Is this considered an affair?

[Hidan88]

I know this sounds fake, but it is true.

I have a female colleague who is nine years my junior. Because of the nature of our work, I often drive her to meetings and client visits. She has an incredibly bubbly, outgoing personality and is naturally physically affectionate with everyone, so I never took her touchiness as a sign of personal interest.

That said, I have to be honest: she is physically stunning, curves in all the right places, a tight body that drives me crazy. I've had more than my share of dirty fantasies about her: bending her over, licking every inch of her, feeling her squirm beneath me. I'm married, and I haven't been a faithful husband. I've had paid encounters before, so my boundaries have already been blurred.

About a month ago, she wore a short skirt and a crop top in my car. Her smooth, bare thighs were on full display, and I couldn't stop staring. My cock stiffened instantly, pressing hard against my pants. I tried to hide it, but my mind was flooded with filthy thoughts, imagining my hands sliding up those thighs, pulling her panties aside, and taking her right there. After our client meeting, we went for coffee, and she asked if I was okay because I seemed off. I blamed it on tiredness, but I noticed her glance toward my lap.

Back in the car, she asked me directly if I thought she was pretty. That question sent another rush of blood straight to my dick. Before I could even respond, she reached over, felt my hard bulge through my pants, and smiled. She unzipped me, pulled me out, and wrapped her mouth around me. I groaned as she worked her tongue up and down my shaft, taking me deeper until I exploded in her mouth. She spat it out, kissed me with those lips, and told me to keep it a secret.

For the next couple of weeks, we acted like nothing happened, but every time I saw her, my cock ached for more. Then, about two weeks ago, she showed up in a skin-tight skirt and a top that barely contained her tits. I couldn't take it anymore. I drove to a quiet corner of the carpark, unzipped myself, and asked if we could go all the way. She didn't hesitate. We fucked right there in the car, her legs wrapped around me, pulling me deeper, moaning as I thrust into her. I came inside her, and she held me so tight I thought she'd never let go.

Since then, we've been at it every two to three days, sometimes in the car, sometimes in handicap toilet, always hot and urgent. She texts me constantly now, asking if I'm hard just thinking about her. And honestly? I am. My cock throbs every time her name pops up on my screen. Lately, she's been hinting that she wants this to become a regular thing, a routine, almost like an addiction we both share.

But here's the thing, I'm not even scared about my wife finding out anymore. What truly scares me is that I don't know what my colleague actually wants. Is she just a horny little thing who loves the thrill of sneaking around? Or is she playing a longer game, trying to gain control over me, manipulate me, or even sabotage my marriage? I can't read her intentions, and that uncertainty is eating me alive.

My brain screams at me to stop. This is reckless, dangerous, and I'm playing with fire. But every time I see her, every time she touches me or whispers something dirty, my dick takes over completely. I'm trapped between my conscience and my cravings and right now, my cravings are winning every single round.

[tamade123]

hi bro,

it already happened. Right now, i think just go with it. cos if u start to reject her, it might get worse. there's no turning back cos it already happened and just have to " wing it". if she's happy, u also happy..

Just have to have the " talk " with her to make sure, its sex that she just wants. maybe u hit a goldmine that this woman is just dam horny and likes you cock and she's using you like a piece of meat.

enjoy the happy bonks!

[biggrin]

Two consenting adults, nothing illegal here, morally wrong or not subjective. What is certain is that you definitely enjoy it

My advice is enjoy while it lasts bro, such arrangements tend to have a limited lifespan for various reasons you can imagine

[loneyheart]

To ans yr Q ... If u never pay for svc yes its an affair

She is definitely a player .... so r u ?

[Hidan88]

Originally Posted by tamade123

hi bro,

it already happened. Right now, i think just go with it. cos if u start to reject her, it might get worse. there's no turning back cos it already happened and just have to " wing it". if she's happy, u also happy..

Just have to have the " talk " with her to make sure, its sex that she just wants. maybe u hit a goldmine that this woman is just dam horny and likes you cock and she's using you like a piece of meat.

enjoy the happy bonks!

It doesn’t seem like she is just horny. She is legitimate very pretty with nice figure. I am not ugly per se but not Kpop standard. But given our work is in sales role, such flirting is normal. This is the first time, i have flirting leading to sex.

[Hidan88]

Originally Posted by loneyheart

To ans yr Q ... If u never pay for svc yes its an affair

She is definitely a player .... so r u ?

Ever since i gotten married, i have never ever touched another lady that is unpaid.

I mean i often flirt with my female colleague and take advantage by saying stuff that might be deem as sexual harassment for cheap thrill. However, this is the only time that such action lead to sex.

