Going BONKERS a-la Fatal Attraction

[plax*1]

Hello, Fellow Samsters!

I'm new to this forum, so, would appreciate all the Si-Fu's advice.

Met this BKK lady through a social escort in BKK at least 7yrs ago. SYT then and loves to f**k; naturally wet. Thus, everytime I am in BKK, would RTF her. In the process, became frens. At the same time, she had Msian boyfren who supported her (apartment, school fees).

She married her Msian boyfren who later came to Singapore to work. He brought her along and they are now PRs in Spore. She and I became F**k Buddies. I've always been told by frens, never to f**k for free. So, either bought dinners/lunch before or after the session, sometimes small gifts. We shared stories about our lives. I thought to myself, "Hey, this is great! She married, I married, both like to f**k, no strings attached!"

Boy, was I WRONG!!!

Because her husband was a gambler who always becomes abusive after losing $$$, she starts to think that I'm the one for her and wants me to leave my family!!! One day, I missed her call while I was jogging and when I returned call, she became abusive, claiming that I was f**king another girl. Thereafter, everytime I missed her calls, be it I was in a meeting or in the shower, she became insanely jealous and abusive. No matter what I said or explained didn't matter. I stopped seeing her altogether after that.

Next came the harassments - phone calls & SMSes. In one day, I can get at least 100 miss calls and up to 50 SMSes ranging from:

I love you
I hate you
I want you to leave your family and marry me
I want to have your baby
I wish your wife die
I wish my husband and children die
I want to be f**ked by you
I am horny and masturbating now and need to be f**ked by you
.....and many, many more.

Called SingTel and they confirmed harassment. Her husband saw the SingTel warning letter and cancelled her phone. But now, she gets prepaid card and SingTel says there's nothing they can do and advise me to change number.

I managed to get hold of her husband's tel nbr. One day, while she was calling me on my mobile, I called her husband on another line and told him that I was his wife's ex-customer. Told him his wife was calling me on her mobile and to tell his wife to stop bothering me else I will report this harassment to the police. He apologised for his wife's action.

That did not stop the wife from sending torrid sex messages (anyone reading it would have a hard-on!). I promptly forwarded these SMSes to her husband hoping that he'll give her a good lesson and thus stop this nonsense. Well, that didn't work. Instead, he changed his number. Hah!

Since that didn't work, I decided to come clean with my wife on this. My wife and I confronted/met her one day and told her that I was no longer interested in seeing her. Thinking that she now knows that my wife is aware of this, she can no longer threaten me or whatever. Boy, was I wrong!

At one time, SMSes bordered on death threats and extortion and she followed up with a visit to my home with her new born (I assure you, it's not mine). I promptly called the police who took her away. Apparently, her husband had to fetch her from the police station.

So, other than changing my phone number, I think I've tried every other way of getting rid of her. This constant calls/SMSes is driving me nuts. Now, I have a good mind to go to her home and confront her and her husband. Not too sure how that will turn out. My biggest fear? In front of me, she tells her husband that she's taking the kids with her and leaving with me!!! Or, her husband goes berserk and starts chopping all of us up!

I have saved and printed copies of her SMSes and showed them to Institute of Mental Health (IMH). They tell me that this person needs help. I've made a police report and with this report, I can go to the Magistrate Court to try and stop this harassment. Question is, will it stop this nonsense and what will it do to her & her family? In the event that she is locked up in IMH, what will become of her kids (both below 3yrs)?

So to me, there's no such thing as a free f**k with no strings attached. If you get one, then you're really lucky. I've learnt my lesson and am still learning & suffering from this lesson. If horny, I now Pay, F**k and Forget. Better to spend $150 at Geylang with no strings attached! Sigh.......

[FL Lover]

Bro,

Read your story and kind of disturb by what you have written. The lady that yo mentioned seriously need help and so does her husband. In fact the husband knew of it and still allows the wife to continue to do so.

This shows that the wife is beyond control or the husband love her too much and cannot control her.

I am surprised that she knew your house address. How did she know your address unless you have brought her back or given to her? Bad bad move. If she does not know your house address, yor problem is just as simple as changing the phone number... BTW, does she have yor office address or number too? If she have, you are really in trouble.

I would advise you to take legal action against this woman. Remb she is a PR here. Most likely she will not do anything stupid to be ban in SG. Only that you will be safe. Criminal harressment can be charged and jailed in SG regardless of sex.

