Originally Posted by xuanz (Post 12378972)

How long you dated your partner before going down the aisle?

How soon is too soon?



Yes i kena one similar bomb, ex gf came back from US. Hang out for Christmas and now together at Vietnam(no she not vietbu). Never ended the rs initially over any bad terms, so things naturally fall back into place. Now she wants to go further.

Mai zap me for being ignorant. I'm only human.

Originally Posted by xuanz (Post 12378972)

How long you dated your partner before going down the aisle?

How soon is too soon?.

Originally Posted by yangguo (Post 12391374)

Hmm.. Personally I reckon you need to know that person for at least one year before you get to understand his/her character. But since she is your ex-gf, I guess you would have known her for sometime. If she has not changed much from the past, you may start counting the time when you first get to know her.

As for marriage, it depends very much on mutual feeling. You will know it when the time comes. I strongly believe fate plays a big part on it. Like myself, I was in a 3-years relationship with my ex before i know my wife. My ex and I were supposed to ROM but things did not turn up well at last minute. Our relationship turned sour and I was in despair until I met my wife. We got married within one year of relationship.

Looking back, God has His reasons why my past relationships did not work out as He wanted me to learn how to appreciate people and things in life.

Originally Posted by yangguo (Post 12391374)

Looking back, God has His reasons why my past relationships did not work out as He wanted me to learn how to appreciate people and things in life.

Originally Posted by ColdBlood99 (Post 12391235)

Ask yourself 1st, if you settle down with her still got time for soccer? If don't have then don't settle down :p

Originally Posted by MoJoe313;123$$$$6

Bro, you are a nice guy. No offence, but you have a strange God that punishes you with broken relationships to teach you lessons. Does he also make cars bang you to teach you how to cross roads properly?

Why not tell it as it is? You had a free choice. There are consequences of your free choice. Someone else too exercised her free choice in those relationships. It just didn't work out. And you got wiser. Nothing to do with God.

Originally Posted by MoJoe313;123$$$$6

Its like you choose to put your hand in fire. There are consequences. You get burnt. Period. Nothing to do with God. He didn't make you put your hand in fire to teach you lessons.

Originally Posted by MoJoe313;123$$$$6

Again, no offences. Just clearing up some strange beliefs. Everyone likes blame the old man when he is seriously not involved.

Originally Posted by yangguo (Post 12392617)

Huh? Do you mean you have a choice to decide who your parents or siblings are? Doesn't the same principles apply to your wife, gfs or even friends?

Especially in a relationship, loving someone wholeheartedly does not guaranteed that you will be reciprocated by the same amount of love.

Of course you do a choice to disown them but you do not have the choice to select who can be your parent in the first place.

Hope you can understand what I mean.



I reckon the above example you gave on "putting your hand in fire" is a irrelevant one. Who in his sound mind will do such a thing?

There are certain "rules" in life we have to abide with. Staying away from fire is one of the rules.



For goodness sake, I am not blaming God or anyone else. In fact anyone who has read my sentence carefully, he or she will know that I am indeed grateful for all the lessons He has taught me.

Pardon me for my bluntness. No hard feeling. :D

Originally Posted by prettymannequin (Post 12393090)

Lol. Sounds good to give yourself some time. Hope 2015 would be a much better year for you! Happy new year~ :D

Originally Posted by xuanz (Post 12393094)

Happy new year. Tell me when you comes back. I personally wait for you in arrival hall. Lololololl.

Originally Posted by prettymannequin (Post 12393163)

mai please mai. #scarredforlife lol