddy and in your circumstances - i guess it is even more difficult due to the unavailability of him.

Even for myself, sometimes I am confused too and when I am in doubt, I always try to steer clear so as not to be too deeply immersed. That said, nothing is too difficult if we put our minds on it.

[bonkster69]

Best way to describe a F.B or FxxK Buddy is

Friends with Benefits

[rain8893]

How and where to find FB?

Anyone has friends to recommend to meet up?

[Megatronzombie]

i hate him..hate him for bring so insincere thru out...so cruel to me...
bt still i cant forget him..even though i knoe i come n struggle a long way..to reach this pt..i do not want to get back..coz i will waste all my efforts...but i still miss him..

The tings I'm gonna say here is gonna be like a little un-SBF like but first things first:

1) It is obvious both of you do not match in terms of wants (I say wants because its not a necessity but something you ound out and realised you wanted it i.e. HIM). You wanted a fling but definitely can't control your emotion and your mind turned him from a FB to a lover. He on the other hand is definitely looking for a FB and he springled a little "nothings" in the relationship to make you want him more. In a sense he (probably didnt know it himself) is setting emotional traps for you t fall and want him more so that the FB relationship can go on. So, now that he realised you actually considered him more than a FB, he realised what he has done. And, I know this will kind ahurt you but i gotta say it: he did the right thing to stop the FB relationship because you have stepped in too far when the original contract is that you both will not get out of your current commitment. So, its time to move on, he gave you a way out, yes you despise him but let the bygones be.

Now to the un-SBF thingie :p bros dun kill me for this as i think its true..
2) It will be strange for me to say this but have you considered having a baby? You are in one stage of your life where life is a standstill. Your husband is probably trying to earn a living for the family and dont have much time for you or dont have much time to understand your needs as he is always tired or something. And you are probably quite free with a 9 to 5 job, hence the time to have a FB/lover. A baby changes a lot of things in a relationship with your husband. I am serious coz Isee how that changed my friend and his wife. I can't tell you more than that but the husband became a lot more attentive, he doest stay out late nights work or drinking with us. He is happy and dot on his wife. His wife we can see is also happier and actually less slutty haha!! (yes, she was slutty and we once notced she made passes to one of our colleagues :p). She is all in to the baby thing and enjoying the moment of her husband's adoration.

So, thats my 2 cents worth, hope it helps.

[prmcat]

It's good that you end it, you should cherish the one you love most. Don't commit too much in FB, they are only there for your need.

[Frankiestine]

hi all whom had reply... some updates... its over..bcoz i end it , on impluse, coz i cant take it.. im always there when he needs me..but he is not with me when i need him..i been on the waiting mode for 80% of the time...its sad to be with him...but it is even sadder to be w/o him.. i do not know how to move on

Lady you already got husband what do you expect...? If you want to play the field like us guys then you should know that emotional entanglements are a big no no.....

[Magpies]

I'm a live example of FB turned lover turned bf/gf...we were both in the midst of divorce when we were FB, we had been playing outside on our own for the past few years and now...the love is damn strong..is like after such a long journey, you found the one which initially involved only lust....juz my 2 cents worth...:D

[Frankiestine]

I'm a live example of FB turned lover turned bf/gf...we were both in the midst of divorce when we were FB, we had been playing outside on our own for the past few years and now...the love is damn strong..is like after such a long journey, you found the one which initially involved only lust....juz my 2 cents worth...:D

well many years back my fb who was single became my oc after i went thru my divorce...back then got everything love feeling hate...etc but if given a choice now i won't want to invest all this in...