Just remb in future, when u go chionging, never give your houe address or bring the girl back to your house... As for me, I always give a fake address

[plax*1]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Bro,

Read your story and kind of disturb by what you have written. The lady that yo mentioned seriously need help and so does her husband. In fact the husband knew of it and still allows the wife to continue to do so.

This shows that the wife is beyond control or the husband love her too much and cannot control her.

I am surprised that she knew your house address. How did she know your address unless you have brought her back or given to her? Bad bad move. If she does not know your house address, yor problem is just as simple as changing the phone number... BTW, does she have yor office address or number too? If she have, you are really in trouble.

I would advise you to take legal action against this woman. Remb she is a PR here. Most likely she will not do anything stupid to be ban in SG. Only that you will be safe. Criminal harressment can be charged and jailed in SG regardless of sex.

Just remb in future, when u go chionging, never give your houe address or bring the girl back to your house... As for me, I always give a fake address

Thanks for the advice, Bro.

I used to work from home and my biz (home) address was on my biz card. Guess she stole/took it from my wallet when I didn't noticed. Never, ever brought her home. Company is on the web, so now that I've moved to new company address, she also know sian-lah...... So far, she hasn't appeared in my office yet. If she does, will call police to get rid of her.

I pray that none of the bros out there will ever meet a woman like this....

[aces68]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Bro,

Read your story and kind of disturb by what you have written. The lady that yo mentioned seriously need help and so does her husband. In fact the husband knew of it and still allows the wife to continue to do so.

This shows that the wife is beyond control or the husband love her too much and cannot control her.

I am surprised that she knew your house address. How did she know your address unless you have brought her back or given to her? Bad bad move. If she does not know your house address, yor problem is just as simple as changing the phone number... BTW, does she have yor office address or number too? If she have, you are really in trouble.

I would advise you to take legal action against this woman. Remb she is a PR here. Most likely she will not do anything stupid to be ban in SG. Only that you will be safe. Criminal harressment can be charged and jailed in SG regardless of sex.

Just remb in future, when u go chionging, never give your houe address or bring the girl back to your house... As for me, I always give a fake address

actually. it's very easy for someone to check the address because it's written on the back of the IC. Maybe TS had allowed the lady see his IC before, so can confirmed she got his address in that way.

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by plax*1

I have saved and printed copies of her SMSes and showed them to Institute of Mental Health (IMH). They tell me that this person needs help. I've made a police report and with this report, I can go to the Magistrate Court to try and stop this harassment. Question is, will it stop this nonsense and what will it do to her & her family? In the event that she is locked up in IMH, what will become of her kids (both below 3yrs)?

This is a bit unusual. You are probably unable to apply for a Personal Protection Order from the Family Court as this is only if you are fearful of a family member using violence on you. She is not a family member.

I suppose you would have to engage a lawyer to apply for a private summons and seek an order that she stay far far away from you. If you do get such an order, once she is in breach of the Court order, you can call the police to come and enforce the Court order. In the absence of a Court order, there is not much that the police can do if she continues harassing you.

As for her being committed to IMH, her husband can still look after the 2 kids right? If he disappears and she is committed to IMH, I suppose the kids would have to be sent to some children's home and put into foster care. If she is deemed unsuitable to look after her own children, the kids may even be put up for adoption.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Actually, notice you didnt do the most basic thing at the end of everything?
Change your mobile number!
Wow, fatal fatal!
This one, only 1 end to it la....like the REAL movie itself
Good luck dude

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by plax*1

Called SingTel and they confirmed harassment. Her husband saw the SingTel warning letter and cancelled her phone. But now, she gets prepaid card and SingTel says there's nothing they can do and advise me to change number.

singtel can do something about it. make them refer to the police, blacklist her from taking new lines, pre-paid or otherwise. u only have to force the issue. how about changing yr own number. if necessary, change mobile service provider just to be on the safe side.

I have saved and printed copies of her SMSes and showed them to Institute of Mental Health (IMH). They tell me that this person needs help. I've made a police report and with this report, I can go to the Magistrate Court to try and stop this harassment. Question is, will it stop this nonsense and what will it do to her & her family? In the event that she is locked up in IMH, what will become of her kids (both below 3yrs)?

my advice is to force the police to do something about it. the smses and calls are threatening enough. make an official report. tell them to act on it fast and stop referring it as a civil case. tell them u want her charged, and then let the court decide whether she needs to go to jail or IMH. please dont run around aimlessly yrself or else u might join her at IMH liao.

if the police dont act, u can go to the MP. always works.

