Chasing the girl back after break-up

[bpafree]

Hello bros.. i guess i need some guidance from some experienced people here regarding this topic.

We have broken up for less than a month, and her replies were like from a different person.. I miss her, and was thinking that.. if i dun chase her back now, im afraid when 20 or 30 years later and someone asks me what is my greatest regret, i would reply that person that the greatest regret is not chasing her back and see her marry happily to another man.

Okay, back to topic.. I would like to ask her out for a movie, and probably a good talk regarding our relationship(we had a silent breakup). And i also dunno if she is willing to do that or not as she was like quite decisive about the breakup.

To those bros here who had done this, did u succeed or fail? any unexpected outcome? what are the backfires that could happen? would like to hear more about this before i make my next move..

[prccuntlover]

why chase?
go for another girl la...
breaking is always hard especially if you are not the one who initiate..
1) could i have done any better
2) if i have done that, would she have not leave me

my ex-gf can tell even tell me what past is past no point dwelling...

[oahpekahsom]

dun bother la....if not yours means not yours,......

[waiwaiz]

Originally Posted by bpafree

To those bros here who had done this, d

yes, get back together then broke off again. pointless doing it.might as well spend the time chasing other,,,tio bo?

[dyelook]

Originally Posted by bpafree

To those bros here who had done this, did u succeed or fail? any unexpected outcome? what are the backfires that could happen? would like to hear more about this before i make my next move..

think you are not really into this relationship loh... why must hear from others before you make your next move?

[Ichigowaffles]

Romance her. Ask her out for dinner make sure u look dashing/ extremely groomed so she will have gd impression that u can take care of yourself.
Treat her to somewhere u two had a special moment or somewhere romantic n new.
Do not show u r desperate for her to come back.
Be confident and ooze charisma...
Let her fall/soften for u then hug / kiss her
Simply let passion occur not ask for a patch back.

[Stud00]

Originally Posted by bpafree

Hello bros.. i guess i need some guidance from some experienced people here regarding this topic.

We have broken up for less than a month, and her replies were like from a different person.. I miss her, and was thinking that.. if i dun chase her back now, im afraid when 20 or 30 years later and someone asks me what is my greatest regret, i would reply that person that the greatest regret is not chasing her back and see her marry happily to another man.

Okay, back to topic.. I would like to ask her out for a movie, and probably a good talk regarding our relationship(we had a silent breakup). And i also dunno if she is willing to do that or not as she was like quite decisive about the breakup.

To those bros here who had done this, did u succeed or fail? any unexpected outcome? what are the backfires that could happen? would like to hear more about this before i make my next move..

TS,

I have been in the same situation as you, mine ended up via sms. And up to this day, i regretted not meeting her up and talking about it like adults.
Silent break-ups do not exist, i think that it is bullshit. If both adults wanna end a relationship, sit down, and talk like adults (Unless both parties ended it in a hostile way, ie two-timing).

Some questions to ask yourself, and now is a good time for you to reflect on yourself, Do you really love her? what is it about her that you love? Do you see yourself marrying her, settling down, starting a family and stuff? Can you accept her? And most importantly, what led to the "break up". This is really important, no point getting back together just because you are feeling emo and a few months down the road, you guys break off and the entire emo cycle repeats itself. Find the problem, and solve it. But for starters, ask her out and have a heart to heart talk with her, at least if things doesnt work out, you still have her as friends. From what i see, i can tell that you still love her and you do love her, but don't confuse emotions with actual facts.. and never ever be led by emotions.

In closing, I would like to leave you with this:

Never live your life in regrets..

All the best..

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by bpafree

i would reply that person that the greatest regret is not chasing her back and see her marry happily to another man.

Never try to mend a broken relationship. You'll be much worse off in the long term and your greatest regret will invariably be that you wasted more of your time with the same girl instead of grabbing the opportunity to start afresh.

Let her go and you'll enjoy the satisfaction of seeing some other man having to put up with a fat, old, grumpy wife that you could have ended up with.

This "I want to grow old together with you" is the stuff of fairy tales. Reality is a lot different.

[voice]

Just let it go .

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by bpafree

Hello bros.. i guess i need some guidance from some experienced people here regarding this topic.

We have broken up for less than a month, and her replies were like from a different person.. I miss her, and was thinking that.. if i dun chase her back now, im afraid when 20 or 30 years later and someone asks me what is my greatest regret, i would reply that person that the greatest regret is not chasing her back and see her marry happily to another man.

To those bros here who had done this, did u succeed or fail? any unexpected outcome? what are the backfires that could happen? would like to hear more about this before i make my next move..

Why need to hear others stories? Every failed relationship has a story and a life of it's own, what works for others might not work for you. The more you hear from others, the more confuse you will become. Only you know why she left you! Let your heart be your guiding light

Originally Posted by bpafree

.....We have broken up for less than a month, and her replies were like from a different person.. I miss her, and was thinking that.. if i dun chase her back now, im afraid when 20 or 30 years later and someone asks me what is my greatest regret, i would reply that person that the greatest regret is not chasing her back and see her marry happily to another man......

Such endless love statement is understandable for a still-fresh break up cos you miss her. No need to wait for 20-30 years.

Anyway if you really want to do something for yourself: Just send her a box of cheese cake every 2-3 days and check your regret in 2-3months time.
It be regrets???? What regrets?

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

double post

[alan0338]

Originally Posted by bpafree

what are the backfires that could happen? ..

the backfire could be she cant tahan ur pestering and call 999, then she say , pls help me i believe i have a stalker here .....

[RealEstateGuy]

I dont recommend it. If it happens let her initiate it. You need to make her miss you and that is done by beind absent from her until she reflects and tries to get you back. Still I don't recommend it unless you two really communicate on what happened to case the breakup. If that can't be done then its not going to work out in the long run and like the boss said you would be wasting your time. The opportunity cost being that you could be with someone else or at least get a chance to see if someone else is more compatible for you.

[arsenal_84]

hmm i ever try asking for a patch back with my ex before over sms (suffered a silent break as well)...no doubt i admit it was an insincere move on my part, she didn't give me any answers or was trying to play dumb.
so knowing that i won't get anything out of her, i was determined to move on without looking back.

[see see only]

Tell us the real reason behind the break up - first ...

Before more advice could be suggested ba, TS


Maybe really pointless to try harder, or maybe ........... a few tips could given