[steamer]

hi all whom had reply... some updates... its over..bcoz i end it , on impluse, coz i cant take it.. im always there when he needs me..but he is not with me when i need him..i been on the waiting mode for 80% of the time...its sad to be with him...but it is even sadder to be w/o him.. i do not know how to move on .........

at times i feel "im Free without you" u dont deserve me...
who says i will be sadder with you..

at times no rational-ling works..i just feel plain sad...

he is like a part of my life..he can never ever replace my hubby whom is the love of my life..but he is the like of my life...


hi,
many here hv walked down the same path as you in one way or another. But the rules of the game always apply when u fling; your spouse n family always come first no matter wat. If a fb or lover cant accept that, any responsible man or woman will walk away from this other relationship.
The more he thinks u cling to him, the more he will want to have less of the relationship. It wud seem to be getting to a dangerous stage.
juz my 2 cents.
In any case, either u move on or u abide by the rules.
All the bestest. :)

[In luv w Lust]

hi all ..well to set the records straight i ask him from the start whether we want to be FB or lover.. he said lover... of coz saying n doing is different... esp when time is a BIG issue here...

prior to what i had said before .. truth is i did not blame him coz he play the game well...it is me who cnt..so technically the one at fault is ME.. i have only myself to blame.. i do not think he will ask for a break up so soon..if i had not initiated it

.. the difference is he can move on and stick to the decision we made..while i cnt..so technically its my fault also...

i had been the nicest.. accomodating "FB/lover" whatsoever ..so he is actually having the best of both worlds.. except for my occasional outbursts ...its me who is tolerating all the inconvencies all this time.. until i decide enuff is enuff ...this is too toturing for me..
but im a silly goose who let my sadness interfere with my decisions..so just couldnt move on ..

whatever it is.. its is OVER.. and i just need to move on..

but actually we are not really FB in the stricitest sense coz we u-knoe-wat..
not on a regular basis in fact all in all less then 5 times..
we kinda support each other and communicate alot... friends who we can share our truth feelings..
so to lose such a friend it is sad for me..

anyway thats all i can say..

[geckoSG]

Sis, its perfectly normal for you to feel this way. Just need to move on,
its your first RS outside marriage and its normal for a woman not to be
able to handle it well.

Not everyone is a player.

It pretty sad to lose someone whom you can rely on especially the
support tat each of you can render, its not just the sexual part.
I've just lose such a nice Lover and have to move on too, its a tough
path, but we still have to learn to handle it.

Take care sis, can PM me if you want bah, can share with you how
I cope with it.

[Frankiestine]

hi all ..well to set the records straight i ask him from the start whether we want to be FB or lover.. he said lover... of coz saying n doing is different... esp when time is a BIG issue here...

Well sis...FB or Lover, the golden rule of the game is especially since both parties are married, is a big no no on emotions...yes you can express your feelings for each other but not to the extend of demanding a outcome...ie leaving each other family etc...there where you over step the boundary and he got cold feet..

[infinitiumus]

hi all ..well to set the records straight i ask him from the start whether we want to be FB or lover.. he said lover... of coz saying n doing is different... esp when time is a BIG issue here...


.

It is sad but you have to move on. I am also very good friend with my FBs and/or lover whatever you call it.. it is just a term.

Some of them, even after we no longer have sex, I will meet them up for dinner, drinks etc etc

It is important we set our expectations right. Whether fb or lover, if you are a married woman and he is a married man (or even a single man), we need to know the expectations.. not everytime we want to meet we can.. if one side start to demand more time and insist on meeting it can be tough.. esp if the other party is not willing.

Best wishes to you.

[pewpew]

but actually we are not really FB in the stricitest sense coz we u-knoe-wat..
not on a regular basis in fact all in all less then 5 times..
we kinda support each other and communicate alot... friends who we can share our truth feelings..
so to lose such a friend it is sad for me..

anyway thats all i can say..

Definition for FB = Just for sex when needed, no emotion attach

Anyway. its really nice to have someone who shares your heart and body whenever you needs it, thats a blessing and its very hard to come across though.

Until now, i can only share my body but not my heart to anyone else so... I am really jealous of u...

[DTCEPL]

Until now, i can only share my body but not my heart to anyone else so... I am really jealous of u...

Bro Pewpew, you can share your money with me.....I am so willing to accept your cash:D But of course you can keep your body and heart to yourself.