So to me, there's no such thing as a free f**k with no strings attached. If you get one, then you're really lucky. I've learnt my lesson and am still learning & suffering from this lesson. If horny, I now Pay, F**k and Forget. Better to spend $150 at Geylang with no strings attached! Sigh.......

u learnt yr lesson...

but i only worry for the safety of yr family until the police decides to act. be careful and take care, ya?

[isg3003]

Bro my sympathy with u.

But I think u better prepare for the day she wack your career by appearing in your office and making a scene. Good luck bro.

[plax*1]

To all the bros out there, thank you so much for taking time to read and providing advice. I think some of you are lawyers or know the law very well.

I will try to force the issue with the police. You are right, I should change number and/or service provider, but number very nice leh.... Sigh.....

[~iOOi~]

Wa bro, you really got your whole house on fire! How did she know your house? You should have change H/p no# to get away from her.

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by plax*1

To all the bros out there, thank you so much for taking time to read and providing advice. I think some of you are lawyers or know the law very well.

I will try to force the issue with the police. You are right, I should change number and/or service provider, but number very nice leh.... Sigh.....

again, take care and stop trying to be the nice guy already!!! yr family now is threatened, so this is the best time to step back, be man about it and do whatever u have to do, ruthlessly.

nice number can always buy again when u feel really rich. number is only transcient... touch wood, yr family cannot be replaced if something happens.

all the best.

[plax*1]

Since my last reply, situation got so bad that I was almost going crazy. So, I decided to make a Magistrate Complaint. Well, these things take time. Meanwhile, I was still being bombarded with phone calls (80-90 calls/day) and SMS (>100 SMSes/day).

Cannot tahan anymore. Went to the Police Post on the eve of Hari Raya to file another police report. Showed them all the messages. Alamak, they say they cannot do anything since I oredi make Magistrate Complaint. I told them to read the messages again. One of the message alluded to wanting to kill someone. Meanwhile, that crazy woman was still calling and messaging away while I was at the station. Even the police officer started to pity me So, he picks up the call and told her to stop. After trying for several minutes, she hangs up on the police officer!!! Now even the police officer starts to think that she's crazy. So, I did what one of the bros here told me to do.... Push them. So, I asked the police if they were waiting for someone to be killed before they will take action since the threats were on the SMSes.

Anyway, to cut a long story short, I filed the report, gave them all her contact details (address, mobile, home nbr, husband's mobile). Guess what? It's been quiet the last couple of days!!! So, I'm enjoying the peace for the time being until we meet in court!

Again, thanks to all the bros out there for your advice!

Happy weekend!!!

[DTCEPL]

Originally Posted by plax*1

Meanwhile, that crazy woman was still calling and messaging away while I was at the station.

Bro, that gal have cracked, broken down, she have cross to the other side and I fully understand how she feels. She may also be suffering from a Major Depression.

She needs medical help, but most important her family around to slowly cool her down and keep her company. She needs companionship, care and love at this time - hopefully her husband can bring her out of this mess. It may take a long time, sometimes several years to get back on track again.

The police can only stop and shut her mouth/sms temporary. You take care Bro.

[ekemono]

Hi TS,

This is scary.
I do not encourage you to go to her house for any confrontation, let the police and authority handle it if need be.

I am not watching too much movie, but it is best to apply for a Personal Protection Order (PPO) from the court. Verbal harrasment applies too. Any form of threats will send her into trouble with the law. Also, if she has seen your family before, it is advisable to leave home together with the wife for work and come back together too.

It is not a result of some fatal attraction, but simply a nasty gal regretting her marriage and now wants her way out desperately.

[cablesnwires]

Originally Posted by plax*1

Since my last reply, situation got so bad that I was almost going crazy. So, I decided to make a Magistrate Complaint. Well, these things take time. Meanwhile, I was still being bombarded with phone calls (80-90 calls/day) and SMS (>100 SMSes/day).

Bro TS, go get yourself a Windows Mobile phone, you can have call and sms blocker for particular phone number. of course she can also change number and call you, but you can always use the program to block the number.

Remember bro TS, she's trying to break your spirit, and she noes you are getting paranoid about it. just keep a cool head.

Hope you can solve your problem.