(wedding bells)

xuanz · #1 30-12-2014, 12:48 AM

How long you dated your partner before going down the aisle?

How soon is too soon?

Yes i kena one similar bomb, ex gf came back from US. Hang out for Christmas and now together at Vietnam(no she not vietbu). Never ended the rs initially over any bad terms, so things naturally fall back into place. Now she wants to go further.

Mai zap me for being ignorant. I'm only human.

FT86 · #2 31-12-2014, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by xuanz

How long you dated your partner before going down the aisle?

How soon is too soon?

Yes i kena one similar bomb, ex gf came back from US. Hang out for Christmas and now together at Vietnam(no she not vietbu). Never ended the rs initially over any bad terms, so things naturally fall back into place. Now she wants to go further.

Mai zap me for being ignorant. I'm only human.

She just back from us? And u all back together since Xmas until now and she wants to settle down?

ColdBlood99 · #3 01-01-2015, 01:47 PM

Ask yourself 1st, if you settle down with her still got time for soccer? If don't have then don't settle down

topcook1 · #4 01-01-2015, 02:24 PM

Dont dig your own grave......

yangguo · #5 01-01-2015, 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by xuanz

How long you dated your partner before going down the aisle?

How soon is too soon?.

Hmm.. Personally I reckon you need to know that person for at least one year before you get to understand his/her character. But since she is your ex-gf, I guess you would have known her for sometime. If she has not changed much from the past, you may start counting the time when you first get to know her.

As for marriage, it depends very much on mutual feeling. You will know it when the time comes. I strongly believe fate plays a big part on it. Like myself, I was in a 3-years relationship with my ex before i know my wife. My ex and I were supposed to ROM but things did not turn up well at last minute. Our relationship turned sour and I was in despair until I met my wife. We got married within one year of relationship.

Looking back, God has His reasons why my past relationships did not work out as He wanted me to learn how to appreciate people and things in life.

Greenfrog · #6 01-01-2015, 02:52 PM

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Hmm.. Personally I reckon you need to know that person for at least one year before you get to understand his/her character. But since she is your ex-gf, I guess you would have known her for sometime. If she has not changed much from the past, you may start counting the time when you first get to know her.

As for marriage, it depends very much on mutual feeling. You will know it when the time comes. I strongly believe fate plays a big part on it. Like myself, I was in a 3-years relationship with my ex before i know my wife. My ex and I were supposed to ROM but things did not turn up well at last minute. Our relationship turned sour and I was in despair until I met my wife. We got married within one year of relationship.

Looking back, God has His reasons why my past relationships did not work out as He wanted me to learn how to appreciate people and things in life.

I agree with bro yang guo. Min one year. But sometimes , even one year is not even enough. you must learn to read the tell tale signs.

MoJoe313 · #7 01-01-2015, 04:27 PM

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Looking back, God has His reasons why my past relationships did not work out as He wanted me to learn how to appreciate people and things in life.

Bro, you are a nice guy. No offence, but you have a strange God that punishes you with broken relationships to teach you lessons. Does he also make cars bang you to teach you how to cross roads properly?

Why not tell it as it is? You had a free choice. There are consequences of your free choice. Someone else too exercised her free choice in those relationships. It just didn't work out. And you got wiser. Nothing to do with God.

Its like you choose to put your hand in fire. There are consequences. You get burnt. Period. Nothing to do with God. He didn't make you put your hand in fire to teach you lessons.

Again, no offences. Just clearing up some strange beliefs. Everyone likes blame the old man when he is seriously not involved.

The real problem, if you asked me, is he should never give Man free choice in that garden of Eden. We tend to screw things up.

xuanz · #8 01-01-2015, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ColdBlood99

Ask yourself 1st, if you settle down with her still got time for soccer? If don't have then don't settle down

If anyone stops me from going, most likely is my own body(can't wake up) lol see you on Sunday!

Bro MoJoe313, i think bro yangguo meant that everyone are given alot of challenges in life. Anyway not every god is a old man. My god can be guanyinma also. Hehe.

And thanks yangguo and greenfrog, I agree that I need some more time together before committing. I definitely dont need another crazy episode of relationship like I had prior to this.

Hope everyone had a happy new year.
Leave all shit behind and enjoy a new start!

yangguo · #9 01-01-2015, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by MoJoe313;123$$$$6

Bro, you are a nice guy. No offence, but you have a strange God that punishes you with broken relationships to teach you lessons. Does he also make cars bang you to teach you how to cross roads properly?

Why not tell it as it is? You had a free choice. There are consequences of your free choice. Someone else too exercised her free choice in those relationships. It just didn't work out. And you got wiser. Nothing to do with God.

Huh? Do you mean you have a choice to decide who your parents or siblings are? Doesn't the same principles apply to your wife, gfs or even friends?

Especially in a relationship, loving someone wholeheartedly does not guaranteed that you will be reciprocated by the same amount of love.

Of course you do a choice to disown them but you do not have the choice to select who can be your parent in the first place.

Hope you can understand what I mean.

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Originally Posted by MoJoe313;123$$$$6

Its like you choose to put your hand in fire. There are consequences. You get burnt. Period. Nothing to do with God. He didn't make you put your hand in fire to teach you lessons.

I reckon the above example you gave on "putting your hand in fire" is a irrelevant one. Who in his sound mind will do such a thing?

There are certain "rules" in life we have to abide with. Staying away from fire is one of the rules.

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Originally Posted by MoJoe313;123$$$$6

Again, no offences. Just clearing up some strange beliefs. Everyone likes blame the old man when he is seriously not involved.

For goodness sake, I am not blaming God or anyone else. In fact anyone who has read my sentence carefully, he or she will know that I am indeed grateful for all the lessons He has taught me.

Pardon me for my bluntness. No hard feeling.

xuanz · #10 01-01-2015, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by yangguo

Huh? Do you mean you have a choice to decide who your parents or siblings are? Doesn't the same principles apply to your wife, gfs or even friends?

Especially in a relationship, loving someone wholeheartedly does not guaranteed that you will be reciprocated by the same amount of love.

Of course you do a choice to disown them but you do not have the choice to select who can be your parent in the first place.

Hope you can understand what I mean.

I reckon the above example you gave on "putting your hand in fire" is a irrelevant one. Who in his sound mind will do such a thing?

There are certain "rules" in life we have to abide with. Staying away from fire is one of the rules.

For goodness sake, I am not blaming God or anyone else. In fact anyone who has read my sentence carefully, he or she will know that I am indeed grateful for all the lessons He has taught me.

Pardon me for my bluntness. No hard feeling.

First day of the year. Forgive all hard feeling!

xuanz · #11 01-01-2015, 09:29 PM

Decided to push this at least till mid 2015. I think things will be clearer with time. Likewise I don't want to go back with her just for convenience.

Had kopi with her dad. Her dad was my mentor during my time playing soccer in poly days. He knew what shit I went and did. So can't hide shit. Lol was surprised he supported our decision. Was happy to hear that I'm generally a good and kind Kid to him. I thought he might kill me. Lol.

Thinking back i can't believe in 2014. I was able to tank myself going to the same hotel room that my to-be-gf just finish her last deed with her sugardaddy. << anyone interested in this story? Lol kidding.