[steamer]

hi all ..well to set the records straight i ask him from the start whether we want to be FB or lover.. he said lover... of coz saying n doing is different... esp when time is a BIG issue here...
prior to what i had said before .. truth is i did not blame him coz he play the game well...it is me who cnt..so technically the one at fault is ME.. i have only myself to blame.. i do not think he will ask for a break up so soon..if i had not initiated it
whatever it is.. its is OVER.. and i just need to move on..
but actually we are not really FB in the stricitest sense coz we u-knoe-wat..
not on a regular basis in fact all in all less then 5 times..
we kinda support each other and communicate alot... friends who we can share our truth feelings..
so to lose such a friend it is sad for me..

anyway thats all i can say..

many years ago i had a developing fb relationship, but i stopped it coz she was overstepping the boundaries, and we were not even at an emo stage yet. :eek:
i was also dumped once by an fb who was not happy that i cud not commit enuf time to her. this one also no emo yet.
If emo is mutual, the relationship can last a long time coz understanding comes with it. Trust me :)

[DTCEPL]

Bro Steamer always appears in FBs related thread......especially started by Sis one:D

Way to go Bro.

[steamer]

Bro Steamer always appears in FBs related thread......especially started by Sis one:D

Way to go Bro.

where my kopi? :rolleyes:

[chrissandra]

hi all ..well to set the records straight i ask him from the start whether we want to be FB or lover.. he said lover... of coz saying n doing is different... esp when time is a BIG issue here...

prior to what i had said before .. truth is i did not blame him coz he play the game well...it is me who cnt..so technically the one at fault is ME.. i have only myself to blame.. i do not think he will ask for a break up so soon..if i had not initiated it

.. the difference is he can move on and stick to the decision we made..while i cnt..so technically its my fault also...

i had been the nicest.. accomodating "FB/lover" whatsoever ..so he is actually having the best of both worlds.. except for my occasional outbursts ...its me who is tolerating all the inconvencies all this time.. until i decide enuff is enuff ...this is too toturing for me..
but im a silly goose who let my sadness interfere with my decisions..so just couldnt move on ..

whatever it is.. its is OVER.. and i just need to move on..

but actually we are not really FB in the stricitest sense coz we u-knoe-wat..
not on a regular basis in fact all in all less then 5 times..
we kinda support each other and communicate alot... friends who we can share our truth feelings..
so to lose such a friend it is sad for me..

anyway thats all i can say..


Sis i understand how ur feeling, at first u will feel very sad. guy are really very different from gals. they can play thier game very well.

[DTCEPL]

where my kopi? :rolleyes:

Kopi anytime after work.......;)

[DTCEPL]

they can play thier game very well.

Not true, I was played by women many times.........:(even after a two years relationship and she is still playing me....until I called it quit because I can't stand no more of all the lies.

[chrissandra]

Bro DTCEPL maybe u got no luck with gals. lol

[steamer]

Not true, I was played by women many times.........:(even after a two years relationship and she is still playing me....until I called it quit because I can't stand no more of all the lies.

kns, nvr take my advice..wasted :rolleyes:

[DTCEPL]

kns, nvr take my advice..wasted :rolleyes:

Yeah man, I should have taken your advice two years back.....but then I am so engrossed in the relationship that time, trying to make it good:o Should have spend the time, energy and money on Cheonging instead.

Well now that I have awaken.....its never too late to realise my mistakes and correct it, take the past 2 years as an experience and close that chapter, move on and start my life fresh again:p

Cheers

[DTCEPL]

Bro DTCEPL maybe u got no luck with gals. lol

Yeah man.....I am too naive and placed all my trust on her.....:o

Well I am a simple man with a simple mind......I tot loving a woman need not be complicated, I just need a sincere, caring and true heart....but I was wrong.....instead I found out that I need lots of Money and a BIG HEART to accomodate all the nonsense that goes with the relationship:eek:

[pewpew]

Yeah man.....I am too naive and placed all my trust on her.....:o

Well I am a simple man with a simple mind......I tot loving a woman need not be complicated, I just need a sincere, caring and true heart....but I was wrong.....instead I found out that I need lots of Money and a BIG HEART to accomodate all the nonsense that goes with the relationship:eek:


Come come pewpew sayang u *prepare lubricant* :D

Anyway, guys and girls, no different in their commitment to relationship, whoever contribute the most will suffer in the end once relationship turns sour.

