how would you initiate naughty chat to the girl you like?

[self_reserved]

taken my quote from another thread: How to know if a girl is horny?

Originally Posted by self_reserved

of course,do not engage into dirty chat when you just got to know a girl.be patient till she is comfortable chatting with you.then slowly engage into topic about r/s,and if she is the naughty type,more or less she would ask you more indepth (you know what)

if not,then you may try to start the ball rolling...

but my suggestion is to get familiar with her first,don't risk a new f/s just because you are impatient enough...unless you are just out for pure fun over the phone...

but now,i do not do what i have preached...

i created this thread because i have read sista callous' reply:

Originally Posted by callous

Girls are horny all the time... be it before, during, of after their period. You just need to push the right buttons and it will show. Some girls act so innocent and pure, but there is always a horny little devil inside them waiting to come out. Girls are not any different from guys. They just don't show their horniness in the open. Be smart and you will release that devil in them.

it sets me thinking...

call me conservative,etc...

but how do you guys initiate dirty chat to girls you all like (excluding flirts)?

i got to know a girl from IRC for 8 mths,and eventually i fell in love with her.we met once only..we used to be close (she never msg me for 2 weeks already) but we never touched topic on sex.

i never tried because i scared it might jeopardise our f/s (she's a refined lady to me and i'm a gentleman to her),it always keeps me thinking whether she has her own needs as she has been single for 2 yrs.
(of course i do imagine making it out with her sometimes as she's my love)

i know everyone has needs,but i really keen to know is it fine if she chats about sex with her buddy.but then i don't know how to start the ball rolling...

she used to initiate a chat with me everyday online,but now...no more already...(i also don't know why)

she ignores those PM on IRC asking her for indecent chat so it makes it even hard if i intend to dirt chat with her...
she's the quiet type of girl.

naughty things i want to know about her like does she mast...does she own sex toys...does she wear thongs/g-string,etc....am i sick?

welcome any suggestion or any experience told.thanks.

you are conservative...

1. tease her like crazy....
2. play Truth (like true or dare, but no dare lah..)
3. share about 'other people's experiences'... and her feedback..

jus make sure it is fun, and people will share with u...

[qwerty66]

Just chat normal.

Wan to know more about her. just ask loh. Y so pai sei?

If she if ok, she answer, not, change topic quick.

Easy if to start by talking about yourself. what turns you on. which type of girls you like. what you like to do......talk talk talk.

Then continue ask about her comments and herself (Bingo!) got the ball rolling

Enjoy the ride

[self_reserved]

it's not about paiseh or not.
only afraid she changes her impression on me should i bring the topic up.because after all,i like her.i always want her to be my girl (she knows it but she chosen to reject)

the only naughty thing she knows about me,i have collection of porns.
she even teased me in the main IRC channel,asking me to watch porn if i am horny.

but that was like 1/2 year back....

[ynwa1977]

Originally Posted by self_reserved

it's not about paiseh or not.
only afraid she changes her impression on me should i bring the topic up.because after all,i like her.i always want her to be my girl (she knows it but she chosen to reject)

the only naughty thing she knows about me,i have collection of porns.
she even teased me in the main IRC channel,asking me to watch porn if i am horny.

but that was like 1/2 year back....

Bro, although 95% of women find porn degrading, most of the women i have met have at least watch it at least once before. at certain times of the month, this makes them very horny. Just because you have a collection of porn does not mean that she does not like you.

I'm more concerned that she knows you want her to be your girl but does not want. I doubt it's the porn mate.

I know you fancy her but i think you need closure on this. If she is not interested in ya, perhaps it might be time to look elsewhere. might be difficult initially but all the bros here will help you mate. Sorry for calling a spade a spade.

[t123]

all boils down to tactic, technique and strategy. Of course not 100% guaranteed. Depends on the person. Fishing not easy, must be patient.

[self_reserved]

no no,i fully understand that she rejected me not because i collect porns.

OT abit,

she just afraid that she gets hurt in r/s again as she almost got married from her last r/s,but she was being cheated.
on the other hand,she also don't know whether she likes me or not upon me asking her,she was kinda lost.
but she told me she just wants to concentrate her career now.(a high flyer manager)

i also want to give up but my mind just can't stop thinking of the way she treated me...so nice.she even claimed that she treated me much nicer than to others.

