Question for married man

[LauAdi]

Originally Posted by moremorepls

Wah this type of wife sibei scary.

Actually why man pcc the woman also cannot accept? Don't want give pussy, don't want husband pcc, then want him go out find ML and FL???

Good question…should ask the women
Don’t know whether men can file for D because wife don’t want to have sex and don’t let him pcc

[kitsura]

Originally Posted by sane

Choosing the right partner is like entering a business partnership.

Both of you need to share the same goals — just like partners working toward the same outcome.

Think of it as a team.

Have you planned for things like:

* Family goals
* Whether to have kids
* Who wakes up at night
* Who changes diapers
* Who spends more time with the children
* Who plans ahead vs who executes
* Financial responsibilities — who pays more, how to manage money
* Each person’s role in the household

This is no different from work.

The only difference is —
you can quit a job, but you can’t simply walk away from a family.

Like any team, you need:

* Someone who can lead when needed
* Someone who can plan
* Someone who can execute

And most importantly — communication.

When your partner is unhappy:

* Do you blame?
* Or do you listen and work toward a solution?

This partnership between two people is very much like a working relationship.

You either have the rapport — or you don’t.

But beyond that, you must have the ability to:

* Talk openly
* Solve problems together
* Plan ahead
* Execute as a team

That’s what makes it work.

Marriage is so complicated no wonder failure rate more than 50%! Having one person shoulder all the responsibility is impossible! It is like running a one man company and having the CEO, CFO, CIO, etc all be one person. I doubt it is physically possible.

After going thru a failed relationship my current stand is very simple. I will outsource everything wherever possible. I don't need my partner to cook, clean, take care of finances, be my friend, therapist, etc. The only thing not possible to outsource for various logistical reasons is sex. If my partner doesn't want to have sex with me she is no better than a roommate and then it is pointless keeping her around.

In return I don't expect my partner to foist the same responsibilities on me since it is not fair. I won't be her porter, friend, handyman, tech support, therapist, chauffeur, etc. I can do all those things just that I refuse to be the only person she relies on for any of those tasks!

The most successful and highly communicative relationship I have witnessed so far is between 2 male homosexuals. There is no drama and 100% communication to resolve issues before it blows up. But most women communicate in different ways and I would hazard to say that most women even crave drama! If everything is going fine in a relationship they start shit for no reason once they get bored!

So for me I have yet to be able to find a female partner who has similar values and can meet my very simple requirement!

[libra27]

I feel you . same situation as me.

[fishball]

Originally Posted by LauAdi

Good question…should ask the women
Don’t know whether men can file for D because wife don’t want to have sex and don’t let him pcc

Ah,, Good question. Any legal bros here can advice if divorce is valid for non sex by wife.?

[chnhubby71]

Can opt for regular meet with other if you need SEX other than your wife. Tele-meethornylady to chat

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by kitsura

Marriage is so complicated no wonder failure rate more than 50%! Having one person shoulder all the responsibility is impossible! It is like running a one man company and having the CEO, CFO, CIO, etc all be one person. I doubt it is physically possible.

After going thru a failed relationship my current stand is very simple. I will outsource everything wherever possible. I don't need my partner to cook, clean, take care of finances, be my friend, therapist, etc. The only thing not possible to outsource for various logistical reasons is sex. If my partner doesn't want to have sex with me she is no better than a roommate and then it is pointless keeping her around.

In return I don't expect my partner to foist the same responsibilities on me since it is not fair. I won't be her porter, friend, handyman, tech support, therapist, chauffeur, etc. I can do all those things just that I refuse to be the only person she relies on for any of those tasks!

The most successful and highly communicative relationship I have witnessed so far is between 2 male homosexuals. There is no drama and 100% communication to resolve issues before it blows up. But most women communicate in different ways and I would hazard to say that most women even crave drama! If everything is going fine in a relationship they start shit for no reason once they get bored!

So for me I have yet to be able to find a female partner who has similar values and can meet my very simple requirement!

wow! love this explanation.

its true. i agree with the outsourcing part!

have a crazy cheongster friend.

literally living the life of a single father but still married( on paper) and living together with his crazy wife due to the kid school etc.

they are in midst of separation, he said he is working on a plan. Right now he is juggling being a father, being a son to his older parents and handling house hold chores. He pays his maid well to handle all the house hold stuff, he is self employed and said he cut back on work so as to be around his kid more.

wife is literally just a symbolic mother figure at home cos after work, she comes home late and only spends like 20m with the kid daily. doesnt do anything else. even he handles the school PTMs and all.

when he needs pussy, he goes to FLs before noon, shiokness of being your own boss.

spoke to him during a recent ktv session, he said he was wondering wtf was he doing wrong his whole life cos it seemed everything he did was wrong. it was only until he took the wife out of the equation that he realised it was the wife's issue.

so he designed his whole life to exclude the wife, did a trial test to see if anything would crumble and fail . his business is in process management and he said he designed a work flow for his home. he said, the funny thing was, after removing his wife from his daily life, his health improved (he had more time to exercise), his dick got harder ( he suffered ED for some time and was ashamed of it). his kid started doing better at school, his relationship with his parents improved.

his earnings did drop ( about 20%) over 2 years as he could not cheong all out to take on more demanding clients, but he said he was happier. He does say he misses emotional closeness with a lady and all, but he said, if that comes with even the slightest risk of drama, he rather just pay for sex and go to sleep after that.

Learnt quite a bit from him.