I have learn from the hard and painful way though just like our bro here :(

[DTCEPL]

Come come pewpew sayang u *prepare lubricant* :D

I have learn from the hard and painful way though just like our bro here :(

Din know Bro Pewpew loved the dark rear route:eek:

Hey, your 7 Points checklist for Kena Gong Tao.....really good, can set as an early indication of kena KCed.

[porscheclub]

i hate him..hate him for bring so insincere thru out...so cruel to me...
bt still i cant forget him..even though i knoe i come n struggle a long way..to reach this pt..i do not want to get back..coz i will waste all my efforts...but i still miss him..

Sorry to hear about your story but someone has to be cruel here. Be glad he did it & u guys shouldn't even contact for the next few months. You'll hate him now but time heals. Trust me ;)

[dumbbell]

FB will be better, f and go no need tuo tuo la la sp troublesome :)

[jameslee58]

gal also know to play what ...small little things get very upset.

from my observation, guy and gal are difficult to become friend , at some point they have to develop , fell in love for example, good litmus test is do you get angry with him/her over small little thing that you think meant alot to you ? if yes, you two already emotionally involved, maybe you shoudn't confine yourself, let her/him know your feelings ...

Sis i understand how ur feeling, at first u will feel very sad. guy are really very different from gals. they can play thier game very well.

[geckoSG]

Anyway, Sis is moving on I believe.

As long as she dun regrett wat she had gone thru will be good.
Remember the good moments and move on, that's wat I did.

Tomorrow will be a better day.

[IPhone3G]

I am so envious of you all... all got FB and lover... i cant even have a gf... if wana release either DIY or WL. nv tasted love b4. Not to mention FB. haiz. ppl say u win some lose some. for me is i lose and lose. guess i am gonna have a lonely life.

1 thing for sure is i have nv come across such worries. but i wan to have such worries. haiz.

Tong ren bu tong ming.

[dec_gal]

hi all,

I'm new to this forum... but would like to hear from the advise from the guys / gals...

I had known a guy abt 3 mths ago.. jus the 2nd meetup who had an affair.. I admit that I jus cheeky & have a little feeling for him even though he is already married..

I dun treat him as a FB.. but a lover.. I'm not very sure on him..
We msn / sms almost everyday.. how do I know if he treat me not just a FB ?

We seldom meetup.. but when we meetup , we will end up in h.

[sammyboyfor]

hi all,

I'm new to this forum... but would like to hear from the advise from the guys / gals...



Should be "I would like to hear from the ADVICE.....".

"Advise" is a verb.

[Frankiestine]

hi all,

I'm new to this forum... but would like to hear from the advise from the guys / gals...

I had known a guy abt 3 mths ago.. jus the 2nd meetup who had an affair.. I admit that I jus cheeky & have a little feeling for him even though he is already married..

I dun treat him as a FB.. but a lover.. I'm not very sure on him..
We msn / sms almost everyday.. how do I know if he treat me not just a FB ?

We seldom meetup.. but when we meetup , we will end up in h.

a fb is someone who you meet up and always end up in bed....a lover is someone who other then ocassionally ending up in bed with you, brings you out for dates, shows and even the occasional oversea trip...

[pewpew]

hi all,

I'm new to this forum... but would like to hear from the advise from the guys / gals...

I had known a guy abt 3 mths ago.. jus the 2nd meetup who had an affair.. I admit that I jus cheeky & have a little feeling for him even though he is already married..

I dun treat him as a FB.. but a lover.. I'm not very sure on him..
We msn / sms almost everyday.. how do I know if he treat me not just a FB ?

We seldom meetup.. but when we meetup , we will end up in h.


Dear Sis,

Just keep in mind, like you have said, he is MARRIED, move on, no point staying with him for LOVE since he have made his commitment towards his wife, there will be no outcome unless he seperate with his wife.

Like you have said, everytime you ends up in Hotel, did he fullfill your desire? Are you satisfy with his accompany? If yes, just enjoy while you can but just becareful as its not really a wise thing to do as you are going to be the 1 losing out because eventually you will need a REAL ACCOMPANY too.

As for the feeling of the guy, what kinda conversation does he struck with you normally? love, sex or future? Frankly speaking you should know what is the real thing.

Lastly, after the 1st sex, how does he treats you? because for some guys, they prefer the moment of woo-ing girl esp those very hard 1 but after manage to bed her, they will normally slow down and starting to turn cold.

