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20-03-2011, 07:44 PM
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Breadwinner at an age of 23
this is sort of a sequel of my previous thread http://sbfonline.site/showthread.php?t=215324
just turned 23 last month, and news from my mum that my father just quite his job is very depressing for me.. -father is 59 yrs old and is mild deaf, talks loudly and stubborn thinking, quarrel often with mother. i think that's it for him, sure cant find job one at this age. -mother, unemployed -sis, ite dropout, unmotivated, rude to parents, jobless and doesnt bother to find one. only stay at home eat/slp/watch tv and play computer games -myself, earning around 2k/month, need to pay for poly loan(100 per month), current part time degree, expenses for myself. Since im still young, i plan to do some 'huo li' stuffs like going overseas trip once every year with my friends or gf, buying a bicycle this year, a car licence(started but haven start practical), braces etc etc.. but now, i have to support my family members, pay bills, money for food, at the same time, to pay for my studies and own expenditures.. really feel depressing and angry when i though of it. Yes i know my parents have given me food, education, a roof for all my 23 yrs, but i am really unhappy from what is in front of me now. It's like 'people have what i have, but i might not have what they have'. So what now? every month how much could i save? few hundreds? how can i save up for my marriage and house next time? even if i am married in the future, do i need to support 2 families at the same time? sole bread winner for 2 families? god damn it. Hiaz, if it's really in this case, i would rather not have any kids so they wont suffer because of me. Frankly speaking, among my friends and those i know, there is no one who is in a worse case than me, and i haven met anyone who is as useless as my sis. Bros, i am really at loss now, and i cant seem to change anything.. 
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20-03-2011, 08:36 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
Hi bro, do empathize on your situation... Every family got it's own problems, some financially, some emotionally... No matter how bad it is, life still goes on. Take it positively, your situation is not the worst that I encountered.
Brace up and always believe that there's going to be a better tomorrow.
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20-03-2011, 08:43 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
be strong...
u will live thru this, and be more stronger... all the best and good lucks... sorry cant do much for you in real life, only can encourage you in thie forum take care of body health also!
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#5
20-03-2011, 08:46 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
you are responsible for your parents
you are not responsible for your sister Quote:
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20-03-2011, 09:14 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
thank you guys..
anyway i have this thinking a while back.. should i let my gf go? i am afraid if she sticks with me, she will be struggling together with me to make ends meet. If i let her go, she would definitely find someone more financially stable for her marriage/family.. i mean, whose parents would like to marry their daughter to some poor guy which will struggle after marriage one? really nothing positive to look forward to now..
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#8
20-03-2011, 09:52 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
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sorry to hear about your situation. 1 way to earn $$$ fast and big is to join the property industry. If u work hard and smart, be humble, honest and sincere, $3k to $5k for a start is no problem. 2. ask those how lian bros who tiao huay to lend u some $$$ interest free to tide over. cherry QQ and all other cash kings - don't pretend u never read this thread.
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20-03-2011, 10:06 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
hey man, you are still young. Do not be defeated...do not be affected by what you see out there..they are people who live beyond their means and there are those who are worse than u...in short, firstly, settle your parents first. All your other "needs" like your license and braces can wait....even if you dont have them, you will not die...just look beyond the material things first. As for your gf, you should keep her if she is good and one for you. You must keep improving yourself. Once you get your degree, you should at least get a better paying job...
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20-03-2011, 10:22 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
you need to wake your sis up for a start. if she can't study, then go do some adhoc work. money don't drop from the sky.
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20-03-2011, 11:51 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
I feel for you bro. You need to have a talk with your sis. Your father is already closing in on 60, will be hard for him to find jobs. Maybe you can check and see if you qualify for any social assistance ?
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21-03-2011, 01:46 AM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
bro, just something to share with you, hope that it will make you feel better.
I am 24 this yr, my mum is a part time baby sitter. my dad suffer from stroke. i am the only child in the family, currently i am in debt. due to my addiction of gambling, i owe several bank with a total amt near to 30k. i gonna admit i am a compulsive gambler and i am trying to quit. i am in sales line, and sales hasn't been good these few months. and if this continue, i will be out of job soon. with all my dad medical bills, housing loan installments, daily expenses, and the debt with the bank, i am totally screw up. but what to do? life have to continue. so just have to bite thru it. and things will be better. i hope so.
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21-03-2011, 03:25 AM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
Bro, I empathise with you. You are not alone here. Be strong.
We all have got to roll up our sleeves and work now... frustrating thing is that we see our more "fortunate" friends enjoy themselves and look at you wierd and cannot comprehend why you cannot join them on a backpacking trip with them to Europe.
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#14
21-03-2011, 11:26 AM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
play it smart ... the hand has been dealt to you ......
life is not about what is thrown at us ...but how WE react to it whats OUR reaction ??? don't waste another second thinking about things BEYOND your control ... like feeling sorry for yourself & asking why me ???... why my sis/dad/mum/life/job like that? ... accept it ..& move on ...ain't easy i know FOCUS on what is under YOUR DIRECT control ... your mindset ... your free time ... look for 2nd job/part time work think how to reduce expenses ... "i complained about having no shoes, until i meet a man with no feet" ask yourself 1 word .. ."HOW?" this will get you mind focused on what YOU CAN DO NEXT... rather than think about how you're feeling.. JIA YOU ! ! !
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21-03-2011, 04:10 PM
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Re: Breadwinner at an age of 23
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if she sticks with you come whatever hell, she will be a woman worthy of being your life partner, if not then at least you see her true colors before planning for a ROM. your main worries is how to support your parents. and as for your sis, perhaps is high time she learn how to support herself.
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