Is she the RIGHT one for me??

[jinrenhe]

Been with my gf for nearly 6 months ... basically, she should be the ideal gf of any guy's dream.
She is very commited to me. Whenever she finishes work earlier than me, she would travel over to wait near my workplc for me.
Every weekend, she would be waiting to spend the entire day with me.
When i was busy preparing for my exams earlier on, she would even drive over my plc to buy me supper.
And despite having quite a number of guys (both colleagues as well as some guy customers) trying to ask her out, she would always turn them down flat.
She even told me she's quite ready to settle down with me now.

She should be the ideal gf, the person i've been searching for so long...

However, strangely, unlike my previous gfs, i jus dun feel the same intense feeling for her.

And what's making me rely losing feelings for her is how she's extremely sticky and emotional. For example, when i wanted to spend one sat nite with my guy frens, she would literally break down crying and lamenting how sad her life is...
Basically she can't spend a single day without me accompanying her. When we jus started, she used to call me like every hour.

Even thou we have had many quarrels and talks , we jus can't seem to settle our differences.
She is someone who needs attention every moment whilst I'm someone who values some private time for myself.

What should i do??

[fishingman]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

Been with my gf for nearly 6 months ... basically, she should be the ideal gf of any guy's dream.
She is very commited to me. Whenever she finishes work earlier than me, she would travel over to wait near my workplc for me.
Every weekend, she would be waiting to spend the entire day with me.
When i was busy preparing for my exams earlier on, she would even drive over my plc to buy me supper.
And despite having quite a number of guys (both colleagues as well as some guy customers) trying to ask her out, she would always turn them down flat.
She even told me she's quite ready to settle down with me now.

She should be the ideal gf, the person i've been searching for so long...

However, strangely, unlike my previous gfs, i jus dun feel the same intense feeling for her.

And what's making me rely losing feelings for her is how she's extremely sticky and emotional. For example, when i wanted to spend one sat nite with my guy frens, she would literally break down crying and lamenting how sad her life is...
Basically she can't spend a single day without me accompanying her. When we jus started, she used to call me like every hour.

Even thou we have had many quarrels and talks , we jus can't seem to settle our differences.
She is someone who needs attention every moment whilst I'm someone who values some private time for myself.

What should i do??

Wow, bro, we're in exact same suituation... But I just broke up with her a few weeks ago. I can't stand the part where she expects me to devote all my free time to her even though she's devoting every single minute to me....

I tried persuading her to spend more time with her friends, but plan failed...

[annoy-you-must]

If you still want to be with her, I guess you'll really need to talk to her about what you think first, if you haven't, that is.

Ultimately, I guess nobody can tell you whether or not a girl is the right one for you. It's entirely up to you, whether or not you have feelings for the girl, whether or not you feel comfortable with her, whether or not you even want to stay with her in the first place.

If your gf's attitude remains unchange even after repeatedly talking to her, then I guess you do need to seriously consider if being with her is worth the inconvinience she is bringing to your life.

If the answer is no, then just do what you know you have to do.

[jinrenhe]

She's a veri emotionally unstable person - every small incident (e.g. like if i'm not free that day to meet her for dinner) can cause her to be terribly upset and cry.

I also need time to concentrate other other areas of my life , example my career since i jus started out, but this is somethk she simply can't understand.

Jus some example of our differences: When i told her i needed to spend some time with my family or to meet my own friends, she would say jus take her along wherever i go.
When i say i'm not feeling well and needed to stay at home to rest, she would insist on coming over to take care of me (i dun need any care, i jus need my sleep!!)

I know she meant well... but i'm rely not looking forward to the prospect of seeing her every single waking hour of my life...I've never felt so stressed out by a relationship like this.

[~|@|~]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

And what's making me rely losing feelings for her is how she's extremely sticky and emotional. For example, when i wanted to spend one sat nite with my guy frens, she would literally break down crying and lamenting how sad her life is...
...
What should i do??

sometimes you got to be cruel to be kind so just explain to her that you need your personal time and if she wants a future with you, she has to accept it. its best to be firm from the start to avoid problems in the long term. otherwise, i doubt you will be happy if you stick with her. but i could be wrong. all the best. cheers!

[longwinter]

l tink TS does not really love her that much bah, tis is how l tink la. But the answer lies in urself.

And with the gal being so sticky and emotional, u feel that u had no room for privacy and feel very tight, right?

Seriously l will ask TS to tink again over tis r/s again. if u are not feeling happy in a r/s, there is really sumtinz wrong.

[darkafac]

communication is the key to every relationship.. talk to her and tell her how u feel... good luck bro

[pepsilight]

Broke up with one such gal before. No matter how chio or good she is, there will cum a point in time when U need some breathing space and she not willing to give. Trust me, it is very frustrating to have such a partner. Sometimes, we just need a break from each other not because we dun like somebody but more like a little space would make you appreciate her more.

Bro, I understand how u feel and unless yr the super sticky type too, let her go..

[XboxSG]

In any relationship, certain understanding got to be there for it to work. I believed since she's willing to do lots of things for you, she'll have the same expectation from you.

[bradpitt968]

From what you said .... I supposed you are early to mid 20s.

I must say that if you are the kind that has little or no social life, she would be great for you.

But if you are the kind that has alot of friends outside, then it may be tough.

You didn't tell us anything about the sex part tho ... *grin*

[GrieGzEters]

Its great that she is willing to enjoy wat u are doing. I believe not all gers are willing to enjoy or rather make the effort to hang out with their bfs and his friends in what they do.

Unless you are telling me that you cheong FLs etc etc together with ur buddies.. than that a no no for her to tag along..

U should still tell her that everyone need their personal time and space, minus sleeping time... from wat i read.. she a wife material.. not a gf material.

I wouldm't mind a gf like her actually, but that would mean I will have to lie alot to get my personal space and time which is not very nice..

[GrieGzEters]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

She's a veri emotionally unstable person - every small incident (e.g. like if i'm not free that day to meet her for dinner) can cause her to be terribly upset and cry.

I also need time to concentrate other other areas of my life , example my career since i jus started out, but this is somethk she simply can't understand.

Jus some example of our differences: When i told her i needed to spend some time with my family or to meet my own friends, she would say jus take her along wherever i go.
When i say i'm not feeling well and needed to stay at home to rest, she would insist on coming over to take care of me (i dun need any care, i jus need my sleep!!)

I know she meant well... but i'm rely not looking forward to the prospect of seeing her every single waking hour of my life...I've never felt so stressed out by a relationship like this.

She just need more time to understand la.. so there no such thing call perfect gf at all.. positive on 1 side.. negative on another

[Konsortium]

Maybe you both need more time to really understand each other.

[aakumu]

Hi Bros,
This is different from the past few posting, I hope you all do not mind.
I went to Jakarta for a sex tour and the guide brought us to KTV, night clubs, spas and brothels.
Getting to the point, at the KTV's we had a PRC girls, I took for myself.
She had big breast, which was nice.
But what got to me was that she call me up and told me that she want to meet up with me and so on and on......
I told her I not a rich person, but she still want to meet up with me.
I said how much I have to pay her to have dinner with me, she said nothing.
My question is could a KTV's girls moreover a PRC KTV's girls who is working overseas could have feelings for little old me or is it a trick to get my money.
My humble two cents.

[dap26]

Last time used to have this type of sticky gf...Have to make many lies in order to carry on wif the relationship...Nt much freedom...In the end break up cos cannot tahan anymore...Some of us may accept sticky gf but some might nt..