Good luck and take care. q(^oo^)p


P.S. For guys, normally we use our small head to think before our big head.

[pewpew]

I am so envious of you all... all got FB and lover... i cant even have a gf... if wana release either DIY or WL. nv tasted love b4. Not to mention FB. haiz. ppl say u win some lose some. for me is i lose and lose. guess i am gonna have a lonely life.

1 thing for sure is i have nv come across such worries. but i wan to have such worries. haiz.

Tong ren bu tong ming.

Bro, chill and cheer up, you will find your princess eventually :D

If you are handsome, girls will normally be impressed by your look.
If you are not handsome, you will have to impress them by your words.
If you are not good at word and not handsome, you will have to impress them by your action.
If you can't impress them with all the above mentioned, you will have to impress them with your money.

[wolfgang999]

dec_gal,

he only treats u as a FB lah, tt's y oways end up in H.

Lovers can do many other things becoz they are emotionally satisified, dun need sex to fill the void.

[bradpitt968]

Well, TS. I've been there and now out of my 3rd FLING (with EMOTION).
Trust me, dun go deep into anything EMOTIONAL, its very hurting for both
parties and may turn sour, not even friendship after that.

My suggestion is, remain as FRIEND. But those type that you feel comfy
to be with, happy to be with emotionally. No expectation, no demands.
If comfy on sex, just do it without regrets. I'm sure you will be able to last
long with such agreement on both parties.

I'm having that sort of Relationship now with my Fourth Fling, its better this
way. We meet, be comfy together, no expectation, no demands. SEX is great
for both of us. :D

I also want a "no strings attached" fuckbuddy leh .... but can't find. = (

[bradpitt968]

Bro, chill and cheer up, you will find your princess eventually :D

If you are handsome, girls will normally be impressed by your look.
If you are not handsome, you will have to impress them by your words.
If you are not good at word and not handsome, you will have to impress them by your action.
If you can't impress them with all the above mentioned, you will have to impress them with your money.

How true ....

The more true and sad thing is ....

I'm not handsome.
I'm not good with words.
I don't know how to impress.
I don't have money.

So how?

[bradpitt968]

Hi,

Just my 2 cents worth........
I had Fxxk buddies before, and from what I had discovered, after some times, one tends to put feelings into this sort of relationship.

Therefore, my advise is to move on to another one and drop the current one, especially you discover that you starts to have feelings for him.

Till date, I am into my 12th FB for the past 10 years. There are lots of guys out there whom I think can satisfy your needs.

BB2

Wah!! I only got 1 before .... you got 12th liao ...

Where you find them one?

[edmundhello]

Bro, how come u say u don't know when u have at least 1 FB? Maybe is FB not enough... :D

How true ....

The more true and sad thing is ....

I'm not handsome.
I'm not good with words.
I don't know how to impress.
I don't have money.

So how?

[dec_gal]

Dear Sis,

Just keep in mind, like you have said, he is MARRIED, move on, no point staying with him for LOVE since he have made his commitment towards his wife, there will be no outcome unless he seperate with his wife.

Like you have said, everytime you ends up in Hotel, did he fullfill your desire? Are you satisfy with his accompany? If yes, just enjoy while you can but just becareful as its not really a wise thing to do as you are going to be the 1 losing out because eventually you will need a REAL ACCOMPANY too.

As for the feeling of the guy, what kinda conversation does he struck with you normally? love, sex or future? Frankly speaking you should know what is the real thing.

Lastly, after the 1st sex, how does he treats you? because for some guys, they prefer the moment of woo-ing girl esp those very hard 1 but after manage to bed her, they will normally slow down and starting to turn cold.

Good luck and take care. q(^oo^)p


P.S. For guys, normally we use our small head to think before our big head.

hi pew pew,
thanks for the reply... Yes, he statisfy me..Conversation b/w us is on sex, work & what is the on-going things b/w us...

Actually after the 1st sex, he went for business trip for abt almost 3weeks but while he was on trip.. we msn alot.. and he even bought me 2 presents after the trip... I was so happy & touched.. NOt that I'm very "kian" the presents but still touched..

