Why do we not treat our gf/bf/spouses like FBs?

5ag1_Boar · #1 28-12-2011, 11:51 AM

Feeling really horny this few days and keep planning how to escape office to have a session with an FL or wishing I had an FB I could call. Same time feeling guilty as I have a pretty decent sex life with my gf.

Then this thought came to me... why do we not treat our partners like FBs? For FBs (or even FLs) we plan and plot to escape office to have a quickie. We shift our schedules around to accommodate our clandestine activities with our FBs and FLs, but why do we not do that with/for our partners?

Some of us fake overseas work trips to holiday with our FBs. Some just bring along the FB during real work trips. Technically, we could do the same for our life-partners.

It would raise the thrill factor of sex-life with our partners, and probably the romance too.

Off hand, I can think of a few excuses why we don't, like:
- Who will look after the children,
- Waste money (overseas trips and/or local hotels).

OTOH, we move mountains and oceans to have a chance to bonk our FBs silly, yet we won't do so for our life-partners? Assuming of course that we are still interested in bonking our partners silly.

Some our us complain that our partners are not interested in sex any more... I wonder if that's because that we have neglected the thrill and romance.

I.m.Jim · #2 28-12-2011, 12:24 PM

Good topic to explore!

Why?mainly one reason is the FBs will neglect or ignore the financial stability and future planning part of a BFGF or married relationship which many man just hate cos of the pressure and stress.Having a FB is a escape from reality actually,to enjoy the pleasure of the escape and company of each other.

smartke · #3 28-12-2011, 01:04 PM

maybe things wif partner r quite routine, while there r thrill & sexcitin feel in fb?

amateur.bonker · #4 28-12-2011, 02:28 PM

Life partner speaks the language of commitment, future, savings, building a home, etc..
As what other bro said, it's also very routine..

As men, we often seek the excitement of 'eating out'.. Be it another girl friend or FL/FB.. The thrill is always there.. Meeting them during lunch break or late at night, knowing that you are hiding from your partner and the risk you are taking is damn exciting..

Anyway it's a no commitment sex session from both parties.. Just come out and have a good time.. Unless you developed feeling for FL/FB lah.. Else it's all fun!!

But for sure I won't be treating my partner as FB.. Reason is simple, I need to portray an image of a responsible man to my partner.. not everything sex sex sex..

5ag1_Boar · #5 28-12-2011, 03:06 PM

Why can't a responsible partner be a spicy, sexy lover too?

I had this problem with my ex-wife. No sex at home because in her own words "I cannot reconcile being a sexy creature and being a mother at the same time."

I don't know how many agree with amateur.bonker, but I personally don't "eat out" for the thrill of the risk. I just have an urge to fulfil.

It's really sad that many woman become mothers and stop being wives. (And some sis will similarly complain their man has become a father and stopped being a husband.)

DavidLim · #6 28-12-2011, 03:18 PM

fb is used to escape the life with ur partner for a short while. away from the stress and get into excitement.

how can u treat ur partner as fb whom is ecactly what u want to escape from

5ag1_Boar · #7 28-12-2011, 03:58 PM

After reading the few replies above, and re-thinking my own motives, I agree... we go FLs and have FBs to escape routine and the baggage that weighs on our life-partner relationships.

That said: Why do we not spice up sex-life with our life-partners in the same way (other than that we have tried and been rejected with "you seow ah?")? Granted we want escapades, but does not mean we stop having great/fun sex at home.

44mm · #8 28-12-2011, 04:08 PM

Its the thrills! Anything goes!

GoldenMonkey1 · #9 28-12-2011, 06:41 PM

This is an interesting topic!! Does it mean to say that if our spouses agree to be more thrill seeking, it will actually stop the partner from fooling outside?

zacarie · #10 28-12-2011, 09:36 PM

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Originally Posted by sagiboar

That said: Why do we not spice up sex-life with our life-partners in the same way (other than that we have tried and been rejected with "you seow ah?")? Granted we want escapades, but does not mean we stop having great/fun sex at home.

I dont think it is not tt u dont want. it is cause one party refuse to let it be spiced up.. say u want a new position. it took me long just to persude my ex to do so. And even then, it is not enjoyed by him. so unless both are willing to do so. only then will u be able to..

Fb status. u know it is mainly for sex. sometimes more to tt. but both are willing to try the different moves.. how to please the other...

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Originally Posted by GoldenMonkey1

This is an interesting topic!! Does it mean to say that if our spouses agree to be more thrill seeking, it will actually stop the partner from fooling outside?

I thought so too. but it doesnt seem tt way. haha. I still think guys find the need to have an affair..

goodpartner · #11 28-12-2011, 11:39 PM

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Why do we not treat our gf/bf/spouses like FBs?

To me, why not?

Imho. it all boils down to engerish terminology.

Call it whatever you want, they (gf/bf/spouses) are FB one way or another; what's left is for us to debate the definition of the terms use; which is a fruitless argument.

For e.g. Some like to call a high-class maid who is paid in kinds a FB but others call her a type of whore; those who use the formal term only want to be regarded as a different "class" himself, but frankly if we remove all the terms, it's "exchanging sex for benefits" in ALL cases.

HCKing · #12 29-12-2011, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by DavidLim

fb is used to escape the life with ur partner for a short while. away from the stress and get into excitement.

how can u treat ur partner as fb whom is ecactly what u want to escape from

Yup. can enjoy sex as and when u want without strings attached, no emotional baggage and its all free somemore. how to compare?

wally888 · #13 29-12-2011, 01:10 AM

Sometimes u cant let your OC know that u very experience in sex but to a FB u can chok any pattern coz she'll never ask. Furthermore, she can also experiment with u new positions......If u too experience in sex with OC she'll suspect u learnt it from someone else, or vice versa.

callmebad · #14 29-12-2011, 01:22 AM

FBs do not need commitment, you don't see them everyday
FBs are supposed to be hush hush kind of affair, which can give you that element of excitement
For gf/spouse, initially sex will be as exciting and enjoyable as doing with FBs, but gradually the flame of passion will get weaker and you will have to make an effort to 'create' some romance or add some sparks to your sex life
For FBs, either party can end it if either one gets tired off each other
Not so easy with gf, especially with spouse
Anyway relationship with opposite sex (gf/spouse) is not just about sex alone, other factors are also important in holding both together
Sex without the real feeling there sometimes can give you that empty feeling like the after-effect of doing with a hooker, or just like after you take some high carbohydrates food, the sugar level in your body surges and after a while you feel so tired when things return to normal.
Maybe I'm getting old into thinking this way!