Question for married man

[kt88_2]

Originally Posted by Hidan88

I have been lurking around without posting. I have a question for married man.

I have 2 kids and a beautiful wife. However, i feel like nothing but just a husand to my wife, father to my kids, and employee to my boss.

I have no hobbies, no interest and rarely feel joy in life. Sometime i feel like crying for no reason.

Going for massage is my form my weekly happiness. The small talk with ML. I make it a point to not repeat ML so not to develop feeling.

Any married man facing same issue?

Just keep some aquarium fishes n hv fun ,n u will be visting aquarium frequently, life bored i am doing that now as a male divorcee,lol

[larue]

Originally Posted by doingitforfun

I do somewhat feel the same. Then I started to look for some fun. Found 2 fb, one at work and one at my gym. Now regret because too much hassle and hard to break off. So I think just stick to your weekly massage and enjoy the peace u found at home.

Haha, yah. So many goondus here want an FB because they think they are getting free sex because they don't know the real cost.

[larue]

Originally Posted by kt88_2

Just keep some aquarium fishes n hv fun ,n u will be visting aquarium frequently, life bored i am doing that now as a male divorcee,lol

Any tips? I tried a no filter shrimp tank. Last week I put in $15 worth of cherry shrimp. All died of fright within 6 hours. *Facepqlm*

[kt88_2]

Originally Posted by larue

Any tips? I tried a no filter shrimp tank. Last week I put in $15 worth of cherry shrimp. All died of fright within 6 hours. *Facepqlm*

The water need to be aged for at least 2 weeks, u need get air pump also,best if hv algae grown ,as a subsititie for food, then buy frozen blood worm just put some in, u need to stock in fridge n make it hygienic

[Explorer8899]

Originally Posted by Hidan88

I have been lurking around without posting. I have a question for married man.

I have 2 kids and a beautiful wife. However, i feel like nothing but just a husand to my wife, father to my kids, and employee to my boss.

I have no hobbies, no interest and rarely feel joy in life. Sometime i feel like crying for no reason.

Going for massage is my form my weekly happiness. The small talk with ML. I make it a point to not repeat ML so not to develop feeling.

Any married man facing same issue?

Feels like I'm a similar position but I havent ventured nto the ml scene yet. Guess I'm still worried about the post nut clarity guilt and STD risks.

[predator314]

Originally Posted by Hidan88

I have been lurking around without posting. I have a question for married man.

I have 2 kids and a beautiful wife. However, i feel like nothing but just a husand to my wife, father to my kids, and employee to my boss.

I have no hobbies, no interest and rarely feel joy in life. Sometime i feel like crying for no reason.

Going for massage is my form my weekly happiness. The small talk with ML. I make it a point to not repeat ML so not to develop feeling.

Any married man facing same issue?

i feel you brother. on paper, everything looks fine. good job, happy family, loving kids, supportive in laws. but deep down, i feel you. i too, long for a deeper connection with another human being, but the repercussions are too servere for me to handle. and so with so many thoughts that i can't tell anyone around me, sometimes its just best to tell it to a random ML and get it out of the system.

[larue]

Originally Posted by predator314

i feel you brother. on paper, everything looks fine. good job, happy family, loving kids, supportive in laws. but deep down, i feel you. i too, long for a deeper connection with another human being, but the repercussions are too servere for me to handle. and so with so many thoughts that i can't tell anyone around me, sometimes its just best to tell it to a random ML and get it out of the system.

You want to live like this for the rest of your life?

[edsel]

Going for massage is my form my weekly happiness. The small talk with ML. I make it a point to not repeat ML so not to develop feeling.

Any married man facing same issue?

[tanweiliang01]

Originally Posted by edsel

Going for massage is my form my weekly happiness. The small talk with ML. I make it a point to not repeat ML so not to develop feeling.

Any married man facing same issue?

Good choice. Rotation prevents attachment. Perhaps you like the thrill of meeting someone new each time and less about the deed.

Used to also have the rule about not re-visiting prior MLs to prevent attachment, but has since mellowed and returned to some occasionally. Nothing good will come out of being overly attached. Just fleeting moments, enjoy !