So we managed to meetup almost once per week for a 2mths but nowadays he is been travelling even more & wife seems to be supsecting .. so we reduce in sms & meetup..

HOwever duting his trips he will still call me before he board the plane. and msn while he is conveient...

I know there is no future but I've no intention to break he & his wife .. They hv no children . I don't mind to be what I am now.. I chosen the path myself...

Can I turn ard & ask guys who hv FB / lover, how do u guys treat them ?

[pewpew]

How true ....

The more true and sad thing is ....

I'm not handsome.
I'm not good with words.
I don't know how to impress.
I don't have money.

So how?

Got 1 FB liao still ask me how... lol

If you fail to meet the above requirement, take $12 go ask 大伯公 to 保佑 you and guide you the way to the dark side :D

[geckoSG]

We msn / sms almost everyday.. how do I know if he treat me not just a FB ?

Sis, best way to know.... Go ASK HIM! :D

[geckoSG]

Dun envy me lah bro... Sometimes its the chemistry...
I'm already out of my fourth one, cos she ganna harrassed by one
desperado... and have fear of men for a while... :(

Luckily fifth one appeared, just had a first session with her today.
Ganna raped by her... Now tired like hell...

[samschnur]

I used to know a gal online, and arranged to meet.

In the first meeting, we kissed, and sex by the third meeting.

Only then she told me she was married, while I was unattached at that time.

She was the same age as me, but on the tall and plump side....

Then we regularly met up for sex, think she treat me as her lover, as she said sex with her hubby has no kick anymore, but all the while i considered her as a FB...

But after awhile, got tired of her, and stopped contacting her..

Got another girl's contact from one of the bros here, and met her shortly after her breakup with her bf, and overnite sex by the 2nd meeting.

Again, she treated me as her new bf, but I only considered her as a FB...

[dec_gal]

Sis, best way to know.... Go ASK HIM! :D

I ask him before .. he said lover ..wonder how true ?

[geckoSG]

Sis, Disappear for a while and see if he gan cheong about U loh... :D

[dgsk]

I ask him before .. he said lover ..wonder how true ?

How true depends on how he conducts himself outside of the bedroom, girl.
Lover does not necessarily mean you are his one and only. And since you know your position as a third party, just enjoy each and every encounter as they come. That way you'll have less pain when it ends.

Cheers!

[Frankiestine]

Can I turn ard & ask guys who hv FB / lover, how do u guys treat them ?

i never treated my ex-fb as just a fb, more like my gf/lover...i bring her out for dinners, movies etc and also spend special moments like valentine, major holidays like X'mas and New Year day together....even my own birthday was spend with her...I always holds her in my arm when we are out...that why it gave her so much confidence and security in our relationship but it also proved to be my downfall cos i was not discreet at all as there were quite a few who knew about my status spotted us together..:(:(:(

[geckoSG]

Frankie bro,

I think I am slightly better than you, my lover & I dun frequent too much
those places that I go with my family one... We are very discreet even
to the extend of SMS.

I'm quite happy that my fourth fling is returning back to me, just wanna
be happy for as long as we can.

:D

[lglg666]

Frankie bro,

I think I am slightly better than you, my lover & I dun frequent too much
those places that I go with my family one... We are very discreet even
to the extend of SMS.

I'm quite happy that my fourth fling is returning back to me, just wanna
be happy for as long as we can.

:D

So bro gecko....I will be camping here to hear your lastest fling FR soon.
Cheers....lucky guy :D

[geckoSG]

Wah liao, dun think I want to pen it down so soon...

[Frankiestine]

I'm quite happy that my fourth fling is returning back to me, just wanna
be happy for as long as we can.


well good for you that they remained just as fb....mine did return to me after we call it off for about 3 months but too much shit happened after that...:(:(

since then i have never found another fb...haiz seems like to some people like me...good things happen only once...:(:(

[lglg666]

well good for you that they remained just as fb....mine did return to me after we call it off for about 3 months but too much shit happened after that...:(:(

since then i have never found another fb...haiz seems like to some people like me...good things happen only once...:(:(

Hi Bro Frankiestine,
Keep the faith....in yourself and hang on, some bros here are luckier then some.
And you too have been lucky also to have a BF before, so your turn is maybe round the corner.

