Another guy that got cheated

[Johnsmith88316]

I never thought that I will ever be posting here, but I just feel really unhappy and thought that sharing might make me feel better.

I got to know this China girl previously from ktv, fell head over heels with her. At first, I bought a diamond pendant for her and she wear it everyday. After that one day, she told me that the necklance broke while playing around with the other girls at the ktv and she doesn't want to wear it anymore. I told her we can go fix it or I can get a new chain to put the pendant on but she refuses, saying that she don't feel like wearing it. So after that, I bought a diamond ring for her to wear.

After a couple of months, she requested for iphone 5S, gold necklance, gold bracelet, so I bought everything for her. She said her watch broke, so I bought a watch for her too. She said that she wanted to buy a watch for her father so I bought that as well.

Then one day, she said that while she was out, her rented room got burglared and she lost the diamond ring I bought for her, the necklance with the broken chain and the money that I had given to her. So, I told her that since its lost, I will buy another diamond ring for her since she always complain that the previous one is too loose and doesn't want to wear on her ring finger. So, we went to buy the diamond ring.

Before she went back to China, I told her that I want to send her off at the airport, but she keep insisting that she don't like people to send her off because she does not like the sad feeling. When I keep insisting then she said that a friend is sending her off already, so I shouldn't go. I was really sad but I went to the airport to see with my own eyes so that my feelings for her can die.

True enough, I see another guy sending her off and hugging her for several minutes before she enter the gates. I feel so heartbroken. Subsequently, I called her on her hp and she tried to lie that its the boss of the KTV that she works in. Subsequently, I told her not to lie anymore and she insist that its only a very close friend sending her off and that they will not keep in touch anymore.

Although I really wanted to stop then, I still keep in contact with her because I really did feel for her. Then one day, she told me that her father thank me for the watch. So, I was puzzled, I asked her that if her room was burglared and she lost everything, how come the watch still exists? She then said that a friend of hers wanted to see the watch in real life so she brought over to her friend's house and left it there so it wasn't stolen. At that time, I felt it was unbelievable but I decided to let it go since I had no evidence anyway.

Then subsequently, she told me that she sold the gold necklace because she needed the money to pay for her family's illness and she felt really bad. I told her that its okay, I understand her situation. (Part 1)

[Johnsmith88316]

Please see part 1 of the same title first

Then one day, she send me a photo of herself, and I realised that she was wearing the same necklace that I originally gave to her. I was so shocked. Everything was a lie, the broken necklace, the lost ring, the burglar.....everything.

I confronted her and the only excuse she could come up with is that its a different necklace, she went to buy it.

I was devastated, I told her that continuing the conversation is meaningless and she replied me that continuing to be together without any trust is meaningless. Since then, I have been ignoring her, although she didn't try to contact me much except dropping me a msg saying that she dreamt about me.

I just feel so useless and stupid, all I wanted to do was to love someone and yet all I got back was lies, lies and more lies. I just couldn't believe how much lies she fed me all the while. Even now, I find it hard to believe that someone can lie so much just to cheat more money. Maybe we grow up in a different environment so this is shocking to me.

[demonhunter]

She doesnt look too bright to me , lying and getting caught by you .

When she does not want you to see her off at the airport , you should know better as its very obvious . Anyway , she choose some other guy to see her off instead of you , does it not tell you where you stand in her life ? Its crystal clear dude .

Like all the brudders always say , these women are for banging and not for lovin !

good luck forgetting her so as to avoid more lies and foolish money spent

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by Johnsmith88316

Please see part 1 of the same title first

Then one day, she send me a photo of herself, and I realised that she was wearing the same necklace that I originally gave to her. I was so shocked. Everything was a lie, the broken necklace, the lost ring, the burglar.....everything.

I confronted her and the only excuse she could come up with is that its a different necklace, she went to buy it.

I was devastated, I told her that continuing the conversation is meaningless and she replied me that continuing to be together without any trust is meaningless. Since then, I have been ignoring her, although she didn't try to contact me much except dropping me a msg saying that she dreamt about me.