[loneyheart]

Originally Posted by Hidan88

Ever since i gotten married, i have never ever touched another lady that is unpaid.

I mean i often flirt with my female colleague and take advantage by saying stuff that might be deem as sexual harassment for cheap thrill. However, this is the only time that such action lead to sex.

Flirt with female colleague with words is common as we mean joke laughter as we r close

Till u meet a player like her n now u do ... she caught u out of surprise .... n once started u will asking for more

This type of lady will change target very fast if u never get her excited / fresh anymore ... just enjoy bro but watch out for office gossip

[ntucee]

Originally Posted by Hidan88

Ever since i gotten married, i have never ever touched another lady that is unpaid.

I mean i often flirt with my female colleague and take advantage by saying stuff that might be deem as sexual harassment for cheap thrill. However, this is the only time that such action lead to sex.

Loving the undefined rules.

but paying for sex, makes things clearer and easier.. just a transaction..

[Hidan88]

Originally Posted by loneyheart

Flirt with female colleague with words is common as we mean joke laughter as we r close

Till u meet a player like her n now u do ... she caught u out of surprise .... n once started u will asking for more

This type of lady will change target very fast if u never get her excited / fresh anymore ... just enjoy bro but watch out for office gossip

Actually i hope to end things. I feel bad. I don’t feel so much guilt for paid service.

I was trying not to bring her along for sale visit but nowadays she keep tagging along and we usually end up in a carpark or budget hotel after.

[loneyheart]

Originally Posted by Hidan88

Actually i hope to end things. I feel bad. I don’t feel so much guilt for paid service.

I was trying not to bring her along for sale visit but nowadays she keep tagging along and we usually end up in a carpark or budget hotel after.

Will be hard on yr side once u r in unless she is the one tat distance u but yr heart will ach ... tats the game bro n may end out bad repo on u in yr office

[Hidan88]

Originally Posted by loneyheart

Will be hard on yr side once u r in unless she is the one tat distance u but yr heart will ach ... tats the game bro n may end out bad repo on u in yr office

I'm not too worried about reputation. In sales, as long as you deliver numbers, you'll always find work somewhere.

After today's session, I asked her how she felt about us. She was honest. She said she liked me because I made her feel secure, but she also acknowledged that I'm married with kids, so there's no long term future between us. For now, she wants to keep things as they are, meeting every other day for sex. On top of that, she expects me to ferry her around, before work, during work, and after work.

She also made one condition. As long as I'm active with her, I can't sleep with anyone else besides my wife and her. She was upfront about her own history too. She hasn't been with anyone since her ex broke up with her earlier this year. She admitted she loves sex, but not with just anybody. Before me, she'd only been with two ex boyfriends.

She also brought up something from when we first got to know each other at work. She hadn't expected me to tell her that I'd already had a vasectomy when she asked if I'd want more kids in the future. Hearing that actually turned her on because she prefers going without protection. Her exes had always been cautious about pregnancy and would put on a condom when they got close to climax. With me, she likes the warm feeling when I release inside her.

[tamade123]

Originally Posted by Hidan88

It doesn’t seem like she is just horny. She is legitimate very pretty with nice figure. I am not ugly per se but not Kpop standard. But given our work is in sales role, such flirting is normal. This is the first time, i have flirting leading to sex.

hi bro,

dont think so much , just enjoy while you can! share more with us!

[LauAdi]

Eat and shit cannot be at same place
Be careful cos in sg, besides women’s charter, they will always give the woman the benefit of the doubt
Colleague is a big red flag
Make sure no recording or evidence

[tpylor8]

It's a dangerous game but that makes it more exciting.
Most men dream of such colleagues so many here will be jealous of you.
Will keep my eyes open. No electronic trails, keep professional conduct in office and around other colleagues so that if in future if shit hits the fan it's just your word against her.
Things may be more complicated if you are her reporting officer or have an influence in her career progression , annual appraisal

[Hidan88]

Originally Posted by tpylor8

It's a dangerous game but that makes it more exciting.
Most men dream of such colleagues so many here will be jealous of you.
Will keep my eyes open. No electronic trails, keep professional conduct in office and around other colleagues so that if in future if shit hits the fan it's just your word against her.
Things may be more complicated if you are her reporting officer or have an influence in her career progression , annual appraisal

Lucky for me i am just a colleague and we both report to same reporting officer. Our company policy is sale team must work in pair to prevent any undertable with client. So she don’t grade me and i don’t grade her.


Only thing is her drive is high and sometime i have issue. It is like 2 time a week during lunch time. Then i have to go home for my wife also about 2 times a week. My body is going down.