How to deal with a wife whom you are stuck with?

[SinDellman]

I don't know how many brothers here are facing the same problem as me ....
Married to a wife for 20 years. She used to be the perfect wife, but few years ago, after the 1998 financial problems, she became a monster. She now controls all my money, took away all my bank accounts, shares, etc....

Financially we are still ok .... Since I am not so interested in money, I made the mistake of not minding that she took over all the finances.
She is still the best mum to my children, but she is the worst wife one can ever had. She treated the children like kings. I only got some petty cash every month.... and all these I don't really mind, since I dont really spend much.

But I am fed-up ... for the past few years, she has stopped having sex with me. Imagine my frustration .... I am not really one into paid sex but recently enough is enough, I needed to get my supplies outsourced.

It has reached a point that I am telling myself that even if she left me alone, I would be happier

During the day or in the office, in the eyes of everyone, she is still treating me like her King, but in the bed, she will reject my touching, etc .... wtf.... and the following morning, she is back to so nice to me.

Besides killing myself, how do I enjoy my old age, being stuck with this old maid, which I cant get rid off?

Any suggestions before I jump down from 44th floors?

[aces68]

bro, sounds like you are in deep shit. I think you need to strategise your approach.

1. Check if your wife is 'eating' outside. There could only be 1 or 2 reasons why she stopped having sex with you.
2. Talk to your wife about finances. You should control back your own finance. Is your wife working ? If she is, then you can set up joint account for household income and each party contribute an agreed amount monthly to that account.

I think these are the 1sst steps you need to take.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

No offense dude, i can only see 1 prob. YOU!
Yup, you're the prob.
Trust me or not, it's you.
Time to be the pants & not the skirt in the house!!
Do what you want, assert you masculine ego and when you wan it, just take it from her! Remind her that you're her man....show her who's the boss!
If all else fail, U dun be an idiot & jump, throw her out instead and you can invite us all for a grand party! (This part joking)

[ekemono]

Hi TS,

We didn't read what happens to you/her during the 98' that causes a 360 turn on her attitude. Where you risking too much that puts the family in danger?

On the part of being boss of the house, I agreed with bro DYBJ. You are the guy, you have to show your leadership and take control. But..., with the appropriate leadership in the interest of your family.

Attitudes, daily events and communication all sum up to whether you will get love-making tonight by your wifey. You got to review that and made effort to improve if neccessary.

You may just need to open up and talk to her.

[SinDellman]

Originally Posted by aces68

bro, sounds like you are in deep shit. I think you need to strategise your approach.

1. Check if your wife is 'eating' outside. There could only be 1 or 2 reasons why she stopped having sex with you.
2. Talk to your wife about finances. You should control back your own finance. Is your wife working ? If she is, then you can set up joint account for household income and each party contribute an agreed amount monthly to that account.

I think these are the 1sst steps you need to take.

1. Definitely she is not eating outside because she is either at home with maid or in office "looking" after me .... she just refused to have any discussion on this sex issue, period.

2. Lost some investments during the crisis but made up with some good investments and current good business .... so it's not about having $$$ problems ... more like she is now damned greedy about having more $$$ for herself. Her reason is that she needs to save a lot for children oversea studies and expenses.

3. I dont really need a lot of money because everything is being paid by her and the credit cards ..... she just gave me monthly some petty cash and now using all these and some past saving to pay for HC & FJ (about $500 pm).

Like the bros here said, I am telling everyone NEVER to give up the Ministry of Finance post, ever in any household ... that's one big regret.

