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[Dignified69]

Originally Posted by meloncholy1982

For me I try to enjoy the transient nature of these relationships. Enjoy the time together but knowing it can end anytime.

Don’t bring up relationship status, don’t bring up plans for the future. Treat it as you know, she know, don’t need to talk about it. Don’t ask questions you don’t want to hear the answers to. Genuine affection and romantic feelings are different. When nothing said, it’s a dream you both can live in. Different once forced to solidify in words.

When it ends, focus on appreciating the good memories.

But this approach may not work for everyone. If you can’t separate your feelings from your expectations, then maybe stepping away before you get too caught up is healthier.

Wise words, sage advice.

[naan1974]

Originally Posted by meloncholy1982

For me I try to enjoy the transient nature of these relationships. Enjoy the time together but knowing it can end anytime.

DonÂ’t bring up relationship status, donÂ’t bring up plans for the future. Treat it as you know, she know, donÂ’t need to talk about it. DonÂ’t ask questions you donÂ’t want to hear the answers to. Genuine affection and romantic feelings are different. When nothing said, itÂ’s a dream you both can live in. Different once forced to solidify in words.

When it ends, focus on appreciating the good memories.

But this approach may not work for everyone. If you canÂ’t separate your feelings from your expectations, then maybe stepping away before you get too caught up is healthier.

I totally concurred on your perspectives
Maybe due to age and different stages of our lives
Views and values differ. I have learnt to handle and manage Relationships more casually and less solemn of the expectations and outcome.
Especially with ex wl, never be her stream of income because that clouds everthing.
You dont know what is maintaining the relationship. Enjoy
The mutuality in companionship while it lasts.
Why the need to think about marriage and happy ever after? Enjoy the moment and create memories. That is what you need in life when you grow older.
曾应拥有也算是不枉此生

[unfit]

Originally Posted by naan1974

I totally concurred on your perspectives
Maybe due to age and different stages of our lives
Views and values differ. I have learnt to handle and manage Relationships more casually and less solemn of the expectations and outcome.
Especially with ex wl, never be her stream of income because that clouds everthing.
You dont know what is maintaining the relationship. Enjoy
The mutuality in companionship while it lasts.
Why the need to think about marriage and happy ever after? Enjoy the moment and create memories. That is what you need in life when you grow older.
曾应拥有也算是不枉此生

不在乎天长地久，最重要曾经干过

[niceguydiefirst]

Just become rich and money can settle almost everything liao. Buy her house in china, settle all her debts and give her salary, she confirmed treat u more than friendship. Let's say she run away then find another one so must have enough money to tank or have a kid with her so she won't run.

[heroi111]

Originally Posted by niceguydiefirst

Just become rich and money can settle almost everything liao. Buy her house in china, settle all her debts and give her salary, she confirmed treat u more than friendship. Let's say she run away then find another one so must have enough money to tank or have a kid with her so she won't run.

Given after giving house and car, they can still run away lol.
Use this house and car to stay with their local boyfriend.
If there is no love, more money also no need.
Same as dump into river.
If you know wl don't love you, don't start.
Cheers!

[Topper]

Originally Posted by niceguydiefirst

Just become rich and money can settle almost everything liao. Buy her house in china, settle all her debts and give her salary, she confirmed treat u more than friendship. Let's say she run away then find another one so must have enough money to tank or have a kid with her so she won't run.

Not really. That's the common misconception that commoners thought about rich people. In reality, throwing money very often ends in the opposite way. Fun fact is, money does have it's limitations. 强扭的瓜不甜的。And beyond a certain point, it can often lead to a total disaster. It's like walking into someone's house with a large suitcase of cash, throw it in the air with threats, telling the parents that you want to buy their daughter, despite knowing that she does not genuinely loves you.

As mentioned before, the wise super-rich when they are in the game long enough as a cheongster will realize this strange truth never to give excessively and that they should only give the optimum amount for maximum return and value.

As the ancient Chinese saying goes '升米恩，斗米仇' ("A small favor earns gratitude, but a big favor breeds resentment."). This is human nature. A small appropriate amount earns far greater appreciation than large amount as excessive giving will always trigger self-entitlement, dependency, resentment and eventually greed which gives them all kinds of ideas to ask for more and more to scam you as 冤大头 carrot head LOL.

So no matter how much large sums of money you throw at her, the most you can obtain is a false attitude and persona during that period while she is secretly plotting behind your back with resentment to get rid of you after siphoning you dry, not forgetting might even 养小白脸 out of revenge for making her suffer just to appease you lol. Thereafter, all your money will only be down the drain with negative ROI giving you more misery and regrets lol.

金钱诚可贵，爱情价更高，若为自由顾，两者皆可抛

Hence humans by nature ultimately want freedom and once people obtained money which met their material needs, they want to get rid of the source which controls and manipulate them hence there must first be a genuine connection which is important beyond anything else. If both have good genuine chemistry, can communicate and interact well, she won't even ask for a single cent from you and might even give you money or help you grow your wealth together instead lol.

[niceguydiefirst]

Originally Posted by heroi111

Given after giving house and car, they can still run away lol.
Use this house and car to stay with their local boyfriend.
If there is no love, more money also no need.
Same as dump into river.
If you know wl don't love you, don't start.
Cheers!

Ya of cuz will have in mind that she will run so must be extremely rich that these money is just peanuts. Or have a game plan that have a kid with her first before provide china house and salary. As for me I definitely won't run if the kid is really mine because scare karma but there are guys that run away. So is like a who eat who.