[oxeso]

The Tans must be proud of u, brother.. Lol

[predator314]

Originally Posted by larue

You want to live like this for the rest of your life?

haha, brother, what other choices do we have? pray tell.

[Welovebighugs2]

Originally Posted by Explorer8899

Feels like I'm a similar position but I havent ventured nto the ml scene yet. Guess I'm still worried about the post nut clarity guilt and STD risks.

Yes, the worry about STD is always present. Had a scare when after BBBJ (already told the ML not to do anything without caps, think sometimes, they dont remember what you tell them as the start) the groin area itch. Thought it was some bed wart, no pus, but got white residue kind after sex with wife.
Heng later doctor says it is yeast due to PH imbalance at the vagina.

Married with kids really need to be careful. Once kana, next time will stick to the basic happiness. Not going for anything above as the risk and waiting and the cost of visiting DCS is unbearable.

[jiandaofan]

Originally Posted by Welovebighugs2

Yes, the worry about STD is always present. Had a scare when after BBBJ (already told the ML not to do anything without caps, think sometimes, they dont remember what you tell them as the start) the groin area itch. Thought it was some bed wart, no pus, but got white residue kind after sex with wife.
Heng later doctor says it is yeast due to PH imbalance at the vagina.

Married with kids really need to be careful. Once kana, next time will stick to the basic happiness. Not going for anything above as the risk and waiting and the cost of visiting DCS is unbearable.

hi bro,

Thanks for sharing.

[larue]

Originally Posted by predator314

haha, brother, what other choices do we have? pray tell.

Many of us decided we have had enough, we have only one life on this earth and we cannot take it anymore. We can live our lives for other people, or for ourselves.

I'm not suggesting every unhappy bro here just up sticks on their old lives, on their wives and their kids. Just the wife lol.

I'm not the only one for whom life has turned out a lot better. Of course there are also those whose lives have turned out a lot worse. So it has to be a carefully considered and even more carefully navigated course of action.

I don't know how severe your repercussions are, and perhaps they truly are. In which case you'd be better off adjusting your expectations of life.

Many bros trapped in lives like yours eventually grow old and die contented, or semi contented. There's nothing wrong with that, just that trying to be happy about it seems like a much more sensible thing than being unhappy. Maybe you're just letting off some steam, but many others here sound so unhappy which is not a great way to live. And it's bad for the kids too.

I'm turning 50 this year, and every day I see my son growing and becoming more independent in a way he never would have if I had stayed with his mother in the charade that was a happy family. In a couple of short years he will be fully independent and I'm looking forward so much to building my own life for what's left of it. I'm in a good place.

The only question is how strongly you feel about having only one life to live, and whether it is what you are leading now, and whether you can accept it for the rest of your life. Okay, that's actually 3 questions.

My answer was no.

[larue]

Originally Posted by predator314

haha, brother, what other choices do we have? pray tell.

Many of us decided we have had enough, we have only one life on this earth and we cannot take it anymore. We can live our lives for other people, or for ourselves.

I'm not suggesting every unhappy bro here just up sticks on their old lives, on their wives and their kids. Just the wife lol.

I'm not the only one for whom life has turned out a lot better. Of course there are also those whose lives have turned out a lot worse. So it has to be a carefully considered and even more carefully navigated course of action.

I don't know how severe your repercussions are, and perhaps they truly are. In which case you'd be better off adjusting your expectations of life.

Many bros trapped in lives like yours eventually grow old and die contented, or semi contented. There's nothing wrong with that, just that trying to be happy about it seems like a much more sensible thing than being unhappy. Maybe you're just letting off some steam, but many others here sound so unhappy which is not a great way to live. And it's bad for the kids too.

I'm turning 50 this year, and every day I see my son growing and becoming more independent in a way he never would have if I had stayed with his mother in the charade that was a happy family. In a couple of short years he will be fully independent and I'm looking forward so much to building my own life for what's left of it. I'm in a good place.

The only question is how strongly you feel about having only one life to live, and whether it is what you are leading now, and whether you can accept it for the rest of your life. Okay, that's actually 3 questions.

My answer was no.