I just feel so useless and stupid, all I wanted to do was to love someone and yet all I got back was lies, lies and more lies. I just couldn't believe how much lies she fed me all the while. Even now, I find it hard to believe that someone can lie so much just to cheat more money. Maybe we grow up in a different environment so this is shocking to me.

please remind yourself why they are here working in a KTV .

they are looking for Mooolah , not love .

[36Red]

TS u very young right? Slowly learn la.

[Blast88]

TS, mind to share how much have you spend on her? Did you bed her?

[Johnsmith88316]

I am early 30s this year...not sure if that's young but I only started hanging out at ktvs 6 months ago.

[Johnsmith88316]

I have already lost count of how much I spent on her. I also helped to pay her management fees now and then, gave her allowance when she say that she is poor. Bring her to go see doctor.

I estimate probably around 20k to 30k.

I only went with her to hotel 3 times.

[damong777]

Bro: you need to move on, harden your heart; since she is like that liao, you can always feel someone better or appreciate you.

if not, you may be taken advantage. Once your heart become soft, you would be getting in more mess...

[autoroam]

TS....
why are you starting a new thread since it is the same story??
So if there is 100 parts you going to create 100 thread??

[Nato17]

Originally Posted by autoroam

TS....
why are you starting a new thread since it is the same story??
So if there is 100 parts you going to create 100 thread??

I concur with the statement above. If you want to finish the story, just finish it here instead of opening 100 threads lei.

[Nato17]

Originally Posted by Johnsmith88316

Please see part 1 of the same title first

Then one day, she send me a photo of herself, and I realised that she was wearing the same necklace that I originally gave to her. I was so shocked. Everything was a lie, the broken necklace, the lost ring, the burglar.....everything.

I confronted her and the only excuse she could come up with is that its a different necklace, she went to buy it.

I was devastated, I told her that continuing the conversation is meaningless and she replied me that continuing to be together without any trust is meaningless. Since then, I have been ignoring her, although she didn't try to contact me much except dropping me a msg saying that she dreamt about me.

I just feel so useless and stupid, all I wanted to do was to love someone and yet all I got back was lies, lies and more lies. I just couldn't believe how much lies she fed me all the while. Even now, I find it hard to believe that someone can lie so much just to cheat more money. Maybe we grow up in a different environment so this is shocking to me.

How you play the game does not mean people have to play by the same rules. Here is something you and most brothers need to understand. PRC women have something that a lot of other country women don't have. There is a MAJOR shortage of women in PRC versus other countries, so even a fucking ugly woman would have people chasing after. My own stupid theology for every 1 PRC women, she probably have 10-20 different guys being interested in her over her life time. What makes you so special that she is really going to be touched by you? Unlike other countries, whereby WLs become used properties, PRC women as long as they open leg, they will have someone interested in them.

Enuff said. I hope you get through this and I am sure you will.

[cqueen]

Originally Posted by Johnsmith88316

I just feel so useless and stupid, all I wanted to do was to love someone and yet all I got back was lies, lies and more lies. I just couldn't believe how much lies she fed me all the while. Even now, I find it hard to believe that someone can lie so much just to cheat more money. Maybe we grow up in a different environment so this is shocking to me.

Good afternoon Johnsmith88316,

The very fact that you came forward to share with us how your sincere intent of just wanting to love someone heartily and unconditionally, and be loved in return, was met with deception and lies, only demonstrates that you are not stupid and useless.

On the contrary, you are a courageous man with good strength to be able to recognise and accept this hurting truth. I know you will be able to recover from this hurting episode soon and emerge from it a stronger man.

Remember, its the other party who took advantage of your well intended feelings for her own ill motivated interests. You have not done anything wrong! Do not blame yourself for her manipulative ways. After all, what is wrong in wanting to give your very best to someone you have strong feelings for.

Having said that, you may want to exercise more caution and be highly "selective" in your well intended feelings towards your future partner.

It is through such trials and errors that makes us grow and mature in life.

[stillgottheblue]

When the other party keeps asking for help, that's the warning sign to cut the relationship.

[sammyboyfor]

You should have read my 3 simple rules.

You deserve whatever befalls you because of your stupidity.