Cant Come While Having Sex

[LittleBoy25]

This is my first thread since joining in 2005. Most of the time, i am just here as a looker. I have this issue that is bothering me for the last 10 years and i wonder if any bros has the same experience as me.

Recently i went to a trip in bangkok for 3 nights and meet up with a lady friend, She is a petite girl with a relatively tight pussy and we kind of bonked like 2 to 3 hours in duration every day. I could feel her pussy squeezing my cock when she came and being very sensitive, she came easily 15 to 20 times everyday. But the problem is, no matter how horny i feel or how hard i bang her, i just could not come at all. End up we did mutual diy after the long sex and then only did i come.

I have been having raw sex with girls mostly my ex gfs and a few close lady friends the last 10 years and while my dick is highly sensitive and easily aroused, i just could not come at all during sex with anyone. I am the only guy in my group of cheong friends who never come by handjob or blowjob in my life. I tried to go for paid sex in my early to mid 20s (with condom) but always end up i will be the one who stopped the session halfway cos i lost interest in the action since i have no feeling to come at all.

Is there a problem with me only or anyone out there who has the same agony as me till they want to give up on having sex altogether ?

[swingersx2]

Originally Posted by LittleBoy25

This is my first thread since joining in 2005. Most of the time, i am just here as a looker. I have this issue that is bothering me for the last 10 years and i wonder if any bros has the same experience as me.

Recently i went to a trip in bangkok for 3 nights and meet up with a lady friend, She is a petite girl with a relatively tight pussy and we kind of bonked like 2 to 3 hours in duration every day. I could feel her pussy squeezing my cock when she came and being very sensitive, she came easily 15 to 20 times everyday. But the problem is, no matter how horny i feel or how hard i bang her, i just could not come at all. End up we did mutual diy after the long sex and then only did i come.

I have been having raw sex with girls mostly my ex gfs and a few close lady friends the last 10 years and while my dick is highly sensitive and easily aroused, i just could not come at all during sex with anyone. I am the only guy in my group of cheong friends who never come by handjob or blowjob in my life. I tried to go for paid sex in my early to mid 20s (with condom) but always end up i will be the one who stopped the session halfway cos i lost interest in the action since i have no feeling to come at all.

Is there a problem with me only or anyone out there who has the same agony as me till they want to give up on having sex altogether ?

If you can cum by DIY, then it is either a psychological problem or fatigue after fucking for some time.

[BMW69]

Perhaps you DIY too much. Used to the feeling.

[pyrokinets]

Too much vigorous masturbation and dependency on porn can make you resistant or numb towards normal sex. If this is indeed your case, you have two choices. You can either abstain from sex and masturbation for two months to reset your libido.

It could also mean you're having too much vanilla sex. If that is the case, you can also try stopping for a few months to readjust, or you can venture deeper into the chasm of your desires. Start identifying a fetish that works for you, for example, bondage, rape play, cosplay, etc. Personally, I myself ventured into the cuckolding lifestyle not too long ago when I came to the same dilemma as you. It isn't about tight pussies anymore. A pussy is a pussy. A married pussy sworn to another spread invitingly for me? Now that's a whole new level of arousal. It's the taboo which gets me off.

My point is, try something new. Something novel. your body might just be bored of engaging in the same old things over and over again. However be warned, it's a slippery slope. Once you've found something that truly gets you off, you'll get sucked in. Being a slave to your basest desires will have it's consequences.

I'd recommend you try sex-fasting first. It builds up willpower. I myself alternated between 2 month long abstinences followed by 2 months of debauchery for years.

[LittleBoy25]

Actually i dun diy so much. Sometimes once every few days or once a week. On average at most 7 times a month. I am the kind who prefers real sex to handjobs or bjs or diy but will take my time to find someone decent and clean since i am allergic to condoms and prefer raw. Some friends suggested i should try Circumcision but i am afraid of losing the sensitivity after it. I dun like sex on a regular or almost daily basis cos it gets boring after a while. End up i prefer something like a sex marathon kinda fuck every 2 weeks or monthly basis. I can go without sex for 18 months or also be on it everyday for months but sadly the end result is i cant COME . I am a obese guy in my mid 30s with no exercise routine at all and yet i am a energizer bunny when i actually do have sex. Lastly, i dun feel aroused when i watch porn or see a naked pic.