[t123]

TS, i think u take the IRC thingy too far ahead. I feel that u shld not be too emotional unless u never in r/s b4. if u wan r/s then date her, if not dun think abt initiate naughty chat at all.

very simple rule, u want r/s, forget abt sex first. if u want sex, then plan ur moves, no pt whinning abt how she view abt r/s.

[self_reserved]

*ouch* but true.

[ynwa1977]

Originally Posted by self_reserved

no no,i fully understand that she rejected me not because i collect porns.

OT abit,

she just afraid that she gets hurt in r/s again as she almost got married from her last r/s,but she was being cheated.
on the other hand,she also don't know whether she likes me or not upon me asking her,she was kinda lost.
but she told me she just wants to concentrate her career now.(a high flyer manager)

i also want to give up but my mind just can't stop thinking of the way she treated me...so nice.she even claimed that she treated me much nicer than to others.

Bro, when a women gets cheated, it takes some time for her to get over it and start trusting men again. Perhaps you are the right guy at the wrong time.

There are many schools on thought for such situations but mine would be to keep her as close as possible and when she recovers, hopefully she's sees you as a potential BF. in the meantime, have all your other cylinders firing. I know a bit hard lah since you like her so much but maybe going after other girls might give you fresh perspective.

jsut my two cents worth

[t123]

I share a story abt my fren whom got to know a married woman online. She knew that he's married too, she kept whinning abt her loveless marriage and sent my fren lovelorn smses, emails. She's playing an innocent gal at heart, but who knows.

Its now a more even playing field when comes to swinging. Its no longer dominated by men anymore.

She can be like that perfect gal to u but what she wants is you roleplay into that heroic role for her.

I am not saying that its impossible but in virtual world how many sincere hearts waiting for us, no one knows.

Don't end up after an ONS, you are the one more lovelorn and she continue to hunt for prey like a black widow.

[Rebelpunk]

hey bro, from my brief analysis

1) the attraction window is more or less closed. been 8 mths since u met her, and u met her only once. women will gauge whether u r bf material, lover fb type or friends only once they meet u. maybe u become friends to her after yr 1st date. N it's kinda hard to change their impression of u once they form it

2) It's more fun to meet gals in clubs or any other places except online like irc. U can see the gal face to face for yrself w/o thinking if the irc gal is someone sleeping with a gun under her pillows lol

3) the fact she initiate msn with u.. congrats! u have just become her new galfriend, where she can tell all her problems to u. but there's no attraction at all. she becomes comfortable talking to u online, but she will not meet u. doesnt mean a gal is nice to u means she likes u.

4) never ask a gal if she likes u n never tells a gal u likes her. this thing kinda mutual. if she agrees to go out with a 1 to 1 date with you 2 times, means she feels the same way u do, cuz gals seldom go out 1-1 with guys unless they want to make use of them in certain ways. etc sugar daddy or mistress relationship

5) gals r fucking horny, no doubts abt it. dun ask them in msn. they dun want to be labelled as sluts. so the best way is to get a new gal and position yrself as an interesting man(not needy, confident and other women wants u type of guy). go out with 1-1 date with the new gal n if u can kiss her by 2nd date, bingo. horniness door is then open.

6) but if u just want ONS, then go clubs. do kino(physical touching)like hold hands, tickles etc. it will mostly escalate to ONS, but not GF as u guys didnt go to the comfort zone of knowing more abt each other.

7) if u want FB, from ONS, u can continue from there. just dun talk abt $, love n stuff. strictly fulfiing each others' needs n u 'll be fine

8) dun be nice to women n dun talk abt yr problems to her. be positive. just treat her like yr little sister n tease her once in a while. so what if she is a high flyer manager? just remember women's hopes lies on men. no matter the most beautiful gal she is, she loses out to the world's ugliest men, cuz guys fuck gals

[edmundhello]

Ts, you got opportunity u also never make use... When she tease u that u watch porn then tease her back la... She already break the ice but u end up freezing it again. How to help u? You help yrself by creating such opportunity again man..

[self_reserved]

to Rebelpunk brudder:

4) she is fine to meet 1-1 with guys whom she knows well.she does not
go for married man.

6) haha i don't club...i only physical touching my exes...

7) actually i am looking for a FB, but i am not rich nor cute.

8) hahaha this is funny.

thanks for your effort to type so long.

[self_reserved]

Originally Posted by edmundhello

Ts, you got opportunity u also never make use... When she tease u that u watch porn then tease her back la... She already break the ice but u end up freezing it again. How to help u? You help yrself by creating such opportunity again man..

come to think of it...yeah i let it go.