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[evantoh]

Originally Posted by heroi111

From my experiences, my last prc wl texted me every hour and got time between customers , she also WeChat me non stop when she was in Singapore. End up also telling me she got no love for me.
She only love my money....
So WeChat non stop can also be due to cash reason....
This is not a good gauge for my case.
Spending on you is hard.
I never encounter before. Even when my new wl told me she loves me, I never see her wallet moves when I bring her out on code red lol.

Maybe she loves your rod!
You never know.
Hahahaha

[heroi111]

Originally Posted by evantoh

Maybe she loves your rod!
You never know.
Hahahaha

Don't think so lol.
She 100% like my cash better.
As much as they like our cash, when some of us genuinely care and love them, I am sure some are touched by us. They wanted to KC your cash 1st, slowly touched by our true love but still cannot be together....
This is what I feel about my last prc wl....

But due to the following reasons, they don't love us,
Some of us got OC at home,
They want the marriage certificate, we cannot give.
Or bros are single but they worry you look down on their body count.
Plus distance issues.
So, end up also never together.
Just my own experience shared to all bros here...

[happytree123]

Originally Posted by heroi111

I supposed you are single ya?
Your two prc wl if meet you not in geylang, they are keen to marry you.
But sadly, the meetup is geylang.
They worry that you mind about their body counts etc.
End up, no story moving forward...
If keep as xiaosan, they are more ok.
I can tell you should be rich enough lol.
So, can try the mistress after you get a main wife.

Cheers!

I think the word to describe the current moment is 'having a fling'. In the absence of money, career, lifestyle and a lot of variables, it is quite easy to feel shiok at the moment. We haven't laid bare on each other background, in fact, I have more personal details on the ladies and not vice versa. For one, no one even knows what is name, what I do or where I stay.

Initially, the current WL thought I was from SPF/ICA cos I know have basic knowledge on their outpro process when they RTC She ask police can come geylang and fuck ?

As for 小三, personally, my bottomline at the moment is, if ever one day I got married, that is the end of whatever WL ML or mistress. Subject to change in the future

[happytree123]

Originally Posted by heroi111

From my experiences, my last prc wl texted me every hour and got time between customers , she also WeChat me non stop when she was in Singapore. End up also telling me she got no love for me.
She only love my money....
So WeChat non stop can also be due to cash reason....
This is not a good gauge for my case.
Spending on you is hard.
I never encounter before. Even when my new wl told me she loves me, I never see her wallet moves when I bring her out on code red lol.

actually, the consolation for you is that she also dw to think so far ahead. Better to cut it off.

Usually cos when they are here, they are isolated from friends and family, it is actually comforting to have a guy that can hear her vent out. Maybe it can stir some feelings but that is about it.

She can't vent to her family for obvious reasons
Can't vent to her colleagues cos it may be bad blood and letting your colleagues know too much of your shit is never a good idea
and of cos, venting to OKT is a waste of time

of course, it can all be just a show all these while . I told WL straight in her face that you PRCs are masters in manipulating guys heart, she kept laughing and asked how about the thais and viets. I said they can more focused on getting the job done

[heroi111]

Originally Posted by happytree123

actually, the consolation for you is that she also dw to think so far ahead. Better to cut it off.

Usually cos when they are here, they are isolated from friends and family, it is actually comforting to have a guy that can hear her vent out. Maybe it can stir some feelings but that is about it.

She can't vent to her family for obvious reasons
Can't vent to her colleagues cos it may be bad blood and letting your colleagues know too much of your shit is never a good idea
and of cos, venting to OKT is a waste of time

of course, it can all be just a show all these while . I told WL straight in her face that you PRCs are masters in manipulating guys heart, she kept laughing and asked how about the thais and viets. I said they can more focused on getting the job done

For my case, I was giving her monthly support after she left Singapore. I stopped giving after I discovered that she was going out with a new China guy.
She was needing my money all along.
When there is no love, wl will see you cash cow.
Just milk till last possible drop...
So, don't give any cash when prc wl don't love you.
My lesson learnt.