[niceguydiefirst]

Originally Posted by Topper

Not really. That's the common misconception that commoners thought about rich people. In reality, throwing money very often ends in the opposite way. Fun fact is, money does have it's limitations. 强扭的瓜不甜的。And beyond a certain point, it can often lead to a total disaster. It's like walking into someone's house with a large suitcase of cash, throw it in the air with threats, telling the parents that you want to buy their daughter, despite knowing that she does not genuinely loves you.

As mentioned before, the wise super-rich when they are in the game long enough as a cheongster will realize this strange truth never to give excessively and that they should only give the optimum amount for maximum return and value.

As the ancient Chinese saying goes '升米恩，斗米仇' ("A small favor earns gratitude, but a big favor breeds resentment."). This is human nature. A small appropriate amount earns far greater appreciation than large amount as excessive giving will always trigger self-entitlement, dependency, resentment and eventually greed which gives them all kinds of ideas to ask for more and more to scam you as 冤大头 carrot head LOL.

So no matter how much large sums of money you throw at her, the most you can obtain is a false attitude and persona during that period while she is secretly plotting behind your back with resentment to get rid of you after siphoning you dry, not forgetting might even 养小白脸 out of revenge for making her suffer just to appease you lol. Thereafter, all your money will only be down the drain with negative ROI giving you more misery and regrets lol.

金钱诚可贵，爱情价更高，若为自由顾，两者皆可抛

Hence humans by nature ultimately want freedom and once people obtained money which met their material needs, they want to get rid of the source which controls and manipulate them hence there must first be a genuine connection which is important beyond anything else. If both have good genuine chemistry, can communicate and interact well, she won't even ask for a single cent from you and might even give you money or help you grow your wealth together instead lol.

Chemistry with any girl definitely u have to judge yourself. Can easily tell that the girl totally don't like u and in turn, girl also know that u don't like her. This kind of thing is like sugardad the girl and the money is able to lose. Let's say I damn rich I will sugardad models or normal girl that I like instead of ex chicken. Ex chciken can just remain as fb or can bao her one month. I know ex chciken from the web not gl bump on to sugardaddy and she quickly can quit her escort job.

[Dignified69]

Today is just day 2. I said my goodbye on Friday and she is still here.

Tis is a heavy heart .....just feel like going to sleep.

Life can be such a pain in the arse.

For her there will be the excitement or dread of going back

for me same old same old

Even if we do our outing thingie on Mon or Tue

It will eventually be back to this feeling for me

[evantoh]

Originally Posted by niceguydiefirst

Just become rich and money can settle almost everything liao. Buy her house in china, settle all her debts and give her salary, she confirmed treat u more than friendship. Let's say she run away then find another one so must have enough money to tank or have a kid with her so she won't run.

Even those who have kids can still 偷吃 outside. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Some have husbands or so call sponsor husband working overseas or in another province, with kids at home, they still go out drinking and piak piak with other guys. Having a husband and children doesn’t necessarily mean they are emotionally fulfilled or will remain faithful.

At the end of the day, if there’s no love, money can satisfy their basic needs, but it cannot fulfil their emotional needs. Money can provide comfort and security, but it cannot replace affection, companionship, and intimacy.

[evantoh]

Originally Posted by Dignified69

Today is just day 2. I said my goodbye on Friday and she is still here.

Tis is a heavy heart .....just feel like going to sleep.

Life can be such a pain in the arse.

For her there will be the excitement or dread of going back

for me same old same old

Even if we do our outing thingie on Mon or Tue

It will eventually be back to this feeling for me

Fly back together with her.
No pain liao.

[niceguydiefirst]

Originally Posted by evantoh

Even those who have kids can still 偷吃 outside. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Some have husbands or so call sponsor husband working overseas or in another province, with kids at home, they still go out drinking and piak piak with other guys. Having a husband and children doesn’t necessarily mean they are emotionally fulfilled or will remain faithful.

At the end of the day, if there’s no love, money can satisfy their basic needs, but it cannot fulfil their emotional needs. Money can provide comfort and security, but it cannot replace affection, companionship, and intimacy.

Yeah man. But the guy who plan to do this kind of sugardad thing also has in mind to eat outside too. So same same.

[hokengahhh]

Originally Posted by niceguydiefirst

Yeah man. But the guy who plan to do this kind of sugardad thing also has in mind to eat outside too. So same same.

yeah, it goes 2 ways. so unless the man is gongtao by the girl and think he is exclusive, usually they just look another way and have another gf else where. its still a business transaction.

[naan1974]

Originally Posted by evantoh

Even those who have kids can still 偷吃 outside. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Some have husbands or so call sponsor husband working overseas or in another province, with kids at home, they still go out drinking and piak piak with other guys. Having a husband and children doesn’t necessarily mean they are emotionally fulfilled or will remain faithful.

At the end of the day, if there’s no love, money can satisfy their basic needs, but it cannot fulfil their emotional needs. Money can provide comfort and security, but it cannot replace affection, companionship, and intimacy.

Exactly.. its a lot most absurd than most can believe.
Their compartmentalisation abilty is beyond our imagination
Some of us has the opportunity to see it real life.
i honestly admit It does destroy dreams and fantasy.

[Dignified69]

Originally Posted by evantoh

Even those who have kids can still 偷吃 outside. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Some have husbands or so call sponsor husband working overseas or in another province, with kids at home, they still go out drinking and piak piak with other guys. Having a husband and children doesn’t necessarily mean they are emotionally fulfilled or will remain faithful.

At the end of the day, if there’s no love, money can satisfy their basic needs, but it cannot fulfil their emotional needs. Money can provide comfort and security, but it cannot replace affection, companionship, and intimacy.

100% spot on. Applies to all human beings.