Cheers!!

[Frankiestine]

Hi Bro Frankiestine,
Keep the faith....in yourself and hang on, some bros here are luckier then some.
And you too have been lucky also to have a BF before, so your turn is maybe round the corner.

Cheers!!

:eek::eek: ooi monster main lobang pang tak but only on cha bor not da bor leh...:D:D

[geckoSG]

Bro Frankie,

Its not always beautiful picture one... We just keep the beautiful memories.
That's important.

My third fling after initial breakoff, comes back to me, 3 month of short-lived
love affair and another 3 months of heart-broken.

Then came my fourth fling, we had been happy together. Just being happy
together without worries or demands, til the harrassment comes from one bastard

Be very honest, I am happy tat she is back for now, but am prepared to
lose her again, cos you should know women... Any mood swing and they
will leave you...

I'm still very concern about her and wish her well if she finds the man that
she deserved that will treat her well, at that time, I will definately leave her
to be happy with that man that can give her the better future.

Til now, I am still much in love with the third fling, and she is still in love with
me, the reason why we can't be together is that she cannot handle the RS.
We still keep in touch and show love and affection thru special occassion.

I think I got too much love in hand liao to spread around... bad of me...

To think that actually, of all the flings I had, the third & fourth really
deserved my commitment in emotion...

[michaelrocksam]

Lover - love may be informed for both parties or just one party depending on the frame of mind of the partner.

One may consider the other a lover not the other way around.

One is commited to give the other the sex and emotional support needed.

Fuck buddy - Only lust is in involved, no commitment. Only do it at your own convenience. Dun have to give the other the sex and emotional support needed. Which is fuck and forget.

If one party considers love for the other party then that is not a FB for the other party. As BLUE GAL told me before, she is falling in love with her FB so she broke up with him. This is a definition of a FB. :D

From a single guy to a single gal, is there a difference between the two? However the gap is between the 2 is very narrow.

For a married man to a single gal? Likely the gal is the FB to the guy wheresle the guy may be a lover to the girl.

From a married woman to a single guy? Likely they are FB

Both are married? Likely to be lovers

[AngelEye]

:eek::eek: ooi monster main lobang pang tak but only on cha bor not da bor leh...:D:D

Hi Bro Frankiestine,
Keep the faith....in yourself and hang on, some bros here are luckier then some.
And you too have been lucky also to have a BF before, so your turn is maybe round the corner.

Cheers!!

wahaha...wahahaha...

[AngelEye]

Lover - love may be informed for both parties or just one party depending on the frame of mind of the partner.

One may consider the other a lover not the other way around.

One is commited to give the other the sex and emotional support needed.

Fuck buddy - Only lust is in involved, no commitment. Only do it at your own convenience. Dun have to give the other the sex and emotional support needed. Which is fuck and forget.

If one party considers love for the other party then that is not a FB for the other party. As BLUE GAL told me before, she is falling in love with her FB so she broke up with him. This is a definition of a FB. :D

From a single guy to a single gal, is there a difference between the two? However the gap is between the 2 is very narrow.

For a married man to a single gal? Likely the gal is the FB to the guy wheresle the guy may be a lover to the girl.

From a married woman to a single guy? Likely they are FB

Both are married? Likely to be loversu digging all the older threads! wah... u sure got time!

[michaelrocksam]

u digging all the older threads! wah... u sure got time!

har?? I was just reading the earlier threads, I see that most of the issues are like confused over whether is FB or Lover. Thus making things clearer abit lor.

Anyway, i see that you have some experience in matters, not here to teach you hor....

Yes me got time here, but no time no money and no chance to charm you ...

Anyway, the TOTO I bought for Monday didnt strike any prize money so no bonus for u. But hope this Friday's draw will see some redemption hehe, as promise will pass to you at your offuce if really kena prize money :D

[tomvoyeur]

From a married woman to a single guy? Likely they are FB

This scenario certainly sounds enticing! ;)

PS: Married women seems hungrier and assured on sexual matters. :)

[AngelEye]

Yes me got time here, but no time no money and no chance to charm you ...