[evantoh]

Originally Posted by heroi111

For my case, I was giving her monthly support after she left Singapore. I stopped giving after I discovered that she was going out with a new China guy.
She was needing my money all along.
When there is no love, wl will see you cash cow.
Just milk till last possible drop...
So, don't give any cash when prc wl don't love you.
My lesson learnt.

Walao eh.
You really luv her deep deep to send allowance every mth.

[heroi111]

Originally Posted by evantoh

Walao eh.
You really luv her deep deep to send allowance every mth.

True love from my end la.
She doesn't love me at all.
She just need my cash lol.
Quite disgusting prc wl now I looked back.
Take my allowance and meet guy to date while hiding from me.
When there is no love from wl, all they want is milk you dry.
Haiz....

[unfit]

Originally Posted by heroi111

True love from my end la.
She doesn't love me at all.
She just need my cash lol.
Quite disgusting prc wl now I looked back.
Take my allowance and meet guy to date while hiding from me.
When there is no love from wl, all they want is milk you dry.
Haiz....

Boss Sam advocates

Whores are for fucking not loving

I stopped my China Prostitution Fund contribution

[heroi111]

Originally Posted by unfit

Boss Sam advocates

Whores are for fucking not loving

I stopped my China Prostitution Fund contribution

Nice one CPF lol.
Now you just creampie every possible wl ya?
This is also one good plan!
Cheers!

[xAlpha]

Originally Posted by evantoh

Based on my personal experience, here are some tell-tale signs that she genuinely likes you. Of course, everyone is different, so no need to use mine as benchmark....

1. She will constantly text you. Almost every hour, or whenever both of you are free. Even when she has customers, she will still find time to text you. You can tell that she wants to keep you in her life, even when she is busy.

2. You will be pinned to the top of her WeChat. You can check this yourself. Most likely, other guys will have nicknames with ���� attached, while yours might be a ❤️, Lover, darling, laogong...etc. if you ask her to let you see her wechat, for my case, no resistance. Auto let me see.

3. She will make time for you every night. After work, she will meet you without fail. In my case, she never missed a single night during her stay in singapore. Every night 2hrs with me after work. Even on her off days, she would spend them with me.

4. She will spend money on you without expecting anything in return. For my birthday, I received a five-figure angbao, other occasion, a Samsung trifold phone, a new laptop, branded clothing and many other gifts. I know, I know... many people here will probably say, Canon fairy!

But I'm just sharing what happened to me. Believe it or not, that's my experience.

4. Going out is always her treat, or you go Dutch. She never insists that I pay for everything, and she doesn't want me to give her extra money either.

6. She will tell you to save your money. Instead of asking you to spend money visiting her, she would rather come and meet you herself. She doesn't want you to keep spending just to see her.

7. She is willing to take a whole day off just to be with you. If I asked her out for the whole day, she would make arrangements to spend that time with me. She did that for me twice.

8. Video calls become part of your daily routine. Every night, we would video call until we fell asleep, sometimes past 3am.
The first thing she did when she woke up was to video call me again. Even when she was showering, she would keep the video call on until she started work.

When she was in Singapore, we never missed a single day of video calling. Yup, every single day!

9. She will take care of you in ways you don't expect. Sometimes, she would secretly stuff money into my car's glove compartment or leave money in my wardrobe at home whenever she sensed that I needed it.

She would cook for me, buy medicine for me and even take time off to look after me when I was sick.

These were things she did on her own initiative. I didn't have to ask.

10. The biggest tell-tale sign? She doesn't want you to keep spending money on her.
This is the part I want to highlight. When she genuinely cares about you, she doesn't always see you as a customer or someone who must spend money to get her attention.
She wants to spend time with you, looks after you, worries about your finances and gives to you without constantly expecting something in return.
If you want to meet her, she would rather meet you for FOC than have you spend money just to see her.

Of course, don't judge everything based on money or gifts alone. Different people express affection differently, and some may be naturally generous.

But when you see a consistent pattern of effort, time, care and genuine concern for your well-being, that's when you should start paying attention.

At the end of the day, anyone can say I like you, I love you. The real question is, is she just saying or, she also put it in action?

For me, these were the things she did. I'm simply sharing my own experience.

Haha the legend. Thanks for sharing, very insightful. Is this like PRC specific tho?

