from F##k Service to Friendship, Possible ?

[evantoh]

Originally Posted by heroi111

Yes. You are right.
Family issue might the blocking stone.
But I also learnt from this episode.
Morale of the story,
When your prc wl don't love you at all, don't bother to try. No use one.

When there is some love from your wl, things will be much better.
At least, wouldn't take your cash and look for another man.
Maybe...

I feel you!
Sending my tender loving care from China

[evantoh]

Originally Posted by Dignified69

Thank you bros heroi111, happytree and Crovetapital for your sharing

I will be there much before opening to secure my final day pole position.

Most probably hold on to her and cry my guts out. In my youth I believed in stoicism but I can no longer keep it in.

The biggest danger is if card is already cut or god knows what

I am indeed very scared

This year I withdrew from the PRC scene after 19 years and stopped reading most threads. In any case, the sharing with the bro's here which brought much joy and camaraderie also caused much grief and pain.

How strange is life that one has a wife who is good in 9/10 things and totally zero in the one thing which is central to my being.

May I channel the impending grief into taking care of my health, may I derive solace from the buddhist scriptures which teach about impermanence and the futility of clinging and craving for things.

The end of an era nears.....

Thats the irony in life.
Married but not happy.
I have seen it in many couples.

Many put up a facade infront of others.
Back home, just ownself do own things.

Hiaz!

[CroveTapital]

Originally Posted by evantoh

Errrr... 50 liao still 石王老五? More like 老登！ and i m not rich la. Aiyo

And i agree with your last statement, if you have family, dont sink too deep. Else every 2yrs, heart paain pain

You are too humble. You are definitely a 钻石王老五 compared to normal working bros in the eyes of wls. And you are not an 老登 given your 薄肌 and sexual performance.

Originally Posted by evantoh

Thats the irony in life.
Married but not happy.
I have seen it in many couples.

Many put up a facade infront of others.
Back home, just ownself do own things.

Hiaz!

Most marriages will end up like this. Unless both parties are willing to 好好经营 or share mutual life goals all the time. I think life is just 苦中作乐. People also tend to change over time. A lot of people even get married without any 感情基础, just marrying when it's time to do so with a 适合的人 under family or peer pressure.

[electronics]

Originally Posted by heroi111

My last prc wl went back to China.
I also cried for some days.
It is human nature.
Those bro who mocked us crying, I hope they don't experience this themselves.
The pain is really...
Can cry yourself to sleep kind.

Was closed with a PRC WL during her first 5 to 6 months here.

She changed after multiple God of Fortune queueing to buy her expensive gifts and meals and asking her out on code red.

Was replaced, feel very sad and did not visit for some time.

She is still in GL.

[Topper]

Originally Posted by electronics

Was closed with a PRC WL during her first 5 to 6 months here.
She changed after multiple God of Fortune queueing to buy her expensive gifts and meals and asking her out on code red.
Was replaced, feel very sad and did not visit for some time.
She is still in GL.

Aiyah, they are just Cheekons. All 捧场做戏 only and can 翻脸不认人 anytime once they found better source of support as mentioned many times, so don't need to take them too seriously.

[heroi111]

Originally Posted by electronics

Was closed with a PRC WL during her first 5 to 6 months here.

She changed after multiple God of Fortune queueing to buy her expensive gifts and meals and asking her out on code red.

Was replaced, feel very sad and did not visit for some time.

She is still in GL.

When they don't love you.
This is your ending.
I went through also.
I met a new prc wl and she told very direct in the face, if she wants money, any bro can upkeep her better than me. I hope I am on track like bro Evan.
She loves me for who I am.
Wish me tons of luck so that I might be the 2nd Evan Toh in this forum!

[CroveTapital]

Originally Posted by electronics

Was closed with a PRC WL during her first 5 to 6 months here.

She changed after multiple God of Fortune queueing to buy her expensive gifts and meals and asking her out on code red.

Was replaced, feel very sad and did not visit for some time.

She is still in GL.

I went through this twice already like you, lol. Haven't gone to gl for two months liao. Luckily I found someone outside gl who’s much more worth keeping. Chill bro, gl is just for good sex and playing around. Think about it this way: you spent much less to fuck a daigor's gal and enjoyed some GFE, even if it didn't last forever. They are here to make money anyway.

[Topper]

Originally Posted by heroi111

When they don't love you.
This is your ending.
I went through also.
I met a new prc wl and she told very direct in the face, if she wants money, any bro can upkeep her better than me. I hope I am on track like bro Evan.
She loves me for who I am.
Wish me tons of luck so that I might be the 2nd Evan Toh in this forum!

Better not lah bro. Evan is a rare unicorn which I believe to have sustainable value being offered during this period.

End of day, everything is conditional involving an exchange of value. If it is just 'feelings' alone, don't bet on it esp. for Cheekons as it will quickly change anytime at the drop of a hat when situation changes 计划赶不上变化 giving you a total shock of your life lol, then the same scenario will repeat all over again.

