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[dieth1234]

Hi,

I need some opinion from bro and sis in SBF.

I have a friend and mentor call Y.
He is a good friend of mine for many years.

Some background on him. Y is a very smart guy.
He always ace his studies and get top A grades
from Secondary to JC to Uni.

Recently, I met up with him and realized he is very disturbed.
During our guys meet up, he tell me what happened.

He met a young girl, G. 3 years ago. They fall in love.
He helped her through her poly with his money, time and effort.

He paid for her books and health supplements.
He spent his time doing her projects so she can ace her modules.

3 years later, she top the cohort and graduated with a Diploma with Merit.

G start to give him problems when she graduated.
G blamed Y for her lost opportunities.

Let me explain. Y is actually married when he met G.
G knew of this and don't mind his status and followed Y.
G even said she loved Y and status is not important to her.

Throughout the 3 years, Y help her with her project work.
Y also explained to her so she can present smoothly her projects.
In addition, Y help her prepared all the answers for her past year
exam papers so she can study and score.

But throughout the 3 years, Y never say G is her gf and G just stick to Y.
On and off, G will feel very stress from her poly work and want to drop out.
But Y just quietly encourage her with not only words and actions.
Whatever modules G is studying, Y will study, make notes, prepares
exam questions and answers all for G.

Y told me G blame her for her miss opportunities with other guys
such as her classmates and new colleagues. G is working now
with a salary higher than her peers cause of her good merit diploma.

G wanted Y to divorce his wife and commit to G. But Y got his concerned.
Whenever G is free, she needs someone to accompany her. So when Y is
not free, Y is doing her project or his work, G will go out with other guys.

Then G cannot start a project or work herself. She always need someone to
guide her in work or studies. G ever go overseas for holiday alone with
her guy classmate. Y is fearful if he divorced with his wife and go with G.
G will look for other guys when Y is busy.

For the past 3 years, Y is very busy. All his time is invested in G project.
After work, he will go home and start to do her projects.
I believed he is super stressed. On top of that, he is also researching
health supplements to make G stronger. G has a weak mind and body.

Y is afraid G is not serious and don't want a second divorce if he
chosen G. So he come out of a solution.

Till this point, I advised Y to dump G. I said to him he effort already
shown his love for G. I ask him why he pumped in all his time after
work to help G in her school work, project and exam.

I asked Y to wake up cause G is not worth it. G always look for other
guys when Y is busy. Now G graduated and G blame Y. I told Y
G won't have a merit diploma without you.

Y told me he want to give G a chance. Y say he even want G to
go and apply the best local uni in sg. Now that uni is top 10
in world ranking. Guess all of you know which uni I talk about.

But Y is very disappointed when he mentioned to G.
G accuse Y is super evil. G said to Y his plan is to make her go uni
and later get a high pay job and kick her away.

I told Y which guy is so stupid. He can kick G away now.
G goes out with so many guys even go holiday. It is wrong of G.
Even Y never acknowledge her as gf, his effort, time and money is
thrown in for G.

Why must he bring G to best uni in sg and then help her secure a
good pay job before he kick her away?

But Y still defend her and say let her think about it.

May I ask? Is Y the 'generous' guy?
Or love is really blind.
G is just a below average girl.
She is not a princess.

Y my friend Y willing to go to such extreme for her?

Any bro goes to such extreme for a girl before?

Please comments. Thank you.

How can I wake Y up?

[shenjingbin]

Love is blind.
Not easy to wake a person up if he refused to wake up.

[simply2323]

Y is a very generous man but kinda of pitiful. Weak in emotions. We all have feelings for our 'pets' or things we built. As such, if he looks deep into himself, the reluctance of not letting go of G is because of his fear of losing something that he built. Just like parents and their kids.
The way I see it is that even if he finally let go of G, Y will still takes her back whenever she pine for him. Unless something really drastic happen that cause his heartbreak or kills him, this relationship is not something that you should involved.
If you really must help him, then introduce more 'pets' to him. Show him that there are always choices and not none. He could be also worried that he cannot find another better outlet aside from his wife. Or strike the fear of exposure into him. Family or concubine.

[sadfa]

You should ask 'Y' to teach you to write short Sharp n sweet. No ones going to read such convoluted shit.

Most importantly, you got fcuk bo?

And how can u b a top student like this??
You don't write properly n your grandmar sucks.
I think her good grades in poly is inspite of you. Haha

Wtf is general man?

[AimeeChan]

A case of "Destroying the bridge after crossing the river"?

[SilentShadowXxX]

Love is blind.... Nothing wrong abt that

[TwinTowers]

Originally Posted by sadfa

Wtf is general man?

Obviously not A 5 Star General hahahaha

[UnBound]

Originally Posted by shenjingbin

Love is blind.
Not easy to wake a person up if he refused to wake up.

Ver well said

[rocket_boy]

Originally Posted by sadfa

Wtf is general man?

Originally Posted by TwinTowers

Obviously not A 5 Star General hahahaha

definitely a 5 Star General in creating clones in this forum, hahaha

[Summerhillt]

I think Y is a talent bro! You know poly fyp how troublesome. And wow, he got a wife le and still can do project and prepare notes for his mistress.. He really fucking pro. Maybe he should set up a business which is to help poly kids do fyp.. Sure earn alot 1. 1 project u charge $500 hoseh Liao.

[rocket_boy]

Originally Posted by dieth1234

He met a young girl, G. 3 years ago. They fall in love.

He helped her through her poly with his money, time and effort.

Y is actually married when he met G.

But throughout the 3 years, Y never say G is her gf and G just stick to Y.


Y is afraid G is not serious and don't want a second divorce if he
chosen G.

Y is living in denial, an old man hunting for young pussy to satisfy his hungry needs

some more divorced twice already

indeed a hungry man is an interesting man

[dieth1234]

Hi.

Thanks for all the comments.

Currently, Y is still married with his wife.
But they got no kids.

Y wanted to groom G to his level then married her.
But Y is now having 2nd thoughts.
He is afraid after divorce his wife to be with G.
G will give him problems.
I told him that G give him so much problems before
and he accepted it.

Y explain that in future if he has kids with G.
He will need to teach them 100%.
G is not able to do it due to high standard of education now.
That's why he is having 2nd thoughts.

Another reason that hold him back is G blame him.
G got all the benefits
1. High salary ($500 more than her peers)
2. Diploma with Merit (Director's list)

Yet G blame Y for her lost opportunities and her time and youth.
Y countered her that without him, G won't even graduate with diploma
What lost opportunities?

I really want stop Y from his NUS crazy idea for G.
I told him it is not worth. They are so many nice girls out there.
Get someone who appreciate him. Definitely not G.

I willing to do it cause Y help me when I am down and out.
So now I make it. I want to invite him to join me in my business.
I want him to spend his time on better investment with ROI.

There is no ROI on G.

Any comments?

[dieth1234]

I wanted to add is not FYP project only.

Is all the modules in poly.

Every semester got 5-6 modules.

Tutorials answer, lab answer, project work, exam solutions with explanation.

I told Y he is wasting his time.

I want to pull him to collaborate with me in business.

[dieth1234]

Originally Posted by sadfa

You should ask 'Y' to teach you to write short Sharp n sweet. No ones going to read such convoluted shit.

Most importantly, you got fcuk bo?

And how can u b a top student like this??
You don't write properly n your grandmar sucks.
I think her good grades in poly is inspite of you. Haha

Wtf is general man?

Typo. Is Generous man.

[GoldRabbit]

Sorry I read until blur blur .