Everything is fine for me, except that i got a wife who took away all my money and left me with NO sex (I have controlled and NEVER fucked around for so many years, but with the bros help here, i have just started to seek HC & outsourced FJ for relief for the last few months)

[wodemama]

Bro, have a heart to heart talk with her and find out why she is rejecting ur advances. Or assert ur authority like wad bro DYBJ has said. Probably you treated your wife too well already and now she is taking it for granted, like most other woman. Show them an inch, they want a mile.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

There's a very thin line between compromise and knowing your place in any matrimonial relationship.
Cross the fine line between either & this is the state that you'll end up in.........
So know your place, and occasionally, remind her of hers.....
That's why occasionally, when i am making love to my wives, i'll just stop everything in the middle of it all and ask
你是谁的？and not and never will be 我是你的
This will lead them to voluntary submission!
That's how a man shud run his stable!!!!!

[Xgenre]

Tell her you have your sexual needs. If she doesn't want to satisfy you, it's considered unreasonable behaviour under the law. Ask her if she will prefer if you outsource the sex. See how she responds. I think she may even raise your allowance so that you got $$$ to go geylang.

[wodemama]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

That's why occasionally, when i am making love to my wives, i'll just stop everything in the middle of it all and ask
你是谁的？and not and never will be 我是你的
This will lead them to voluntary submission!
That's how a man shud run his stable!!!!!

Bro, i've lots to learn from you!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by wodemama

Bro, i've lots to learn from you!

No need to make until so big like i'm blind and no need to say such things.
We're all different in our way of life and how we manage everything around us.

Remember, do not succumb to the environment but let your environment succumb to you.....if you can live like this, you got nottin to learn from me liao.
If you cant live like this, learn how much still will not be able to apply bro

[mebirdie]

Haiz...... What else can you do?

Carefully think about it. Take account of your age and financial status

- What do you actually want?
- Wife, children and self requirements? Which one is the most important

Actually, don't think you can find any true love at your age.
Probably accepting the fate is your final option.
About outsource sex.... hmmm... any family try that before??

Life is miserable. Happy family is difficult to find. Most of them are just compromising to keep the family going.

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Tell her you have your sexual needs. If she doesn't want to satisfy you, it's considered unreasonable behaviour under the law. Ask her if she will prefer if you outsource the sex. See how she responds. I think she may even raise your allowance so that you got $$$ to go geylang.

There is a very interesting line I read somewhere.

A person should ask the spouse whether the spouse thinks sex in the marriage is important. If the spouse's answer is that sex in the marriage is not important, then he/she should not mind if the other half gets it from elsewhere. If the spouse's answer is that sex in the marriage is important, then better make sure your other half is getting enough of it.

[colins]

I think she is still your perfect wife, but she has stopped being your perfect friend. Why dun you try and KC her a bit? Apparently she doesn't trust you anymore and that distrust extends quite far to a personal level (rejects you in bed). What have you done wrong?

[Glock]

Originally Posted by SinDellman

But I am fed-up ... for the past few years, she has stopped having sex with me. Imagine my frustration .... I am not really one into paid sex but recently enough is enough, I needed to get my supplies outsourced.
Besides killing myself, how do I enjoy my old age, being stuck with this old maid, which I cant get rid off?

some of other give suggestion you must be VERY VERY careful

i agree with aces68. how is she looking? if she not unsexy (still a milf?), then if she dont want you, i think is she getting outside already. get a private investigator

if she cheating on you, take action

whatever you do, DONT TAKE ACTION OUTSIDE FIRST

i have friend,same problem,he frustrated,ask wife face to face,she told him to go fuck prostitutes.so he did.then she sue him for divorce.

if she dont have sex with you is enough for you to get divorce.if she say she close one eye let you fuck outside,BE VERY CAREFUL SHE REALLY MEAN IT

because i think my friend lawyer tell him even if she put down in black and white "my husband can fuck prostitutes",if he actually do it,she can still sue for divorce and is his fault.

married 20 years,she will take your house,she will take your kids,she can fuck outside, but so long as she not married her new "boyfriend" you will keep paying maintence.

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

That's why occasionally, when i am making love to my wives, i'll just stop everything in the middle of it all and ask
你是谁的?and not and never will be 我是你的
This will lead them to voluntary submission!
That's how a man shud run his stable!!!!!

I do that too. I tell her she belongs to me forever...