First of all, I would like to thank some bros here who offered valuable advice when I was very down. I won't mention names but you all know who you are.
And for those find it difficult to find a fwb, hang in there because it will happen. At my age (30s), I feel women look for men who can laugh with them and make them laugh. Be honest and respectful.
Do not be disheartened if you fail. Take it as a learning stage. Try again if you fail. Persistence is the key to many successes.
And that was how a strictly platonic friendship became one with benefits.
I was a faithful guy. Never cheated except for the occasional visits to FLs to get some release because of frequent rejections and occasional anger. Now will that be considered cheating? I do enjoy the BBBJs from FLs cos I don't get a lot of it at home. After reading about risks of unprotected oral sex, I've stopped requesting for BBBJs. I have been very careful not to let my wife know about my visits. I believe she isn't aware.
2014 was a bad year for me. Into my x year of marriage, I started to suspect something was going on with my wife. To cut the story short, I found out about her 'affair' with a colleague. Why 'affair' with quotes? It's because I couldn't bear to dig deep into details. I just want to act on it, stop it and forget it. I don't want to know if they did anything and any of those details. You can say I'm in denial but what's the point of knowing if the damage has already been done? I was damn angry. I have also confronted the guy.
A few weeks after the confrontation, I decided that I wanted out of the marriage but she refused. I wondered why. I don't think it's about the kids; more like an embarrassment to her because she was very proud to be married young, way before most of her peers.
I still live in bitterness but people have said, time heals all wounds.
Wounds somehow have healed, not because of time but because of someone else.
What I'm going to write is almost true, just some adjustments made to hide identities.
I was a faithful guy. Never cheated except for the occasional visits to FLs to get some release because of frequent rejections and occasional anger. Now will that be considered cheating? I do enjoy the BBBJs from FLs cos I don't get a lot of it at home. After reading about risks of unprotected oral sex, I've stopped requesting for BBBJs. I have been very careful not to let my wife know about my visits. I believe she isn't aware.
2014 was a bad year for me. Into my x year of marriage, I started to suspect something was going on with my wife. To cut the story short, I found out about her 'affair' with a colleague. Why 'affair' with quotes? It's because I couldn't bear to dig deep into details. I just want to act on it, stop it and forget it. I don't want to know if they did anything and any of those details. You can say I'm in denial but what's the point of knowing if the damage has already been done? I was damn angry. I have also confronted the guy.
A few weeks after the confrontation, I decided that I wanted out of the marriage but she refused. I wondered why. I don't think it's about the kids; more like an embarrassment to her because she was very proud to be married young, way before most of her peers.
I still live in bitterness but people have said, time heals all wounds.
Wounds somehow have healed, not because of time but because of someone else.
What I'm going to write is almost true, just some adjustments made to hide identities.
First of all, I would like to thank some bros here who offered valuable advice when I was very down. I won't mention names but you all know who you are.
And for those find it difficult to find a fwb, hang in there because it will happen. At my age (30s), I feel women look for men who can laugh with them and make them laugh. Be honest and respectful.
Do not be disheartened if you fail. Take it as a learning stage. Try again if you fail. Persistence is the key to many successes.
And that was how a strictly platonic friendship became one with benefits.
I was a faithful guy. Never cheated except for the occasional visits to FLs to get some release because of frequent rejections and occasional anger. Now will that be considered cheating? I do enjoy the BBBJs from FLs cos I don't get a lot of it at home. After reading about risks of unprotected oral sex, I've stopped requesting for BBBJs. I have been very careful not to let my wife know about my visits. I believe she isn't aware.
2014 was a bad year for me. Into my x year of marriage, I started to suspect something was going on with my wife. To cut the story short, I found out about her 'affair' with a colleague. Why 'affair' with quotes? It's because I couldn't bear to dig deep into details. I just want to act on it, stop it and forget it. I don't want to know if they did anything and any of those details. You can say I'm in denial but what's the point of knowing if the damage has already been done? I was damn angry. I have also confronted the guy.
A few weeks after the confrontation, I decided that I wanted out of the marriage but she refused. I wondered why. I don't think it's about the kids; more like an embarrassment to her because she was very proud to be married young, way before most of her peers.
I still live in bitterness but people have said, time heals all wounds.
Wounds somehow have healed, not because of time but because of someone else.
What I'm going to write is almost true, just some adjustments made to hide identities.
Im really sorry to hear you are in this plight.
Do you currently have any kids? might be because your wife know you might have evidence liao so she might lose the kid?
I did consider the situation if my wife cheated on me would I still stay with her? My answer is i Will, because I do not want my princess to lose their mother...this is the only reason.
Thanks bros. No need to feel sorry for me. Things happen for a reason. For me, it seems like a blessing a disguise.
If things didn't happen I won't be able to meet several ladies within a short period.
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Originally Posted by heartkorr
Im really sorry to hear you are in this plight.
Do you currently have any kids? might be because your wife know you might have evidence liao so she might lose the kid?
I did consider the situation if my wife cheated on me would I still stay with her? My answer is i Will, because I do not want my princess to lose their mother...this is the only reason.
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Originally Posted by sianar
Numb till the point of being zombie and lose interest in the marriage relationship totally is not healthy imo.
Are you both talking still when see each other daily?
I was a faithful guy. Never cheated except for the occasional visits to FLs to get some release because of frequent rejections and occasional anger. Now will that be considered cheating? I do enjoy the BBBJs from FLs cos I don't get a lot of it at home. After reading about risks of unprotected oral sex, I've stopped requesting for BBBJs. I have been very careful not to let my wife know about my visits. I believe she isn't aware.