[kitsura]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

wow! love this explanation.

its true. i agree with the outsourcing part!

have a crazy cheongster friend.

literally living the life of a single father but still married( on paper) and living together with his crazy wife due to the kid school etc.

they are in midst of separation, he said he is working on a plan. Right now he is juggling being a father, being a son to his older parents and handling house hold chores. He pays his maid well to handle all the house hold stuff, he is self employed and said he cut back on work so as to be around his kid more.

wife is literally just a symbolic mother figure at home cos after work, she comes home late and only spends like 20m with the kid daily. doesnt do anything else. even he handles the school PTMs and all.

when he needs pussy, he goes to FLs before noon, shiokness of being your own boss.

spoke to him during a recent ktv session, he said he was wondering wtf was he doing wrong his whole life cos it seemed everything he did was wrong. it was only until he took the wife out of the equation that he realised it was the wife's issue.

so he designed his whole life to exclude the wife, did a trial test to see if anything would crumble and fail . his business is in process management and he said he designed a work flow for his home. he said, the funny thing was, after removing his wife from his daily life, his health improved (he had more time to exercise), his dick got harder ( he suffered ED for some time and was ashamed of it). his kid started doing better at school, his relationship with his parents improved.

his earnings did drop ( about 20%) over 2 years as he could not cheong all out to take on more demanding clients, but he said he was happier. He does say he misses emotional closeness with a lady and all, but he said, if that comes with even the slightest risk of drama, he rather just pay for sex and go to sleep after that.

Learnt quite a bit from him.

I got into multiple pointless arguments with woke feminists over the topic of relationships.

My preposition is simple: relationships succeed and fail based on the effort (lack thereof) of both men and woman! I keep seeing social media posts of angry feminists ranting on 1001 reasons why all men are evil after experiencing another failed relationship. They forgot they are the commonality in that relationship and if all relationships with them inside failed, maybe they should do some self-reflection!

Having said that when I post my hot take that single mothers are partly to blame for their predicament I immediately get branded incel, etc! Don't woman know it takes 2 parties to get pregnant and even assuming the child was not planned for (accident or sexual assault, etc) they ultimately made the choice to have him born!

But as usual society infantalises all woman and the majority of woman are allergic to personal accountability so anything bad that happens to them is automatically the fault of the men and patriarchy! Such a lazy way to live!

[tamade123]

Originally Posted by kitsura

I got into multiple pointless arguments with woke feminists over the topic of relationships.

My preposition is simple: relationships succeed and fail based on the effort (lack thereof) of both men and woman! I keep seeing social media posts of angry feminists ranting on 1001 reasons why all men are evil after experiencing another failed relationship. They forgot they are the commonality in that relationship and if all relationships with them inside failed, maybe they should do some self-reflection!

Having said that when I post my hot take that single mothers are partly to blame for their predicament I immediately get branded incel, etc! Don't woman know it takes 2 parties to get pregnant and even assuming the child was not planned for (accident or sexual assault, etc) they ultimately made the choice to have him born!

But as usual society infantalises all woman and the majority of woman are allergic to personal accountability so anything bad that happens to them is automatically the fault of the men and patriarchy! Such a lazy way to live!

Agree with you bro. and the funny part is this: these woke bitches either single, divorced or their husbands/ bfs are on SBF.

i just give them a thumbs up and move on. i have more respect for FLs than these woke feminist women.

[kitsura]

Originally Posted by tamade123

Agree with you bro. and the funny part is this: these woke bitches either single, divorced or their husbands/ bfs are on SBF.

i just give them a thumbs up and move on. i have more respect for FLs than these woke feminist women.

These woke feminists girl bosses refuse to acknowledge the fact that if a guy is well fed at home everyday then he wouldn't have to go on SBF or elsewhere to look for food! But of course again all the mens' fault since all woman are perfect and can do no wrong!

Of course I don't exclude the rare exception of a minority of guys who still eat outside even when they have lots of food at home. But then again these woman chose to be married to these guys. So either they accept it and shut up or divorce him! They obviously have bad partner selection ability but continuing to be with the guy and ranting about it online is just bad judgement!

[ntucee]

Originally Posted by kitsura

These woke feminists girl bosses refuse to acknowledge the fact that if a guy is well fed at home everyday then he wouldn't have to go on SBF or elsewhere to look for food! But of course again all the mens' fault since all woman are perfect and can do no wrong!

Of course I don't exclude the rare exception of a minority of guys who still eat outside even when they have lots of food at home. But then again these woman chose to be married to these guys. So either they accept it and shut up or divorce him! They obviously have bad partner selection ability but continuing to be with the guy and ranting about it online is just bad judgement!

i love your logic and reasoning. up you for sharing! when women lose a " argument", suddenly they use emotions and all. knn

[kitsura]

Originally Posted by ntucee

i love your logic and reasoning. up you for sharing! when women lose a " argument", suddenly they use emotions and all. knn

A person can be emotional or logical. The majority of females are emotional. It doesn't matter what logic you use, as long as it upsets them, you are automatically wrong!

Don't bother engaging with such people since you can never use logic to reason with them!

Anyway I managed to encounter a girl who is pretty logical and agrees with most of my thinking. She has admitted that some of her friends consider her like a guy since she is very logical and doesn't react emotionally most of the time. In fact I have yet to see her emotional side. She is either emotionally mature or just emotionally stunted. Doesn't bother me either way since I don't crave drama!