virgin noob qn, need laojiaos help

[h3ll0]

Hi everyone, I am a 21 yr old male, sadly still virgin.
I have a gf, we dating for more than 2 yrs already. She does not want to have sex with me cause she say scared pain, scared we cannot last until marriage etc etc..

However we did almost everything already, frenching, licking, bj, fingering, 69 and all that.basically everything except for actual sex itself.

So anyway recently she seems to be open to the idea of us having sex soon. Think her friends all telling her their sex stories and she got curious, also she finally realised that there is almost 100% chance that we will marry one day.

Heres the thing, we both virgins when it comes to actual sex, so abit noob ah. What type of condom should I use? Got flavour kind or no need? Should use lube or not?

Also sometimes when we making out and stuff, I got try to stick my dick inside her, but I am ashamed to say I canmot find her 'hole'. When I use my fingers its damn easy to stick it inside, but when use dick, like very hard like that..she also very tight, wwhen I finger her, I use 2 fingers she will say pain, but she still want me to continue cause she say its shiok at the same time.

So anyone can advise me what to do?

[Lindblum]

No girlfriendl will say they are ok with sex before marriage . Makes them look loose . It depends on their mood

[loqpol]

Same problem here, anyone can advice?

[sadfa]

Let me be the first 2 give you the standard reply 2 questions of this sort here.

You let me try first n you can watch.
I will do first n be pioneer n take the risk so I can pave the way for you 2 song song qi jurong.

Swee bo?

[fictionman]

Since 99% one day cfm marry, use condom for wat wor...Both V so in this case Raw is NOT War...Tts my humble take only...

[sadfa]

I said standard reply 2 questions of this sort here.
ANyway, I already chope 1st place liao. You 2nd place.
I cant make it, you take over but unless she looks like dinosaur, I sure can do it wan

[lechlee]

Hi Hello guy,
I got books to lend you on that.. I am actually going to further my studies in sexology in future..

Firstly, you just get normal condom la... Dont need flavour. Use water lube if you need to as it does not cause any irritation to skin and is easier to wash off.. However, also remember that water-based lube dries up pretty fast so you need to keep on applying now and then. However, if you already have condom on, why bother using lube? make sense?

Well, for the difficulty to find hole part, don't be embarrassed to tell her to help guide it inside. I know it can get a bit difficult when you are in doggy position or simply going from the back. hence the need for her to cooperate with you. When you feel that it is almost in, you can actually also create suspense and tease her by rubbing your dick dead on her vulva. That can make the whole session more satisfactory as you play pull and push with her emotions- She cannot tahan already and yet you don't wanna give her yet. Something like that.

As for fingering, always make sure you do it when she got at least a bit wet. you guys need to communicate clearly what she is expecting and you need to let her know what you are doing. let her hand guide your finger inside. porn is just porn. every girl has their tolerance threshold and difference in anxiety. let her be in charge of how much she wants you to finger. Afterall, it's her hole and you gonna respect her. very importantly, both of you must relax.

[Chij]

For the first time, I tried using the strawberry flavored condom. There's really strawberry smell on it, but I will never call my partner to give me any bj with a condom on. Who knows what chemical or whatever ingredient they used to make their condom.

Since you are unable to find the "hole", you can try asking your girlfriend to do the cowgirl first (she sitting on you)(I guess most virgin start that way?) then you can help to spread her leg while she guide your brother to her "hole".

But if she's shy to do that, you can try missionary style(slowly), make sure you paint her and make her wet :P

P.S. For virgin, remember to put a towel on the bed, you won't want blood stain on your bedsheet

[newyorker88]

Let it be natural, things will work out. Of cos, you must know where to poke. Also, make her relax, and dont be too anxious. Gals first time, can be painful. take it easy.