My red flag of sort now is that she says that she cannot meet after work as her off days can only spend the morning away.

And maybe I don’t have much faith but won’t the girl have multiple guys that she will chat with everyday? She might like me but that doesn’t mean she like me only does it?

Seems like with more answers, I also get more questions. Sigh.

[Dignified69]

Originally Posted by happytree123

I think the word to describe the current moment is 'having a fling'. In the absence of money, career, lifestyle and a lot of variables, it is quite easy to feel shiok at the moment. We haven't laid bare on each other background, in fact, I have more personal details on the ladies and not vice versa. For one, no one even knows what is name, what I do or where I stay.

Initially, the current WL thought I was from SPF/ICA cos I know have basic knowledge on their outpro process when they RTC She ask police can come geylang and fuck ?

As for 小三, personally, my bottomline at the moment is, if ever one day I got married, that is the end of whatever WL ML or mistress. Subject to change in the future

Indeed. When I was young I was very idealistic and would look down on people who would visit GL. See where life has taken me now.......20 years a GL warrior

[Dignified69]

Originally Posted by xAlpha

Thank you seniors for the knowledge sharing. I will go out with her soon I think and hopefully it won’t be a tragic ending

Wishing you happiness, pleasure and wonderful romantic feelings for the special day. While one should hope for the best, try and prepare yourself for the tragic ending as it is a significantly higher probability event.

The way out of this situation is to make serious dedicated effort to find a normal sinkie gal and marry her. Have 1-2 kids. Life can be very beautiful also this way.

Don't let all the posters here tell you that remain single and cheong GL is the way to go.

It isn't.

[evantoh]

Originally Posted by xAlpha

Haha the legend. Thanks for sharing, very insightful. Is this like PRC specific tho?

My red flag of sort now is that she says that she cannot meet after work as her off days can only spend the morning away.

And maybe I don’t have much faith but won’t the girl have multiple guys that she will chat with everyday? She might like me but that doesn’t mean she like me only does it?

Seems like with more answers, I also get more questions. Sigh.

You have to gauge it yourself, bro. At the end of the day, we are just outsiders looking in.

If a lady genuinely likes you, whether she's in this trade or not, both of you will naturally want to meet up every day. Even when you're apart, you'll have endless things to talk about over the phone. Every day, it feels like there's never enough time for each other.

When two people are really into each other, they will naturally want to spend their time together. Where got so much time to entertain other guys or girls? In your case, if you genuinely into one girl, why would you still want to spend time talking to other girls? Just saying la. Maybe you are casanova, so you can talk and give attention to many girls.

Of course, everyone is different, and we can't judge their feelings entirely from the outside. So you decide bah.

All the best yo.
.

[meloncholy1982]

For me I try to enjoy the transient nature of these relationships. Enjoy the time together but knowing it can end anytime.

Don’t bring up relationship status, don’t bring up plans for the future. Treat it as you know, she know, don’t need to talk about it. Don’t ask questions you don’t want to hear the answers to. Genuine affection and romantic feelings are different. When nothing said, it’s a dream you both can live in. Different once forced to solidify in words.

When it ends, focus on appreciating the good memories.

But this approach may not work for everyone. If you can’t separate your feelings from your expectations, then maybe stepping away before you get too caught up is healthier.

[happytree123]

Originally Posted by meloncholy1982

For me I try to enjoy the transient nature of these relationships. Enjoy the time together but knowing it can end anytime.

Don’t bring up relationship status, don’t bring up plans for the future. Treat it as you know, she know, don’t need to talk about it. Don’t ask questions you don’t want to hear the answers to. Genuine affection and romantic feelings are different. When nothing said, it’s a dream you both can live in. Different once forced to solidify in words.

When it ends, focus on appreciating the good memories.

But this approach may not work for everyone. If you can’t separate your feelings from your expectations, then maybe stepping away before you get too caught up is healthier.

You just sum up perfectly what is in my mind. The current WL and the ex ML always drop hints to seek my opinions on this hahaha. I like the bomb sniffer dog, the moment I sense this qns coming, I quickly deflect.

Not prepared to make any commitments which I cannot foresee upholding well.