Anyway, the TOTO I bought for Monday didnt strike any prize money so no bonus for u. But hope this Friday's draw will see some redemption hehe, as promise will pass to you at your offuce if really kena prize money :D

hahaha...aiyah.. told u to buy 38, 35, 42, 1, 7, 11, 17 liao.

dun charm me la. me old hag.. not suitable for u.

[michaelrocksam]

hahaha...aiyah.. told u to buy 38, 35, 42, 1, 7, 11, 17 liao.

dun charm me la. me old hag.. not suitable for u.

ya lor, should have listen to u.

u still serving your bond, i know how young are u lah. old hag i like, esp if u are MILFY.. haha

ok whats the number to buy on Friday??

Good nite me got to sleep liao. look out for your numbers tomorrow.

[AngelEye]

ya lor, should have listen to u.

U still serving your bond, i know how young are u lah. Old hag i like, esp if u are milfy.. Haha

ok whats the number to buy on friday??

Good nite me got to sleep liao. Look out for your numbers tomorrow.

3, 11, 8, 27, 28, 39, 44

[michaelrocksam]

3, 11, 8, 27, 28, 39, 44

My Oracle of Delphi, I have bought the ticket nos as forecasted by you.

Check your PM :)

All others pls dun buy this combo, this is a our special nos.

[AngelEye]

My Oracle of Delphi, I have bought the ticket nos as forecasted by you.

Check your PM :)

All others pls dun buy this combo, this is a our special nos.wah.. u publicly announce "this is our special nos."

not scared u get hamtum by someone here? kekeke... Later he get jealous how. very hard for me to explain....

[michaelrocksam]

wah.. u publicly announce "this is our special nos."

not scared u get hamtum by someone here? kekeke... Later he get jealous how. very hard for me to explain....

who is that special someone here? hehe

so fast u grap another FB liao. thot u fed up with him?

[AngelEye]

who is that special someone here? hehe

so fast u grap another FB liao. thot u fed up with him?

fed up? since when? wat FB? u must be imagining things...

[dec_gal]

For a married man to a single gal? Likely the gal is the FB to the guy wheresle the guy may be a lover to the girl.


sigh.... think what u mentioned is quite true lo.... to a married guys to a single gal, is JUS a FB:(

is always the gals to be hurt ...

[michaelrocksam]

sigh.... think what u mentioned is quite true lo.... to a married guys to a single gal, is JUS a FB:(

is always the gals to be hurt ...

this is a primate hunter's world, the sly hunter (alpha male )will get the harem.

男人不坏, 女人不爱

alot of ladies will deny that this thing will affect them, but from what I see 男人 emits a aura that attracts them more than the average guy.

Once into the realm, ladies inevitably wanted to be seduced.

Guess you ladies have to 自拔 only u can help yourself. We men will stick cum after you.

Dec gal, u know it yet u still want to plunge yourself into the darkess (Bro Frankenstine way of expression)

[geckoSG]

sigh.... think what u mentioned is quite true lo.... to a married guys to a single gal, is JUS a FB:(

is always the gals to be hurt ...

Sis, its not truth about only the gals getting hurt. Guys do get hurt too. :o

[dec_gal]

this is a primate hunter's world, the sly hunter (alpha male )will get the harem.

男人不坏, 女人不爱

alot of ladies will deny that this thing will affect them, but from what I see 男人 emits a aura that attracts them more than the average guy.

Once into the realm, ladies inevitably wanted to be seduced.

Guess you ladies have to 自拔 only u can help yourself. We men will stick cum after you.

Dec gal, u know it yet u still want to plunge yourself into the darkess (Bro Frankenstine way of expression)

this quote : 男人不坏, 女人不爱...sounds very familar... hahahha.. he told me this also... lol

Yes. I know i will sure to be hurt in the 1st place.. but feeling jus can't control .... :(

[michaelrocksam]

this quote : 男人不坏, 女人不爱...sounds very familar... hahahha.. he told me this also... lol

Yes. I know i will sure to be hurt in the 1st place.. but feeling jus can't control .... :(

simple lor, ask him to give u $500 every time he wants you

he wun be cumming at all. haha

better for him to go look for FL. :cool: