unable to....

[royroy85]

a guy here...

gotten into a relationship after being single for couple of years... diy every other day when single...

we were in the process of making love.. was getting hard and when i was about to enter... i soften...
another encounter was that i was hard enough to enter... but it got too sensitive and shoot within 2-3 pumps..

but i have no problems getting it hard while on sammyboy or when she bj me...

what's wrong.. anyone help?

[asdfghjkl]

sounds like PME to me.. practice make perfect?

[Uzzi]

Performance anxiety .....

You are probably giving yourself too much pressure to perform at peak ....

As for the premature ejaculation part .... Maybe your gf is too tight or too much thoughts about trying to stay hard and forgot to control ....

In most cases , when you get some after a long break .... You just wanna feel with your dick, every nook and cranny of every orifice and concentrate so much on the sensation of the grip of her tight wet and warm pussy or mouth that you loose all sense of control and thus coming too soon ....

Give it a few more goes and you should be back in your game soon .

If you can , try not concentrating so much while doing the deed and hum some songs in your mind ... Remember , dun appear to be drifting away or laugh out suddenly .... She will be damn pissed ....

Cheers

[SammyNewbie]

I think you are probably nervous and worried about your performance. Worrying about coming fast tends to either make you come fast or be unable to sustain an erection. My tips for this are

1) Go slowly. Most men thrust too fast and too hard. Hence come very fast. Doing it slowly is actually also better for the girl if she's not already wet.

2) There's a point of no return. And you KNOW the sensations that happen right before you come. When this happens, either stop, slow down or take out your penis, continue foreplay and then change positions.

3) Just make her wet first and give her foreplay before you go at her. This way you won't have to last that long, LOL.

4) Practice the stop and go technique from jackingworld.com

5) Use a condom

[SammyNewbie]

The second reason why this could be happening is that your girlfriend is bad in bed. There was a point where, I just could not sustain an erection after a blowjob after penetration and so on. I almost went to a doctor for it, then I just went to a WL that was good in bed... and LOL and behold... I was hard the whole time.

This one, well you got to teach her what you like and where you like to be touched, and you got to let her know what turns you on... and you might have to do stuff to her that will turn you on.Finally, after reading and doing a background check on your posts, it seems you have been looking for FB here with little success. If you are lying and you are actually visiting WL and FL for sex, my techniques will have limited application because

[pseudonym]

Originally Posted by royroy85

we were in the process of making love.. was getting hard and when i was about to enter... i soften...

I would agree with the post above, one reason could be performance anxiety but there are other possible factors. Another could be something physical about your girl is turning you off at that moment. For example, I know some guys can soften at the sight of a hairy pussy because they only like shaven/waxed pussies. Whatever it is, you need to identify when and why you soften. Try to understand yourself first.

Originally Posted by royroy85

another encounter was that i was hard enough to enter... but it got too sensitive and shoot within 2-3 pumps..

There are many causes and solutions for premature ejaculation. Do a search in this forum and try out the recommendations from the bros here. All the best!

[SammyNewbie]

1) WL or FL usually want you to come fast so they can service the next customer. Which does mean they will increase the rhythm of your thrusting by themselves and insist you go into positions like missionary which put stress on your muscles and make you come faster from the tension.

2) If you meet bad FL that refuse to do anything for you, well mostly in the end u might end up with a really bad handjob. Handy tip for this is that balls area is not capped and this easily the most sensitive. So just get them to foreplay that area. Usually they won't really complain. Be careful though, those very rough ones or fast fap ones... Do not request! >.<"

[SammyNewbie]

3) If WL or FL cannot make you stand or does not feel good.... FIND ANOTHER ONE! This one is honestly spoken from experience. Got plenty of skilled ones in every price. Not necessarily expensive one is good and cheap one is bad and vice versa. Sometimes, it's really about the WL/FL mood that time... whether or not she likes guys like you... whether you pay her enough money etc. Eventually out of many you don't like, you'll find a few you do =).

[soothHerOnlyIf]

practice makes perfect. focus on making your gf high via petting her first. relax and breath well when you are pumping her. breathing helps with controlling your erection and anxiety. stopping your breath increases anxiety.

[jasdude]

Agree with the comments above but if problem persists. You will need professional help.

[FBInsp]

TS I have encountered ur problem before... wen I was doing my ns, I dun have money to find FL so I could only jerk off wen I was hm during the weekends... after I ord, I found a gf who have the most bombastic body with D cups n an angelic face... our 1st ML session ended in just 1 min n she could even ask me y my dick soften is it becos she came n secreted a lot of cum juice dats y I got no feeling dats y I soften down... but in actual is I aready came...

but such situation only last a few sessions n after the 4th or 5th, I was back awarded the IPPT gold in making love by my gf then...

[unsung80]

Simple, stop masturbating. Do it with her more often. Eventually things will get back to normal. Good luck bro!

[wally888]

Lesson learnt, do not DIY too frequent coz will affect your sex life....TS best is stop all your DIY! Also, maybe change your condom (if u r using) to less sensitive type so u wont cum so soon.

[royroy85]

thanks for the advice guys..
i stopped myself from coming to sammyboyforum so i will stop myself from diy..
had another 2 sessions with my gf.. the last one which is 2 days ago.. i manage to stay harder and longer in her.. but still only a few pumps...
at times, she is not wet enough for me to enter...