2014 was a bad year for me. Into my x year of marriage, I started to suspect something was going on with my wife. To cut the story short, I found out about her 'affair' with a colleague. Why 'affair' with quotes? It's because I couldn't bear to dig deep into details. I just want to act on it, stop it and forget it. I don't want to know if they did anything and any of those details. You can say I'm in denial but what's the point of knowing if the damage has already been done? I was damn angry. I have also confronted the guy.
A few weeks after the confrontation, I decided that I wanted out of the marriage but she refused. I wondered why. I don't think it's about the kids; more like an embarrassment to her because she was very proud to be married young, way before most of her peers.
I still live in bitterness but people have said, time heals all wounds.
Wounds somehow have healed, not because of time but because of someone else.
What I'm going to write is almost true, just some adjustments made to hide identities.
It's really sad to hear your story and hope u can stay strong bro.
Ever since I found out, I felt unbalanced in life. Many occasions I lose concentration at work. Sometimes I daydream when I'm driving.
Maybe I should cheat too. I've forgiven and tolerated for years. No platonic friendship involves the words honey, darling, dear unless it's a clear friend-zone which most guys won't bother going further.
Heard about fwbs and fbs but I had no idea how to search for one. And I envy guys out there have one. I searched SBF and got some clues. I saw some posts in the forum mentioning different platforms to find one.
I tried Ashley Madison, Adult Friend Finder, Skout, Wechat, Linked, OKCupid. The first 2 social sites were like scams. You need credits and what not to read instant messages. And immediately after I registered, I got PMs. Too good to be true so I didn't frequent it so much.
OKC was nice. I've chatted with several ladies. Married, divorced, separated, single, complicated ones.
LINK was not as good as advertised.
Skout was quite amazing. I actually had a girl chat me up. It was funny as she had a great sense of humor. Eventually she posted her photo. Very pretty girl. Divorced at a very young age. However we stopped chatting due to some mis-communication and cheekiness. Eventually skout started to lag at night when I am most active and I logged on less frequently.
Backpage was ok. Found several FL adverts but I am starting to dislike those PRC FLs. Emotions are too fake and so were the moans. However there was one PRC who was pretty, sweet and did a very good BBBJ for me. Had a tight pussy which made me cum very fast. Couldn't find her in the trade anymore though. Perhaps she got caught.
Then I chanced upon this certain class ads portal which I made the most number of contacts. I was hanging around the portal reading the posts and got some reference on how and what to post.
Ever since I found out, I felt unbalanced in life. Many occasions I lose concentration at work. Sometimes I daydream when I'm driving.
Maybe I should cheat too. I've forgiven and tolerated for years. No platonic friendship involves the words honey, darling, dear unless it's a clear friend-zone which most guys won't bother going further.
Heard about fwbs and fbs but I had no idea how to search for one. And I envy guys out there have one. I searched SBF and got some clues. I saw some posts in the forum mentioning different platforms to find one.
I tried Ashley Madison, Adult Friend Finder, Skout, Wechat, Linked, OKCupid. The first 2 social sites were like scams. You need credits and what not to read instant messages. And immediately after I registered, I got PMs. Too good to be true so I didn't frequent it so much.
OKC was nice. I've chatted with several ladies. Married, divorced, separated, single, complicated ones.
LINK was not as good as advertised.
Skout was quite amazing. I actually had a girl chat me up. It was funny as she had a great sense of humor. Eventually she posted her photo. Very pretty girl. Divorced at a very young age. However we stopped chatting due to some mis-communication and cheekiness. Eventually skout started to lag at night when I am most active and I logged on less frequently.
Backpage was ok. Found several FL adverts but I am starting to dislike those PRC FLs. Emotions are too fake and so were the moans. However there was one PRC who was pretty, sweet and did a very good BBBJ for me. Had a tight pussy which made me cum very fast. Couldn't find her in the trade anymore though. Perhaps she got caught.
Then I chanced upon this certain class ads portal which I made the most number of contacts. I was hanging around the portal reading the posts and got some reference on how and what to post.
bro very impressive, u really invest lot of time ...
Ever since I found out, I felt unbalanced in life. Many occasions I lose concentration at work. Sometimes I daydream when I'm driving.
Maybe I should cheat too. I've forgiven and tolerated for years. No platonic friendship involves the words honey, darling, dear unless it's a clear friend-zone which most guys won't bother going further.
Heard about fwbs and fbs but I had no idea how to search for one. And I envy guys out there have one. I searched SBF and got some clues. I saw some posts in the forum mentioning different platforms to find one.
I tried Ashley Madison, Adult Friend Finder, Skout, Wechat, Linked, OKCupid. The first 2 social sites were like scams. You need credits and what not to read instant messages. And immediately after I registered, I got PMs. Too good to be true so I didn't frequent it so much.
OKC was nice. I've chatted with several ladies. Married, divorced, separated, single, complicated ones.
LINK was not as good as advertised.
Skout was quite amazing. I actually had a girl chat me up. It was funny as she had a great sense of humor. Eventually she posted her photo. Very pretty girl. Divorced at a very young age. However we stopped chatting due to some mis-communication and cheekiness. Eventually skout started to lag at night when I am most active and I logged on less frequently.
Backpage was ok. Found several FL adverts but I am starting to dislike those PRC FLs. Emotions are too fake and so were the moans. However there was one PRC who was pretty, sweet and did a very good BBBJ for me. Had a tight pussy which made me cum very fast. Couldn't find her in the trade anymore though. Perhaps she got caught.
Then I chanced upon this certain class ads portal which I made the most number of contacts. I was hanging around the portal reading the posts and got some reference on how and what to post.
Impressive. Really investing time and effort into it. What is this class ads portal about? Sounds interesting.
16-03-2015, 03:46 PM