So always be prepared for the worst case for them to 反水 anytime and of course have a backup plan in place (e.g. other WLs on standby) which can quickly be activated for automatic switchover like a UPS, else later your pain will be much greater once things turn awry.

[Dignified69]

[QUOTE=evantoh;25688331]Hiaz, I was married before, but over time, the marriage reached a point where my ex-wife and I became worse than roommates. We barely talked, and I even dreaded going home.

Eventually, I decided it was best to call it quits for the sake of both of us. Sometimes, letting go is better than staying in a marriage where both people are no longer happy.


~x~


Believe me I know the roommate feeling....What a unique torture
Does not pain you from the outside but eats you from within

With work from home, I make it a point to be out on the days when she is in
As owner of SME I have this blessed freedom.

Till now the children are my excuse for not rocking the boat
Very quickly that excuse will not be there
I rationalise that any separation will harm my children
And they are blameless and have only given me joy

Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness
Whose happiness?
If I pursue my own happiness and spread unhappiness everywhere does that make me more happy

And then material possession of all that we have built together

Apologies for the rant
Too many things going through my head

[Dignified69]

Originally Posted by CroveTapital

I went through this twice already like you, lol. Haven't gone to gl for two months liao. Luckily I found someone outside gl who’s much more worth keeping. Chill bro, gl is just for good sex and playing around. Think about it this way: you spent much less to fuck a daigor's gal and enjoyed some GFE, even if it didn't last forever. They are here to make money anyway.

Originally Posted by electronics

Was closed with a PRC WL during her first 5 to 6 months here.

She changed after multiple God of Fortune queueing to buy her expensive gifts and meals and asking her out on code red.

Was replaced, feel very sad and did not visit for some time.

She is still in GL.

This is also in my repertoire of experiences.

Love your term God of Fortune. There is always a bigger God

[Dignified69]

Originally Posted by CroveTapital

I went through this twice already like you, lol. Haven't gone to gl for two months liao. Luckily I found someone outside gl who’s much more worth keeping. Chill bro, gl is just for good sex and playing around. Think about it this way: you spent much less to fuck a daigor's gal and enjoyed some GFE, even if it didn't last forever. They are here to make money anyway.

I also need to find the someone outside GL.

If I put my mind to it, it will happen.

Must be some lady person in our 3.5mn who has similar needs as me and is in a similar situation.

This year I am going through the WL relationship ending 2x. Last year and the previous year it was 1x each. Boy does this mess with you. Most probably this is driving the end of this season of my life.

Desire and no desire happening at the same time ....haiz and haze.

[heroi111]

Originally Posted by Topper

Better not lah bro. Evan is a rare unicorn which I believe to have sustainable value being offered during this period.

End of day, everything is conditional involving an exchange of value. If it is just 'feelings' alone, don't bet on it esp. for Cheekons as it will quickly change anytime at the drop of a hat when situation changes 计划赶不上变化 giving you a total shock of your life lol, then the same scenario will repeat all over again.

So always be prepared for the worst case for them to 反水 anytime and of course have a backup plan in place (e.g. other WLs on standby) which can quickly be activated for automatic switchover like a UPS, else later your pain will be much greater once things turn awry.

Yes. Great advice.
After being hurted by prc wl who have left our shores, I dare not put in all my heart.
One standby is good lol.
Be ready to switch if wl play me out.
Mentally prepared and be less hurt the next round.

[electronics]

Originally Posted by CroveTapital

Think about it this way: you spent much less to fuck a daigor's gal

She uses a bag from brother A, wear gold bracelet from brother B and went out with brother C for shopping trip.

Never quite understand why big spenders enjoy spending so much when she not exclusive.

[Matman36]

Originally Posted by electronics

She uses a bag from brother A, wear gold bracelet from brother B and went out with brother C for shopping trip.

Never quite understand why big spenders enjoy spending so much when she not exclusive.

Competition to be #1!

[evantoh]

Originally Posted by electronics

She uses a bag from brother A, wear gold bracelet from brother B and went out with brother C for shopping trip.

Never quite understand why big spenders enjoy spending so much when she not exclusive.

Somehow, I find that most ladies have this unique skill. And I’m not just talking about WL, ladies you meet outside display the same behaviour.

They receive a gift from 1 suitor, wear it when meeting another suitor, and then receive more gifts from more suitors. It’s like they know how to keep multiple options going while collecting gifts along the way.

If you can spot this kind of behaviour, my advice is simple: siam as far as you can.

When it comes to WL, it is more prominent because that is what they are here for. They are not herr to holiday, finding a lover is never on their list. So all these love and care and feeling, i say likely fake.

Sadly, sg guys needed many many TLC. So, it is easy to make them tio GONGTAO by sending some caring msg or calls.