Help!! GF doesnt wanna have sex

Let this be a frank discussion, i am a poly student, primarily here to seek advise as well as to discuss over a shared platform. Willingness to seek advise and listening to good counsel has always been the way of learning for myself.

My present gf seems apprehensive when i pop the question of making out. Please do not be mistaken into thinking that we are both virgins or for that matter that she is a virgin, she gave me her virginity. It just seems that somewhat limits my activities to no more than once or twice a month. It gets really fustrating when i do not get it from her when i feel most vulnerable and needy.

I am asking if any of you understand there to be a problem that is prohibiting her from acceding to my request? Or was it the way i approach the whole thing? Or how could i do to make her more happy, willing or anticipative of our rendezous?

Any frank, open and even wacky idea that you feel might be a practical solution to my woes is deeply solicited and greeatly will be appreciated.

Meanwhile a good year to all and enjoy bonking.

Joel

[oakleyeug]

I have a feeling that she is afraid that you just wanna bonk her and leave just like in the movies. Are you the kind of out going guy with a normal looks? If yes bingo I think you strike jackpot liao, don think too much once she confirm that u r the one u will be crying cause not enuff to give.

Does a normal look contribute to my woe? I guess i wont say i possess good / charming looks.

We have been together for some time already and i have already assured her that i am only for her.

That could be a probable problem. Thanks oakleyeug

[sgpiggybank]

Originally Posted by jo31

Let this be a frank discussion, i am a poly student, primarily here to seek advise as well as to discuss over a shared platform. Willingness to seek advise and listening to good counsel has always been the way of learning for myself.

My present gf seems apprehensive when i pop the question of making out. Please do not be mistaken into thinking that we are both virgins or for that matter that she is a virgin, she gave me her virginity. It just seems that somewhat limits my activities to no more than once or twice a month. It gets really fustrating when i do not get it from her when i feel most vulnerable and needy.

I am asking if any of you understand there to be a problem that is prohibiting her from acceding to my request? Or was it the way i approach the whole thing? Or how could i do to make her more happy, willing or anticipative of our rendezous?

Any frank, open and even wacky idea that you feel might be a practical solution to my woes is deeply solicited and greeatly will be appreciated.

Meanwhile a good year to all and enjoy bonking.

Joel

Actually, have you ask her what is the reason why she is so limited to have sex with you? I think only she knows the answer. Below is just my assumptions.

1) She does not enjoy making love. The problem mightlies with you or hers. You got to find out.

2) Scared of getting pregnant. she do it during her super safe period.

3) She does like it...(unlikely)

It all lies on your approach to get her answer.

[180sx]

Bro jo31

May I ask, wat is ur purpose of having ur gf? She is not there to be ur sex slave. I am not here to preach abt morality but I think u should respect her. Dun treat ur gf as some sexual device that will be there when u needed it. Also, for ur info ladies are more into sex when they are in their mid twenties.

[Strider_sG]

Yet another topic on GF not liking or wanting Sxx... From my point of view, some girls like it slow. How long have you known her? few days? few months? How did you move in? Did you just date her out and then after awhile pop the question of making out? She might still be inexperienced thus do take things slowly. It is hard to analsyt your situtation as not much details are told. Have you kissed? Have you did anything yet? If not making it seems abit too hasty dun you think?

Two Cents Worth Of Comments

[sdfr]

have u ask her why she doesn't seem to want to have sex with u?

what is her answer?

anyway , at your young age (poly student)... if not having sex, then better to break off.

because, let's face it, sex is very important in a relationship. if no chemistry then fuck it. break off, find another one.

We have been out for like 1.5 years. Made out a couple of hundred times, but she will give in but she just doesnt seem to like it, we started it aft 4 mths into the relationship. Shes a young student too, i m sure shes afraid of getting pregnant, who wont at this age? But her reluctance has caught be by surprise, i could she her enjoying it and when i comment she blushes and ask me not to say. So how could i better engage her in this business?

sdfr, ure damn evil, well i guess there is alot of love involved, even if my lil bro is willing my big bro will stop.

I guess i will have to fuck a hooker if she doesnt want to do it with me or if she continues with being so sulky over it, no use forcing.

[darts]

Hi Joel,

From what u have described you are feeling that she might have a problem, however maybe is the other way round, first of all love is not = to sex only & lovemaking is not of quantity but is more of quanlity, my two cents worth of advice, Lovemaking is ten time much better than having sex, if u know what I mean & let nature take it course just spend more quanlity time to understand each other better & in the mean time create more romantic goings like dinner with wine, walk @ the beach, short getway etc.
I'm not sure wether she your right one but I'm very sure if you Live & cherish your current moment to the fullest it will been a beauitful memory.

Best of Luck
Darts

[Strider_sG]

Originally Posted by jo31

We have been out for like 1.5 years. Made out a couple of hundred times, but she will give in but she just doesnt seem to like it, we started it aft 4 mths into the relationship. Shes a young student too, i m sure shes afraid of getting pregnant, who wont at this age? But her reluctance has caught be by surprise, i could she her enjoying it and when i comment she blushes and ask me not to say. So how could i better engage her in this business?

Bro, a girl is not just about making love... remember this : "男人为了做爱而爱，女人为了爱而做爱。“ so do remember this... if you are often popping the question the girl will start to question if you are with her because of sex or is it because you love her...

how often is considered too often?

care to share guys? attached tt is

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by jo31

We have been out for like 1.5 years. Made out a couple of hundred times, but she will give in but she just doesnt seem to like it, we started it aft 4 mths into the relationship. Shes a young student too, i m sure shes afraid of getting pregnant, who wont at this age? But her reluctance has caught be by surprise, i could she her enjoying it and when i comment she blushes and ask me not to say. So how could i better engage her in this business?

You got to have chemistry bro....

and if there's no chemistry, then use biology when making love. Do all kinds of patterns, explore and make sure she feels stimulated and love your body as much as you love hers.

And if that also doesn't work, use Physics. Opposite attracts, Negative attracts positive. Act like you also don't give a damn about sex and this might make her wonder and even intiate it.

And if all that still don't work... Go to GL.

Cheers
Tee Vee

[Castrol]

[QUOTE=jo31]We have been out for like 1.5 years. Made out a couple of hundred times, but she will give in but she just doesnt seem to like it [QUOTE]


bro, this is cuntfusing. both of you made out a couple of hundred times already, and now then you are worried she doesnt seem to like it?

anyway, dont think so much la. its better for you to focus more on the poly course than intercourse.

u seem to be treating me as a freshie sci students, anyway thanks a million